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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get verified yourselves first

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Put some pictures of the male on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clubs and socials, every FFM I had was with people that we met that way

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"Put some pictures of the male on your profile "

Basically this. Make your profile appealing to single fems. You say you want to share him - so unappealing.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit"

This really isn’t the case.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

When I was a couple we often played with single females but I have never found any rocking horse shit.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Hahaaa that's just how I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had two ffm meets, both times the ladies approached us first.

One was in a club just chatting in the sauna.

The other was on another site similar to this one, where a lady liked a picture of us.

Just be patient it does happen.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Put some pictures of the male on your profile "

100% this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put some pictures of the male on your profile

100% this"

Do u Think thats where were going wrong too?

Boo

X

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley


"We’ve had two ffm meets, both times the ladies approached us first.

One was in a club just chatting in the sauna.

The other was on another site similar to this one, where a lady liked a picture of us.

Just be patient it does happen."

Totally agree with the above, especially about clubs. We go to clubs to socialise with people. Sometimes we end up talking to single women and end up playing. Its also a patience / numbers game. Single women especially get loads of messages and interest.

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By *witch4Fun24Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

You say you want a woman who is into the same things as you but don't say what they are. The interests category on profiles don't really tell people anything. Put some more information on your profile maybe?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Clubs, all three can see/hear/feel the fun before the play...

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP you haven't commented on this thread or made any changes to your profile so why did you ask for our advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "
5 months and not a single meet on a couples profile something fishy about that ladies will do as they please on the terms they want,it's all about communication decency and just seeing how you get along,importantly it has to work 3 ways and have the attraction 3 ways that's where most fail x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "

Perhaps make those females feel interested? I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "

We have several single female friends we meet regularly and have met many others over the years. We met most of them at clubs, parties and socials. We've found it the most successful and reliable way to allow women to see our dynamic as a couple, how we'll all get on together and if she is compatible with us...they also get to know that we don't want a performing seal...works for us

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We have lots of pics just not on show. It's getting response from the ladies to actually show pics we are struggling with xx

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By *evilishone69Man
over a year ago

fleet


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "

Just keep looking as it’s not easy as we found out but you just have to click with someone so it’s not just aimless

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We've been told it's easier in clubs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time and patience pays off xx m x

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

In the meantime rocking horse shit seems easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the meantime rocking horse shit seems easier "

One of the biggest problems we found was a female who is Bi and fancies playing with both of you. Mr looks like Shrek in all our photos, but is better looking in real life, hence why we have a bit more luck in clubs.

Look at it from a single ladies view, she knows she’s in demand and can pick and choose who ever she wants rather than the other way round.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've done a few with the right people. It's great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done a few with the right people. It's great. "

They are great fun, but I think they are the one that everybody wants, so sorting them isn’t always easy!

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By *achelnMarkCouple
over a year ago

Mid Wiltshire

Ask a cute girl from work you've been flirting with over coffee.

Worked for us

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I've done a few with the right people. It's great.

They are great fun, but I think they are the one that everybody wants, so sorting them isn’t always easy!"

Very true and I still see the couples as well we've become good friends. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP you haven't commented on this thread or made any changes to your profile so why did you ask for our advice? "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance... you got more hope of building the millennium falcon and flying the fuck off to an m-class planet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus not many females me included is going to be anyone's 3rd wheel and there to put a show on for hubby!

I won't meet couples now because of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a few ffm some were at clubs or the lady messaged us first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged you again op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plus not many females me included is going to be anyone's 3rd wheel and there to put a show on for hubby!

I won't meet couples now because of that!

"

We don’t meet ladies as a third wheel, however we do enjoy lady-lady play before we get down to business! Not for a show just because it’s part of the play!

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

I like FFM. Most of my veri's are of this nature. Usually couples Ive played with introduce me to couples they know and have played with. Most times this works as we seem to be of a similar mindset.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"In the meantime rocking horse shit seems easier

One of the biggest problems we found was a female who is Bi and fancies playing with both of you. Mr looks like Shrek in all our photos, but is better looking in real life, hence why we have a bit more luck in clubs.i absolutely 100% agree with u. Single ladies have the cream of pickings. Maybe we just try a club. My man's gorgeous tbh xx

Look at it from a single ladies view, she knows she’s in demand and can pick and choose who ever she wants rather than the other way round."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like FFM. Most of my veri's are of this nature. Usually couples Ive played with introduce me to couples they know and have played with. Most times this works as we seem to be of a similar mindset. "

Who doesn’t like FFM?! X

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

If any ladies feel like being a good samaritin get in touch lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "
library

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"I like FFM. Most of my veri's are of this nature. Usually couples Ive played with introduce me to couples they know and have played with. Most times this works as we seem to be of a similar mindset. "

They are lots of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put some pictures of the male on your profile

100% this

Do u Think thats where were going wrong too?

