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By *ikerdude2017 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

So guys who get meets after some advise. What is the trick to getting ladies to meet on here ? I am a fit looking nice guy. Never rude pushy or arsy that all the ladies complain about. I m just a nice guy looking for some fun times.

TIA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no trick, it's a numbers thing.

Men outnumber women massively, it's that simple. They can pick and choose at will.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Find the person who wants to meet *you* and then be yourself with them.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

No tricks on here. Take your time relax be yourself and make sure your profile is as attractive as possible. Cock pics aren’t the bees knees on here especially if your looking to meet women. Try going to a social or club check out the meets page. Kick back relax and enjoy the ride. It may take a while but will be fun along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have had a meet in November ..that's a lot more then most single guys on here..just chill fella and go with the ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Maybe your concept of "what atracts women " is wrong (firstly because there are a whole universe of preferences...)

Furthermore and most important, they receive daily dozens of messages from men with profiles like yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site is what it is. There's no hidden secrets just a lot of leg work.

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By *tew2009Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Not many girls/couples actually meet on here, you only have to look at the lack of verifications from the ones who have been on a long time.....if you're not looking to meet you won't be disappointed!lol.

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By *andm_69Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage


"Not many girls/couples actually meet on here, you only have to look at the lack of verifications from the ones who have been on a long time.....if you're not looking to meet you won't be disappointed!lol."

Yes girls and couples do meet actually. We've had plenty of meets be club, socials, or private.

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By *ancgent74Man
over a year ago

Denton, Manchester


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Yes girls and couples do meet actually. We've had plenty of meets be club, socials, or private. "

Yes this. I've had some meets with lovely people both on my single profile and with wifey on our couples profile.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say get to a club or social and take it from there - I can count on two hands the number of people I have met outside a social event, or club, and I am well verrified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not many girls/couples actually meet on here, you only have to look at the lack of verifications from the ones who have been on a long time.....if you're not looking to meet you won't be disappointed!lol."

Don't just really on verifications as a guide..we are on other sites with verifications..it's not the be all and end all..there are many peeps on here who have met but because they both dont have a verification they can not leave any ..but yes for whatever reason some folks will never meet and are just here to view and chat and fantasise ..that's just the way it is

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By *ikerdude2017 OP   Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Thanks for the advice. Will try and remain patient maybe check out a club. Would love to find a fwb so will keep looking.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Not many girls/couples actually meet on here, you only have to look at the lack of verifications from the ones who have been on a long time.....if you're not looking to meet you won't be disappointed!lol."

The absence of verifications is not necessarily an indicator of no meets....

I would say that well over half of my meets have not been verified only because there has been no compulsion to report or pass comment, and certainly no need to submit a second verification if we’ve met before.

Couples tend to verify more than single women in my experience.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

I'll try and put it into perspective for you OP

A couple of days ago I sent a first message to a lady, she responded positively a couple of hours later so I replied

Two days later she replied

Sorry I haven't got back to you sooner I'm getting 800 messages a day

I'm surprised she spotted my initial message in the first place never mind anything else.

It must be a pain in the arse for people getting so much attention when they're trying to message those they want to.

I suppose it's being in the right place and the right time sending a message for the ball to start rolling

Just got to stay positive and be cool about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll try and put it into perspective for you OP

A couple of days ago I sent a first message to a lady, she responded positively a couple of hours later so I replied

Two days later she replied

Sorry I haven't got back to you sooner I'm getting 800 messages a day

I'm surprised she spotted my initial message in the first place never mind anything else.

It must be a pain in the arse for people getting so much attention when they're trying to message those they want to.

I suppose it's being in the right place and the right time sending a message for the ball to start rolling

Just got to stay positive and be cool about it "

You see now this is what I don't understand. People have no need to receive that amount of messages if they use the filters provided. I got so fed up with all the crap and unwanted attention, I blocked everyone and search myself. I may miss out on a good guy or two doing this but I can ive with that.

OP, this site is what it is. Don't ever take it seriously, its just a bit of fun. Get involved in the forum and chat to people. I never expect anything therefore I put no pressure on myself or anyone else to meet. If it happens, it happens, just be yourself. Good luck

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan


"I'll try and put it into perspective for you OP

A couple of days ago I sent a first message to a lady, she responded positively a couple of hours later so I replied

Two days later she replied

Sorry I haven't got back to you sooner I'm getting 800 messages a day

I'm surprised she spotted my initial message in the first place never mind anything else.

It must be a pain in the arse for people getting so much attention when they're trying to message those they want to.

I suppose it's being in the right place and the right time sending a message for the ball to start rolling

Just got to stay positive and be cool about it

You see now this is what I don't understand. People have no need to receive that amount of messages if they use the filters provided. I got so fed up with all the crap and unwanted attention, I blocked everyone and search myself. I may miss out on a good guy or two doing this but I can ive with that.

