FabSwingers.com forum: Good Angles, is it deceiving?

By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I'm very honest in my profile that I'm not slim, my photos are all me and recent. They are sometimes filtered but not photo shopped. I do however breathe in and try to get my best angle. I assume this is what most do.

I've just been chatting to someone who seemed surprised when I told him my dress size.

I've never been all that confident and have met so rarely. Its always a fear people won't like me in person.

Now I'm wondering if I'm the person people meet and say aren't like their photos!

Is this something that worries other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a slight concern of mine. Not that they might be shocked at how fat I am, to how fat I look, but how I will be wasting precious time talking to them and going to meet them, if they don't like my body.

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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"It is a slight concern of mine. Not that they might be shocked at how fat I am, to how fat I look, but how I will be wasting precious time talking to them and going to meet them, if they don't like my body."
I feel a bit like that too. I suppose its the risk everyone takes.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Don't think it's deceiving, we sometimes look at a person's pics and say, "that's not a good look". So it is a good idea to make the most of what you have.

Our pics are a mix of professional (but not Photoshopped) and 'brutally honest' snaps we took ourselves, this way people see just what they're getting.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

When meeting new people it is always a slight concern that they won't look like their photo but we have found in general that people look better in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look gorgeous, I would class you as curvy, which I love, nothing sexier than a curvy lady, tight dress, showing off those curves, wish you lived nearer xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP: och wheesht! xxx yer a hottie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just take mine and upload them. No photo shop or cropping. Yes I do pick the best ones, but at the end of it if people don’t want to accept me for who I am, then that’s up to them.

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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"When meeting new people it is always a slight concern that they won't look like their photo but we have found in general that people look better in real life. "
I've often found that people look better in real life too. However not always!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's still your body in the pics even if taken from more flattering angles. You're not deceiving anyone. We all do it, so don't worry. If someone doesn't like your body it's their issue, not yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good angles they may be but you do look good.

I use filters, cropping, blank out tattoos. I’ve no idea how to ‘photoshop’ in the way where I could make my bulk disappear though.

When it comes to meeting, by the time I do, we’ve usually exchanged a shed load of real in time pictures/videos so there’s no surprises.

It’s only women that have ever commented that I look bigger than my pictures anyway but I’m not here to meet women. I’m just flattered they liked my pictures enough to comment.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm very honest in my profile that I'm not slim, my photos are all me and recent. They are sometimes filtered but not photo shopped. I do however breathe in and try to get my best angle. I assume this is what most do.

I've just been chatting to someone who seemed surprised when I told him my dress size.

I've never been all that confident and have met so rarely. Its always a fear people won't like me in person.

Now I'm wondering if I'm the person people meet and say aren't like their photos!

Is this something that worries other people? "

No. It's insecurity talking. We all try to show our best side but without Photoshop and filters there's only so much you can do with a camera unless you're an expert.

Obviously I've never met you but I'm willing to bet you're only different to your photos in a positive way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been chatting to someone who seemed surprised when I told him my dress size.

I've never been all that confident and have met so rarely. Its always a fear people won't like me in person.

Now I'm wondering if I'm the person people meet and say aren't like their photos!

Is this something that worries other people? "

I have been on and off for a few years pottering about the forums each time and seen you make comments like this before and it makes me sad because your pictures are really good! So tasteful and sexy! And i read some of your writing which is great ... you dont have to tell people your dress size OP there is clearly much more to you as a person than what it says

we all put our "best self" online ... we all have insecurities about our bodies and we all just have to make the best of what we have

For some its angles and filters, others its make up and hair extensions, for me its lingerie to hide the bits im not keen on behind

I am definitely bigger than my pictures would have you believe but i am not sure how that happens because i dont touch them up in any way ... maybe we just see the worst in ourselves in the mirror but in reality we actually look not too shabby

Time to cut the labels out of your clothes OP and stop letting them define how you see yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP: och wheesht! xxx yer a hottie

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By *anrteeCouple
over a year ago

London

Getting the best angle photo is not any more deceptive than wearing a body flattering outfit or makeup. A camera lens cannot see what the eye sees so you shouldn't worry if someone makes a wrong assumption on the basis of a photo.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I've just been chatting to someone who seemed surprised when I told him my dress size.

I've never been all that confident and have met so rarely. Its always a fear people won't like me in person.

Now I'm wondering if I'm the person people meet and say aren't like their photos!

Is this something that worries other people? "

Hell yeah ! Who doesn’t take 10 pics before dissecting the faults on them to find the best one to stick on here haha

Stomach in , chest out and snap lol

Btw your pics look great x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like someone I like someone. I'm sure most people choose flattering pics to upload and if someone's not mature or thoughtful enough to realise this then that's their look out.

I take loads of photos in a session but only like a few enough to share. I have favourite angles and others I hate.

