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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do we all approach the subject?

Drop it in conversation?

Watch a porno?

Ask?

Drink?

Any other ways?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

#Following

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do we all approach the subject?

Drop it in conversation?

Watch a porno?

Ask?

Drink?

Any other ways?

"

In the past I’ve just raised it but by bit during sexy talk. You’d be surprised how many openings there are for “oh I’ve done that” or “I’ve got experience in this”. If they ask more then you’re on to a winner haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Popcorn out, but we say straight from day 1 tell 'em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Popcorn out, but we say straight from day 1 tell 'em."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

From the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve often wondered how others approach this. Tbh up to now I’ve just kept it to myself

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I hope the situation never arises but if I found myself entering a new relationship I would just tell them as soon as I thought it was going to be more than a casual thing.

There are a couple of things that are not negotiable for me and I think it's best to discuss them earlier rather than later.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I hope the situation never arises but if I found myself entering a new relationship I would just tell them as soon as I thought it was going to be more than a casual thing.

There are a couple of things that are not negotiable for me and I think it's best to discuss them earlier rather than later. "
you said it all !!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I hope the situation never arises but if I found myself entering a new relationship I would just tell them as soon as I thought it was going to be more than a casual thing.

There are a couple of things that are not negotiable for me and I think it's best to discuss them earlier rather than later. you said it all !!!! "

One of my non negotiable criteria is I must have a cat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telling them what?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Telling them what?"

In my case that if I can't have a cat it's not going to happen

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Telling them what?"

That they are swingers i gather

As soon as you think theres a future op

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope the situation never arises but if I found myself entering a new relationship I would just tell them as soon as I thought it was going to be more than a casual thing.

There are a couple of things that are not negotiable for me and I think it's best to discuss them earlier rather than later. "

Its a fine line to tread between telling them up front and telling them too early

In my experience too early either leads you down the "yes i just found myself a kinky little fucky buddy but i have written them off as anything serious path" or if its going to end up a swinging relationship then you havent really had the time to bond yet just as a couple before the seed is planted and it gets introduced

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I hope the situation never arises but if I found myself entering a new relationship I would just tell them as soon as I thought it was going to be more than a casual thing.

There are a couple of things that are not negotiable for me and I think it's best to discuss them earlier rather than later.

Its a fine line to tread between telling them up front and telling them too early

In my experience too early either leads you down the "yes i just found myself a kinky little fucky buddy but i have written them off as anything serious path" or if its going to end up a swinging relationship then you havent really had the time to bond yet just as a couple before the seed is planted and it gets introduced "

Yeah. Obviously I haven't tested my theory and hope I never have to. However I think with age comes the realisation that you don't want to spend six months getting to know someone only to find out that they couldn't live with a cat or think BDSM is abhorrent.

I do agree though that being up front brings its own risks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Telling them what?

In my case that if I can't have a cat it's not going to happen "

I have too many provisos to even consider a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should be upfront with them. If they are swingers they will be fine. If they aren't, you haven't wasted too much of their time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Telling them what?

In my case that if I can't have a cat it's not going to happen

I have too many provisos to even consider a relationship. "

When it comes down to it I think I have too. Mr N and I often say that it's a good job we met each other because nobody else would put up with us. I also say that I honestly don't think I have it in me to establish another relationship.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I hope the situation never arises but if I found myself entering a new relationship I would just tell them as soon as I thought it was going to be more than a casual thing.

There are a couple of things that are not negotiable for me and I think it's best to discuss them earlier rather than later. you said it all !!!!

One of my non negotiable criteria is I must have a cat "

imagine if he was allergic!!! Joking !!! My policy is always be honest and up front ! I don't like surprises ! That way we all can move on or walk way !!! You are an extremely clever ,wise lady ! I admire your comments and yes I learn from it !!!! Xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I hope the situation never arises but if I found myself entering a new relationship I would just tell them as soon as I thought it was going to be more than a casual thing.

There are a couple of things that are not negotiable for me and I think it's best to discuss them earlier rather than later. you said it all !!!!

One of my non negotiable criteria is I must have a cat

imagine if he was allergic!!! Joking !!! My policy is always be honest and up front ! I don't like surprises ! That way we all can move on or walk way !!! You are an extremely clever ,wise lady ! I admire your comments and yes I learn from it !!!! Xxx "

Oh .

Well thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told Lucy on our first date about my other life. Turned out to be very appealing to her as she had been in a relatively sexless marriage for may years. Sex was her priority!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them as soon as humanly possible, at least they know where the door is then when they freak out lol

The other reactions I usually get include:

I’m old fashioned and would rather you didn’t sleep around

Or my favourite

My cock hurts I think you gave me something

Erm I think we used protection and I’m clean but thanks for that twat !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby made it very clear what his "kink" was very early in our relationship... I got to admit I had to mull it over a few days.. I'd already fallen for him, so thought "What the hell"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them from the off. Then you know where you stand. Get talking about your likes and dislikes. Always a good start

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I formed a relationship first, very Intense and loving, then discussed our fantasies, turned out they are a lot and mine too so all good, so we are t here as,a couple,alls good

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Telling them what?

In my case that if I can't have a cat it's not going to happen

I have too many provisos to even consider a relationship.

When it comes down to it I think I have too. Mr N and I often say that it's a good job we met each other because nobody else would put up with us. I also say that I honestly don't think I have it in me to establish another relationship."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Early as possible

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