FabSwingers.com forum: Falling for a regular meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet?

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By *eaving for a while.Woman
over a year ago

everywhere

Don't meet them

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Oh dear. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

Remind yourself of the reasons why you want to stop yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or just let it happen

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

Is it such a bad thing? If no then just let it happen, if yes then stop seeing him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet?

Is it such a bad thing? If no then just let it happen, if yes then stop seeing him."

Or her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on."

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found when I was single it was very hard not to form attachments, I think due to loneliness, although I didn't feel lonely at the time.

My only solution was to cut all contact, I wasn't strong enough to just emotionally back off!

Now as a married swinger it's not an issue. I can be friendly but emotionally detached from meets. But we do have a rule that if either get too close to a meet, we immediately walk away. We won't threaten our marriage. So far it's never happened I'm glad to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

If it's not mutual then keep telling yourself they don't feel the same, think of them as a great friend, choose either walking away and hurting for a while, or staying for the friendship and fun.

This worked for me and we've been seeing each other since 2015.

Best of luck and if I can help any further, let me know here and I'll message you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone.. it’s all good advise..

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true"

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

simple .... Never meet them 121.

It is hard to say "I love you" to a guy, and mean it, when another couple of guys are fucking your pussy and mouth.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true

Agreed."

Would you still agree if she was falling in love with twat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on."

You can drown in a river!!

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet?

simple .... Never meet them 121.

It is hard to say "I love you" to a guy, and mean it, when another couple of guys are fucking your pussy and mouth.

Now thats the type of girl I need to meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can meet the percieved ‘The One’ anywhere. Work, the supermarket, the pub, a wedding, why not Fab?

If it’s a match then unfortunately you can’t stop no matter how ice cold you want to appear.

If you desperately don’t want to fall then cut yourself off. Tis the only way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

keep it nsa not as often, dont spend the night with them or text them or converse with with loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's your own fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell for mine even though we're married to others. We make it work and have loads of fun 18 months of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's your own fault."

sometimes people do fall for each other or for a person

can happen anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

If you get the answer, please do let me know!

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true

Agreed.

Would you still agree if she was falling in love with twat? "

We were talking about singletons...and Bitch met Twat on fab. So yes we still agree, completely and utterly.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true

Agreed.

Would you still agree if she was falling in love with twat?

We were talking about singletons...and Bitch met Twat on fab. So yes we still agree, completely and utterly."

Did the op say she was falling in love with another single? Ib thought she said a regular meet? It's just as possible that a regular meet could be half of a couple.

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Jump on some fresh dick. Cumming on a different cock might give you another perspective.

Depends what you want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I still don’t have the answer.. sorry

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true

Agreed.

Would you still agree if she was falling in love with twat?

We were talking about singletons...and Bitch met Twat on fab. So yes we still agree, completely and utterly.

Did the op say she was falling in love with another single? Ib thought she said a regular meet? It's just as possible that a regular meet could be half of a couple. "

Well why don’t you ask her then, rather than making assumptions about us. Our comment was about the sentiment rather than the specific.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

If it's something you don't want then distance yourself from them. Stop meeting them and get them out of your head.

It's not easy but if you really don't want feelings for people to grow then you need to cut them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it, you have three choices:

1) Cut him or her out of your life. No contact for at least 6 months.

2) Continue to see him/her from time to time, but drastically reduce the contact and look for other people to date or fuck.

3) Tell him/her how you feel and proceed from there.

I can't say which of these decisions is the right one, because it's going to depend on circumstances. Is this other person single - if they are married, I'd recommend option 1 because otherwise, drama. If they are single, are they open to a relationship? Are you really in love with this person, or is it just loneliness and good sex?

I guess if I was in this position, I would sit down and seriously evaluate the situation and decide what my ideal outcome would be, and how I would cope if the outcome wasn't what I wanted, and then choose how to proceed from there.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "
don't meet ! How can you stop yourself in that sense ? Feelings don't have push buttons you can control .

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

Stop seeing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And why is falling for anyone such a bad and terrible thing. Just perhaps it's your own north star trying to tell you something. What on earth do you have to loose. And all this suppression of emotions because of no strings attached. Just be. Live. Celebrate what naturally happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on."

So beautiful said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And why is falling for anyone such a bad and terrible thing. Just perhaps it's your own north star trying to tell you something. What on earth do you have to loose. And all this suppression of emotions because of no strings attached. Just be. Live. Celebrate what naturally happens."

I find it more weird when people say have they no feelings whatsoever.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

The way I see it, you have 2 choices. Take the relationship further or cut it off altogether.

Tell them & see how they feel. If they feel the same, there’s no reason why you couldn’t start a relationship!

If they don’t feel the same, then stop seeing them. If they’re part of a couple already, stop seeing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't day dream about how the relationship could go. Turn your mind off to it.

Enjoy your time together and forget about them when you're not with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way I see it, you have 2 choices. Take the relationship further or cut it off altogether.

Tell them & see how they feel. If they feel the same, there’s no reason why you couldn’t start a relationship!