Boo

X"

Was just thinking the same mr doesnt like pics though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have pics of both of us but contact from other women is few and far between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "

Find a couple where they state they play separate. Mrs Littlesox doesn't mind helping another couple out!!

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I like little sox

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Patience is key. Also making sure that their wants and needs are paramount. It’s not all about you. Respecting everybody’s wishes and boundaries beforehand and hopefully if all three are happy, let the games begin!!

Ed

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By *otswapsCouple
over a year ago

Medway

Interested in replies to this post as well.

Found it typical that a single lady in here loves meeting couples but when we tried to message, had blocked all couples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interested in replies to this post as well.

Found it typical that a single lady in here loves meeting couples but when we tried to message, had blocked all couples! "

Ironic....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any tips from any females on our profile would be gratefully received x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking.

Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Ahh I just found that out 2.how strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking.

Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. "

Yeah we are too. Or you ask for a face pic and they are gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strangely enough, most FFMs I've been part of were when i was part of a couple and had a single female joining us. Now that i'm on here as a single female myself, I'm definitely interested in playing with couples, but finding one where i fancy both people isn't easy. Add to that the issue of what they're looking for versus what I'd want to get out of it... like others have said, I don't want to be a third wheel and I'm not going to put on a show for anyone. Saying that though, when you get it right, it's amazing

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By *ambon2015Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

We’ve managed it twice in the two & bit years we’ve been into this, one off here & one from another source. Excellent time had by all. We class ourselves very lucky to have managed this especially with how hard it is to get another one sorted. Many false dawns & let down have damped my enthusiasm for it but not my fella’s lol. (Can’t think why!?) if you do find the perfect way to make this happen regularly please let us know how. lol good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve managed it twice in the two & bit years we’ve been into this, one off here & one from another source. Excellent time had by all. We class ourselves very lucky to have managed this especially with how hard it is to get another one sorted. Many false dawns & let down have damped my enthusiasm for it but not my fella’s lol. (Can’t think why!?) if you do find the perfect way to make this happen regularly please let us know how. lol good luck"

We’ve found foursomes work best in place of, not as much fun but awesome all the same!

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By *ambon2015Couple
over a year ago

sheffield


"We’ve managed it twice in the two & bit years we’ve been into this, one off here & one from another source. Excellent time had by all. We class ourselves very lucky to have managed this especially with how hard it is to get another one sorted. Many false dawns & let down have damped my enthusiasm for it but not my fella’s lol. (Can’t think why!?) if you do find the perfect way to make this happen regularly please let us know how. lol good luck

We’ve found foursomes work best in place of, not as much fun but awesome all the same!"

We’ve had lots of interest from couples so I can understand where you’re coming from, but that’s just not our thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much impossible

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Pretty much impossible"

When I was a couple we often had FFM at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club "
exactly it remains the most difficult meet yet

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig


"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club "
I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away

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By *urvy_bi_honeyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "

More pictures of both of you, and put some proper thought into your profile text. As a single female I have just read your text and to be honest it sounds like it has been written by a man looking to watch on - such an off put for many.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

What about ours then xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Interested in replies to this post as well.

Found it typical that a single lady in here loves meeting couples but when we tried to message, had blocked all couples!

Ironic...."

No not really, perhaps she does her own searching?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interested in replies to this post as well.

Found it typical that a single lady in here loves meeting couples but when we tried to message, had blocked all couples! "
its about message levels many women don't even attempt to keep up with their inbox .....just another way of coping

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away "

Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here.

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By *ambon2015Couple
over a year ago

sheffield


"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away

Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here."

We are not doing it to please one half of us, it’s for all parties pleasure & fun . We are the non drama couple but still we struggle for meets. Although we do understand how hard it must be for singles meetings a couple. Both of the ladies who have joined us were so driven & confident so we was lucky.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Go to socials.

go to socials.

Go to socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away

Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here."

No drama couple here too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Also a lot of couples using the female as a hook when she's not currently playing or the male crating a single profile to meet behind her back

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol

We have several single female friends we meet regularly and have met many others over the years. We met most of them at clubs, parties and socials. We've found it the most successful and reliable way to allow women to see our dynamic as a couple, how we'll all get on together and if she is compatible with us...they also get to know that we don't want a performing seal...works for us"

Nail, head, done.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

With the right couple it's great, however some ladies don't like sharing their men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently looking for one ourselves.

