FabSwingers.com forum: How often do couples contact you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering... for couples who are looking for couples, how often do you get an introductory email or wink from a new couple?

For us we hardly ever get couples contacting us. Maybe once a month if we are lucky. Might be age or preferences thing.

We know it’s a hunting site and people will say go and make first contact yourself but if that’s the case surely people might be hunting us too.

Just wondering what the volume of messages people are getting from couples to see if it a daily/weekly/monthly occurrence for you.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Not that often at all tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I’m not a couple but I get contacted several times a week by either partner

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Just wondering... for couples who are looking for couples, how often do you get an introductory email or wink from a new couple?

For us we hardly ever get couples contacting us. Maybe once a month if we are lucky. Might be age or preferences thing.

We know it’s a hunting site and people will say go and make first contact yourself but if that’s the case surely people might be hunting us too.

Just wondering what the volume of messages people are getting from couples to see if it a daily/weekly/monthly occurrence for you. "

Daily messages. Winks & random friend invites from nowhere is on the increase, a few per day the last two weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get contacted regularly from couples, usually the cuckold scenario. I always question their validity though....

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Just wondering... for couples who are looking for couples, how often do you get an introductory email or wink from a new couple?

For us we hardly ever get couples contacting us. Maybe once a month if we are lucky. Might be age or preferences thing.

We know it’s a hunting site and people will say go and make first contact yourself but if that’s the case surely people might be hunting us too.

Just wondering what the volume of messages people are getting from couples to see if it a daily/weekly/monthly occurrence for you. "

You're a similar age to us and we rarely get messages from couples. I think it is an age thing. Basically, once you are over fifty most couples and women will seem you "too old".

It is what it is. Good job we like single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many messages conversations do you instigate?

In my experience I message couples all the time with very little reply. The meats I have had always come from when the couple have instigated the conversation. Only just thought about that. That’s a strange statistic. Maybe I should stop sending out messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fairly rarely unless we've posted in a thread that we're going to an event or a club, but then we have relatively fierce filters on. We look for them ourselves because we're pretty specific in our requirements...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x"

With 206 couple meets..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Hardly ever by couples where both want to meet. In fact it's probably one in twenty.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x

With 206 couple meets..

They are more likely social events....it is very easy to get up to 20 verifications in one fell swoop lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x

With 206 couple meets..

They are more likely social events....it is very easy to get up to 20 verifications in one fell swoop lol"

We used to run a club night and regular people we meet still verify us, happy to have loads of veris keeps the judging people from being interested

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By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Havant

Very rarely. I think there's a possible gap in the market for a community focused on couples only. A section of the board here that only verified couples can post to would be great IMO.

That is not to say that we have anything against single males, we absolutely don't (part of our kink is gangbanging and hotwifing).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few messages each week. A few winks each day. But findi_g couples where there is mutual attraction is near impossible anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a couple of messages a week if we’re lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No very often off here New that seem genuine or lead anywhere. We get winks or messages but once we start to ask questions the messages stop and/ or we get blocked. We put it down to one of the couples liked what they saw but once shown to other there not interested or it because we can’t meet at a drop of a hat. Most of our couples meets come from club meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely. When they do, it is the male of the couple, who is BI

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

"No very often off here New that seem genuine or lead anywhere. We get winks or messages but once we start to ask questions the messages stop and/ or we get blocked. We put it down to one of the couples liked what they saw but once shown to other there not interested or it because we can’t meet at a drop of a hat. "

This for us too.

We typically get one maybe two messages at most a month from couples but we put it down to they don't want me (the male) there as I don't play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't ever remember any couples contacting us. Anything is possible but we're totally blank on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just wondering... for couples who are looking for couples, how often do you get an introductory email or wink from a new couple?

For us we hardly ever get couples contacting us. Maybe once a month if we are lucky. Might be age or preferences thing.

