FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

Who's friends and family knows

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who's friends and family know about there swinging lifestyle?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've got close family who are on fab, we have all bumped into each other at clubs too.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my parents knew i was a swinger and into the bdsm lifestyle from the age of 19

they never asked about it but just told me to be safe

a few close friends know and they are my safety call if ever i need one

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *weeSeekoeieCouple
over a year ago

Richmond

Mine do. My sister even went to a swinger's social with us--she had a great time, even though she's not at all into swinging.

All of my close friends know. They simply tell me to call them if I ever get into a bad situation, same as on any dating site.

While I wouldn't volunteer the info to my kids, I'm sure that if they somehow found out they wouldn't be all that shocked.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of extremely close friends know about my lifestyle, but no one else.

My family truly wouldn't understand.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much all of my friends know. I don't feel the need to be ashamed of it, and some stories are too funny not to be able to share with your mates! As for family, well no. It's not something they'd want to know about.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our children all know we swing found out by our youngest when we were on another sites chatroom. He told his big sis and she stormed into the room "Are you swingers" told her the truth and she said as long as it's safe and not at home it's ok. We all laughed.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *jleedsCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Wifes friend nos what shes upto she totaly gets it and is her safe pass she always tells her when shes havin a meet

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my close friends know, but we don't talk about it often. Even went to a local club with one friend, although did our separate thing while there.

Poppy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

No one, so far as I'm aware. And I like it that way.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

My family know and girls I used to work with know. Actually two of the girls I worked with were that curious that they came to a club with us a few times ,,, nobody on dels side know ..kaz

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Just us in the know for now, we hope.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *itch n BollockCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

None of our family know but we tell our friends who so far have all been understanding, some even ask about what we get up to. Lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r-1984Man
over a year ago

South west

Some vanilla friends know, but no family

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

my dad knows

a cousin knows

a few friends know

and ive brought friends onto fab

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *t8880Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

No one

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, my oldest and best friend knows about it. She used to indulge herself, but no longer does for health reasons.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

all my friends know .. and my son

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Havant

A couple of my (Mr N) friends who I know I can absolutely trust to tell no one know. They like hearing stories of our antics. One is gay and into rubber and fetish stuff and had shared personal stuff of his own with me, so I knew I could trust him. The other is a vanilla mate who likes to live vicariously through us I think.

Our kids would really struggle with it I suspect so I don't particularly want them to find out, but if they ever did I'm sure we could have a sensible conversation about it.

I don't think my work would approve at all.

I'm glad I have a couple of people i can confide in. I'd go mad not being able to talk about it.

Mrs N as far as I'm aware hadn't told anyone.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

My grown up kids probably have an idea my sex life is not entirely hetero normative but like all kids they really don't want to think about their parents sex life and I respect that.

Katie gives an edited version to her closest friends. They know she has an open relationship and has sex with other men but not about threesomes, gangbangs etc.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

None of my friends know,i like to keep this private .

I think Jacks best friends knew he had a profile here before we met.

Miss

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

None of mine know, well as far as I know anyway..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Probably most of our friends and some close family - we find being open makes life easier for us

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *reeneyedbuddhaCouple
over a year ago

on tees

Most of my friends know and love to hear my tales?? ( green eyes) .I don't think any of Buddha's friends know . Definitely not told family but I think they probably would not be surprised.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hard to think of anyone who doesn't know. Been swinging for over 45 years now.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Mrs M's two best friends know and love hearing what we get up to.

Haven't managed to convince them to come with us to a club yet though

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nephews friend knows as we arranged a session with someone we said he was older was not expecting to be him ... Once over shock it was fine and play often

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aradiselost747Couple
over a year ago

dundonald

Our close friends know, and they are very curious about it..... want to come to a club with us sometime....

And are neighbours asked us outright as they suspected all our weekend trips to uk where swinger related...... turns out they where so curious we now fuck together on a regular basis....

I also think my mum as an idea.

We don’t shout it from rooftops but are not ashamed at all of it. If asked we would answer truefully. We do not hurt anyone and both very very very much enjoy the lifestyle.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it to myself, have done for 15 years, started at 18 yrs old. Never kiss and tell. Only friends ive met through this lifestlye know and plan to keep it that way.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my close friends know, I know I can trust them to keep it quiet. None of my family know, their a little bit religious so doubt they'd approve.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We keep it completely separate from family, a few of our friends know that we are open to taking a girl home every now and again however that’s just more of a passing knowledge rather than something that is what people define us as.

F discusses it more among her friends than M, models are pretty open sexually so her being bi is on the very lower end of the raise eyebrow scale, and beneficial because they’re a good group of people to have fun with!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one close female friend knows that I've previously dipped my toe in this world. I think it's good to have an open-minded 'vanilla' friend to chat to about things that have happened/are yet to be. I'm lucky that she'd laugh at the description of her as vanilla as some of the things we've talked about and some of her previous exploits certainly aren't vanilla

I broached the subject with my oldest male friend once and got the message he really didn't get it or approve, and I really wouldn't trust any other male friend to keep quiet or remain adult about the lifestyle. In fact, it's been quite eye-opening to find out long standing friends hold quite victorian views on swinging. More than one become green eyed monsters at the thought of another man even looking at their partner, so god knows how they'd react to the notion of sharing her with another bloke. Funnily enough, they'd be quite keen to see them with another woman

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some friends do, though the majority don't.

No family whatsoever know. A lot of my family are quite religious or old-fashioned.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

A few close friends know most of them are married GFs who use my place in the day to have sex with lovers. My sister has a vague idea that I have multiple sex partners (I'm single so not a stretch to imagine that) and thinks I sleep with 2-3 guys in a year (LOL!!!) and thinks I'm "overdoing" it. She's a prude and thinks I'll go to hell. She'd probably die if she found out the reality LOL. Parents, no way. I work for the NHS so have to be careful at work but sex between coworkers is quite common at where I work.

For some reason society thinks is somewhat OK to have sex with a few different partners but horribly frowns on swinging as such. Go figure.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My aunt and uncle know after bumping into each other on here. Nice to have someone to chat to about swinging. No one else knows and prefer to keep it that way.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our children all know we swing found out by our youngest when we were on another sites chatroom. He told his big sis and she stormed into the room "Are you swingers" told her the truth and she said as long as it's safe and not at home it's ok. We all laughed."

How did your youngest find out?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

As far as I am aware none of my family and friends know.Not sure any off them would understand.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have some friends that know and will occasionally discuss it with us. The ones that do know are often very interested in our stories and one or two have shown an interest in doing it themselves.

We don’t think any family know but if they did I doubt they’d be surprised! I think most of our family would just pretend it wasn’t happening!

We do enjoy the fact that this is mostly our secret life and no one knows everything apart from us.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My niece does. I'd been chatting with a friend of hers and she showed my niece my picture! I got a fb message from my niece - we had a laugh about it. She said 'your secret is safe with me' lol!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top