FabSwingers.com forum: Am i a fool

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi my i ask you nice people on here about what i have done for the second time.

Last week i chatted with a couple and thought they were nice and genuine as seemed to listern when i told them i joined here after my Dad passed.They added me on kik and we chatted then just blocked me on here and stopped replying on kik.Tonight under a new profile and did the same again seemed genuine but have blocked me again and stopped replying.May i ask do you think its a guy getting his rocks off as said name was Ken but on kik its steve i fell like a fool and having told who ever i weas chatting to about my Dad feel as if was just laughing at my loss and heartache would love your views as always have been so nice and helped me when ever i have posted thanks so much

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

Hello there

I can understand that you need to chat about your grief but maybe here isn’t the right place as in my experience most people are on here for your their own needs and desires.

However it doesn’t mean that whoever blocked you were laughing at your grief over your father it just maybe meant you weren’t for that person at that time it’s seems harsh but that’s the way it is on here. I think you need to talk to someone more able to help you and empathise with your grief.

Good luck and feel free to PM me if I can help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi should have known as did the exact same thing so I called him at time waster and said he was going to smash my head in.I did not think it would be so hard to meet nice ladies and Couples to chat with and if we click maybe meet up.i only chatted about Dad as was asked why joined here so I told who ever it was about my dad.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Hi should have known as did the exact same thing so I called him at time waster and said he was going to smash my head in.I did not think it would be so hard to meet nice ladies and Couples to chat with and if we click maybe meet up.i only chatted about Dad as was asked why joined here so I told who ever it was about my dad."
Dont worry about it people are pretty fickle on here and I know it’s probably not at the top of your agenda but I think here is not the right place for you and maybe you need to talk to someone more qualified

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know what you are saying but i never thought it would be this hard to meet people I am a very positive person but after so long anyone would feel a bit fed up.The thing is if people meet me i am a canny lad

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I don't think you are a fool, but I would caution against sharing too much with people on here. I can understand the need to talk about your loss and grief but a swingers site isn't really the best place for it.

Most people on here are just looking for sex and don't want to get involved in anyone else's personal issues. Some can be rather unsympathetic and may take advantage of you if they can.

I would also suggest keeping chats just on this site and not using kik. That way if anyone becomes abusive the site admin can see it if you report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Y would you join a sex site after such a horrible loss ? And y would to tell people such personal stuff before even meeting them. Dont mean to sound harsh or anything hun but i find that abit wierd and i would probaly block as well xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP I don't think you are a fool, but I would caution against sharing too much with people on here. I can understand the need to talk about your loss and grief but a swingers site isn't really the best place for it.

Most people on here are just looking for sex and don't want to get involved in anyone else's personal issues. Some can be rather unsympathetic and may take advantage of you if they can.

I would also suggest keeping chats just on this site and not using kik. That way if anyone becomes abusive the site admin can see it if you report them. "

Thank you so much the thing is who ever was chatting said lost Mam not long the more i think about it was a guy getting his kicks,One day i will meet some one nice on here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if you're vulnerable as you surely will be after losing your father it's best not to share too much with individuals on here, especially off fab where abuse can't be proved. I doubt the people are laughing about your loss.

People in the forums can be very understanding and offer help and advice though.

On your other point about finding it difficult to meet. It does take time and patience for single men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think if you're vulnerable as you surely will be after losing your father it's best not to share too much with individuals on here, especially off fab where abuse can't be proved. I doubt the people are laughing about your loss.

People in the forums can be very understanding and offer help and advice though.

On your other point about finding it difficult to meet. It does take time and patience for single men."

Thank you so much for the lovely reply its ladies like you that give me hope of some day meeting some one really nice who also likes me

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Not sure why you would try speaking to the same people after they blocked you?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op

Sorry for your loss

I cant say much more than whats been said,but sadly there are some people who will take advantage if you open up to them.

It might be a real couple or maybe is a man ,we will never know.

How about going to a social event ,ie the york socials,they are a good way to get known and meet great people.

Good luck

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op

Sort you've had a bad experience while on here but your going to have to learn that it's not a site that by just being on you will meet all the ppl you want ?

Why not try the club scene ?

We know have two that are easy to get too from where you are ?

The guys at both places are very welcoming and great fun to go even for a chat ?

Also there is always the newcastle social which is on the uk forum ?

A tip is don't tell ppl you haven't met anything too serious until your comfortable with them ??

Hope you ding fun and enjoy your time on site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooops find fun ! Ding ?? bloody thumb !!!

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Y would you join a sex site after such a horrible loss ? And y would to tell people such personal stuff before even meeting them. Dont mean to sound harsh or anything hun but i find that abit wierd and i would probaly block as well xx"
The OP has clearly joined this sight because he needs someone to talk and maybe holds the hope of actually meeting someone people react in different ways.This person is someone who needs a little help and not your usual attention seeking guy who can’t get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear about your loss. You can talk about it here as I'm sure you'll find others to make friends and chat about it. We all face it at some point in our lives. You may even get laid out of sympathy, you sly dog. I hope you can find the strength to carry on as I'm sure dad would have wanted for you. Don't delay or hesitate to seek professional help if family and friends aren't providing the opportunity that you need to get it all out.

Best of luck friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say you’re looking for nsa/fb/casual sex etc etc. I know a death sometimes affects people sexually (some primal instinct to make babies or something) but as a reason for coming on here?

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Your not a fool you were just unfortunate to be fooled by someone who bullshits trust me there are plenty on here.As for been blocked dont let that worry you it happens to us all.There are genuine people on here who you will find you can chat to about your loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you're not a fool but you're naive due to your state of mind.

Clear your head, get it sorted and then go back on sex sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People in the forums can be very understanding and offer help and advice though.

On your other point about finding it difficult to meet. It does take time and patience for single men."

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By *ree guyMan
over a year ago

Fleetwood

This is not the best site to unburden your problems sorry for your loss but this site can be cruel

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Hi OP, sorry you appear to be given the runaround but with the greatest respect don’t think this site is for you, you are understandably quite clearly not in the right frame of mind.

Have you taken on board any of the advice given on your previous threads, regarding socials, clubs & profile critique?

It’s an uphill struggle for many single guys & you really have to stand out from the crowd, after all you’re up against some very stiff competition.

Maybe come back again after you’ve had time to grieve properly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I rewrote my profile fully and am going to get some better pictures done buy i may be wrong I think being verified seems to be important to getting meets.I know having fun is nice but i would love to meet a nice Mature Lady or a Couple just for a Social.As for clubs i have this vision of me muching about on my own when everyone else is chatting and having a good time and as I have said before i am grateful for all the help and advice.

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