We know it’s a hunting site and people will say go and make first contact yourself but if that’s the case surely people might be hunting us too.

Just wondering what the volume of messages people are getting from couples to see if it a daily/weekly/monthly occurrence for you.

You're a similar age to us and we rarely get messages from couples. I think it is an age thing. Basically, once you are over fifty most couples and women will seem you "too old".

It is what it is. Good job we like single men

It may be an age thing but we’re early 50s and you have a large number of people on Fab who are 45 to 55 as far as we can see. It is surprising how few couple contacts seem to go on.

We have also met single guys because if we didn’t we probably would have slim pickings on here in terms of couple meets. It’s fun too on occasions.

Tend to think that more couples are just binning the site and going to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe an age thing not sure, it’s certainly slowed for us, I honestly can’t remeber the last meet we had off here. We do ok at clubs and have a good circle of friends maybe that makes a little introverted. We use Fab to see what events are on mainly, clubs seemed to be the way most people meet now a days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ALL DAY every day

but its usually the hubby looking for a bit of fun on the side

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ALL DAY every day

but its usually the hubby looking for a bit of fun on the side "

If we opened it up to the number of single men we get then it would be all day everyday for us too. We don’t get the hubby from an actual Fab couple contact us for a meet. Maybe they know that most couples would not accept that type of contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very rare and as said if we do get a message its normally the guy (funny that lol) so it gets deleted anyway as there no real way of knowing whos what and whos who ...I thnk couples meeti_g couples now is very much a club thing

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

It comes and goes. But not many, and even fewer that aren't fake, the other side of the country or that aren't wanting to meet instantly!

To be fair though, we do say we're more looking to meet women.

I'd turn it the other way round - how many messages do we send to couples, and how many get replies? Given that we're quite selective in who we message because of what we're looking for, I think we do quite well.

So perhaps that's a little challenge for someone who says they don't get many - send, say, 3 messages a day, for a week, and report back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get completely fresh contact from couples, by winks or message, maybe two or three times a week. We tend to be more proactive though!

When we have it opened up to single guys, its many hundreds a day, though they are mostly just "hi"..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and 55 is not old for swinging lol we've been swinging for 19 years now and the 50s and 60s has always been the main age group for swinging yes the youngsters are catching up but still along way to go ...and agree with what some one else said the best way to meet a couple is at a club its so much easier we use fab for singles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It comes and goes. But not many, and even fewer that aren't fake, the other side of the country or that aren't wanting to meet instantly!

To be fair though, we do say we're more looking to meet women.

So perhaps that's a little challenge for someone who says they don't get many - send, say, 3 messages a day, for a week, and report back x "

We send winks when we come across a nice couple locally to gauge interest but like the 3 a day challenge. We reckon we’ve seen many of the local couples or they’ve seen us online but once you’ve been on the site for a while the messages dry up.

Maybe we should move to a new area ! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite regularly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Quite regularly

Now you’re just showing off

lol

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By *oodlandCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

We maybe get 1 or 2 messages and the odd wink a week or so. Because of work etc we cant instantly reply. We always wink first, if we get a wink back then we will send a message.

Like other posters, we have only had 2 meets of this website and think that its way better just to go to a club. That way there is no expectation from anyone and have lots of people to check out before you approach them or they approach you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too often

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We might get 5 or 6 a month. Of those, we might eventually meet up with 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very often. Especially since we added filters to stop non photo verified couples.

In all honesty though, rather wait months for one ‘good’ couple than meet lots of..... not so good ones lol

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"IWe reckon we’ve seen many of the local couples or they’ve seen us online but once you’ve been on the site for a while the messages dry up.

Playing devils advocate... how many of those have you thought I wouldn't mind getting a message from them? Perhaps they're sat there thinking the same yet..... Feel the fear but do it anyway!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Just wondering... for couples who are looking for couples, how often do you get an introductory email or wink from a new couple?

