FabSwingers.com forum: What does it take to get a response?

By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

I've message a fair few people and the only people who have ever replied are those that I've met at a swinging club or infomation about a meet. If I message a person or a couple who are looking to meet that I'm looking to meet, all i get is ignored. It's just as rude as a person who message you without reading your profile.

I understand that you might have several people e-mail you so I get it, it's a bother to reply to all, but it's still not nice to be just plain ignored.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

do you read their profile, match that you are what they are looking for... age, height, sexuality, cock length, single, accommodate or not.....

if you match all the preferences and craft a message that sells yourself, you increase your chances of a reply......

note increase...

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

Of course I do, I wouldn't pm them if they didn't.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Of course I do, I wouldn't pm them if they didn't."

cool.... good luck then

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Fab advises that everyone takes a no reply as a polite no thank you. Whether they say no thanks or dont reply they still arent interested. Dont check up on you mail. Just mail and forget. I wouldnt have a clue if I had been ignored! Dont take it too seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Sprry I know this is off topic but im a bit confused about one of your veris,its says I met the lovely lady?

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

I was cross dressing at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I was cross dressing at the time."

Ah I did wonder if that was the case

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

"Fab advises that everyone takes a no reply as a polite no thank you. Whether they say no thanks or dont reply they still arent interested. Dont check up on you mail. Just mail and forget. I wouldnt have a clue if I had been ignored! Dont take it too seriously. "

Ok, fine I can accept that, but blocking as well? If I'd been rude I'd understand but I'm not. I try to be a little quirky in my message but I'm always polite,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, fine I can accept that, but blocking as well? If I'd been rude I'd understand but I'm not. I try to be a little quirky in my message but I'm always polite,"

Hi, just wrote something to you on another thread

Seriously, try not to take it to heart. You'll set yourself up for misery on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are here for sex and not remotely interested in your musical tastes. Apart from being "odd"...and that's not a usp...lots of odd people here, how are people to know if you match sexually?

Your age may be a barrier for some, not all.

People lead busy lives and don't want to pull teeth to find you're not compatible when the next fella has his stall all set out.

People can ignore and block you without explanation...you have to get over that!

Stroppy updates don't inspire either...comes across as petulant, other than that enjoy...there's someone for everyone here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people block if they're not interested having looked at the profile as it saves the same person from contacting them again in the future or from getting either an abusive reply or the start of a "negotiation" trying to persuade them to meet. It's nothing personal and it's happened to us. Not everybody appeals to everybody. Good luck on here. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people will like ur interests, such as music...but I dont think shagging to megadeath sounds that sexy myself lol

unless im hatefucking!

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

People are entitled to block if they feel like it and entitled not to reply to messages. Sending a message is not like giving a gift!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what...? I wouldn't be bothered about those who don't answer, or those that block you. They've probably done you a huge favour of you not having to know them to find out later that they're rude - this isn't just about how you are to them, it's how they are to you - It's a two way street.

I don't think it matters if you have to wade through hundreds of instances like this if you get to a positive event at the other end - in fact, it makes it all worthwhile when you get just one person say yes. I wouldn't get downhearted about it, and I wouldn't let it faze or taint your approaches to (new) others. Keep your resolve, and you will win through in the end. Someone will appreciate you for who you are, and doors will open.

Good luck

Wolf

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Ok, fine I can accept that, but blocking as well? If I'd been rude I'd understand but I'm not. I try to be a little quirky in my message but I'm always polite,"

Hm... well the thing is we all tend to judge others by our own standards dont we? You wouldnt block anyone who didnt behave badly and so assume someone blocking you is therefore accusing you of bad behaviour too. That would be a mistake. We are all different and I understand that some people just use the block button as another tool for minimising wasteing time on people they are not interested in. As I say, taking it personally would be a mistake... they dont know you! You are just a profile on the internet. Its not easy on here to meet and you have already met a few people so I would say you are doing well. Cheer up!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"I've message a fair few people and the only people who have ever replied are those that I've met at a swinging club or infomation about a meet. If I message a person or a couple who are looking to meet that I'm looking to meet, all i get is ignored. It's just as rude as a person who message you without reading your profile.