If they don’t feel the same, then stop seeing them. If they’re part of a couple already, stop seeing them. "

Perfect advice

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

You can't really stop yourself from experiencing emotions but you can choose to avoid situations that would trigger them or choose to act upon them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's possible not to have a connection/feelings for a regular playmate It does not mean that you have to run away together, just that the sex is better the more times you meet.

It's more when one of the parties is really actually looking for more then sex and friendship that it's goes pete tong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There is loads for me to take in.. so thanks for all your advice xx

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

What if falling for someone involves breaking up a family?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true

Agreed.

Would you still agree if she was falling in love with twat?

We were talking about singletons...and Bitch met Twat on fab. So yes we still agree, completely and utterly.

Did the op say she was falling in love with another single? Ib thought she said a regular meet? It's just as possible that a regular meet could be half of a couple.

Well why don’t you ask her then, rather than making assumptions about us. Our comment was about the sentiment rather than the specific."

I'm not assuming anything of you. I was simply using you as an example.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If you can't do anything about it or the feeling isn't mutual give yourself a little talking to.

Enjoy it for what it is and know your boundaries. If you can't do that and you're going to get hurt there's only one thing to do. Walk away before it eats you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if falling for someone involves breaking up a family? "

If it means that, then those individuals need to sort themselves out.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

What if falling for someone involves breaking up a family? "

You haven't separated the emotion and the action there. Feeling is one thing, acting upon those feelings is something entirely different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if falling for someone involves breaking up a family? "

That's the attached person's issue.

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on.

That’s the best quote I’ve read in ages and so true

Agreed.

Would you still agree if she was falling in love with twat?

We were talking about singletons...and Bitch met Twat on fab. So yes we still agree, completely and utterly.

Did the op say she was falling in love with another single? Ib thought she said a regular meet? It's just as possible that a regular meet could be half of a couple.

Well why don’t you ask her then, rather than making assumptions about us. Our comment was about the sentiment rather than the specific.

I'm not assuming anything of you. I was simply using you as an example.

That’s not what it read like Mr.Fandango, and neither Bitch nor Twat are impressed with your comment.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

What if falling for someone involves breaking up a family?

If it means that, then those individuals need to sort themselves out. "

I guess it could just be part of the kids "river".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can’t keep it real and just enjoy the moments without being unrealistic, then maybe this is not the place for them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

This happened to me, I told him how I felt, we continued to fuck, I decided I couldn't take it anymore and said we had to stop... 2 years later and we're in a very loving relationship, loving others now and again.

Just take that leap and tell him. Xx

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"If someone can’t keep it real and just enjoy the moments without being unrealistic, then maybe this is not the place for them ?"

You have total control over your feelings do you?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think you have to be careful. Do you think its mutural? Is there good reasons for no. What about the other persons goals, their suitability relationship wise, is their circumstances suitable. History is full of people who have fallen in love with tradgic results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet?

Stop seeing them"
I am unbending

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"If someone can’t keep it real and just enjoy the moments without being unrealistic, then maybe this is not the place for them ?"

This place can be for them. Many have found life partners here. Just because that is not what you are after doesn't mean people looking for more than a fuck can find love here. Where else would you find a partner open to swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on."

Wise words and exactly true

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

If you are both single .. then you need to discuss ... take it from there .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Decide if a relationship is really what you want and try to work out if they feel the same way, if you do want this be honest, we was and have been together two years, yet before we met goldi had a fwb for four years which when she told them how she felt hurt her as he didn't want a relationship, this continued for about three months until she cut ties. Although she does speak to him occasionally now and he's also in a relationship

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I’ll let you know when it actuallys happens

I generally don’t fall in love very easily. Even though I’m very close to one of my regular meets he’s nothing more than a good friend that I have a lot of fun with, sounds weird to some that we essentially do everything that someone dating would do but we’re not a couple and have no interest in being one, I think it’s only people in that type of situation that really understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go with your feelings and good luck chick x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This *almost* happened to me and I had to put some pretty big barriers up. It worked and now I continue to see him without it building up to more. I just had to keep reminding myself he didnt want a relationship and he is a good friend and fuck. I have said to him if it comes to a point where I like him more than he does me I will just stop seeing him and go back to fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But... if you are both single talk to him. You wont know until you do! Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again everyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I move around the country with my job every 3-6 months. Inevitably, I can fall for a regular partner. However, we have always agreed that any relationship is for that finite time only and then we make the most of our time together.

Tough saying goodbye - but life goes on. Sometimes you just have to be hard on yourself.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the time you do know it's too late !

But can lead to happier times and a better life !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life is a river, if the current takes you there it takes you there, don't fight it. Enjoy the experience, love is the greatest gift life has to offer, embrace it. If it's not reciprocated move on."

Love this xxx

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

"How can you stop yourself falling for a regular meet? "

Don’t see them or go the other way and communicate your feelings

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By *eorgeblue72Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I love it

Such a simple and practical solution

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By *azz26Woman
over a year ago

wrexham

"I found when I was single it was very hard not to form attachments, I think due to loneliness, although I didn't feel lonely at the time.

My only solution was to cut all contact, I wasn't strong enough to just emotionally back off!

I agree with the above x

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