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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

HI i am a decent genuine guy and have messaged lots of ladies and couples with long detailed messages but never seem to get a reply and i am getting to the point that its a waste of time me even trying any more the thing is if they meet me would see what a nice gut i am so any advice would be welcome or is it time to call it a day

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By *ubik cubeMan
over a year ago

Near Liverpool

You have my sympathy as I'm in the same boat pal. Us genuine guys don't get a chance of a look in. Anyway whilst we play our violins the search must continue and eventually we will find a genuine profile that is worthy of our time and effort. But think on it's not about getting your leg over but the kick of satisfaction of the kink that goes with swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TBH it can be hard going for a guy on here. Skim through past forum threads as there’s advice on what you can do as well as straight to the point opinions too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen, I respect people have their tastes but seems unlikely that most of the site doesn't share

But got to stick to it and see.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Talk about catch 22 cannot get verified with out a meet and cant get a meet with =out being verified i used to come on thinking i will meet some one but now know never going to happen as it seems a closed circle and new people stand no chance may sound bitter but i live in the real world love love to be proved wrong but i am not holding my Breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bear in mind that most women will look at your profile before your message.If there isn't really anything on it, it doesnt matter what your message is like, it may not even get read..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang your condoms up dude.

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

You'd expecting the verification to come to you. Instead get out to a social or a club or even get on cam and get verified that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it with a pinch of salt. If you start letting it get to you and start feeling negative about the site, you'll project it subconsciously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

still in packet be out of date lol

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It may sound harsh, but there is nothing about your profile that would make me want to reply to your message. It consists of a pair of legs and 2 sentences. Women often look at a profile before they read a message & if no effort has gone into it, the message gets deleted.

I’m not sure of the exact figures, but there are dozens of men to every one woman on Fab & single females & even some couples get 100+ messages a day. Lengthy messages aren’t going to get read, it’s easier to glance at a profile to see if it grabs your attention. If it doesn’t, you move on.

Your profile is your stage to make yourself interesting, to stand out from the other thousands of men on here. If you put no effort into that then it comes across as lazy. If you can’t make an effort on your profile, you’re either expecting sex to fall into your lap because you’re here or maybe you would put as little effort into sex as you did building your profile.

Your profile is instantly forgettable.

Now I’m sure that you’re not lazy & not just expecting women to come running or would be the kind of guy to put no effort in during sex ... but that’s how you’re coming across & that’s why no one is replying to you.

You need a few more photos - be creative, a shower or bath shot, cheeky butt shot, half open shirt, nice pair of boxers, torso, make one black & white maybe ... do a search for threads on profile advice (there are literally hundreds of threads on here that do that) and look at the profiles of some of the guys commenting, as they are usually the guys with the good profiles! Get some tips from them!

Your write up needs to be more than 2 sentences. In the short time it’s taken to write this, I’ve actually forgotten what it said, so it’s not memorable, other than the fact it’s brief. Who are you, what made you join Fab, what do you like, what are you looking for, what does a girl get out of meeting you, what sort of person are you ... again, take some inspiration from other single male profiles.

Lastly, get some veris. It’s not about whether you’ve got a 10” dick or can bang like a barn door in a gale; it’s about knowing you’re genuine & not a time waster or even an axe wielding psychopath!! Get to some socials or clubs in your area and get some face to face verifications.

Like I said, I don’t mean to be harsh - and please feel free to disregard it, but due to the volume of you, men do have an uphill battle. Definitely search for other threads though, there’s some great advice out there. Mainly though, be yourself - don’t try & be someone you’re not, just make sure we can see who you are (other than 2 legs & 2 sentences!!)

Good luck!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

What she said ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like this is your first post in forum unless you have been on before with a different profile.

To answer your question:

Yes, but if you call it a day you won't stand a chance...

Hope the following helps:

You're in the North... there are many well organised, welcoming Fab socials. Full of likeminded friendly fabbers and they can't wait to mix and mingle with you.

Look forward to 2018. Interact with people in the forums if you can. Introduce yourself.

