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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

any one else find they cant get hard when it comes to play time on a meet ?

3rd time its happened now ,never usualy have a problem

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By *oy man 2Man
over a year ago

find me a meet then i will let you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not met a man yet with that issue

That said, I'm told it can happen to any man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its an age thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a problem for some men, especially in a club environment or group play.

I'm so pleased I'm not a man, for many reasons, one being that problem. So much easier for women.

Try not to let it worry you, (I know, easier said than done) just relax and focus on giving attention to your playmates in other ways, and nature may just take its course and it will happen.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Maybe you should go to the doctors . 3 times nerves ?Maybe a underline issue ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it happen in the past, it's a cycle that. An become debilitating if left unchecked. You need to either relax more, and don't put pressure on yourself to 'perform'.

Alternatively, speak to a GP, who will be in an infinitely better position to diagnose any issue much better than any of us could.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

It’s bound to happen to some regardless of thier sexual energy. The big build up to a meet. The nervousness. The anticipation.nthebrushed meet All has an effect. I bet if you repeated the meet it wouldn’t be a problem.

I have that problem but mines more medically related due to diabetes. Sometime it’s ok sometimes not. Viagra can help but not always so I tend to be more inclined to recieve rather than give. But if I’ve met a couple or a tv regularly it’s not as much of a problem as I’m more relaxed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a few guys that struggled to get fully erected ..It's usually down to nerves and concentrating too hard on trying to please and can happen ..might be worth taking a blue pill before your meets

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Totally down to nerves and over thinking. Try and arrange a meet that doesn't involve penetrative sex. Focus on oral, toys or massage. I guarantee you'll be rock hard all the way through.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks Id put it down to nerves getting hard before meet or after meet not a problem ,guess just need to relax more ,was hoping I'd got over it ,luckily enought they have all been understanding

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By *w214Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I've struggled with condoms, so much so that it can be quite daunting. We've played with guys that have struggled too. Mostly psychological i suspect.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Totally agree,have had same issue.perform with wife no worries,clubs have struggled.nerves and circumstances seem to cause it.missus says stop thinking so hard about it and try to relax.then you worry that it looks bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pressure is obviously playing with your head.

Just do half a viagra 1 hour before you need to stand up and be counted......

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"any one else find they cant get hard when it comes to play time on a meet ?

3rd time its happened now ,never usualy have a problem "

It’s normal, very normal, you’re human not robot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its an age thing...

I would agree with this,try with someone younger.

99?you really want to swing with women that old?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seek advice from your GP. They will have heard it all before. Good luck mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should give up mate. It's obviously not for you.

It's those other dastardly dicks hanging around that does it.

He he. Only joking. I should get some blue friends in from somewhere. Don't the chemists do them now ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a nerves thing, happens to me in clubs sometimes when we're in the open and I feel like people are now watching intently, private rooms with others are fine though, it's weird.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I should give up mate. It's obviously not for you.

It's those other dastardly dicks hanging around that does it.

He he. Only joking. I should get some blue friends in from somewhere. Don't the chemists do them now ???

You can get herbal ones from shops & sites that sell toys etc - Anne summers, love honey, nice n naughty ...

Or go to your GP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me twice, both times in a group situation. As it hadn't happened in threesomes I put it down to the additional pressure and performance anxiety.

Mr B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any one else find they cant get hard when it comes to play time on a meet ?

3rd time its happened now ,never usualy have a problem "
were you nervous ,were others watching or maybe she just wasn't attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get some blue pills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should give up mate. It's obviously not for you.

It's those other dastardly dicks hanging around that does it.

He he. Only joking. I should get some blue friends in from somewhere. Don't the chemists do them now ???

You can get herbal ones from shops & sites that sell toys etc - Anne summers, love honey, nice n naughty ...

Or go to your GP

You can get two British made blue pills in poundland yep for a £1 ..probably safer than buying dodgy ones made of all sorts on the internet

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If you can get spontaneous erections normally then your GP won’t be all that interested if it’s just down to meet nerves or pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why men feel the need to use Viagra? Aren't they worried about long-term consequences, and isn't it better to get to the source of the "problem?" Men aren't fucking machines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully ive never had that problem, tend to be rock hard, get a semi just thinking about a meet ha hope you overcome it and start to enjoy your meets more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience men look for a little help sometimes precisely because we are not machines, we are human with human needs and wants, and one of mine is to be able to use my sex in the way nature intended, it feels so much sexier for a guy to be able to give and receive pleasure with a full hard on. Its nothing to do with ego!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no such problems this morning

nice no pressure meet stayed nice and hard throughout ,thanks for the replies

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

"I don't know why men feel the need to use Viagra? Aren't they worried about long-term consequences, and isn't it better to get to the source of the "problem?" Men aren't fucking machines. "

My doctor Blamed my wife for so no x’s loads and loads. That why I struggle now.

