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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello you sexy people. Quick question, any ideas how to help me be successful on this!!!!! I have only had one meet and really struggle to even get past a couple of messages, am I really that bad!!!!!

Any hints or tips regarding my profile? I don’t do one line messages and don’t do 200 line messages but try not to mention sex at all in my first one, any ideas what I am doing wrong!!!!!?????

Just want to get on the scene and have some fun and enjoyment with like minded people.

Any genuine help will be greatly appreciated

Kev

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello you sexy people. Quick question, any ideas how to help me be successful on this!!!!! I have only had one meet and really struggle to even get past a couple of messages, am I really that bad!!!!!

Any hints or tips regarding my profile? I don’t do one line messages and don’t do 200 line messages but try not to mention sex at all in my first one, any ideas what I am doing wrong!!!!!?????

Just want to get on the scene and have some fun and enjoyment with like minded people.

Any genuine help will be greatly appreciated

Kev"

Your profile says nothing but a few cliches and a put down of yourself.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london


"Hello you sexy people. Quick question, any ideas how to help me be successful on this!!!!! I have only had one meet and really struggle to even get past a couple of messages, am I really that bad!!!!!

Any hints or tips regarding my profile? I don’t do one line messages and don’t do 200 line messages but try not to mention sex at all in my first one, any ideas what I am doing wrong!!!!!?????

Just want to get on the scene and have some fun and enjoyment with like minded people.

Any genuine help will be greatly appreciated

Kev"

Get used it. You hve to b patient on here..to every lady on here theres probably a thousand guys ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say something about you and not jokes, try a few socials and clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can accom which is good, plenty of photos, maybe friend only the cock pictures. You need to add more to your profile, it doesnt mention anything about what your looking for or what you can give a woman that the overwhelming population of single men cant.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Hmmm your pics are very honest. Honest enough for me to say you wouldn’t be for us. I like the shirt and trousers pic the best. I’m put off by the tats - not my thing but others will like of course. Mostly I think you could do better than use your profile pic being in those boxers. Comedy underwear does nothing for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks so far everyone, will give it a day or 2, then take all comments on board and test and adjust my profile as necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello you sexy people. Quick question, any ideas how to help me be successful on this!!!!! I have only had one meet and really struggle to even get past a couple of messages, am I really that bad!!!!!

Any hints or tips regarding my profile? I don’t do one line messages and don’t do 200 line messages but try not to mention sex at all in my first one, any ideas what I am doing wrong!!!!!?????

Just want to get on the scene and have some fun and enjoyment with like minded people.

Any genuine help will be greatly appreciated

Kev"

I don’t understand why blokes put these posts up on here. It’s embarassing. There’s a ratio of 1500:1 men to women and out of those men a lot will have athletic bodies, huge cocks, well written profiles, and will fuck anything with a pussy, meaning women literally have their pick.

It’s cringeworthy and I really do wish single blokes would stop it.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I would also remove flaccid cock photo, I'm not sure anyone is into a photo of a floppy cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different strokes for different folks fella. Get along to a club or social and you’ll meet many more people and make connections you can’t on a web based messenger.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Hello you sexy people. Quick question, any ideas how to help me be successful on this!!!!! I have only had one meet and really struggle to even get past a couple of messages, am I really that bad!!!!!

Any hints or tips regarding my profile? I don’t do one line messages and don’t do 200 line messages but try not to mention sex at all in my first one, any ideas what I am doing wrong!!!!!?????

Just want to get on the scene and have some fun and enjoyment with like minded people.

Any genuine help will be greatly appreciated

Kev

I don’t understand why blokes put these posts up on here. It’s embarassing. There’s a ratio of 1500:1 men to women and out of those men a lot will have athletic bodies, huge cocks, well written profiles, and will fuck anything with a pussy, meaning women literally have their pick.

It’s cringeworthy and I really do wish single blokes would stop it. "

We can only give you help when you’re ready to accept it. Step forward to the light

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Thanks so far everyone, will give it a day or 2, then take all comments on board and test and adjust my profile as necessary. "

The problem with that approach is this... let’s take 10 people... 5 say no cock pics, 5 say more cock pics!

What do you do?

You have to be true to you, you changed it based on other people and you profile is no longer you.. it’s then a generic mish mash of what you think people want to hear

Your profile is jokey.. but it says nothing about you and nothing about the people you are after.. so how would they know that they were suited to you.. they wouldn’t

Who knows you better than you ... so no one else can sell you better than you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers pal, fair and valid point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same thing I say to people who ask for this advice.

Start a new profile again with the advice given. Over 1 year with no veris will put some women off so I understand.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

You've been on fab for a year. Plenty of time to have read the dozens (if not hundreds) of similar threads that mention the subject and offer advice.

