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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey

5% of my messages generally receive response.

This lass answers and we start chatting, exchange pics (mainly face) and we continue on kik.

We arrange a meet.

1 hour before the meet, I messaged her on kik to see if everything is OK. No answer.

So I try to message her on here. I find out that she blocked me.

What is the problem? Was all perfect since then!

And it didn't happen only once!!

Another one went off the site with meet arranged...

Another one sent me face pics after my message and then blocked me...

No sense!

They probably need to see a doctor. But a very good one.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

You think they’re ill ?

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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey


"You think they’re ill ?"

Well I just think is not normal!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"You think they’re ill ?

Well I just think is not normal!"

My boss is Italian. I’m reading all this in his accent

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

It's simple.

They weren't ladies, they were guys getting off on the chase.

Make sure you speak on the phone, or via cam in the chatrooms.

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By *heEpicureanMan
over a year ago

Warminster

I’d go with this as well mate. Try verify they are who they say they are before arranging meets, it’ll save you a lot of dramas.

As for only 5% of your messages getting responses. Single males are in surplus on this site. A lot of people get too worked up about not getting responses and lets it get to them. Swinging should be fun and not stressful.

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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey


"You think they’re ill ?

Well I just think is not normal!

My boss is Italian. I’m reading all this in his accent "

Hahahahaa

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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey


"It's simple.

They weren't ladies, they were guys getting off on the chase.

Make sure you speak on the phone, or via cam in the chatrooms."

Thanks for the advice.

The first one was verified by more than 10 people.

The others I don't remember honestly.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

It’s annoying OP. But the same thing also happens to women and couples by men etc etc.

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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey


"I’d go with this as well mate. Try verify they are who they say they are before arranging meets, it’ll save you a lot of dramas.

As for only 5% of your messages getting responses. Single males are in surplus on this site. A lot of people get too worked up about not getting responses and lets it get to them. Swinging should be fun and not stressful. "

Thanks.

I know there is a lot of competition between us males lol, that's why every response is precious!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's simple.

They weren't ladies, they were guys getting off on the chase.

Make sure you speak on the phone, or via cam in the chatrooms.

Thanks for the advice.

The first one was verified by more than 10 people.

The others I don't remember honestly."

So at least one was verified genuine but you’ve had 3 let you down yet they need to see a doctor. You could look at another way. 3 different women let the same guy down after messaging maybe he is doing something wrong and needs the doctor. Just a thought

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"It's simple.

They weren't ladies, they were guys getting off on the chase.

Make sure you speak on the phone, or via cam in the chatrooms.

Thanks for the advice.

The first one was verified by more than 10 people.

The others I don't remember honestly.

So at least one was verified genuine but you’ve had 3 let you down yet they need to see a doctor. You could look at another way. 3 different women let the same guy down after messaging maybe he is doing something wrong and needs the doctor. Just a thought "
In fairness it’s easy to get false veris and if you’re new to the site or inexperienced they can fool you.Ive been there and done exactly the same in my early days even had a guy turn up and say his wife was on her way.

Now I don’t do any social meet unless it’s at a club.

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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey


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So at least one was verified genuine but you’ve had 3 let you down yet they need to see a doctor. You could look at another way. 3 different women let the same guy down after messaging maybe he is doing something wrong and needs the doctor. Just a thought "

Believe me or not, I thought I was wrong in some way...

But reviewing the chats and everything it always been pretty smooth and since I am polite and respectful I haven't noticed anything strange...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5% of my messages generally receive response.

This lass answers and we start chatting, exchange pics (mainly face) and we continue on kik.

We arrange a meet.

1 hour before the meet, I messaged her on kik to see if everything is OK. No answer.

So I try to message her on here. I find out that she blocked me.

What is the problem? Was all perfect since then!

And it didn't happen only once!!

Another one went off the site with meet arranged...

Another one sent me face pics after my message and then blocked me...

No sense!

They probably need to see a doctor. But a very good one."

Seems the norm on fab had it happen so often its unreal literally very disappointed with fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably just bottled out..and rather than do the decent thing and tell you ..they just ignored you and blocked you..we as a couple get this a lot from single guys ..it just the way it is I'm afraid

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South

Yes we've met that guy, turns up and says his wife is running a bit late, Shall we get started...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard being a guy on here. Get that a lot with women. Some people say they just come on here looking for compliments to power up and dont intend on meeting and others say they are really guys just perving. I just think they get nervous as its not something they tend to do, they like the idea of it but cant go through with it. Most women like to be swept of there feet, dated and made to feel special. Its all part of the experience really and you get used to it. Actual meets take time but are nice one you get them. Try chatting to women with meet veris, call or video chat on whatsapp or kik to confirm they are genuine. When arranging meets do what suits the woman, meet where she feels comfortable. Its more nerve wreaking for women meeting men as they are more imtimidated. Hope it works out for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of fakes unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are women they possibly could need counselling, or not use a site to find sex, as they clearly can't cope.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION. Stoke

Hmmmm.

I know somebody who used to work part time for a motorshow events company.

She used to say 'I will have earned £500 by Sunday night' So she's go out and spend money on the back of that notion.

Often an event was changed didn't do as well as expected, they took more girls to drape over the cars so the money was split across more staff . . .

No matter how many times I told her that it isn't real until it's in your hand . . . well you get the rest . . .

FAB = it's never real until it happens . . . and sometimes even that is a bit surreal lol.

Keep your chin up and say 'Next'.

Cat X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost bottled my first meet. If he hadn't have sounded absolutely lovely and gentle I wouldn't have gone. I would have told him I'd bottled it, but I imagine many wouldn't want to deal with the possible response and so wouldn't message/phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You think they’re ill ?

Well I just think is not normal!"

From reading many similar posts it is normal on here these days.... did you speak voice to voice? Actual numbers..not kik?

You may have been duped by some of the (increasingly?) many dodgy profiles (guys?)

Just surmising!

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

To be honest in the past 14yrs of being around the swingers scene and sites alot has changed. The amount of men and fakes these days has for me taken the fun away. Alot more people are having their time wasted and its just painting a bad picture on the genuine folk. I was part of a couple for many years and there was never a problem chatting or getting responses from emails. Now as a single guy im lucky to get 2 out of 10 to reply let alone have a conversation with. Sad but its the way things are now and not for the better.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

it happens all the time

men are worst than women for it

pity there is not some kind of immovable rating on each profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you get fakes and timewasters on any site your on,they just hide behind the screen and I really don't understand why someone would waste their own time and life doing that? Must be really bored

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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey

Well thanks to everyone, I start feeling less alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,'ve had this kind of thing off men several times, so it's not just females. It's just part of Fab really, just suck it up and move on. XXX

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