FabSwingers.com forum: Anal sti help

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I need some help, I was stupid and extremely d*unk. Anyway I received unprotected anal last night and gave oral too.

I'm scared and I don't know what to do with myself.

Basically worried about what I have, how do I find out, is it a swab? Incubation period?

I woke up with a bit of a sore on my gum, it could have been the alcohol though, I drank a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way to know, is to get tested, or you may pass something onto your next playmate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess I will have to wait a week for the incubation? Would it be an anal swab or penis swab?

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

It can take up to two weeks for anything to show up. And longer for HIV. Ring your local clinic and ask.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Just go and get a sti test, not difficult. You also wouldn't have any outward signs in the space of a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go onto the website for the sexual health clinic in your area as they give a lot of advice on there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks sweet but I think hiv is 3 months possibly?

Try ringing your local clinic or check online they have an online checker thing on the umbrella website now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But whatever you do. Don't play with anyone else at all until you get your results back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fastest HIV testing is available at 4 weeks with results in under 20 mins but needs retesting after 3 months - others 2 weeks

place i went wasnt cheap but were really friendly and gave me appointment on first day i could be tested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But whatever you do. Don't play with anyone else at all until you get your results back"

sooo pleased someone said this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I got tested I was told a month incubation so lots of conflicting numbers.

Not generally swabs unless you show symptoms. Blood and irons test. Takes 5 mins. Worrying won't help though so just hibernate for a few weeks, book an appointment and wait.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

Have you never been to a GUM clinic before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this for real???

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Is this for real???"

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

My suggestion would be, to not overthink it, or get too anxious just do the sensible thing.

Don't play with anybody else until after you are tested after the incubation period. Contact your local GUM clinic, they will do all your tests for free, and in the possible event you would need treatment they will provide that too.

It's not possible to have any symptoms within a day, so do not worry that the sore on your lip is anything to do with it.

The Terrence Higgins Trust in Bedford are fabulous.

They do the tests for free at bi night at the Vanilla Alternative and provide a wonderful service.

I believe they offer a free walk in centre in Bedford,

if that is not too far for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin..."

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X"

So...if you contracted an sti you would keep that to yourself?

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would like to respond to the comments above.

Yes, I've been to a clinic before, quite regular, but this is my first bi-gay experience if you will. I didn't know if the testing procedure was different, which was a worry, I'm going tomorrow just out to help my mind, and will go again afterwards to make sure.

I would like to say thank you to the supportive people and the people who have messaged me. I was d*unk and made a stupid decision which I hope wont cause me too much problem's

And to finish off again, I'm a really bad worrier, I'm stupid, I know.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I would like to respond to the comments above.

I would like to say thank you to the supportive people and the people who have messaged me. I was d*unk and made a stupid decision which I hope wont cause me too much problem's

And to finish off again, I'm a really bad worrier, I'm stupid, I know. "

You made a mistake. There isn't one person alive who hasn't. Easy for me to say but try not to worry too much.

I hope everything turns out fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I need some help, I was stupid and extremely d*unk. Anyway I received unprotected anal last night and gave oral too.

I'm scared and I don't know what to do with myself.

Basically worried about what I have, how do I find out, is it a swab? Incubation period?

I woke up with a bit of a sore on my gum, it could have been the alcohol though, I drank a lot. "

I would strongly advise you to go first thing tomorrow morning for PREP just in case your partner was HIV+ thats the only way not to get infected. You got 48 hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I need some help, I was stupid and extremely d*unk. Anyway I received unprotected anal last night and gave oral too.

I'm scared and I don't know what to do with myself.

Basically worried about what I have, how do I find out, is it a swab? Incubation period?

