FabSwingers.com forum: Role reversal on fab

By *sagent81 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

No messages, views or winks and most of your messages deleted before they’re even read.

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By *sagent81 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Ps this isn’t an angry or feeling sorry for myself thread ??

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

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I'd just get on with life and keep going to clubs.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

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I'd just get on with life and keep going to clubs. "

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Ps this isn’t an angry or feeling sorry for myself thread ??"
we understand that x

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By *sagent81 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Would you quit this site and delete?

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By *sagent81 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ps this isn’t an angry or feeling sorry for myself thread ??we understand that x"
thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a lady but quite honestly I didn't expect more from a site like this. There's more to life than Fab and a big wide world in which you can find women.

Just enjoy the banter in the forums, fab a few photos and send the odd interesting message ... don't expect anything and then if you get a reply it's a bonus!

It really isn't the end of the world!

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I use Fab mainly for forums, events & chatting to people. I prefer to socialise & play in clubs, so it wouldn’t change how I use the site at all

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By *exyLancs2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

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It is very difficult for members of the opposite sex to see life from the other side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

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Would probably bring them back down to earth

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By *exyLancs2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'm not a lady but quite honestly I didn't expect more from a site like this. There's more to life than Fab and a big wide world in which you can find women.

Just enjoy the banter in the forums, fab a few photos and send the odd interesting message ... don't expect anything and then if you get a reply it's a bonus!

It really isn't the end of the world! "

Zero expectations is the way to go.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

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I'd just get on with life and keep going to clubs. "
Me too

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

No messages, views or winks and most of your messages deleted before they’re even read. Would probably bring them back down to earth"

We seem to be more down to earth than you think, we don't seem to base our self worth on anonymous strangers online.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

No messages, views or winks and most of your messages deleted before they’re even read. Would probably bring them back down to earth

We seem to be more down to earth than you think, we don't seem to base our self worth on anonymous strangers online. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't like loads of messages from women wanting to fuck me just out of their own sexual desperation, with no attraction to me. Willing to lie and do anything for tbwir own satisfaction. Even if they were honest and decent ones among them, I think I would be put off by rhe others- how to tell them apart? Maybe women have got it worse if we reverse it. Check me out 'Feminist!"

I like the chase anyway.

Best advice is that rejection is 'not being their type'. That's how I see it. Its not a judgement of you. This isn't tinder, people on here are trying to fit someone into their sex fantasies, which could be anything!

Good luck and keep going!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

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Well after a scattergun approach of sending my close up gash and by entitlement expecting at least half a dozen of the 200 local and non local men I sent a copy and paste message to, I’d send exactly the same. I mean they’re just busy right, the want my close up gash. Dem lucky boys who gonna get my close up gash will reply. When I hear tumble again I’ll post a poor me status update whinging how no one meets anymore, no one chats or replies and threaten to leave the site as it’s gone downhill. Then I’d come in the forum and pose an opposing question wondering what men would do if it was the other way round. I’m sure dem boys will look at my profile, see my nice gash and want it then. I mean come on boys I’ve paid my site supporter fee and everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

No messages, views or winks and most of your messages deleted before they’re even read. "

Tbh this is exactly what I thought it would be like! I picked a random username due to an incident the night before as I expected to be unlos within the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s nice to have a break to go search for people I might want to message instead of always receiving messages

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By *ammyharrogateWoman
over a year ago

Harrogate

I’d watch porn and have a wank that’s what you guys do right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the best of both worlds. I can bitch about all the crass one-liners from single guys whilst still complaining that it's hard to meet couples and single women. Yay go me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d watch porn and have a wank that’s what you guys do right ?

You old romantic Sammy ...!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

No messages, views or winks and most of your messages deleted before they’re even read.

I'd just get on with life and keep going to clubs. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have the best of both worlds. I can bitch about all the crass one-liners from single guys whilst still complaining that it's hard to meet couples and single women. Yay go me."

You must be devastated! How do you cope!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I’d watch porn and have a wank that’s what you guys do right ?

Pretty much

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

The people (m or f) who have good social skills and a positive outlook tend to do ok on here, same as in real life.

The whingers,angry heads and negative Nellies generally don't.

The thing that always amuses me when I read yet another rant about how hard done to people are on Fab is this. If they don't have the skills or charm to hook up in the real world why do they assume it should be handed to them on a plate here?

Last time I looked the site hadn't been renamed "The Guaranteed a F@ck Warehouse".

