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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We messaged a guy just stating that we are a straight to the point couple who are looking for a guy who can accommodate, would like an mfm and if they're interested, just get in touch and we'll send some ideas on possible dates.
With Christmas, we didn't expect an immediate reply and sure enough, 5 days or so later, we got an informative detailed message back -
"Sorry, just got back. Hello to you both."
Unless we're unique in message expectations, we rarely speak to people that kind of know what to say, what they expect the other party may want to know. It seems very obvious to us, but often, people just do one liners.
Here's an example, distance. We are always the ones that has to mention and cover distance first. It's great talking about meets, we're interested etc.. but were you planning to travel through, would you suggest meeting half way etc..
So it's a case of reading and understanding their profile; what they wrote and in the tick boxes (accommodating etc..)
We long to get a, "Hi, I'm Dave and after checking and liking your profile, I thought that I'd drop you a message just to say I'm in your area due to wotrk and will be stopping in a hotel at the end of January. I know you prefer meeting guys at theirs but with the distance involved, I thought I would just say hi and mention a possible meet if you check out my profile and like what you see. Thanks, Dave".
That tells us that he's polite, he has read our profile about accommodating, he's aware of distance and that we need a few weeks notice. He's actually thought through how the meet would be possible.
Not, "Hi, like your pofile, fancy meeting?". |