It's partly the convincing thing as well for me. I don't care if I "pass" or not but if I want to meet someone I always point out that it's much easier to look pretty and fem in a photo than it is in the flesh. I've always been insecure about my looks and body, if a profile says looking for hot/sexy/fit/convincing I find that quite a put-off.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I've just been chatting to someone who seemed surprised when I told him my dress size.

I've never been all that confident and have met so rarely. Its always a fear people won't like me in person.

Now I'm wondering if I'm the person people meet and say aren't like their photos!

Is this something that worries other people? "

Yes, I always tell them straight away that they are flattering pics - all smoke, mirrors and tight elastic knickers I say!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could have almost written this post myself

whenever anyone says they like my photos I always say it's just good angles and I've taken them so it hides my wobbly bits.

I wish i was confident enough to take a naked photo so people could see the true me, the one that I see, but quite frankly, I can't bear to.

OP, your photos are beautiful, your photos are classy and regardless of your size, you're beautiful inside and out. Anyone who meets you would be lucky to meet you x

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

You are who you are ! Nice pictures and not deceiving ! Is the reason I like the clubs ! People size 6 or 22 , just dress sexy without judgement worries !!! Also I think is the way you embrace your size ! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone does it , even on pof for example ,pics on there ladies day at ascot etc etc .

legs being made to look long is a favourite...

not a problem though , as long as the person is polite and has some manners and dosent walk in stinking of impulse its fine by me

we are what we are........

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

Most of my pics are at a angle I like! All women take 10 pics and pick there favourite adding a filter haha!! We do it on normal social media!!

I hate face pics of myself tho!

J xxx

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Can't imagine anyone being disappointed when being introduced to you lol

Know what you mean though,

of course you use your best poses and favourite angles when pic taking lol,

everyone does, it's normal to want to look your best

Our one is that we hope people take notice of our age when they're busy fabbing our pics

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

I worry about this a lot! I'm honest about my dress size in our profile but I do take pictures that flatter my body and hide the bits I don't like (saggy mum tum!) and always worry when we actually meet people that they'll think I'm much fatter in real life than in the pictures. Not that anyone has ever said anything or not played with us, but it's still nagging in the back of my mind all the time.

However, despite all of that, I'm not about to take a picture of myself at a horrible angel and my tummy rolls out etc, that wouldn't be pretty and make me feel like shit.

Sassy

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By *aughty Wigan CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

Crikey, I would need a wide angle lense if I didnt breath in on pics, but we are honest in our profile and say I am a big girl and if its not your thing, fair enough.

In all seriousness, we all put what we feel are our best photos on, and use the angles we feel are best, but as long as you are honest in your description etc, I cant see what the problem is (brilliant photos btw)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

No, we all know we tend to choose the pics we like to upload. I assume they do the same. That being said, I have more front on no hiding tummy ones in friends only. No one has seemed disappointed or failed to get me naked when meeting in person, despite the fact I make it clear I have a far from lovely body in the flesh before we get as far as meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask guys if they like bigger girls, not saying you are big but I am and I always clarify that’s what they are looking for first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making people look good, but not too good is how we photographers earn a living.

Of course posing people well is acceptable, removing the zit on the face which appeared that morning too. Where it becomes contentious is changing the shape with Photoshop, as we have then created something which doesn't exist in reality.

I note that you ladies all mention looking too big. Nobody mentioned looking to thin. I believe this illustrates a social issue rather than a real problem.

There is somebody for everybody, and in each case, that somebody thinks you are drop dead gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry about this a lot! I'm honest about my dress size in our profile but I do take pictures that flatter my body and hide the bits I don't like (saggy mum tum!) and always worry when we actually meet people that they'll think I'm much fatter in real life than in the pictures. Not that anyone has ever said anything or not played with us, but it's still nagging in the back of my mind all the time.

However, despite all of that, I'm not about to take a picture of myself at a horrible angel and my tummy rolls out etc, that wouldn't be pretty and make me feel like shit.

Sassy

I've posted some pics with my tummy rolls etc. in both my public and private pics and it's actually been quite liberating. As its just out there, this is me, this is what you get if you are messaging me. No more worrying if I am like my pics in real life. The pics still get fabbed, I still get messages and have met some really decent guys. I feel sure some look at my pics and cringe and that's ok. Just means we wouldnt be compatible x

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By *litteasingManMan
over a year ago

Thereabouts

I've just been chatting to someone who seemed surprised when I told him my dress size.

I've never been all that confident and have met so rarely. Its always a fear people won't like me in person.

Now I'm wondering if I'm the person people meet and say aren't like their photos!

Is this something that worries other people? "

My pictures have never worked for me. But those who decided to meet for socials say my picture doesn't do me justice that I look much better in person. I noe rely on socials

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

Very reassuring to read we all feel the same way! My fav line is ‘It’s a good camera angle’ too. lol

Never do anything to enhance our pics but take lots and pick out the best ones.

It’s just human nature I guess!

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