I woke up with a bit of a sore on my gum, it could have been the alcohol though, I drank a lot. "

If you’re worried about sti’s. it’s too soon to get symptoms. Most are at least week or two. If you’re worried about hiv, you can go to gum clinic or A&e within 72 hours and ask for prep. It may help reduce the risk of contracting hiv. Best advice you will get at gum clinics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X"

I don't give a hoots if I'm on anyones block list. I came here for advice, which this forum is for, apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

I don't give a hoots if I'm on anyones block list. I came here for advice, which this forum is for, apparently."

You got less than 48 hours if youf partner was HIV+ to avoid HIV+ status. Go fro PREP first thing tomorrow morning.

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By *illupMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

So...if you contracted an sti you would keep that to yourself?

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

I don't give a hoots if I'm on anyones block list. I came here for advice, which this forum is for, apparently.

You got less than 48 hours if youf partner was HIV+ to avoid HIV+ status. Go fro PREP first thing tomorrow morning."

I've really worked myself about this, especially with the gum sore I have developed. On reflection, the thing that worries me the most was the actual meet in question, in terms of how quick upon initial message I was round, and the actual environment that I encountered once there (drugs, messy house etc).

I'm awaiting a call back from a doctor now and will proceed with their recommendation. I mean I could be getting worked up over nothing, but it's my personality, I'm a worrier.

I would like to say thank you to everybody

If there is an advertisement for not drinking, this is it..

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

I don't give a hoots if I'm on anyones block list. I came here for advice, which this forum is for, apparently.

You got less than 48 hours if youf partner was HIV+ to avoid HIV+ status. Go fro PREP first thing tomorrow morning.

I'm awaiting a call back from a doctor now and will proceed with their recommendation. I mean I could be getting worked up over nothing, but it's my personality, I'm a worrier.

I would like to say thank you to everybody

If there is an advertisement for not drinking, this is it.. "

You can only be scared of that which is unknown so, to combat this, educate yourself! Get to the clinic, be as open and honest with them as you can. They will make you fill out a questionnaire so just tell them that you swing and are involved in high risk sex. By the way, "high risk" does NOT mean that you WILL catch something. Listen to the info from the health worker, ask questions. I guarantee that when you come out you will feel a lot better. Also, if you make regular appointments (say every three months) you'll be doing better than a lot of swingers. Especially those that don't have the maturity to talk about sensitive subjects like this. Try not to worry too much in any case. And...

Happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it you've left them a great verification then?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

I don't give a hoots if I'm on anyones block list. I came here for advice, which this forum is for, apparently.

You got less than 48 hours if youf partner was HIV+ to avoid HIV+ status. Go fro PREP first thing tomorrow morning.

I'm awaiting a call back from a doctor now and will proceed with their recommendation. I mean I could be getting worked up over nothing, but it's my personality, I'm a worrier.

I would like to say thank you to everybody

If there is an advertisement for not drinking, this is it.. "

And u were still silly enough to carry on with the meet. Had I seen things like drugs in a meets house I'd have said no sorry and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

So...if you contracted an sti you would keep that to yourself?

Ok.

Well I wouldn't be posting on a forum about what to do, I'd go to my local clinic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this for real???

Yes. People really do get STIs when swinging. Seeing as this forum is called "Swinging Support and Advice"...well...it does exactly what it says on the tin...

Yes dear, I am aware of the risks and procedures....

I just think this post seems a bit odd. I've never seen anything like this. I would have thought this would be something you'd keep to yourself.

I can only imagine the o.p is now on many block lists.

I'm not meaning to sound mean, just a bit of a sceptic. X

So...if you contracted an sti you would keep that to yourself?

Ok.

We aren't talking about him having contracted an sti.... As far as he knows he hasn't. I'm sure that once he's gone through all the tests, he will take the appropriate action.

I'm sorry for being a cynic and sincerely hope you get the results you want.

The wait is a nightmare, but that text is so liberating. I got my test results on my last birthday 3 months ago, best present ever, even though I'd not played for 10 months. Still good to get checked, as my partner had played.

