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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Struggling with the first message . I'm a proper normal fella who just fancies moving out my comfort zone and meting naughty like minded woman but melt with messaging someone . What to put , what not to put sound really forward or not to go to strong it's hard showing yourself in a message advice please ....

Anyone that fancies showing me the ropes please do

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try fancy a fuck love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jigi jigi bang bang are the secret words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try fancy a fuck love"

say anythin if they like the look of you theyll reply reagrdless. but be warned its not easy on here for stright guys so youll get more deleated than replys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sweet mate so everone struggles a bit , I'm reading profiles about meets thinking what am I doing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no secret formula. Personally just be yourself and if your lucky enough to send a message at the right time it will happen x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you or we've got no chance what are you doing in here still ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant you see

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Well providing they have taken the effort to talk about them self in their profile try and pick up on the things in their profile that interest you and you can talk about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Look mate If you ain't got nothing good to say go join another forum mate I know I sound like a prick writing this asking for help but atleast I've got the arsehole to put a profile picture up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok thank you for the fantastic advice mate I feel like I've gone ten steps backward listening to you good luck mate go work your charm chatting to woman I feel a lot better now knowing that what I write ain't nothing like yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok thank you for the fantastic advice mate I feel like I've gone ten steps backward listening to you good luck mate go work your charm chatting to woman I feel a lot better now knowing that what I write ain't nothing like yours "

Can't believe you even replied to that lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks you for wasting 1 and half hours of your life and your completely wrong there by being a man and not a little keyboard melt I've gained some friends from this so no actually your completely wrong good crack on and go annoy someone else trying to ask a few questions

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Hey fella. Your profile looks fine but the point this nice chap is making (if he knows it or not) is not to message people on here and be in amongst the gutter rabble. Instead start going to clubs and before that go to socials help out like you have done before and get on the scene. You’ll be knee deep in klunge before you know it totting up the good verifications. 10 to one men to women on here, another message is just white noise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey fella. Your profile looks fine but the point this nice chap is making (if he knows it or not) is not to message people on here and be in amongst the gutter rabble. Instead start going to clubs and before that go to socials help out like you have done before and get on the scene. You’ll be knee deep in klunge before you know it totting up the good verifications. 10 to one men to women on here, another message is just white noise. "

spot on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 28/01/18 08:17:58]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Struggling with the first message . I'm a proper normal fella who just fancies moving out my comfort zone and meting naughty like minded woman but melt with messaging someone . What to put , what not to put sound really forward or not to go to strong it's hard showing yourself in a message advice please ....

Anyone that fancies showing me the ropes please do

Thanks"

Judging from what you have written in you profile, you’ are an experienced swinger, verified by women and couples, helped host parties, and feels comfortable performing in front of other men. I would carry on doing whatever you were doing before, as it doesn’t sound like you need 1st time swinger advice!

Mrs

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Struggling with the first message . I'm a proper normal fella who just fancies moving out my comfort zone and meting naughty like minded woman but melt with messaging someone . What to put , what not to put sound really forward or not to go to strong it's hard showing yourself in a message advice please ....

Anyone that fancies showing me the ropes please do

Thanks

Judging from what you have written in you profile, you’ are an experienced swinger, verified by women and couples, helped host parties, and feels comfortable performing in front of other men. I would carry on doing whatever you were doing before, as it doesn’t sound like you need 1st time swinger advice!

Mrs"
You can always rely on the classy swingers to hit the pretty much on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice above ... unfortunately publicly ranting in reply to anyone doesn't look great as you come across as very aggressive ... not something a lady is going to warm to ...

Can't see the verifications you mention?

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"Ok thank you for the fantastic advice mate I feel like I've gone ten steps backward listening to you good luck mate go work your charm chatting to woman I feel a lot better now knowing that what I write ain't nothing like yours "

Responding like this doesnt help. Best to quote and reply like I have. We then know who your hissy fit is directed at.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Offer cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Offer cake"

And popcorn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Struggling with the first message . I'm a proper normal fella who just fancies moving out my comfort zone and meting naughty like minded woman but melt with messaging someone . What to put , what not to put sound really forward or not to go to strong it's hard showing yourself in a message advice please ....

Anyone that fancies showing me the ropes please do

Thanks"

Your profile suggests you’re experienced? Which one is it OP?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Just be your polite self.

Pick up on something on their profile so it doesn’t just look like a cut and paste message xx

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Ok thank you for the fantastic advice mate I feel like I've gone ten steps backward listening to you good luck mate go work your charm chatting to woman I feel a lot better now knowing that what I write ain't nothing like yours

Responding like this doesnt help. Best to quote and reply like I have. We then know who your hissy fit is directed at."

haha hissy fit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good advice above ... unfortunately publicly ranting in reply to anyone doesn't look great as you come across as very aggressive ... not something a lady is going to warm to ...

Can't see the verifications you mention?"

I believe he was responding to some extremely abusive posts which have since been removed. His annoyance was not unprovoked, though with the posts gone, it probably makes him look bad for no reason.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good advice above ... unfortunately publicly ranting in reply to anyone doesn't look great as you come across as very aggressive ... not something a lady is going to warm to ...

Can't see the verifications you mention?

I believe he was responding to some extremely abusive posts which have since been removed. His annoyance was not unprovoked, though with the posts gone, it probably makes him look bad for no reason.

Mrs"

The contradictions between thread title and profile look bad from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good advice above ... unfortunately publicly ranting in reply to anyone doesn't look great as you come across as very aggressive ... not something a lady is going to warm to ...

Can't see the verifications you mention?

I believe he was responding to some extremely abusive posts which have since been removed. His annoyance was not unprovoked, though with the posts gone, it probably makes him look bad for no reason.

Mrs

The contradictions between thread title and profile look bad from here."

Yes that doesn’t make sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good advice above ... unfortunately publicly ranting in reply to anyone doesn't look great as you come across as very aggressive ... not something a lady is going to warm to ...

Can't see the verifications you mention?

I believe he was responding to some extremely abusive posts which have since been removed. His annoyance was not unprovoked, though with the posts gone, it probably makes him look bad for no reason.

Mrs"

Yeah the guy was bang out of order. Glad his comments got removed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good advice above ... unfortunately publicly ranting in reply to anyone doesn't look great as you come across as very aggressive ... not something a lady is going to warm to ...

Can't see the verifications you mention?

I believe he was responding to some extremely abusive posts which have since been removed. His annoyance was not unprovoked, though with the posts gone, it probably makes him look bad for no reason.

Mrs"

He was. There was a guy being really unpleasant. Possibly d*unk

Doesn't detract from the fact that the OP and profile text are somewhat contradictory though

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