You get back what you put in, just like most things in life.

Happy fabbing.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"I'd just get on with life and keep going to clubs. "

We've met 2, maybe 3 couples, through this website in the last 4 years. I'd hate to be reliant on fab to connect, we'd never meet anyone

It's a lot easier at a club; you can tell within the first couple of minutes if there's chemistry. Far more preferable than bouncing emails back and forth and stressing about asking for face pics etc

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Wouldnt bother me as i wouldstill get my fun at the clubs

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"The people (m or f) who have good social skills and a positive outlook tend to do ok on here, same as in real life.

The whingers,angry heads and negative Nellies generally don't.

Last time I looked the site hadn't been renamed "The Guaranteed a F@ck Warehouse".

You get back what you put in, just like most things in life.

Happy fabbing.

Well said!

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I think it's just as difficult for most women on here as it is most men, just in a different way.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

No messages, views or winks and most of your messages deleted before they’re even read.

Well after a scattergun approach

of sending my close up gash and by entitlement expecting at least half a dozen of the 200 local and non local men I sent a copy and paste message to, I’d send exactly the same. I mean they’re just busy right, the want my close up gash. Dem lucky boys who gonna get my close up gash will reply. When I hear tumble again I’ll post a poor me status update whinging how no one meets anymore, no one chats or replies and threaten to leave the site as it’s gone downhill. Then I’d come in the forum and pose an opposing question wondering what men would do if it was the other way round. I’m sure dem boys will look at my profile, see my nice gash and want it then. I mean come on boys I’ve paid my site supporter fee and everything

A good way of making a point I think

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"The people (m or f) who have good social skills and a positive outlook tend to do ok on here, same as in real life.

The whingers,angry heads and negative Nellies generally don't.

Last time I looked the site hadn't been renamed "The Guaranteed a F@ck Warehouse".

You get back what you put in, just like most things in life.

Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re on Fab because it’s worked very well for us (in conjunction with other avenues). But if it didn’t work for us we wouldn’t use it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a difficult question for any woman to answer as there's so many different single guys to be in the situation of.

I'm happy as Larry (whoever he was) with the amount and quality of my meets and the chat and fun I get from talking to others too, often in the forums. And as a bonus of having a penis I have perhaps a dozen messages on average to answer rather than the chore of wading through 500-odd every bloody day. Many single women would probably take that all day long. Exquisite fun without the hassle.

On the other hand they probably wouldn't want to swap places with a Bernard Manning lookalike with one blurry knob shot, a penchant for txtspk and zero imagination whose only interactions were asking bluntly for a fuck or having a good piss and moan about how nobody wanted to?

I think a fairer way of asking the question would be asking if the ladies would mind being their male equivalent in every way on here? ie; same intellect, same interests except obviously from a male perspective same body type curvy ladies equals curvy blokes, gym bunny girls equals ripped men and BBW equals BHM. Of course the profiles with their length, tone of wording and content and kind of pics on display would be the male equivalent of that too.

So whilst I know you ladies are quite happy in your own sex and you're doing a damn fine job of appealing to us chaps too, would you swap places with your male equivalent? Not permanently, just to get a handle on it for a couple of months say. And what would your reactions to role reversals be?

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

"Wouldnt bother me as i wouldstill get my fun at the clubs"

So men could get ‘fun’ at a club just like you could?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Wouldnt bother me as i wouldstill get my fun at the clubs

So men could get ‘fun’ at a club just like you could?

Of course they could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldnt bother me as i wouldstill get my fun at the clubs

So men could get ‘fun’ at a club just like you could?

Of course they could "

I think it’s much harder for single men in clubs than single women.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love not talking to anyone on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t imagine it’s nice to get lots of rejections to be honest. I probably wouldn’t use Fab for meets if the tables were turned.

That said, I’ve spoken to some really nice guys who do really well with the number of meets they get. They’re not all Chris Hemsworth types either; they’re just friendly, funny and respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t imagine it’s nice to get lots of rejections to be honest. I probably wouldn’t use Fab for meets if the tables were turned.

That said, I’ve spoken to some really nice guys who do really well with the number of meets they get. They’re not all Chris Hemsworth types either; they’re just friendly, funny and respectful. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would leave and look elsewhere for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d just go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would leave and look elsewhere for sex. "

Yes, but then you'd also miss out on all the social aspects of fab if you did that, the forums being a big example. The number of profiles who aren't actually looking for sex, but are here for the forums are massive. Why leave 'reverse fab' when you could with a little effort and a toughening up thicker skin have all the social aspects AND still find sex?

