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Wishful Thinking or A good Possibilty?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey Guys and Dolls, Do single guys really stand a chance of getting meets on here or would it be best for me to attend a club or party? I mean don't get me wrong I have had some messages but nothing ever seems to come from it and the chat fizzles away before a meet is put in place... should I be more straight to the point and just ask at the start of chatting and see where it goes from there? It is so hard gauging female reactions in asking how to put plans in action when speaking through messages in case I come across as bossy or rude, I would welcome any suggestions and thank you in advance for advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do the math, by dint of numbers single guys, as a type, must be getting more meets than any other type.

You must be either messaging with the wrong people or not messaging very well. Additionally your profile is overloaded with superfluous 'information' maybe your messages are to...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do the math, by dint of numbers single guys, as a type, must be getting more meets than any other type.

You must be either messaging with the wrong people or not messaging very well. Additionally your profile is overloaded with superfluous 'information' maybe your messages are to..."

So I have to much information on my profile? some say I did not have so put more in and others say it is perfect. As for my messages I send I try ask them about their day, what they have been up to etc,... what do you mean by not messaging them well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do the math, by dint of numbers single guys, as a type, must be getting more meets than any other type.

You must be either messaging with the wrong people or not messaging very well. Additionally your profile is overloaded with superfluous 'information' maybe your messages are to...

So I have to much information on my profile? some say I did not have so put more in and others say it is perfect. As for my messages I send I try ask them about their day, what they have been up to etc,... what do you mean by not messaging them well?"

Yeah, you manage not to have enough information and too much superfluous information at the same time!

Well if messaging isn't leading to any meets you not messaging very well might be a prohibiting factor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do the math, by dint of numbers single guys, as a type, must be getting more meets than any other type.

You must be either messaging with the wrong people or not messaging very well. Additionally your profile is overloaded with superfluous 'information' maybe your messages are to...

So I have to much information on my profile? some say I did not have so put more in and others say it is perfect. As for my messages I send I try ask them about their day, what they have been up to etc,... what do you mean by not messaging them well?

Yeah, you manage not to have enough information and too much superfluous information at the same time!

Well if messaging isn't leading to any meets you not messaging very well might be a prohibiting factor."

Ok I hear what your saying, thanks for the advice I shall take it on board...cheers

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Do the math, by dint of numbers single guys, as a type, must be getting more meets than any other type.

You must be either messaging with the wrong people or not messaging very well. Additionally your profile is overloaded with superfluous 'information' maybe your messages are to...

So I have to much information on my profile? some say I did not have so put more in and others say it is perfect. As for my messages I send I try ask them about their day, what they have been up to etc,... what do you mean by not messaging them well?

Yeah, you manage not to have enough information and too much superfluous information at the same time!

Well if messaging isn't leading to any meets you not messaging very well might be a prohibiting factor.

Ok I hear what your saying, thanks for the advice I shall take it on board...cheers "

The paragraph about why you joined fabswingers is to me not neccessary. People won't care. There are a couple of other lines later down that are border line but that one paragraoh sticks out like a sore thumb. I think overall though it's quite good. Other opinions are available of course .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi when i first joined I the idea that every message i sent should get a reply or a meet until i got chatting with the nice members on here and relised that just because people are on the site does not mean are sex obsessed as its also a nice place to chat and make friends.

Now I send select messages the people who are looking for single guys and if get a reply thats nice and if not thats ok as there needs to be a mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Guys and Dolls, Do single guys really stand a chance of getting meets on here or would it be best for me to attend a club or party? I mean don't get me wrong I have had some messages but nothing ever seems to come from it and the chat fizzles away before a meet is put in place... should I be more straight to the point and just ask at the start of chatting and see where it goes from there? It is so hard gauging female reactions in asking how to put plans in action when speaking through messages in case I come across as bossy or rude, I would welcome any suggestions and thank you in advance for advice "
I only meet single guys.. and don't attend clubs or party's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time. I think many guys will ge t so fucked off that most of them might go any way...oh my just imagine lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is your third post with roughly the same subject in the last few weeks, why don’t you just take the advice you’ve already been given? Or just accept the fact that single men’s profiles are 10 a penny

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is your third post with roughly the same subject in the last few weeks, why don’t you just take the advice you’ve already been given? Or just accept the fact that single men’s profiles are 10 a penny"

I do take the advice I have been given so now I cant ask a question.. typical answer in this forum... you could have just ignored and scroll by but that didn't seem to happen, if you asked a question on here you ask it for a reason, some of the advice I have been gave has made some difference. thanks anyway for your input

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey Guys and Dolls, Do single guys really stand a chance of getting meets on here or would it be best for me to attend a club or party? I mean don't get me wrong I have had some messages but nothing ever seems to come from it and the chat fizzles away before a meet is put in place... should I be more straight to the point and just ask at the start of chatting and see where it goes from there? It is so hard gauging female reactions in asking how to put plans in action when speaking through messages in case I come across as bossy or rude, I would welcome any suggestions and thank you in advance for advice I only meet single guys.. and don't attend clubs or party's "

Aww but you are too far away at least there is one female that does meet single guys lol

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

Personally I wouldn't ask people about their day or what they've been up to in early messages, I think that sort of info should be saved after a rapport is built, we always find it a bit nosey, in fact I'd say we don't like any messages that are just a question, we always think hang on , tell us a bit about yourself first.