First impressions are everything, and unfortunately your pictures need a lot of work. There's nothing to make you stand out from the sea of males here. If you're not prepared to put some serious effort into your profile, you're just wasting your time and becoming frustrated.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If you think your profile accurately represents you then don’t change it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Hello you sexy people. Quick question, any ideas how to help me be successful on this!!!!! I have only had one meet and really struggle to even get past a couple of messages, am I really that bad!!!!!

Any hints or tips regarding my profile? I don’t do one line messages and don’t do 200 line messages but try not to mention sex at all in my first one, any ideas what I am doing wrong!!!!!?????

Just want to get on the scene and have some fun and enjoyment with like minded people.

Any genuine help will be greatly appreciated

Kev

I don’t understand why blokes put these posts up on here. It’s embarassing. There’s a ratio of 1500:1 men to women and out of those men a lot will have athletic bodies, huge cocks, well written profiles, and will fuck anything with a pussy, meaning women literally have their pick.

It’s cringeworthy and I really do wish single blokes would stop it. "

It's actually around 75% men, 10% couples who see single men, 10%couples who don't see single men and 5% women. I've done some surveys

So there's around 17 men to every woman or couple who will see them. . Your general point is correct though. There are two types of blokes who will get meets here : ones who are physically hot and ones who are personally engaging. . That excludes about 75% of men on here.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"Thanks so far everyone, will give it a day or 2, then take all comments on board and test and adjust my profile as necessary.

The problem with that approach is this... let’s take 10 people... 5 say no cock pics, 5 say more cock pics!

What do you do?

You have to be true to you, you changed it based on other people and you profile is no longer you.. it’s then a generic mish mash of what you think people want to hear

Your profile is jokey.. but it says nothing about you and nothing about the people you are after.. so how would they know that they were suited to you.. they wouldn’t

Who knows you better than you ... so no one else can sell you better than you!"

Completely agree with this. My only thought was try a smile in your photo. Go to a social or club and get sone verifications. No veri will put some people off.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your comedy pants really clash with the curtains

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Hello you sexy people. Quick question, any ideas how to help me be successful on this!!!!! I have only had one meet and really struggle to even get past a couple of messages, am I really that bad!!!!!

Any hints or tips regarding my profile? I don’t do one line messages and don’t do 200 line messages but try not to mention sex at all in my first one, any ideas what I am doing wrong!!!!!?????

Just want to get on the scene and have some fun and enjoyment with like minded people.

Any genuine help will be greatly appreciated

Kev

I don’t understand why blokes put these posts up on here. It’s embarassing. There’s a ratio of 1500:1 men to women and out of those men a lot will have athletic bodies, huge cocks, well written profiles, and will fuck anything with a pussy, meaning women literally have their pick.

It’s cringeworthy and I really do wish single blokes would stop it.

It's actually around 75% men, 10% couples who see single men, 10%couples who don't see single men and 5% women. I've done some surveys

So there's around 17 men to every woman or couple who will see them. . Your general point is correct though. There are two types of blokes who will get meets here : ones who are physically hot and ones who are personally engaging. . That excludes about 75% of men on here. "
Good point well made

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Tatoo on left chest, wins you some brownie points.

But your profile definitely needs work

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Your comedy pants really clash with the curtains"
In fairness Brad Pitt would struggle took to look good in a pair of comedy pants

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Different strokes for different folks fella. Get along to a club or social and you’ll meet many more people and make connections you can’t on a web based messenger. "
Good advise I have a few male pals with crap profile and pictures and I’m possibly one of them who don’t struggle for meets beceause they take the above advice

Good luck

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Not wanting to be cruel, but having a large tattoo of the badge of your favourite football team on your chest will put off virtually all women who are not fantastical Nottingham Forest supporters.

I'd cover it up.

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By *otchillicoupleCouple
over a year ago

all over

Please change the boxers, they are a right turn off in my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell of an impressive bit of body art on your right side though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smile at least!

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By *randMrsTeaseCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Mr & Mrs Tease go to have a look at profile..

..sees Spongebob boxers..

..looks at one another and both laugh, say no and leave.

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By *ally_weaverMan
over a year ago

Stoneyburn


"Mr & Mrs Tease go to have a look at profile..

..sees Spongebob boxers..

..looks at one another and both laugh, say no and leave.

"

But he lives in a pineapple under the sea?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had no meets yet, but I'm happy to wait I also enjoy the social side too.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's better to message and it be clear you're not compatible than meet the wrong people after incomplete preparation.

Your photos would improve with more smiling which probably means getting others to take some when you are relaxed.

Other profile advice helpful

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