Please note messaging is only one option and not the only option to interact with people you want to meet on here. Give yourself a real chance and time first, only then will others start to take notice.

Never give up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would lobe a Social amd have put on my status many a time but no luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would lobe a Social amd have put on my status many a time but no luck "

as a few women have already said, it's a profile you need, not luck!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I would lobe a Social amd have put on my status many a time but no luck

as a few women have already said, it's a profile you need, not luck!"

If you’re waiting to be invited to a social, you’ll be waiting a long time. It’s up to you to sort one out or simply go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you so much i did not know about these events

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"It may sound harsh, but there is nothing about your profile that would make me want to reply to your message. It consists of a pair of legs and 2 sentences. Women often look at a profile before they read a message & if no effort has gone into it, the message gets deleted.

I’m not sure of the exact figures, but there are dozens of men to every one woman on Fab & single females & even some couples get 100+ messages a day. Lengthy messages aren’t going to get read, it’s easier to glance at a profile to see if it grabs your attention. If it doesn’t, you move on.

Your profile is your stage to make yourself interesting, to stand out from the other thousands of men on here. If you put no effort into that then it comes across as lazy. If you can’t make an effort on your profile, you’re either expecting sex to fall into your lap because you’re here or maybe you would put as little effort into sex as you did building your profile.

Your profile is instantly forgettable.

Now I’m sure that you’re not lazy & not just expecting women to come running or would be the kind of guy to put no effort in during sex ... but that’s how you’re coming across & that’s why no one is replying to you.

You need a few more photos - be creative, a shower or bath shot, cheeky butt shot, half open shirt, nice pair of boxers, torso, make one black & white maybe ... do a search for threads on profile advice (there are literally hundreds of threads on here that do that) and look at the profiles of some of the guys commenting, as they are usually the guys with the good profiles! Get some tips from them!

Your write up needs to be more than 2 sentences. In the short time it’s taken to write this, I’ve actually forgotten what it said, so it’s not memorable, other than the fact it’s brief. Who are you, what made you join Fab, what do you like, what are you looking for, what does a girl get out of meeting you, what sort of person are you ... again, take some inspiration from other single male profiles.

Lastly, get some veris. It’s not about whether you’ve got a 10” dick or can bang like a barn door in a gale; it’s about knowing you’re genuine & not a time waster or even an axe wielding psychopath!! Get to some socials or clubs in your area and get some face to face verifications.

Like I said, I don’t mean to be harsh - and please feel free to disregard it, but due to the volume of you, men do have an uphill battle. Definitely search for other threads though, there’s some great advice out there. Mainly though, be yourself - don’t try & be someone you’re not, just make sure we can see who you are (other than 2 legs & 2 sentences!!)

Good luck! "

Greart advice

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"HI i am a decent genuine guy and have messaged lots of ladies and couples with long detailed messages but never seem to get a reply and i am getting to the point that its a waste of time me even trying any more the thing is if they meet me would see what a nice gut i am so any advice would be welcome or is it time to call it a day "

Before opening a message a lot of people have said they first look at your profile. If you have a profile that interests them they will then open your email. So first make sure your profile is intersesting.

Make sure your message is tailored to the people you are emailing. Don't send a generic cut and paste message. Don't send one liners.

Most of all remember there are thousands if not tens of thousands of single men on Fab. Women and couples have plent of choice when it comes to single men. You have to make yourself stand out from all the other singlemen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you so much i did not know about these events "

Have a look at the UK forum, Meet Requests and Parties forum. You will find upcoming social threads for Newcastle, Durham and many others.

All the best and Happy New Year.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Profile profile profile

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Morticia was kind enough to write you a very detailed response full of useful advice.

You might want to acknowledge that

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Morticia75 .... well said .

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"bear in mind that most women will look at your profile before your message.If there isn't really anything on it, it doesnt matter what your message is like, it may not even get read.."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think your public pic sells you well ?