Precisely - I've suggested using the filters provided and even hiding her profile until she gets in control

If I was receiving that much mail I'd look for a way to reduce it and search for myself etc

OP, this site is what it is. Don't ever take it seriously, its just a bit of fun. Get involved in the forum and chat to people. I never expect anything therefore I put no pressure on myself or anyone else to meet. If it happens, it happens, just be yourself. Good luck "

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not many girls/couples actually meet on here, you only have to look at the lack of verifications from the ones who have been on a long time.....if you're not looking to meet you won't be disappointed!lol.

The absence of verifications is not necessarily an indicator of no meets....

Couples tend to verify more than single women in my experience."

I agree. I just want enough verifications for people to believe I'm real. However on our couples profile we have nearly 200 verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll try and put it into perspective for you OP

A couple of days ago I sent a first message to a lady, she responded positively a couple of hours later so I replied

Two days later she replied

Sorry I haven't got back to you sooner I'm getting 800 messages a day

I'm surprised she spotted my initial message in the first place never mind anything else.

It must be a pain in the arse for people getting so much attention when they're trying to message those they want to.

I suppose it's being in the right place and the right time sending a message for the ball to start rolling

Just got to stay positive and be cool about it "

This site has tools to stop anyone getting loads of messages. If they choose not to use the filters on here, then I’d say they love the attention.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"So guys who get meets after some advise. What is the trick to getting ladies to meet on here ? I am a fit looking nice guy. Never rude pushy or arsy that all the ladies complain about. I m just a nice guy looking for some fun times.

TIA"

There's two schools of thought when it comes to single guys.

1. Play the numbers game. Do a copy and paste message and send it to hundreds of women. You will probably get two or three replies.

2. Send carefully crafted personal messages to a few women who seem to fit you. Women will note a personal message in a sea of crap and respond.

My view is that 2 is the best policy for articulate men who can craft a decent message. It's also better for us middle aged types who will get further on personality rather than looks. Everyone else should do the numbers.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I'll try and put it into perspective for you OP

A couple of days ago I sent a first message to a lady, she responded positively a couple of hours later so I replied

Two days later she replied

Sorry I haven't got back to you sooner I'm getting 800 messages a day

I'm surprised she spotted my initial message in the first place never mind anything else.

It must be a pain in the arse for people getting so much attention when they're trying to message those they want to.

I suppose it's being in the right place and the right time sending a message for the ball to start rolling

Just got to stay positive and be cool about it

This site has tools to stop anyone getting loads of messages. If they choose not to use the filters on here, then I’d say they love the attention."

Yup!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Virgin forum post alert!

I’ve learnt that patience is the best policy, been on and off for the past year and recently updated my profile. Just be yourself and if you tick someone’s box I’m sure they’ll strike up a conversation with you.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’d say most women/couples get more mail than they can read never mind reply to on here.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"So guys who get meets after some advise. What is the trick to getting ladies to meet on here ? I am a fit looking nice guy. Never rude pushy or arsy that all the ladies complain about. I m just a nice guy looking for some fun times.

TIA

There's two schools of thought when it comes to single guys.

1. Play the numbers game. Do a copy and paste message and send it to hundreds of women. You will probably get two or three replies.

2. Send carefully crafted personal messages to a few women who seem to fit you. Women will note a personal message in a sea of crap and respond.

My view is that 2 is the best policy for articulate men who can craft a decent message. It's also better for us middle aged types who will get further on personality rather than looks. Everyone else should do the numbers. "

I think it could be best to sort of do something in between the two if that’s possible.

Might be slightly misleading and frustrating to tell newbies a really well thought out message is any more likely to be responded to than a copy and paste one in reality.

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By *ssex Playfull CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Grays

It’s hard for couples as well, especially when your looking for a couple that tick your boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My main thing is stop referring to yourself as a "nice guy".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def a numbers thing. My friend joined up last night. Even before she had uploaded her verification picture. She had 39 messages and 14 winks. Soon as the pictures went up she had over 200 messages by the end of the night. So I'm guessing for people who are actually active and post etc. They must get hundreds of messages. So I'm thinking it's more a standing out. Read profiles. Spark conversations and go from there?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"My main thing is stop referring to yourself as a "nice guy"."

Does a polite guy work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My main thing is stop referring to yourself as a "nice guy".

Does a polite guy work "

As long as he doesnt keep refering to himself as a polite guy

Although I prefer a filthy guy!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not many girls/couples actually meet on here, you only have to look at the lack of verifications from the ones who have been on a long time.....if you're not looking to meet you won't be disappointed!lol."

I certainly hope there are no ‘girls’ on here!

There are some lovely ladies on here who do meet the people who they want to meet

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