Good luck O.P X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So to update everyone, I seem to have developed symptoms for sure. I'm struggling to get booked in to a clinic, I've rang 3 and they are all fully booked and can only book 48hrs in advanced. I'm going to take the day off work on Monday or Tuesday and go to the walk in. I've spent the day on the edge of throwing up, I'm physically sick with myself. I wish I could turn back time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So to update everyone, I seem to have developed symptoms for sure. I'm struggling to get booked in to a clinic, I've rang 3 and they are all fully booked and can only book 48hrs in advanced. I'm going to take the day off work on Monday or Tuesday and go to the walk in. I've spent the day on the edge of throwing up, I'm physically sick with myself. I wish I could turn back time "

Symptoms of what?

What did the doctor say when he called you back?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Seriously dude ... the symptoms you are experiencing are almost certainly stress induced !

No way would you be getting symptoms so soon after the act .

The chances of you getting something are still slim , so you need to chill and relax a bit .

As a previous poster said , we have all made mistakes in the past , and no doubt will again .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To my knowledge you wouldn't be showing symptoms of anything at all this soon after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate. I think you’re just panicking. Symptoms where and within 24 hours of exposure??jefferies wing at Saint Mary’s Paddington is walk in. Bit far from you but if you’re that worried just go for it. For future reference always play safe or abstain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The incident took place in the late hours of Tuesday night, do you think that's too early still?

My anus has a weird tingle sensation about it and what I would call discharge.

I also got a weird spot/skin bit on the end of my penis.

I'm really struggling here. I do suffer from stress as it is, I think this has pushed me to my limits now. I've had bad stomach pains all day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no definite cut-off point with hiv testing, simply the longer you leave it the more reliable it will be.

http://i-base.info/guides/testing/what-is-the-window-period

I agree, you've probably worried yourself into some symptoms and perhaps picked up something more minor too. Good luck anyway.

I've been shocked at people who claim 'safe sex' on their profile and then in the event they try to slip it in unprotected and have to be stopped. Honestly it puts me right off a second meet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know what any of us can say to set your mind at rest if a phone call from a doctor didn't work.

You either need to find a way to get through until you can get to a walk in clinic or just go to one tomorrow however far you have to travel.

None of us can diagnose you, tell you the cause of your symptoms, the likelihood of you contracting a sti or it showing up so soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's no definite cut-off point with hiv testing, simply the longer you leave it the more reliable it will be.

http://i-base.info/guides/testing/what-is-the-window-period

I agree, you've probably worried yourself into some symptoms and perhaps picked up something more minor too. Good luck anyway.

I've been shocked at people who claim 'safe sex' on their profile and then in the event they try to slip it in unprotected and have to be stopped. Honestly it puts me right off a second meet.

We will see what Monday brings, I'm going to ask to leave work for a couple of hours for the walk in. Thank you for everyone's support

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I don't know what any of us can say to set your mind at rest if a phone call from a doctor didn't work.

You either need to find a way to get through until you can get to a walk in clinic or just go to one tomorrow however far you have to travel.

None of us can diagnose you, tell you the cause of your symptoms, the likelihood of you contracting a sti or it showing up so soon.

Wise words ....

The op is clearly in a panic stricken state , and while we can guess that he’s over reacting , we have no definitive way of proving it .

It’s still highly unlikely he has these symptoms so soon after the act though . A bit of a sore bum as it was his first time is to be expected , and we don’t know if he just nicked his dick .

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Just go get tested xx simply xx reframe from playing till all clear xx then don't be silly again xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't know what any of us can say to set your mind at rest if a phone call from a doctor didn't work.

You either need to find a way to get through until you can get to a walk in clinic or just go to one tomorrow however far you have to travel.

None of us can diagnose you, tell you the cause of your symptoms, the likelihood of you contracting a sti or it showing up so soon.

Wise words ....

The op is clearly in a panic stricken state , and while we can guess that he’s over reacting , we have no definitive way of proving it .

