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By *azzab88 OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Me n the mrs are struggling to create that spark due to health problems and the fact we’ve been together almost 11 years and was interested in hearing a few ideas on lighting the touch paper again!! Any help would be appreciated!! Baz x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Pop to a club maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile and say 'surprise!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect her. Be honest with her. Put her first. Amazing what happens when you do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think for us it's having time for each other, being romantic and having a giggle. Little things. Maybe we are just very romantic. But we both like surprises, flowers, going to the cinema to see something we both like. Having a bath together, massages, candles. Get all of your senses tingling. Do something new Good luck

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Respect her. Be honest with her. Put her first. Amazing what happens when you do this."

Great advice!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have her permission to be on fab as a single male, leave for a while and put her and your relationship before swinging.

If you don't, put your relationship before sneaking around behind her back and leave fab. She'll probably have an inkling that you might be cheating which will just make things worse. Remember, relationships aren't all about sex.

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By *azzab88 OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Pop to a club maybe."

Must admit that’s been something I’ve been contemplating, thanks x

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By *azzab88 OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Respect her. Be honest with her. Put her first. Amazing what happens when you do this."

Always do mate, I dote on her and my little girl too!! That’s why we’re still together I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're adults.

Talk to each other. You'll be amazed what can be achieved when you communicate.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Me n the mrs are struggling to create that spark due to health problems and the fact we’ve been together almost 11 years and was interested in hearing a few ideas on lighting the touch paper again!! Any help would be appreciated!! Baz x"

Have a look round the books on some of the on line book retail sites. See if any take the fancy of either of you and read them together.

Watch some porn together, taking it in turns to watch something the other enjoys.

Take sex off the menu completely. Make an effort to both dress attractively for each other, relax with a drink, chat, hold hands etc

Each write down things you'd like to try on separate pieces of paper. Take one each day/week/month and give it a go.

Have an hour where whatever you say is accepted as normal and tell each other your deepest fantasies without fear of the other going "ewww you pervert"

We've been together 37 years, two kids, health good, health bad, crap times, good times. There is no substitute for communication and experimentation.

Good luck

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By *azzab88 OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"You're adults.

Talk to each other. You'll be amazed what can be achieved when you communicate. "

That’s very true!!! Go back to basics, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me n the mrs are struggling to create that spark due to health problems and the fact we’ve been together almost 11 years and was interested in hearing a few ideas on lighting the touch paper again!! Any help would be appreciated!! Baz x

Have a look round the books on some of the on line book retail sites. See if any take the fancy of either of you and read them together.

Watch some porn together, taking it in turns to watch something the other enjoys.

Take sex off the menu completely. Make an effort to both dress attractively for each other, relax with a drink, chat, hold hands etc

Each write down things you'd like to try on separate pieces of paper. Take one each day/week/month and give it a go.

Have an hour where whatever you say is accepted as normal and tell each other your deepest fantasies without fear of the other going "ewww you pervert"

We've been together 37 years, two kids, health good, health bad, crap times, good times. There is no substitute for communication and experimentation.

Good luck "

Very wise words and we'll put together

I would have just had a one liner about take up bdsm

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Me n the mrs are struggling to create that spark due to health problems and the fact we’ve been together almost 11 years and was interested in hearing a few ideas on lighting the touch paper again!! Any help would be appreciated!! Baz x

Have a look round the books on some of the on line book retail sites. See if any take the fancy of either of you and read them together.

Watch some porn together, taking it in turns to watch something the other enjoys.

Take sex off the menu completely. Make an effort to both dress attractively for each other, relax with a drink, chat, hold hands etc

Each write down things you'd like to try on separate pieces of paper. Take one each day/week/month and give it a go.

Have an hour where whatever you say is accepted as normal and tell each other your deepest fantasies without fear of the other going "ewww you pervert"

We've been together 37 years, two kids, health good, health bad, crap times, good times. There is no substitute for communication and experimentation.