For us we hardly ever get couples contacting us. Maybe once a month if we are lucky. Might be age or preferences thing.

We know it’s a hunting site and people will say go and make first contact yourself but if that’s the case surely people might be hunting us too.

Just wondering what the volume of messages people are getting from couples to see if it a daily/weekly/monthly occurrence for you. "

Pretty much the same unless we post a new pic then we get a few all at once but mostly it’s single guys.

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By *edjedi72Couple
over a year ago

Fareham

Some interesting responses.......mmmm xx can relate to a lot of what’s been said. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's difficult to find couples where there's mutual attraction though. This especially applies when all four are straight. One of us might point out a profile that we find attractive but the other will say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry, missed the winks part. We get winks several times a week...its rarely from a couple we're interested in though...

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

If you were nearer we would Be very tempted. We don't get as much interest on site so we mainly use club for meets

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

We get about 6 messages a week from new couples that we haven't contacted before, and about 3-4 winks a day from couples, we do like a perv though so we're probably popping up on everybody's "looked at me" page , we like to fab pics too and that sometimes results in someone sending a thankyou message , probably as low as 3% that end up developing into meets though, its much less hassle just to go to a club and see who's there

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By *lackitncoCouple
over a year ago

brownhills

"Very rarely. I think there's a possible gap in the market for a community focused on couples only. A section of the board here that only verified couples can post to would be great IMO.

That is not to say that we have anything against single males, we absolutely don't (part of our kink is gangbanging and hotwifing)."

This

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We don't really receive many messages but are probably guilty of not sending many too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't remember the last time

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

I used to get quite a few but got the feeling it was usually the fella using it for wank material.

Since I put on my profile I’ll only meet for a social in a club I’ve only had a few messages but at least most end up going somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe 2 or 3 messages a week more often than not they are of the meet now? variety, a few more winks but they are often from people further afield.

If we put on new pics we get a little more interest.

Its hard findi_g couples where everyone talks, never mind find each other attractive.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

"Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x"

Your age why are you too young?

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By *edjedi72Couple
over a year ago

Fareham

"Maybe 2 or 3 messages a week more often than not they are of the meet now? variety, a few more winks but they are often from people further afield.

If we put on new pics we get a little more interest.

Its hard findi_g couples where everyone talks, never mind find each other attractive. "

exactly x

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

Not often enough. Incl single females. We'd love to play more with these kind of meets

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

It depends on what we are up to via the site.

If we are just bumbling along, not up to much, then I'd guess we get an average of about a message every two days, although that could be from friends or new people.

If we are posting in the forums a lot, and more especially if Jayne goes on her profile and is active, then its more, sometimes a lot more.

And then, if we are actively looking for a meet, as in posting that we will be at a club, party or other event, then it can go up to half a dozen a day.

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Regularly, but 9 times out of 10 they haven't read our preferences on our profile so it doesn't lead to anything.

Very rare to find a couple we're both happy to meet.....it's normally the male messaging and oftentimes their approach is woeful. E.g. A message this evening went along the lines of "you're hot, we want you"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"IWe reckon we’ve seen many of the local couples or they’ve seen us online but once you’ve been on the site for a while the messages dry up.

Playing devils advocate... how many of those have you thought I wouldn't mind getting a message from them? Perhaps they're sat there thinking the same yet..... Feel the fear but do it anyway!

We do chase couples.

We usually start with a wink to the ones we find attractive then wait for a wink back. Thought that was the purpose of winks before taking it forward to messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often, say every other day but most of them are over 200 miles away

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Used to be a few a week but not much recently but we havent sent much either due to work and whatever else. Rubbish time of year as we so think its generally quiet anyway on here.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

Very rarely we get mail from other couples.