Pills work fine for me and I feel it’s worth it for a bit of fun.

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

"If you can get spontaneous erections normally then your GP won’t be all that interested if it’s just down to meet nerves or pressure."

First thing my Doctor asked was. Do you get the morning horn( she actually asked like that ).

When I said yes. We had a chat and found what could be the problem.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"any one else find they cant get hard when it comes to play time on a meet ?

3rd time its happened now ,never usualy have a problem "

Its quite normal so relax & don't worry, we have filmed hundreds of people over the years & this is a common problem.

The more you worry the less it will work so when you next play soft swing so there is no pressure on you, before long you'll be fine & banging away for England again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guys brain and penis are hardwired to each other. That's why with testosterone, guys think with their penis.

Within that thought process, if thinking about condoms or "shit, he's come quick and now he's watching me do his Mrs" etc.. then the link between and penis breaks down, to the point where he goes too soft.

We met a couple, the guy came quickly and just stood in the doorway watching his wife and Mr. Littlesox. Knowing the guy watching and then fiddling with a condom, that just finished the night.

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By *hickone48 and christinaMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

"any one else find they cant get hard when it comes to play time on a meet ?

3rd time its happened now ,never usualy have a problem "
try a blue pill an hour before meet or club meet

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By *oy man 2Man
over a year ago

Not had a hard one for long time

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

As a woman who gets stage fright weeing if someone's in the cubicle next to me, I can't begin to imagine the pressure some men must sometimes feel.

The reality is that with the right person it won't be a big deal. It happens, and it's not the end of the world, or the fun!

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

"I've not met a man yet with that issue

As you don't meet men over 46 it is less likely..

That said, I'm told it can happen to any man"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely age has a lot to do with it no point in sweeping it under the carpet unfortunately guys...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It can happen to ALL men at ANY age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, it can happen to any man at any age, it can be as simple as nerves x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens, it can happen to any man at any age, it can be as simple as nerves x"

What having a shag with a bird you fancy ...???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens, it can happen to any man at any age, it can be as simple as nerves x

What having a shag with a bird you fancy ...???

Yeah, just because you fancy someone doesn't mean you will automatically not be nervous...I've known a few men to have trouble it's no big deal, that's what hands and tongues are for

and usually after a while they're able to get it up with no problem (unless they've taken a pile of or whatever they take and it's killed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be tough on yourself mate. It will happen to most of us. I had the same issue about 15 years ago, so relatively young. Just felt pressured to always perform with the ex. Everything was for her pleasure, no time for me. It compounds itself and spirals into something it never was in the first place. Good luck mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens, it can happen to any man at any age, it can be as simple as nerves x

What having a shag with a bird you fancy ...???

Yeah, just because you fancy someone doesn't mean you will automatically not be nervous...I've known a few men to have trouble it's no big deal, that's what hands and tongues are for

and usually after a while they're able to get it up with no problem (unless they've taken a pile of or whatever they take and it's killed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened twice on meets I,'ve had. It's just nerves, nothing to worry about. With a regular meet you will probably be fine XXX

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By *lectriceelMan
over a year ago

around

I was at a party once and about 4 guys were stood around talking about traffic, that was very off putting and didn’t help with things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the ladies dressed sexily I'm not goung to have a problem .

All about being turned on o guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should give up mate. It's obviously not for you.

It's those other dastardly dicks hanging around that does it.

He he. Only joking. I should get some blue friends in from somewhere. Don't the chemists do them now ???

You can get herbal ones from shops & sites that sell toys etc - Anne summers, love honey, nice n naughty ...

Or go to your GP

You can get two British made blue pills in poundland yep for a £1 ..probably safer than buying dodgy ones made of all sorts on the internet"

Are the poundland ones any good. Do they actually contain the magic ingredient, sildenafil citrate. I very much doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

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I agree me to ,if you're not turned on you won't rise to occassion

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

This thread restores my faith , great advice with no sneering / trying to humiliate anyone

To the OP...we had a man who we met a few times that did the same thing on the first meet, we just stopped play and chatted instead with the intention of not playing that night. After a while he relaxed enough to forget about his hard on ( or lack of ) and we ended up having a great meet. I think like others have said, it is nerve racking at times especially when you are joining a couple so as long as you don't get someone who will chuck you out because of it you will probably find it rights itself in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

But you are not a man so are not wired up like one.