Loud boxers (or shorts) and a pair of white skinny legs both framed by what appear to be grandmas curtains

You could write an epic profile and I still think 90% of women would struggle to see past that pic.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Talk about catch 22 cannot get verified with out a meet and cant get a meet with =out being verified i used to come on thinking i will meet some one but now know never going to happen as it seems a closed circle and new people stand no chance may sound bitter but i live in the real world love love to be proved wrong but i am not holding my Breath "

May I also add this is a recreational, mutually enjoyable pastime, not a service.

Once you get your head around the fact you're not entitled to sex with anyone just because you've logged onto the site the happier you'll be.

If you thought by virtue of signing up to Fab you'd be balls deep in pussy without any effort...and let's be honest, zero effort was put into your profile.

You are on a site competing with 6ft plus, chiseled jawed, hung like pit ponies, fit as fuck men. They struggle with no effort...you have to work with what you have, but make an effort you must.

Not everyone cares about verification. The opinion of a total stranger to decide whether I meet another total stranger is ludicrous to me so don't get hung up on them just relax and engage with people.

Ending on a positive: there really is someone for everyone. I'm old and fat but managed to meet my partner here. He's 6ft 1, fit as fuck and looks like Jason Statham...four years and still going strong.

Good luck!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It may sound harsh, but there is nothing about your profile that would make me want to reply to your message. It consists of a pair of legs and 2 sentences. Women often look at a profile before they read a message & if no effort has gone into it, the message gets deleted.

I’m not sure of the exact figures, but there are dozens of men to every one woman on Fab & single females & even some couples get 100+ messages a day. Lengthy messages aren’t going to get read, it’s easier to glance at a profile to see if it grabs your attention. If it doesn’t, you move on.

Your profile is your stage to make yourself interesting, to stand out from the other thousands of men on here. If you put no effort into that then it comes across as lazy. If you can’t make an effort on your profile, you’re either expecting sex to fall into your lap because you’re here or maybe you would put as little effort into sex as you did building your profile.

Your profile is instantly forgettable.

Now I’m sure that you’re not lazy & not just expecting women to come running or would be the kind of guy to put no effort in during sex ... but that’s how you’re coming across & that’s why no one is replying to you.

You need a few more photos - be creative, a shower or bath shot, cheeky butt shot, half open shirt, nice pair of boxers, torso, make one black & white maybe ... do a search for threads on profile advice (there are literally hundreds of threads on here that do that) and look at the profiles of some of the guys commenting, as they are usually the guys with the good profiles! Get some tips from them!

Your write up needs to be more than 2 sentences. In the short time it’s taken to write this, I’ve actually forgotten what it said, so it’s not memorable, other than the fact it’s brief. Who are you, what made you join Fab, what do you like, what are you looking for, what does a girl get out of meeting you, what sort of person are you ... again, take some inspiration from other single male profiles.

Lastly, get some veris. It’s not about whether you’ve got a 10” dick or can bang like a barn door in a gale; it’s about knowing you’re genuine & not a time waster or even an axe wielding psychopath!! Get to some socials or clubs in your area and get some face to face verifications.

Like I said, I don’t mean to be harsh - and please feel free to disregard it, but due to the volume of you, men do have an uphill battle. Definitely search for other threads though, there’s some great advice out there. Mainly though, be yourself - don’t try & be someone you’re not, just make sure we can see who you are (other than 2 legs & 2 sentences!!)

Good luck! "

Damn...could have saved myself some typing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course a genuine guy stands a chance but the more you say 'im genuine ' the less believable it is

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve met some lovely people on here so it is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all you “genuine” guys are getting “nowhere”.... then who is it that’s getting all the action? Because some of us are....

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"I’ve met some lovely people on here so it is possible. "
but are you genuine ?

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By *llie_worcMan
over a year ago

bristol

I met my girl on here and she's still here but sometimes shows me some of the wierder messages. She's got no pics, can't travel or Accom and has always got more than 200 unread messages despite clearing them down regularly. You need to shine out of that lot

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

There are 3 ways that a single guy can massively improve his chances of being successful in swinging, as well as picking up a few veries along the way.