Good luck

Very wise words and we'll put together

I would have just had a one liner about take up bdsm "

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By *azzab88 OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"Me n the mrs are struggling to create that spark due to health problems and the fact we’ve been together almost 11 years and was interested in hearing a few ideas on lighting the touch paper again!! Any help would be appreciated!! Baz x

Have a look round the books on some of the on line book retail sites. See if any take the fancy of either of you and read them together.

Watch some porn together, taking it in turns to watch something the other enjoys.

Take sex off the menu completely. Make an effort to both dress attractively for each other, relax with a drink, chat, hold hands etc

Each write down things you'd like to try on separate pieces of paper. Take one each day/week/month and give it a go.

Have an hour where whatever you say is accepted as normal and tell each other your deepest fantasies without fear of the other going "ewww you pervert"

We've been together 37 years, two kids, health good, health bad, crap times, good times. There is no substitute for communication and experimentation.

Good luck "

Thanks, I’ll try n take all of that on board and see if we can iron out some creases, well hopefully create some

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Me n the mrs are struggling to create that spark due to health problems and the fact we’ve been together almost 11 years and was interested in hearing a few ideas on lighting the touch paper again!! Any help would be appreciated!! Baz x

Have a look round the books on some of the on line book retail sites. See if any take the fancy of either of you and read them together.

Watch some porn together, taking it in turns to watch something the other enjoys.

Take sex off the menu completely. Make an effort to both dress attractively for each other, relax with a drink, chat, hold hands etc

Each write down things you'd like to try on separate pieces of paper. Take one each day/week/month and give it a go.

Have an hour where whatever you say is accepted as normal and tell each other your deepest fantasies without fear of the other going "ewww you pervert"

We've been together 37 years, two kids, health good, health bad, crap times, good times. There is no substitute for communication and experimentation.

Good luck

Thanks, I’ll try n take all of that on board and see if we can iron out some creases, well hopefully create some "

I'm sure you will be able to. It's great that you're wanting ideas of how to improve things rather than just moaning about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write down 20 questions each. Can be sexual or just random....just make them interesting. Its amazing what you will find out. Do it when you have alone time. Me and Mr do it and it turns out hilarious

Also have a massage night. Take your time and talk to each other when giving/receiving. Its amazing the sexual things you talk about when relaxed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her out on a date. Pretend you just met and talk to each other to find out how your lives are now. Assume nothing- behave as though everything is new and actually listen.

Remember no sex on a first date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back to basics, flirting, compliments, date nights, make time to get to know each other again most of this costs very little oh and lots of eye contact when she's talking show that you're interested in what she is saying

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Make Friday 'Date Night' each week.

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By *azzab88 OP   Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Just a quick update, used some of the advice given and now getting on like a house on fire!!! Thanks all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick update, used some of the advice given and now getting on like a house on fire!!! Thanks all x"

Great news

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

That's good to hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

congrats, just curious, whats the health issue as no one asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick update, used some of the advice given and now getting on like a house on fire!!! Thanks all x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick update, used some of the advice given and now getting on like a house on fire!!! Thanks all x"

Burnt out in a couple of days then

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By *opman1111Man
over a year ago

belfast


"Show her your profile and say 'surprise!'"

Had to laugh

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Just a quick update, used some of the advice given and now getting on like a house on fire!!! Thanks all x"

great news!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just a quick update, used some of the advice given and now getting on like a house on fire!!! Thanks all x"

That's good news. Long may it continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respect her. Be honest with her. Put her first. Amazing what happens when you do this.

Great advice!! "

Doesn't always work I've tried that for last 4 yrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously we don't know why you've lost that spark. A lot of people on here come across as rather judgmental and immediately jump on the wagon that you're a single bloke on here, therefore must be cheating, it could be something awful is going on in your lives that is totally killing your mrs Libido.

I'm in similar position mate and it's definitely the latter causing us troubles and it really isn't anything Mrs N or I, am doing. We are just having our balls busted by family stuff that is totally beyond our control. Got to get through it somehow.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Glad to hear things are going OK x

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