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time. "

Good choice works for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time. "

We do that, However lady play has always started first?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think all of our FFMs have happened after we have first met at clubs, or socials. That way we can all have a chat and see that the chemistry is there, and the lovely lady can see that we are both into the idea so she knows she's going to be an equal partner in an all involved threesome.

It's hard for a single lady to be sure of a couple in pictures and messages!

Bun

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time.

We do that, However lady play has always started first?"

It doesn't have to be that way, I'd be put off with being expected to play with lady first to be honest.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away

Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here.

We are not doing it to please one half of us, it’s for all parties pleasure & fun . We are the non drama couple but still we struggle for meets. Although we do understand how hard it must be for singles meetings a couple. Both of the ladies who have joined us were so driven & confident so we was lucky. "

Yes a few couples have said that to me 'oh we are drama free' still dealing with the fall out from their shitty relationships. Im sure there maybe one or two genuine drama free couples out there. Now add attraction into the mix and you are looking for something v rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The easiest solution.....

Two couples get together, start playing, one guy sits out for a while, then the other guy sits out for a while, voila a FFM play.......

So what’s the problem?

The problem is the couples who just want to play with a female with no male involvement! Why? Maybe the guy doesn’t want to see his partner with another guy, maybe the lady doesn’t want her guy to fuck another women, the list is endless and is a real minefield of jealousy, untrusting, hang ups etc, no wonder lots of single ladies don’t want to get involved.

If you are are only looking to play with a single female, said it before and will say it again, most single girls will avoid you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put some pictures of the male on your profile "

There are some under the friends only link. Will pop some on the public profile too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your help guys. I've been busy so haven't had time to come back and read all your replies. I used to be on the scene years ago and have had a few mffs so I know they are doable lol.

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By *ambon2015Couple
over a year ago

sheffield


"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away

Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here.

We are not doing it to please one half of us, it’s for all parties pleasure & fun . We are the non drama couple but still we struggle for meets. Although we do understand how hard it must be for singles meetings a couple. Both of the ladies who have joined us were so driven & confident so we was lucky.

Yes a few couples have said that to me 'oh we are drama free' still dealing with the fall out from their shitty relationships. Im sure there maybe one or two genuine drama free couples out there. Now add attraction into the mix and you are looking for something v rare."

We can’t speak for anyone else, so can’t & wont comment on that. What I will say we did all our talking long before we got to a meeting stage to make sure it was what we both wanted. Nobody knows until they have been through it how they are going to feel after the fun but we can safely say we sur_ived! lol. We are still looking for another meet but maybe not with the same vigour because it’s really hard work. Especially getting all 3 people to be attracted to each other. We are at the thinking if it happens it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find this post interesting and thought we would comment on our experience. We’ve been swinging 6 years nowbeen on and off this site and deleted account alone the way we’ve lost lots of verifications alone the way mainly from couples and guys. Yes we’ve had a ffm before but arranged on a different site. We’ve done most of the above suggestions over the years pictures of both of us been to clubs, explaining when we want out of a meeting on the profile(yes ff play and the him joining in for everyone to have some fun she would be there to enhance play not treated has a trophy but for her and us to get lots of fun on the night)

But before Christmas we sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then?

And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account.

So we can see the problems people face on this site.

Yes we’ve had and meet in clubs but on both occasions the female asked for just ff play in the hot tub no males touching her.

We will just keep sending messages and maybe something will happen in the future.

We are just putting our side across. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time.

We do that, However lady play has always started first?

It doesn't have to be that way, I'd be put off with being expected to play with lady first to be honest. "

Fair point, and we can understand it’s just how it’s always gone for us. Maybe we should change our tact!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

As has been said somewhere above, clubs, socials and parties are the best way to link up with a lovely lady.

Case in point... we recently put our names down for a party.

Within a few minutes of doing so, we were offered an FFM 3sum.

Now, I have to admit that this is with a good friend of ours who has had (and "had") us at parties before, so perhaps that doesn't really illustrate the point too well, except, well, we had to have made a first impression somewhere... if you look at our veries, you will see a number of ladies comments, all of whom we had 3sums with, and all of whom would do it again.

Now, how did this come about?

Simple, socials, parties, and clubs... we went out and made friends, interacted, and, (and this is the most important bit), treated them like real people, not mythical creatures, or labels. They got to know us, and knew we weren't looking for a "performing seal", rather a person with whom we would share a fun experience, not a "third wheel" but an integral part of the sexual dynamic.