Think I'm glad

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

But you are not a man so are not wired up like one. I am not sure the OP is about that though

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

That makes sense. An ex and I met a few ladies who he was obviously not attracted to and it was a definite no go. Shame because I thought they were lovely. No amount of reassurance would save the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you have mental nerves it would appear. Have you ruled out physical condition ? Can you get erect on your own quickly ?

Perhaps sexual meet swinging isn't for you ? Maybe you need more social meet to relax first. Or munch some viagra an hour before meeting .

I pop a viagra / kamagra before play meets to assist in any issues

. Though I take hormones so side affect is affected function down stairs .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should give up mate. It's obviously not for you.

It's those other dastardly dicks hanging around that does it.

He he. Only joking. I should get some blue friends in from somewhere. Don't the chemists do them now ???

You can get herbal ones from shops & sites that sell toys etc - Anne summers, love honey, nice n naughty ...

Or go to your GP

You can get two British made blue pills in poundland yep for a £1 ..probably safer than buying dodgy ones made of all sorts on the internet

Are the poundland ones any good. Do they actually contain the magic ingredient, sildenafil citrate. I very much doubt it."
I doubt it lol

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

It's happened to me (Mart) a couple of times, but luckily I've had some great advice about it, which is "forget about it".

If you dwell on it, it will re-occur, it becomes a bit of a mental block. Just shrug it off as "one of those things" that happens to most guys at some point.

As others have said, just enjoy the other aspects of sex, oral, fingers, toys etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you should go to the doctors . 3 times nerves ?Maybe a underline issue ? "

I have no issue at home with my Mrs but if I over think things when we play then I can go soft. Even with a couple we meet regularly with it can happen. So yeah it can be down to nervous. Don’t think about getting hard or think about penetration lots of kissing and forplay and you should find it works on its own so to speak. Also as embarrassing as it is tell the person your with people have always understood and it takes away some pressure.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"I should give up mate. It's obviously not for you.

It's those other dastardly dicks hanging around that does it.

He he. Only joking. I should get some blue friends in from somewhere. Don't the chemists do them now ???

You can get herbal ones from shops & sites that sell toys etc - Anne summers, love honey, nice n naughty ...

Or go to your GP

You can get two British made blue pills in poundland yep for a £1 ..probably safer than buying dodgy ones made of all sorts on the internet

Are the poundland ones any good. Do they actually contain the magic ingredient, sildenafil citrate. I very much doubt it. I doubt it lol"
. For £1.00 worth having a go if it works great if not you no worse off than before and it only cost you £1.00

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just sounds like nerves which is quite understandable with unfamiliar people and places. We all perform best when we're comfortable and relaxed. It's why I only meet people privately.

How comfortable are you with your body and image? I deliberately put myself in naturist situations and had many naked massages which made me quite relaxed about my body. I also found a sensual massage partner to explore without any expectation of performance ... you should try it, it's a wonderful experience!

However, if you find it difficult to get hard in general then perhaps a chat with the GP might be useful.

Hope this helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to Mr first time we went to a club. Said we would just have a look and not play but was in one of the play rooms and a female that I had been chatting to just started kissing me and I went with the flow. Took him a while to get hard. It hasn't happened since but it shocked me a little x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP don’t beat yourself about it. It can and will happen to most, of not all, of us men from time to time.

I find being able to have a social interaction to start with helps reduce the pressure and any nerves - this might help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These things happen it will pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

I agree me to ,if you're not turned on you won't rise to occassion

I totally disagree. You can be turned on and not have a boner. You can not be turned on and have a spontaneous boner.

Ever been on a long car journey and suddenly got hard for no reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

I agree me to ,if you're not turned on you won't rise to occassion

I totally disagree. You can be turned on and not have a boner. You can not be turned on and have a spontaneous boner.

Ever been on a long car journey and suddenly got hard for no reason?"
I used to loads of em on double decker bus but that's many years ago lol on the top deck lol

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

It's happened to us quite lot over the years. We can't quite work it out why some guys can't stay hard when playing with Mrs T. I mean look at her ffs, you would think she would stiffen a dead man (and I don't mean rigor mortis

)I have even had to give them a blue pill from my own stock on occasions. Personally I've never failed to perform, old faithful me. So far anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's happened to us quite lot over the years. We can't quite work it out why some guys can't stay hard when playing with Mrs T. I mean look at her ffs, you would think she would stiffen a dead man (and I don't mean rigor mortis

)I have even had to give them a blue pill from my own stock on occasions. Personally I've never failed to perform, old faithful me. So far anyway

Your one of the lucky ones to never get performance nerves..it's nothing to do what the lady looks like ..it's probably the anticipation of the meet ahead they have had all day and then the meet itself wanting to please..although we do not do social meets first I can see where it would probably help a lot of guys out and settle their nerves first ..

