FabSwingers.com forum: Misplaced trust!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I've been enjoying regular playtimes with someone and often inviting in a third party, I've very recently discovered that they have been less than discreet with photo's of myself to the point where it's got back to a guy I work with!!

Needless to say the "relationship" has come to an abrupt end but how do I ensure these photo's are deleted/destroyed as they were uploaded on their PC!

any advice gratefully received

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

You cant. You can ask them but thats about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Sorry hun...they were a twnut but there is little you can do.

Hope this doesnt cause problems for u at work

Of course i wud never advocate violence...

...but hypothetically if this happened to me i have some male friends who cud put the fear of god into him and ensure everything was deleted.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

very sorry you were let down by your previous playmate .x

aleast you know their true colours now and can have nothing further to do with them .mainly though use this as a learn going forward ,may be a harsh lesson for you but any lesson learned is worth while .

i was on a social meet and guy took great pleasure showing pics on his phone from other women he had met .made it real easy for me to decide if i wanted to see him again ! point is unfortunatly not everyone is discrete and you can only do what you can to protect yourself and your privacy .x

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

"So I've been enjoying regular playtimes with someone and often inviting in a third party, I've very recently discovered that they have been less than discreet with photo's of myself to the point where it's got back to a guy I work with!!

Needless to say the "relationship" has come to an abrupt end but how do I ensure these photo's are deleted/destroyed as they were uploaded on their PC!

any advice gratefully received

I ensure I never have my face showing on any pictures taken of me and that I get to see each one as it's taken.

The only ones of my face will be on my phone so I control who sees them.

Hope you get it sorted mate x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not nice but a learning curve. I too met someone who delighted in showing me pics of his previous meets. Also was less than complementary about another forumite.

It made it VERY easy to not meet him again. His stalking me round the internet just confirmed it.

It'll make you more cautious OP. Ensure if pics are taken in future it's with your equipment. Don't let this put you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the others said-what a twunt and hard lesson learnt. Do you have any pics of him that he wouldn't want others to see???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys

I'm not ashamed that I swing, intact I'm quite proud I take control of my life, I'm just disappointed in the person and their betrayal

Thanks again everyone x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think that sort of thing happens a lot. I wouldnt worry too much if i was you. There are so many pictures on the internet, they will probably soon get bored with looking at yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i think that sort of thing happens a lot. I wouldnt worry too much if i was you. There are so many pictures on the internet, they will probably soon get bored with looking at yours.

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It's who they may send them to that's worrying me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think that sort of thing happens a lot. I wouldnt worry too much if i was you. There are so many pictures on the internet, they will probably soon get bored with looking at yours.

It's who they may send them to that's worrying me

If i was you i would just laugh it off. Some people get jealous because they arent having as much fun as you, some people are just narrow minded. Its their problem, not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think that sort of thing happens a lot. I wouldnt worry too much if i was you. There are so many pictures on the internet, they will probably soon get bored with looking at yours.

It's who they may send them to that's worrying me

Do the pics show your face? If not then deny it's you. Fingers crossed he gets bored showing them off.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

happend to us years ago we used to play with a cpl reg as hell we all took pics but when his mrs was at work he used to take them around to another user s house to show all the full play pics and another emailed us saying they had seen them (another site years ago) i told his wife who deleted there profile and went berserk with him very trusted to as we used even meet up as freinds ,now we never ever use face pics in play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the problem

If you don't want something in the

Public domain just don't do it in the first place

Unfortunately people are just that, human

Always think in ever situation would I be comfortable with this on the front cover of a national news paper?

If the answers yes then go for it

If no just don't do it xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Feeling extremely stupid, lesson learned (the hard way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww don't be so hard on yourself. It's easily done (isomething similar has happened to me) and there are loads of trustworthy people out there. it's a shame this guy has let you down. Hard way to learn a lesson I know. Hugs. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you on this one. I need to be particularly careful with this because of the work I do but pics and vids are good naughty fun. My "work around" is that any pics and vids are only taken with MY camera so I can then crop/edit as appropriate before sending a memento to a playmate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The person in question is definately in the wrong here, and not you.

Trusting is a good characteristic, and he / they let you down.

If it's any consolation at all, I know a couple of ladies that have had their own websites. In both cases, they have never once been recognised (despite very good and clear pictures of them being on display).

This is either means that the world is such a big place, recognition is slim, or, and i suspect this to be the case, even those that do recognise you, will have the decency and integrity to keep the knowledge to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always laugh and say wow thats a good photoshop pic xxx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Ive had it happen to me twice now on here where someone has shown another member who wasnt on my friends list all my private gallery pix.

It not a very nice thing to do especially as i dont accept people unless i know for sure they aint family members or work colleagues or neighbours so why someone thinks they have a right to do that il never know .

hope its not cause you too much distress xxx

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Never have naked or saucy pics with our faces on them. They just dont exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never have naked or saucy pics with our faces on them. They just dont exist. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling extremely stupid, lesson learned (the hard way)

I understand how you feel as I had similar thing happen to me with a work colleague I was having sex with. No face pics but something else featured in the pics made it easy to identify me.

It's a pity to find out what someone is really like this way but don't beat yourself up too much about it - he's the one that acted wrongly here and he had gained your trust previously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal view on this is also tempered by how images are shown. Yep, it's really a no no and breaks boundaries of trust, but not such a biggie if the pics are just shared visually by showing on a phone or computer with no malice or embarrassment implied (no common ground) It's still not right but the real trust deal breaker is when the files are shared electronically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel for you on this one. I need to be particularly careful with this because of the work I do but pics and vids are good naughty fun. My "work around" is that any pics and vids are only taken with MY camera so I can then crop/edit as appropriate before sending a memento to a playmate. "

best not show you the pics i have on my phone then minx hehe

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