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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking for advice please.

I'm still yet to have a meet from here but I'm talking to a really nice couple who I hope will be my first but when/How do I bring up the subject of meeting up?

We've only started talking since this morning and exchanged 2 or 3 messages. I don't wanna jump the gun but I am eager to get the ball rolling

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't be too eager as it may come across as pushy, just chat to them normally ask their likes dislikes etc. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't be too eager as it may come across as pushy, just chat to them normally ask their likes dislikes etc. Good luck x"

Yeah you're right of course.

I think maybe the right question for me to have asked would be. How long should I leave it before asking or how soon is too soon to bring it up?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Don't be too eager as it may come across as pushy, just chat to them normally ask their likes dislikes etc. Good luck x

Yeah you're right of course.

I think maybe the right question for me to have asked would be. How long should I leave it before asking or how soon is too soon to bring it up?"

I would perhaps wait until they do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time, chat and get to know them a little.

However, some couples may like you to say 'let me come and fuck with you'.

Try and be guided by what their profile says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They will ask you if they want to meet up..just wait for that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys. Much appreciated

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Offer a social?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Offer a social?"

Yeah I think that'll be the safest option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the right time depends on the messages and their profile. There are some couples who like there to be a connection, others who don't want to spend time on that if you tick their boxes. Be lead by that.

If the 2 or 3 you've swapped are general small talk it would be too soon for us but if they've been detailed chats about what you're all looking for, swapping face pics and establishing that you're into the same thing there's no harm in saying you'd be interested in meeting them.

I wouldn't sit around waiting for them to suggest it, our experience is that there are a lot of people on here who talk a great game but don't actually meet. Someone who chats a lot but never mentions meeting would make me wonder.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm going to buck the trend here. You want to meet them, presumably they are here to arrange meets unless their profile says otherwise. I suggest you say that although you're not being pushy and you don't expect them to drop everything you would like to meet them at some point. Do they feel the same?

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always get the small talk out of the way then ask straight, what sort of things are you into.

Two things happen at this point, the person goes away.

or they tell us, we carry on talking and a meet gets organised.

Go with your gut instinct and see what happens mate.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Go with your gut feeling OP, but suggesting a social meet first is probably a good call.

If you’re looking for meets (& potentially veris) there are a lot of clubs within rasonable reach of Bradford, so this might also be an option to consider for a later date?

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice, it's been a massive help.

I'll let you all know how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for your advice, it's been a massive help.

I'll let you all know how it goes "

Good luck mate!

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