It’s still highly unlikely he has these symptoms so soon after the act though . A bit of a sore bum as it was his first time is to be expected , and we don’t know if he just nicked his dick ."

Exactly! It's a horrible and straitening experience for the guy I feel his pain. As I said before every single one of us has done something really stupid. We were sexually active in the 70s, need I say more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another thing that is worrying me on reflection is the drug using bit. So they were lighting something, and smoking from what I remember every few minutes, I don't believe it to be . I hardly remember the whole thing, I eventually got kicked out after I fell asleep or whatever, what could the substance have been?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can't say the drug name, but the common one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never heard of PREP before so googled it. From what THT say it's not a pill you can happily just pop after the event.

"In clinical trials PrEP has been used in two different ways:

- taken regularly (one tablet per day)

- only taken when needed (two tablets two to 24 hours before sex, one tablet 24 hours after sex and a further tablet 48 hours after sex)."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - I've been where you are just a couple of months ago. Met someone new for sex and there was an incident with the condom... and well, I have OCD and severe anxiety about my health, so I know what you're going through.

You would not be showing symptoms from something picked up on Tuesday night. It would take at least a week or two for you to start showing signs. So try to breathe and relax. You can't undo what has happened, and most of us have made mistakes. All you can do is get yourself to a clinic as soon as possible, get tested (and re-tested for HIV at 3 months), and try not to worry too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wait until you Monday if it's getting you worked up this bad.

Get to your closest walk in centre.

It's only Thursday, you can't leave yourself panicking like this for another 3 days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The incident took place in the late hours of Tuesday night, do you think that's too early still?

My anus has a weird tingle sensation about it and what I would call discharge.

I also got a weird spot/skin bit on the end of my penis.

I'm really struggling here. I do suffer from stress as it is, I think this has pushed me to my limits now. I've had bad stomach pains all day "

If he came up your ass this would happen OP try to stay calm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also hope this opens the eyes to barebacking on Fab and what can happen when you are d*unk or high or plain stupid.

Seems horny at the time but the reality in the cold light of day isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get tested straight away, be sure to tell the nurse everything they do not judge, they will advise best. No sex for 3 months then repeat HIV test and any others if you display signs or symptoms.

Get clued up on signs and symptoms but of course some STIs have none.

Learn from this.

All the best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get tested straight away, be sure to tell the nurse everything they do not judge, they will advise best. No sex for 3 months then repeat HIV test and any others if you display signs or symptoms.

Get clued up on signs and symptoms but of course some STIs have none.

Learn from this.

All the best.

In the past I haven't been perfectly honest with them when I've been but now I'm just going to say everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get tested straight away, be sure to tell the nurse everything they do not judge, they will advise best. No sex for 3 months then repeat HIV test and any others if you display signs or symptoms.

Get clued up on signs and symptoms but of course some STIs have none.

Learn from this.

All the best.

In the past I haven't been perfectly honest with them when I've been but now I'm just going to say everything. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd never heard of PREP before so googled it. From what THT say it's not a pill you can happily just pop after the event.

"In clinical trials PrEP has been used in two different ways:

- taken regularly (one tablet per day)

- only taken when needed (two tablets two to 24 hours before sex, one tablet 24 hours after sex and a further tablet 48 hours after sex).""

PEP is a course of anti-HIV medication. You must start the treatment as soon as possible after you’ve been exposed to HIV, ideally within a few hours. The medicines must be taken every day for four weeks.

PEP is unlikely to work if it’s started after 72 hours (three days) and it won’t usually be prescribed after this time.

PEP makes infection with HIV less likely. However, it’s not a cure for HIV and it doesn’t work in all cases. Some strains of HIV aren't affected by the medicines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past I haven't been perfectly honest with them when I've been but now I'm just going to say everything. "

Please be honest, you won't shock them.. they've heard and seen it all! By holding information back you may miss out on a test or you might get wrong information.

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