1/ Go to socials.

2/ Go to socials.

3/ Go....seriously, haven't you got the message yet lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's genuine and why is being genuine stopping you getting meets?

Is the implication that men that do well on here are liars or players? That's pretty disrespectful to many single men on here. Amd to the women amd couples that meet them

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Talk about catch 22 cannot get verified with out a meet and cant get a meet with =out being verified i used to come on thinking i will meet some one but now know never going to happen as it seems a closed circle and new people stand no chance may sound bitter but i live in the real world love love to be proved wrong but i am not holding my Breath "

You can get cam verified so you can verify someone else.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"bear in mind that most women will look at your profile before your message.If there isn't really anything on it, it doesnt matter what your message is like, it may not even get read.."

Exactly this.

We always check the profile before reading the message. If we like the profile THEN we read the message. If the profile doesn't work for us we simply delete the message.

It sounds harsh, but for couples and women this can be the only way of staying on top if things and not encouraging the occasional nutters who can't take rejection.

So the secret is to make sure your profile is up to scratch. It's more important than the messages you send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi dude my advice is bulk ur profile out with info check out my profile if u wanna borrow any ideas and it took me a long time to get verified so i feel ur pain bud, the other thing to do is find a club near u and arrange to go visit that and try and talk to lots of people and if ur a nice guy they will verify u it worked for me and i now get replies and messages even though im not the slimmest guy or the best looking, hope this helps good luck in the crazy world of fab

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle


"You have my sympathy as I'm in the same boat pal. Us genuine guys don't get a chance of a look in. Anyway whilst we play our violins the search must continue and eventually we will find a genuine profile that is worthy of our time and effort. But think on it's not about getting your leg over but the kick of satisfaction of the kink that goes with swinging!"

Don’t quite know what boat you’re in but with 10 vefications in your belt it’s clearly not the same one the Op is in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is fellas you fire off a few messages ad expect every woman on here to reply . fancy you and pay you compliments.

Think of this as a huge packed pub .you walk in and on your way to the bar you wink at a few chat to a few (maybe but doubt it)drink your drink and leave .

Well that's what your doing here untill you log on again .

You only get out what you put in and that means a good few hours everyday constantly throughout the year .

Winking . Hotlisting. Forums even tge club section reading the reviews and checking if anyone you may want to contact has posted there..

People aren't going to contact you .you have to contact them .and if it's one reply out of 50 then that's how it is . Of its one meet out of 500 messages sent that's how it is .

But if you only put 25% of your time and effort it how can you expect to meet a friend ....

Posting messages wingeing or asking advice ??? Looks very needy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use tinder for meeting 99% of the women I meet up with its way easier than fab with a decent ratio of men to women and because it's a dating site people are not reliant on a profile or messeges every one just meets up for a drink and see if you hit it of. I do how ever like fab for other reasons.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Decent or not. Genuine or not. What ever or what ever not. Every guy stands a chance on here. It’s honestly not that hard. Scrap the cock pics I say (If you/others have any) you don’t walk up to a girl in a bar with your cock out do you.

You honestly quite simply have to talk to a woman. If you can’t stimulate their mind and spark a general interest then there’s no chance. Yes it’s a sex site but it’s not Tesco’s, you don’t just pick a woman off he shelf and take her home.

Read a woman’s profile. Make conversation. Be interested. Listen. Don’t over do it though, just be normal. Be yourself.

Honestly it really isn’t that hard. It baffles me why some struggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself.

Don't change your profile to suit others, change it to sell yourself better.

Read all the profile advice posts, they are a daily occurence.

Stop it with the "I'm genuine". Anyone can say they are, far fewer can prove it.

Stop trying too hard, no one wants to hand out pity fucks. People want to enjoy being with someone. Work on your good points and sell yourself.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

From your status I don't think you get yhe concept of a social. Big organised social are events you go to meet people. You have to have a lady to go with. Deep breath and go alone.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"From your status I don't think you get yhe concept of a social. Big organised social are events you go to meet people. You have to have a lady to go with. Deep breath and go alone."

