FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Starting to get a bit disenheartened by so many time wasters on this site. We get a few messages a day from interested people but pretty much all of them end with someone either just asking to see us on cam but theirs happens to be broken or wanting to swap pics and all that but disappear if we mention a meet or seeing them on cam.

Had 2 users yesterday contact us chat on kik ask for photos both just happened to have broken cameras and could send only old pictures one was all obviously screen shots and the other just holiday photos. Call them on it and their accounts are now no longer on the site.

Conversely on a couple of occasions we ask people for proof they are real and they get all offended despite not being photo verified or verified by any other users and block us.

Anyone have any advice a few people have said go to a club but we are both a bit shy and are unsure about it because Mr doesn't want to play with anyone and Mrs only wants to play with a woman so not sure how well we would fit in.

Sorry for the waffling just starting to despair of actually finding anyone genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to Infusion in Blackpool on a Saturday evening, all your concerns will soon disappear.

There are genuine singles and couples out there and a greater quantity of fakes.

We never send photos or cam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not going to be easy as you have such a limited amount of ppl you'd like to play with ?

Just keep going and chat with couples who would like just ladies to play

The club scene would be a good option but if still to shy see if there is a local social event where it's all fully clothed and go from there ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy, I go to clubs to meet. I have built up friends that way. I have had a couple of meets outside of clubs and have always turned up. If a meet is arranged I would never not turn up. A couple of my recent veris have proved that.

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"Go to Infusion in Blackpool on a Saturday evening, all your concerns will soon disappear.

There are genuine singles and couples out there and a greater quantity of fakes.

We never send photos or cam."

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I would suggest a club is the best place to find what you are looking for.

If you are meeting as a couple most single ladies will want to play with both of you and won't be happy with just playing with the lady while the man watches. If they are only going to be playing with the lady they will meet a single lady. It is not popular amongst the bi single ladies to put on a live porn show for your partner to watch.

The club scene is different and ladies are more likely to be comfortable with him just watching.

Cupids do a special ladies event. The club is on two levels and only ladies are allowed downstairs. Their partners can come to the club too but they have to stay upstairs.

There are playrooms on both floors, private and open areas, so anyone who wants to play can.

For other events/evenings the whole club is open for everyone with no restrictions on which areas people can use.

It is a great club. The staff and customers are really friendly and look after you well. Don't worry about being shy and not knowing anyone. Tell them you are new and they will show you around the club and introduce you to a few people. Just be sociable and chat to people like you would in any other social situation. It's not much different to going to your local pub, except you wear fewer clothes.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers we will have a think on clubs Blackpool is a bit far for us though.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Not many women will want to put on a show for a random man.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I agree with you about them being offended once you ask them to prove they’re genuine. Nothing is fool proof but if a couple can’t even get a green flag on here to prove they’re actually a couple then chances are it’s just a man. Plus, we always offer to send proof that we’re genuine too so I’d think a ‘real’ couple would appreciate that.

It’s frustrating and I know everyone’s advice would be to visit a club but clubs don’t appeal to me just yet, much to my Husbands frustration.

Patience is key, so they say.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't imagine you'll find many ladies who will just want to be your experiment while your partner watches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me a time waster is someone who arranges to meet and doesn't turn up not someone that u described

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Others will disagree, but our way of avoiding timewasters is to only communicate with profiles that have a fair few meet verifications. To date that has worked as we have never got involved with a fake or a timewaster. We also have our filters set so that unverified profiles can’t message us. We never ask for proof that someone is genuine and nobody has ever felt the need to ask us for proof.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Others will disagree, but our way of avoiding timewasters is to only communicate with profiles that have a fair few meet verifications. To date that has worked as we have never got involved with a fake or a timewaster. We also have our filters set so that unverified profiles can’t message us. We never ask for proof that someone is genuine and nobody has ever felt the need to ask us for proof.

Mrs"

Makes sense but not having a meet veri ourselves that would be problematic and everyone has to start somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Makes sense but not having a meet veri ourselves that would be problematic and everyone has to start somewhere."

Good point. I think we were quite lucky as our first meet was very well verified and he then introduced us to others so it snowballed quite quickly from there. You could try an organised group social in order to build your connections and get verified.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually the above being said, I’ve now looked at at your profile and seen you are only looking to meet women. I think that’s always going to be difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't imagine you'll find many ladies who will just want to be your experiment while your partner watches.

Totally agree

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