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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've met a lovely lady guess you'd say we are bf and gf now and ages basically up for anything.

So stuff like bi mmf mff foursomes etc are on the table and now I'm bricking it but excited.

Any advice?

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By *alkirkbairnMan
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Make a couples profile would be a good starting point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your solicitor to draw up a pre-nupt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, it says in your profile you have experience in meeting couples so that's a start, and when you say she's up for anything, have you actually asked her? Cos with all the best will and good advice on here it's gotta be both of you that are happy with the choices made

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yeah she's experienced to we didn't meet through here.

A couples profile is coming lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples profile, and gets yourself to a club.

Enjoy

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Op, it says in your profile you have experience in meeting couples so that's a start, and when you say she's up for anything, have you actually asked her? Cos with all the best will and good advice on here it's gotta be both of you that are happy with the choices made "

I know men are usually the driving force in this situation but it's very mutual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff"

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to. "

Well actually with her I'd love to try it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.

Well actually with her I'd love to try it all"

Then go to chams on a Monday and see what happens.

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.

Well actually with her I'd love to try it all

Then go to chams on a Monday and see what happens. "

I will

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.

Well actually with her I'd love to try it all"

Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.

Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her.

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.

Well actually with her I'd love to try it all

Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.

Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her. "

I will be talking to her lol

Just wanted some insight x

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.

Well actually with her I'd love to try it all

Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.

Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her. "

This!!

Communication is critical for a swinging couple - G & I have only ever had a problem when we’ve not been completely open & discussed a situation fully.

Also, swapping as a couple doesn’t mean you have to play bi ... G & I are both straight so we will full swap but no bi play. To be honest, most couples we find, the female is bi but the guy is straight.

Discuss it with her, agree what your limits are to start with ... you can always push boundaries as you go!!

Good luck OP! x

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.

We are planning on going together to both.

My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff

Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.

Well actually with her I'd love to try it all

Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.

Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her.

This!!

Communication is critical for a swinging couple - G & I have only ever had a problem when we’ve not been completely open & discussed a situation fully.

Also, swapping as a couple doesn’t mean you have to play bi ... G & I are both straight so we will full swap but no bi play. To be honest, most couples we find, the female is bi but the guy is straight.

Discuss it with her, agree what your limits are to start with ... you can always push boundaries as you go!!

Good luck OP! x"

I'm pretty much up for giving it all a bash just gotta get five mins to put a profile together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bbbbbbut your straight Hah a

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By *ixftthreeuk OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Bbbbbbut your straight Hah a"

I'd say bi curious

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