As I've said so many times before.... we have never played with a "single bi female"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are female, bi, and single.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It’s definitely going to improve anyone’s chances of a meet if you visit a club or social. They’re often fun and a great xpwrience too, no matter if you end up playing or not.

Just to balance this though, we’ve met all of the women we’ve met for FFM through Fab rather than through a social or club. So if neither of those appeal, don’t think you can never meet anyone on here instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for these comments they have been really helpful. We do go to clubs and social and have made a lot of friends so we will just be patient and hope for the best. We do play with couples too so plenty of fun to be had in the meantime.

Oh any if anyone has any suggestions on improving our profile then that's great too x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then?

And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account.

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I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit

This really isn’t the case."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then?

And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account.

I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply. "

We’ve had photos on the site of both of us, just him and just her and when we sent the messages we’ve only hidden the pictures in the last 2 days. We’ve had lots of verifications in the past but left the site so when we rejoined we had none and we played with the guy at a club and he left the verification so I would think this wasn’t the problem why they didn’t reply. We would like to think they might have replied with a not for me message not a straight delete, we reply to messages has think it only polite to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking.

Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. "

I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking.

Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off.

I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody.. "

We certainly wouldn't be rude to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking.

Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off.

I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody..

We certainly wouldn't be rude to you x"

why thankyou xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain. Finding the elusive straight couple for a straight ffm is absolutely bastard hard work.

For the ‘huh? Straight ffm??’ questions, it’s where 2 likeminded ladies completely ruin a chap. Leave him shaking and drained whilst we high five over a glass of wine. It’s a lot of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain. Finding the elusive straight couple for a straight ffm is absolutely bastard hard work.

For the ‘huh? Straight ffm??’ questions, it’s where 2 likeminded ladies completely ruin a chap. Leave him shaking and drained whilst we high five over a glass of wine. It’s a lot of fun. "

I'm sure many bi ladies would also play straight wouldn't they. I know I would a bi female isn't essential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking.

Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off.

I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody.. "

We wouldn’t be rude, those that are are either up thier own arse or not really interested. Don’t worry about them they are not worth the mobile data.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then?

And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account.

I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply.

We’ve had photos on the site of both of us, just him and just her and when we sent the messages we’ve only hidden the pictures in the last 2 days. We’ve had lots of verifications in the past but left the site so when we rejoined we had none and we played with the guy at a club and he left the verification so I would think this wasn’t the problem why they didn’t reply. We would like to think they might have replied with a not for me message not a straight delete, we reply to messages has think it only polite to. "

Don’t beat yourself up about it! Some people just don’t have time to reply so deleting is quicker....and some people do not have the manners that others do....if it is a no....whether straight delete or polite refusal...then just crack on and message the next person....there will be someone out there....it is just finding them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then?

And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account.

I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply.

We’ve had photos on the site of both of us, just him and just her and when we sent the messages we’ve only hidden the pictures in the last 2 days. We’ve had lots of verifications in the past but left the site so when we rejoined we had none and we played with the guy at a club and he left the verification so I would think this wasn’t the problem why they didn’t reply. We would like to think they might have replied with a not for me message not a straight delete, we reply to messages has think it only polite to.

Don’t beat yourself up about it! Some people just don’t have time to reply so deleting is quicker....and some people do not have the manners that others do....if it is a no....whether straight delete or polite refusal...then just crack on and message the next person....there will be someone out there....it is just finding them x"

Thank for that, we’ve just removed the pictures and taken a step back for now it has knocked us a little, we thought about sending them another message just in case it was a bulk delete but then don’t want to be like we are then pestering them, they never even looked at our profile anyway. But we might carry on like you said there might be something one day.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

we’ve just removed the pictures and taken a step back for now it has knocked us a little, we thought about sending them another message just in case it was a bulk delete but then don’t want to be like we are then pestering them, they never even looked at our profile anyway. But we might carry on like you said there might be something one day. "

I think you will be more likely to get replies from single women if you put it in your profile text. At present it says you are only looking for single white men.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking.

Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off.

I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody..

We wouldn’t be rude, those that are are either up thier own arse or not really interested. Don’t worry about them they are not worth the mobile data."

And this attitude attracts single fems???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fail to see the difficulty or obsessive need to find a single female.

We're going out tonight to work at a swingers club as we do every Friday. We are taking 3 single females with us.

Single females are not 'elusive', there's hundreds of them. You just need to dip your hand in your pocket, go to a club and meet them. Single females rarely meet or turn up at couples doors or accommodate at their house, simply due to the fact they need to be certain of their safety. By going to clubs / socials, you'll meet single females, chat and determine whether there's any compatability, attraction etc.