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By *andm_69Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

We don't really get contacted as well. If we do it's normally by "couples" miles and miles away saying that they want to meet for a coffee. Or we get the male half of a couple saying she is bed and wants fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely, our filters are super tight and we aren’t looking for single females. Not had a message since xmas, we use fab for mainly party invites and to keep up with friends x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been here long. Done all the usual verification pics etc and we’re lucky to have 5-10 views a day and never get any messages. Have sent countless winks out to no return. Oh well patience is a virtue right??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe 2 or 3 messages a week more often than not they are of the meet now? variety, a few more winks but they are often from people further afield.

If we put on new pics we get a little more interest.

Its hard findi_g couples where everyone talks, never mind find each other attractive.

exactly x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

We rarely get contacted by other couples but appreciate were probably not most people's cup of tea so to speak, so just get on with it and try and find people our selves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not been here long. Done all the usual verification pics etc and we’re lucky to have 5-10 views a day and never get any messages. Have sent countless winks out to no return. Oh well patience is a virtue right??

Just out of your age range, but we'd meet you next time we're down your way visiting my sisters in Camborne and Truro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of your age range, but we'd meet you next time we're down your way visiting my sisters in Camborne and Truro

Ooooh. Sounds fun. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just us by as there’s very little to go on from most profiles and very few pics we don’t tend to respond to winks we much prefer a message with a clear face pic attached so we know who we are chatting to and we’d know if we were attracted to the people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This for us too.

We typically get one maybe two messages at most a month from couples but we put it down to they don't want me (the male) there as I don't play."

Yeah we normally assume that it’s the male that has first messaged us then the Mrs is keen lol

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

"We rarely get contacted by other couples but appreciate were probably not most people's cup of tea so to speak, so just get on with it and try and find people our selves"

Likewise for us ..we do have a couple of couples we chat to unfortunately our timings are never right to meet but very rarely do new couples contact us .x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hardly ever..... ah well... onwards n downwards x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages are two or three a day.

Winks and friend invites I have no clue as I never look.

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By *eterbeebeeMan
over a year ago

Derby

Quite often but nearly always miles away. Some also just wind - up messages asking what I would like to do to his wife etc!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you put on your profile 'couples we have no interest in you' the messages and winks will come flooding in.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Quite often but we're fairly active in the forums and chat room's so that'll be why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often but most are men pretending to be a couple, pic collectors or fantasist.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Hopefully never as I don't ever wanna meet them, I want the lovely men that They take away from me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering... for couples who are looking for couples, how often do you get an introductory email or wink from a new couple?

For us we hardly ever get couples contacting us. Maybe once a month if we are lucky. Might be age or preferences thing.

We know it’s a hunting site and people will say go and make first contact yourself but if that’s the case surely people might be hunting us too.

Just wondering what the volume of messages people are getting from couples to see if it a daily/weekly/monthly occurrence for you.

You're a similar age to us and we rarely get messages from couples. I think it is an age thing. Basically, once you are over fifty most couples and women will seem you "too old".

It is what it is. Good job we like single men

Please don't let it be age !!!! I hit the dreaded 50 but can honestly say I've never felt sexier or hornier and my confidence is growing.....I do hope it's not gonna be wasted x

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By *adyLucknGamblersCouple
over a year ago

Harwich / Colchester

"Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x"

We get this as well

but dont think its down to our age though lol

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We're not looking for couples (yet), but we get quite a few winks and messages from other couples.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Lots of times, mainly by unverified silhouette couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not as often as we would like, but as one poster said, we don't send many messages either so what do we expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x

We get this as well

but dont think its down to our age though lol

Chill out, don’t over think it and have fun when the opportunity arises

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Yes we would like more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We very rarely get any messages from couples, but we are both fugly, so all is cool.

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By *adyLucknGamblersCouple
over a year ago

Harwich / Colchester

"Rarely to we get genuine, up for meets, non messers message us, it’s probably our age x

We get this as well

but dont think its down to our age though lol

Chill out, don’t over think it and have fun when the opportunity arises

Oh we do try believe us

its finding the mutual opportunity thats alluding us

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