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"right to decline to meet but not right to say beard are unattractive in general. " Not implying beards are unattractive in general. We ‘find’ beards unattractive - a preference rather than a fact. | |||
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"Chatting to a guy. Exchange pics. All good and decide to meet two weeks later. Just before meet we ask for a pic to remind us of what he looks like. Suddenly his clean shaven pic has become a full beard pics (at least two months growth we’d estimate). Beards are quite unattractive, not to mention scratchy, for us so we cancelled the meet. Feel bad about it as we could tell he was exasperated. So question is are we wrong for rejecting someone for having a beard, our preference, or if the guy has a full beard should he have sent a beard picture on initial contact rather than an older clean shaven pic ? " Preferences are allowed. | |||
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"I would be the same if a bearded guy turned up clean shaven..." Yes! There you are! There you are, Your Highness! | |||
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"I would be the same if a bearded guy turned up clean shaven... Yes! There you are! There you are, Your Highness! " Smile and wave, smile and wave | |||
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"How do you 'suddenly' grow a beard? Takes me ages!" To be honest my beard does grow pretty quick lol. | |||
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"Sorry, the thread title made me laugh, I got an image of them sprouting a beard before your eyes But yes, something like that which can be a bit love or hate is worth mentioning I think. " Like the old play doh barbers shop | |||
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"Sorry, the thread title made me laugh, I got an image of them sprouting a beard before your eyes But yes, something like that which can be a bit love or hate is worth mentioning I think. Like the old play doh barbers shop " Yes!! I wanted one of those so much... | |||
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"Sorry, the thread title made me laugh, I got an image of them sprouting a beard before your eyes But yes, something like that which can be a bit love or hate is worth mentioning I think. Like the old play doh barbers shop Yes!! I wanted one of those so much..." Well these are still alive and well as I got one for my daughter so it's never too late! I could always bring one with me on my next trip to the west midlands and you could play the "adult version"... Whereby you wind it and watch the hair sprout...But if you wind it too much and the hair 'snaps off' then it's a smacked bottom for you dear lady... | |||
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"Chatting to a guy. Exchange pics. All good and decide to meet two weeks later. Just before meet we ask for a pic to remind us of what he looks like. Suddenly his clean shaven pic has become a full beard pics (at least two months growth we’d estimate). Beards are quite unattractive, not to mention scratchy, for us so we cancelled the meet. Why not just ask if he minds shaving. Feel bad about it as we could tell he was exasperated. So question is are we wrong for rejecting someone for having a beard, our preference, or if the guy has a full beard should he have sent a beard picture on initial contact rather than an older clean shaven pic ? " | |||
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"A lady refused to meet me unless I shaved my beard. I told her no. My beard is super short and would grow back in a week but I don’t like being made ultimatums. The man who shaves his beard for a woman deserves neither!" True that mate. I beard is for life, not just for Christmas lol. | |||
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"You've done nothing wrong and it's strange he wasn't sending current pictures but did you actually tell him why you were cancelling? If you just cancelled with no reason given it's understandable he'd be exasperated (he may not realise the beard is a problem) if liked him otherwise and tell him he could decide to shave." We got his pic with said beard to recognise him in the upcoming bar meet. When we saw the beard, remember he was clean shaven before, we told him beards were not attractive to us and we don’t meet anyone with a beard. So we did tell why we were not meeting. Think he perhaps thought that it was not a good reason to cancel a meet but it was the first time we saw or had been told he had a beard. | |||
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"You've done nothing wrong and it's strange he wasn't sending current pictures but did you actually tell him why you were cancelling? If you just cancelled with no reason given it's understandable he'd be exasperated (he may not realise the beard is a problem) if liked him otherwise and tell him he could decide to shave. We got his pic with said beard to recognise him in the upcoming bar meet. When we saw the beard, remember he was clean shaven before, we told him beards were not attractive to us and we don’t meet anyone with a beard. So we did tell why we were not meeting. Think he perhaps thought that it was not a good reason to cancel a meet but it was the first time we saw or had been told he had a beard. " At least you told him! If you don’t like beards then I don’t think anyone can criticise you. I’d have just said it can be shaved off | |||
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"A lady refused to meet me unless I shaved my beard. I told her no. My beard is super short and would grow back in a week but I don’t like being made ultimatums. The man who shaves his beard for a woman deserves neither! True that mate. I beard is for life, not just for Christmas lol." Omg was gona comment on this thread haha | |||