If you were in a reversed fab I'd give you the same advice you'd proably give a single guy starting out, put loads of effort into your profile, be extremely seductive, friendly, charming. Send well crafted messages and if you get rejection then take it on the chin, "woman up" and repeat all the above steps. Once you get the hang of it you'd gradually get less rejections and more fun.

Surely this is the way forward you'd take in such a situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

No messages, views or winks and most of your messages deleted before they’re even read.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I attend clubs and organise social events/house parties and actively use the forums

So my experience wouldn’t really change. I regularly put all my filters on and hide my profile because it’s sometimes quite nice to go a considerable length of time without getting any messages

And speaking as a lady I read all my messages when the guy goes offline then reset them to unread if I’m not interested you get less hassle that way and if I then change my preferences you can’t get around those filters to remessage me further down the line because I’ve replied to say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like looking at lunatics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try flogging a dead horse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture "
er and ceiling

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture "

Erm no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture

Erm no

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what happens to it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture

Erm no

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what happens to it then

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture

Erm no

what happens to it then "

It’s depodited in condoms it cleaned up by the individuals as it would be if you played on a meet unless your homes covered in spunk as you never clean up?

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I’d watch porn and have a wank that’s what you guys do right ?

80% of the time that is what I do as my playmate lives so far away

or is busy trying to fight a terminal illness....

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture "

What a very strange opinion to have.

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Back to the original question. As a single guy I can relate to the question. Whilst it feels rude to be ignored we must appreciate that whilst we men get relatively few viewings, most women get hundreds.

I’m not so sure I’d reply to all of them.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

There lies the difference in the genders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably been done a few times before but how do you ladies think you would react to fab experience a lot of single guys have?

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Id chat to ladies like I do and arrange to go and do Socials or clubs with them

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

It really wouldn't bother me at all ....I get too many idiotic messages from guys who seem to think I am going to answer silly childish messages ... somedays I just delete the lot ..... theres very few who interest me ... cock pics ... instant block....

Rudeness instant block ...

And yes this has been done to death. ....

I enjoy the forums

Fab is not my world , I have a life ...

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If you follow the forums for a few years you will see that many woman react the same way to disappointment with fab as guys do. Yes they might get messages and winks but actual meets can be rare and so they leave. They just don't rant on the forums quite as much about it.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"If you follow the forums for a few years you will see that many woman react the same way to disappointment with fab as guys do. Yes they might get messages and winks but actual meets can be rare and so they leave. They just don't rant on the forums quite as much about it."

But then they are clearly not true swingers.....as true swingers never “expect” a fuck....

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture "

Why would there be spunk everywhere?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been to a club is there just spunk everywhere all over walls furniture

Why would there be spunk everywhere? "

Do not feed the trolls my sweet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect most of them do have the general feeling of not being good enough/wanted when they go out with their friends IRL.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who has been on as a single female and now a couple my advice would be fill out your profile a bit more..... add a few face pics... We get so many cock pics it's annoying.

My other half will just copy and paste messages and not look at a profile when we are looking for a meet where as I like to read a profile and send a message personal to tue couple.... just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would leave and look elsewhere for sex.

Surely this is the way forward you'd take in such a situation?"

I'm not here for the forums or social side. Why would I want to stick around for years trying to find someone who will want to have sex with me? Makes no sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suspect most of them do have the general feeling of not being good enough/wanted when they go out with their friends IRL."

If the roles were reversed on here and I did as well as my male counterparts, I'd do better on a night out or out in public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If roles reversed, single girls on here will start sending you multiple vagina pics and start forums about vagina sizes then ask what are they doing wrong.

Some straight women will become fab straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suspect most of them do have the general feeling of not being good enough/wanted when they go out with their friends IRL.

If the roles were reversed on here and I did as well as my male counterparts, I'd do better on a night out or out in public. "

Yes, but the sex probably wouldn't be anywhere near as good. I want jaw-droppingly amazing sex with women I can connect with mentally and physically, sex that leaves both myself and the ladies I meet with smiling for days... Whilst a night out is practically a guarantee of sex, a lot of ladies are either too pissed, unadventurous and lacking in that mental connection that makes you want to scream "Fuck, Yes...!"

If the roles were reversed then that's what you would be settling for, plus the added possibility of 'Brewer's droop' ha....

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