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By *ivWoman
over a year ago

Carmarthen


"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol "

Make the extra fem feel included, it's not just about you and your fantasy. Find out what she wants from the experience.

Be clear when messaging who she is talking to at the time. Often I have had a great chat with the female and then the male comes on and pretends to be the female to keep the conversation going but it's obviously a guy. This is why I only meet couples when I'm out. Too confusing trying to get to know two different people on one profile.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

A lady friend told me she went and met a couple and as they started to play she was left out and she just got up and left . I believe it's very hard to meet a single lady to join a couple .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain. Finding the elusive straight couple for a straight ffm is absolutely bastard hard work.

For the ‘huh? Straight ffm??’ questions, it’s where 2 likeminded ladies completely ruin a chap. Leave him shaking and drained whilst we high five over a glass of wine. It’s a lot of fun.

I'm sure many bi ladies would also play straight wouldn't they. I know I would a bi female isn't essential. "

I wouldn’t rule this out if I clicked with the couple. I’d be upfront enough to outline my wants and expectations.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for these comments they have been really helpful. We do go to clubs and social and have made a lot of friends so we will just be patient and hope for the best. We do play with couples too so plenty of fun to be had in the meantime.

Oh any if anyone has any suggestions on improving our profile then that's great too x"

Hi ur profile looks great to me. Lots of sexy pics and the FF pics are a bonus. Something i definatly look for wen looking for couples. Ur profile is very good and u sound really polite and respectful. Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi everyone, im jen. Im a single female who prefers to play with couples. One thing i find hard is local couples and with work commitments and a son at home i struggle for free play time. Everyone is different wen it comes to meets, some want a last minute meet, others are too far away and others pressure for hotel meets. I read someones comments about club meets due to safety and i completly agree, im a single woman and dont know wot im walking into so club meets are a deffo for me plus it gives u time to chat and see if theres a mutual attraction. Ive heard unicorns are hard to come by but there are lots of us!! Ive met quite a few couples are they are lots of fun!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, im jen. Im a single female who prefers to play with couples. One thing i find hard is local couples and with work commitments and a son at home i struggle for free play time. Everyone is different wen it comes to meets, some want a last minute meet, others are too far away and others pressure for hotel meets. I read someones comments about club meets due to safety and i completly agree, im a single woman and dont know wot im walking into so club meets are a deffo for me plus it gives u time to chat and see if theres a mutual attraction. Ive heard unicorns are hard to come by but there are lots of us!! Ive met quite a few couples are they are lots of fun!!!"

We only do club meets too, we totally understand why a single woman would feel uncomfortable meeting at some strangers house or a hotel. Unrealistic in our opinion to do it any other way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for these comments they have been really helpful. We do go to clubs and social and have made a lot of friends so we will just be patient and hope for the best. We do play with couples too so plenty of fun to be had in the meantime.

Oh any if anyone has any suggestions on improving our profile then that's great too x

Hi ur profile looks great to me. Lots of sexy pics and the FF pics are a bonus. Something i definatly look for wen looking for couples. Ur profile is very good and u sound really polite and respectful. Hope this helps "

Thank you for taking the time to comment and look at our profile. We will continue to be patient and see how we go. Ps if you were closer we would send you a message

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"A lady friend told me she went and met a couple and as they started to play she was left out and she just got up and left . I believe it's very hard to meet a single lady to join a couple . "

that is awful, no one should be left out of any meet it should be all about equal fun for all and everyone leaving happy and fulfilled.

Bun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit

This really isn’t the case."

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit

This really isn’t the case. "

No its not the case at all, I'm more than happy to meet couples, the only problem being is that they don't read my profile, and expect me to change my preferences for them, when I politely say no thanks a lot of the time I get the male half turning nasty. So pretty much given up on meeting new ones.

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By *museBouche31Woman
over a year ago

Reigate

If there is no ‘voice’ of you both as a couple on the profile, it’s hard to understand what you are both looking for. When partners comment on each other’s assets, it gives you a little to go on, but you still won’t get how the dynamics work until you actually meet them.

I love to see pics of couples intertwined or actually playing, as that at least suggests there is sexual confidence and intimacy. I don’t expect face pics openly on profiles, but I find a man’s face needs to be appealing, more so than a females, for me to want to play!

I agree that it is a challenge to get noticed out of all the messages and winks and requests - be as upfront as possible on communicating your expectations of a meet, your likes and dislikes. My favourite messages that resulted (or will result soon!) in a meet have been open, honest & entertaining.

And always, always, always send a picture of you both smiling it’s all about the fun x

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