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"You've done nothing wrong and it's strange he wasn't sending current pictures but did you actually tell him why you were cancelling? If you just cancelled with no reason given it's understandable he'd be exasperated (he may not realise the beard is a problem) if liked him otherwise and tell him he could decide to shave. We got his pic with said beard to recognise him in the upcoming bar meet. When we saw the beard, remember he was clean shaven before, we told him beards were not attractive to us and we don’t meet anyone with a beard. So we did tell why we were not meeting. Think he perhaps thought that it was not a good reason to cancel a meet but it was the first time we saw or had been told he had a beard. At least you told him! If you don’t like beards then I don’t think anyone can criticise you. I’d have just said it can be shaved off " We would never ask anyone to shave off a beard to meet us. That’s not fair or respectful on our part. | |||
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"You've done nothing wrong and it's strange he wasn't sending current pictures but did you actually tell him why you were cancelling? If you just cancelled with no reason given it's understandable he'd be exasperated (he may not realise the beard is a problem) if liked him otherwise and tell him he could decide to shave. We got his pic with said beard to recognise him in the upcoming bar meet. When we saw the beard, remember he was clean shaven before, we told him beards were not attractive to us and we don’t meet anyone with a beard. So we did tell why we were not meeting. Think he perhaps thought that it was not a good reason to cancel a meet but it was the first time we saw or had been told he had a beard. At least you told him! If you don’t like beards then I don’t think anyone can criticise you. I’d have just said it can be shaved off We would never ask anyone to shave off a beard to meet us. That’s not fair or respectful on our part. " I was thinking I will reply to suggest you maybe could have asked him if he was prepared to shave it off. Understandable that you think it rude to ask that of someone. But given that you suggested you had gotten on well with him it seems a shame to have cancelled over a reason that could have possibly been nothing. It would have been his choice to do so or not. | |||
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"A lady refused to meet me unless I shaved my beard. I told her no. My beard is super short and would grow back in a week but I don’t like being made ultimatums. The man who shaves his beard for a woman deserves neither! True that mate. I beard is for life, not just for Christmas lol. Omg was gona comment on this thread haha " Good job you didn't lady lol xx | |||
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"You've done nothing wrong and it's strange he wasn't sending current pictures but did you actually tell him why you were cancelling? If you just cancelled with no reason given it's understandable he'd be exasperated (he may not realise the beard is a problem) if liked him otherwise and tell him he could decide to shave. We got his pic with said beard to recognise him in the upcoming bar meet. When we saw the beard, remember he was clean shaven before, we told him beards were not attractive to us and we don’t meet anyone with a beard. So we did tell why we were not meeting. Think he perhaps thought that it was not a good reason to cancel a meet but it was the first time we saw or had been told he had a beard. At least you told him! If you don’t like beards then I don’t think anyone can criticise you. I’d have just said it can be shaved off We would never ask anyone to shave off a beard to meet us. That’s not fair or respectful on our part. I was thinking I will reply to suggest you maybe could have asked him if he was prepared to shave it off. Understandable that you think it rude to ask that of someone. But given that you suggested you had gotten on well with him it seems a shame to have cancelled over a reason that could have possibly been nothing. It would have been his choice to do so or not." When we said to him the beard was a dealbreaker he said he wouldn’t shave it off ; we hadn’t asked him if he would shave. We respect that. We would never ask someone to change something about themselves to meet us. | |||
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"You've done nothing wrong and it's strange he wasn't sending current pictures but did you actually tell him why you were cancelling? If you just cancelled with no reason given it's understandable he'd be exasperated (he may not realise the beard is a problem) if liked him otherwise and tell him he could decide to shave. We got his pic with said beard to recognise him in the upcoming bar meet. When we saw the beard, remember he was clean shaven before, we told him beards were not attractive to us and we don’t meet anyone with a beard. So we did tell why we were not meeting. Think he perhaps thought that it was not a good reason to cancel a meet but it was the first time we saw or had been told he had a beard. At least you told him! If you don’t like beards then I don’t think anyone can criticise you. I’d have just said it can be shaved off We would never ask anyone to shave off a beard to meet us. That’s not fair or respectful on our part. I was thinking I will reply to suggest you maybe could have asked him if he was prepared to shave it off. Understandable that you think it rude to ask that of someone. But given that you suggested you had gotten on well with him it seems a shame to have cancelled over a reason that could have possibly been nothing. It would have been his choice to do so or not. When we said to him the beard was a dealbreaker he said he wouldn’t shave it off ; we hadn’t asked him if he would shave. We respect that. We would never ask someone to change something about themselves to meet us. " Yeah that's fair enough. Like I said it just seemed a shame. | |||
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