So I would focus on you and what you can offer in the first message and maybe tell them what drew you to their profile so they can tell that you've actually wrote the message just for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is your third post with roughly the same subject in the last few weeks, why don’t you just take the advice you’ve already been given? Or just accept the fact that single men’s profiles are 10 a penny

I do take the advice I have been given so now I cant ask a question.. typical answer in this forum... you could have just ignored and scroll by but that didn't seem to happen, if you asked a question on here you ask it for a reason, some of the advice I have been gave has made some difference. thanks anyway for your input "

You’re welcome, no doubt we’ll see the same question next week just in case anyone missed it.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton


"Do the math, by dint of numbers single guys, as a type, must be getting more meets than any other type.

You must be either messaging with the wrong people or not messaging very well. Additionally your profile is overloaded with superfluous 'information' maybe your messages are to...

So I have to much information on my profile? some say I did not have so put more in and others say it is perfect. As for my messages I send I try ask them about their day, what they have been up to etc,... what do you mean by not messaging them well?

Yeah, you manage not to have enough information and too much superfluous information at the same time!

Well if messaging isn't leading to any meets you not messaging very well might be a prohibiting factor."

Exactly what this lady is saying, reading I thought there would be something about having a conversation, but in my opinion, there is actually nothing about being able to create a conversation.

Read it yourself and consider if you would think, how do I have a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope ok to say this but maybe comes across as a bit smug that's just my opinion I won't when I see if it wasn't for a nice people on here giving me help with my profile I had to give up a long time ago but like I keep saying it'll happen someday

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is your third post with roughly the same subject in the last few weeks, why don’t you just take the advice you’ve already been given? Or just accept the fact that single men’s profiles are 10 a penny

I do take the advice I have been given so now I cant ask a question.. typical answer in this forum... you could have just ignored and scroll by but that didn't seem to happen, if you asked a question on here you ask it for a reason, some of the advice I have been gave has made some difference. thanks anyway for your input

You’re welcome, no doubt we’ll see the same question next week just in case anyone missed it. "

Feel free to ignore it and scroll on by if I do ta ta x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I wouldn't ask people about their day or what they've been up to in early messages, I think that sort of info should be saved after a rapport is built, we always find it a bit nosey, in fact I'd say we don't like any messages that are just a question, we always think hang on , tell us a bit about yourself first.

So I would focus on you and what you can offer in the first message and maybe tell them what drew you to their profile so they can tell that you've actually wrote the message just for them"

Great advice, would work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Guys and Dolls, Do single guys really stand a chance of getting meets on here or would it be best for me to attend a club or party? I mean don't get me wrong I have had some messages but nothing ever seems to come from it and the chat fizzles away before a meet is put in place... should I be more straight to the point and just ask at the start of chatting and see where it goes from there? It is so hard gauging female reactions in asking how to put plans in action when speaking through messages in case I come across as bossy or rude, I would welcome any suggestions and thank you in advance for advice I only meet single guys.. and don't attend clubs or party's

Aww but you are too far away at least there is one female that does meet single guys lol "

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By *rennan and BoothCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

You're obviously educated, so you may attract similar. However your requirements focus on looks. Much as we'd all love to look like Rhianna , us ordinary ladies probably won't live up to your expectations. No need to mention age as your filters will solve that. It feels superficial, so no-one will put themselves up for rejection. Just saying x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I wouldn't ask people about their day or what they've been up to in early messages, I think that sort of info should be saved after a rapport is built, we always find it a bit nosey, in fact I'd say we don't like any messages that are just a question, we always think hang on , tell us a bit about yourself first.

So I would focus on you and what you can offer in the first message and maybe tell them what drew you to their profile so they can tell that you've actually wrote the message just for them

Great advice, would work for me"

Thank you for your advice you have given me some idea as to how I may come across to woman, I do read all the female profile and ask her questions on it to keep the conversation going but as i say it then fizzles out, the chances are she has prob been asked the same question about a thousands times.. I will need to go about it in a different way, cheers for the advice x

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