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

Stage fright!

Take a bluie and get ya self to some clubs get used to being naked in front of lots of people you’ll soon get over nerves!

Prob after first time your worrying more the next two times making even worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any one else find they cant get hard when it comes to play time on a meet ?

3rd time its happened now ,never usualy have a problem "

Sleep and vitamins bud, and plenty o fresh fruit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened to me a few years ago, baffling and the only time.

I just put it down to tiredness, and a bit of nervousness.

All been okay prior to, and post that occasion.

Keep yer chin up, and it might be easy for me to say, but relax and enjoy the moment.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"This thread restores my faith , great advice with no sneering / trying to humiliate anyone

. Totally agree. I’ve always said that here’s never any pressure to play. Some guys also find it difficult to cum which can also be frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like group meets and some guys do struggle with others there...

It's not a big thing though...

Leave them relax as others have said and they will warm up. In fact, thinking about it, some of my best head came from a guy who was struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There called nooky in poundland I spotted them today lol

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

"There called nooky in poundland I spotted them today lol"

They can’t work surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There called nooky in poundland I spotted them today lol

They can’t work surely "
I could do an investigation but for a quid I doubt it so for research purposes I've a spare quid lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

I agree me to ,if you're not turned on you won't rise to occassion

I totally disagree. You can be turned on and not have a boner. You can not be turned on and have a spontaneous boner.

Ever been on a long car journey and suddenly got hard for no reason?"
sorry but if you're not turned on it doesn't rise unless you've took the lil blue pill then in some cases it won't subside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only happened to me twice. Once when I was 19 and the other time was in my mid 20's. Both times I'd had a bit too much to drink and it was also the first time those girlfriends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not met a man yet with that issue

That said, I'm told it can happen to any man"
i like your confidence.!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"If I had a dick and was going to have sex with someone I didn't no well and no connection .it would be floppy

In my opinion I would have to go with a man who i was attracted too and who i had connected with by chatting .If not id rather do without

I agree me to ,if you're not turned on you won't rise to occassion

I totally disagree. You can be turned on and not have a boner. You can not be turned on and have a spontaneous boner.

Ever been on a long car journey and suddenly got hard for no reason?sorry but if you're not turned on it doesn't rise unless you've took the lil blue pill then in some cases it won't subside

So you’ve never woken up with an erection, never had one going about your normal day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"any one else find they cant get hard when it comes to play time on a meet ?

3rd time its happened now ,never usualy have a problem "

Not read the thread yet so my answer my be covered already.

1. It could be physical, but if you're fine alone..

2. It's emotional.

If it's emotional, you need to do a couple of things.

a) Find someone who you can explain it to and who is willing to work with you. Believe it or not, there are lots of nice people out there, contrary to what Fab will have you believe.

b) Explain that it's either i) Nerves or ii) Confidence.

c) Be honest and open about it.

d) Promise nothing.

e) Avoid putting pressure on yourself.

f) Build up slowly.

g) Use foreplay to maximum effect, kiss, stroke, touch, talk and communicate.

h) Relax, let your mind go and enjoy the feeling.. the warmth, the finer things.

Bare in mind you may not actually be as attracted in the flesh as you think you are online.

My issue was confidence. I had a difficult marriage breakdown that left me feeling unattractive, fat, not worthy of affection, guilt and unsexy. It destroyed my libido to the point that trying to take a photo of my stiffy was becoming impossible.

Now.. without any medication, bar the care and attention of some patient, caring, kind women who saw the goodness in me.. Erections are again, thankfully, no longer a problem.

Once you get it in your head that you may have a problem.. it only makes the matter worse. Relax. Enjoy. Provided you are willing to spend an hour or two on foreplay, willing to listen, observe and put the effort in. Why wouldn't they for you? If they aren't, they're not worth the hassle.

It could be physical, but provided you are physically fit, eat and sleep well, have good mental health. It's more likely to be in your head.

Good luck dude.. it's a scary time when you think youre Willy doesn't work.

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over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Only when I've had waaaaay too much to drink. If I'm there, I Still make do with a semi though

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