I understand that you might have several people e-mail you so I get it, it's a bother to reply to all, but it's still not nice to be just plain ignored."

You are not being ignored any more than my local pizza shop is being ignored when i bin there flyer,you just are not what they are looking for.

What is it today,2 threads on the same topic?

Oh and a smiling facepic might help!

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

Hind-Sight 20/20, which is true, I admit that i made this thread in frustration, but then who wouldn't be when your every message is just ignored/blocked? And I do mean every attempt to talk or meet with others is plain ignored.

Still having read what you've posted makes me realise your right and I was just not thinking beyond any more then "yes I get you have to read a lot but don't just ignore me".

I also changed my profile. See i wrote it thinking that your meant to write about yourself in a personal light instead of a "what kind of sex i'm looking for" light.

Any way, thanks for the advice.

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

"Hind-Sight 20/20, which is true, I admit that i made this thread in frustration, but then who wouldn't be when your every message is just ignored/blocked? And I do mean every attempt to talk or meet with others is plain ignored.

Still having read what you've posted makes me realise your right and I was just not thinking beyond any more then "yes I get you have to read a lot but don't just ignore me".

I also changed my profile. See i wrote it thinking that your meant to write about yourself in a personal light instead of a "what kind of sex i'm looking for" light.

Any way, thanks for the advice."

I meant that Originaly I wrote in a personal manner and instead this time i wrote it in a "what kind of sex i'm looking for" way,

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Still having read what you've posted makes me realise your right and I was just not thinking beyond any more then "yes I get you have to read a lot but don't just ignore me".

I also changed my profile. See i wrote it thinking that your meant to write about yourself in a personal light instead of a "what kind of sex i'm looking for" light.

Any way, thanks for the advice."

See i like profiles that tel u about the person, now i see yours as generic and boring,which is why i think ppl should be careful rewriting after the advice of the minority who use the forum.

Feel free to ignore my advice too

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

So i should have a bit of both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i should have a bit of both?"

Yes!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"So i should have a bit of both?"

Hun u shud be true to yourself...and if that means writing what others say will get u a shag,fine,if u want to be more unique...thtas fine too!

Ok my advice,for what it is worth, read the profiles of the regular posters in the forum, they are generally good with words.See how each gives you a sense of the person behind the pixels.

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

Updated once more with a bit more of a personal touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people block if they're not interested having looked at the profile as it saves the same person from contacting them again in the future or from getting either an abusive reply or the start of a "negotiation" trying to persuade them to meet. It's nothing personal and it's happened to us. Not everybody appeals to everybody. Good luck on here. Ms"

+1 You have to realise that as a single guy you have HUGE amounts of competition. Swinging isn't an interest of the desperate, but more of the discerning. We can be a very fussy bunch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the updated profile - even better!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

love the new profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some people will like ur interests, such as music...but I dont think shagging to megadeath sounds that sexy myself lol

unless im hatefucking!"

i'll have you know that fucking to death metal is a major turn on for some weirdos and freaks (and yes, i'm talking about the friends in my head, no one elses)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"love the new profile

Seconded! Well done OP for taking the advice on board.

I hope you have loads of fun...good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Updated once more with a bit more of a personal touch."

Brilliant!

You've done yourself proud. You are punching way above than you were earlier

You'll do fine fella xx

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

For the record I actually got a reply this time, it was a no but only becuause of distance so I guess this is a no ball instead of a miss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For the record I actually got a reply this time, it was a no but only becuause of distance so I guess this is a no ball instead of a miss?"

Yes, a no ball! Not a bad thing

You are getting responses.... us regulars on these forums are not a bad bunch so why not stick around and enjoy the banter and inject your quirkiness?

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

I don't see why not.

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Mmmm I can't resist quirkiness . . . . and longhaired at that . . . !

Jane x

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By *likeVKblinds OP Man
over a year ago

Limehouse

Then It's a shame I'm not still in derby as I'd not be particlarly far :D

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