You don’t need a plus one to attend an organised social.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle


"Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones! "

You have no pictures on your profile & wonder why you have no success, if the A’holes really do get all the luck on here, you know the expression if you can’t beat em....

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I’ve met some lovely people on here so it is possible. but are you genuine ? "

If you speak to those that have verified me they will tell you I am.

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By *ig Dave 1974Man
over a year ago

Warrington


"It may sound harsh, but there is nothing about your profile that would make me want to reply to your message. It consists of a pair of legs and 2 sentences. Women often look at a profile before they read a message & if no effort has gone into it, the message gets deleted.

I’m not sure of the exact figures, but there are dozens of men to every one woman on Fab & single females & even some couples get 100+ messages a day. Lengthy messages aren’t going to get read, it’s easier to glance at a profile to see if it grabs your attention. If it doesn’t, you move on.

Your profile is your stage to make yourself interesting, to stand out from the other thousands of men on here. If you put no effort into that then it comes across as lazy. If you can’t make an effort on your profile, you’re either expecting sex to fall into your lap because you’re here or maybe you would put as little effort into sex as you did building your profile.

Your profile is instantly forgettable.

Now I’m sure that you’re not lazy & not just expecting women to come running or would be the kind of guy to put no effort in during sex ... but that’s how you’re coming across & that’s why no one is replying to you.

You need a few more photos - be creative, a shower or bath shot, cheeky butt shot, half open shirt, nice pair of boxers, torso, make one black & white maybe ... do a search for threads on profile advice (there are literally hundreds of threads on here that do that) and look at the profiles of some of the guys commenting, as they are usually the guys with the good profiles! Get some tips from them!

Your write up needs to be more than 2 sentences. In the short time it’s taken to write this, I’ve actually forgotten what it said, so it’s not memorable, other than the fact it’s brief. Who are you, what made you join Fab, what do you like, what are you looking for, what does a girl get out of meeting you, what sort of person are you ... again, take some inspiration from other single male profiles.

Lastly, get some veris. It’s not about whether you’ve got a 10” dick or can bang like a barn door in a gale; it’s about knowing you’re genuine & not a time waster or even an axe wielding psychopath!! Get to some socials or clubs in your area and get some face to face verifications.

Like I said, I don’t mean to be harsh - and please feel free to disregard it, but due to the volume of you, men do have an uphill battle. Definitely search for other threads though, there’s some great advice out there. Mainly though, be yourself - don’t try & be someone you’re not, just make sure we can see who you are (other than 2 legs & 2 sentences!!)

Good luck! "

That's you told

Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a genuine man? Are there lots of fake men about then......... shame on you women who are pretending to be men!! XXX

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By *hil_SW19Man
over a year ago

Raynes Park

It's all about timing as many women get 1000s of messages as soon as they join.

Have a good profile

Post of forums

Go in the chat room

If people see you then you will be in with a good chance.

But remember fa bs is not a 1:1 site

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Decent or not. Genuine or not. What ever or what ever not. Every guy stands a chance on here. It’s honestly not that hard. Scrap the cock pics I say (If you/others have any) you don’t walk up to a girl in a bar with your cock out do you. "

A million percent this!!!

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

There has been some sound advice given to the OP and if he acts on it he can have lots of fun on here.That said I slightly disagree with the emphasis on his profile as I’ve met many people with pretty basic profiles but have lots of meets beceause they attend clubs and organised socials.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

if i was looking for a service provider i would join Adultwork i joined hoping to meet new people and make friends.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Socials

Clubs

Join in with forums and chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think your public pic sells you well ?

Loud boxers (or shorts) and a pair of white skinny legs both framed by what appear to be grandmas curtains

You could write an epic profile and I still think 90% of women would struggle to see past that pic.

"

Pretty much sums up what I was going to say, you could be Jason Momoa and with that pic I would give you a second glance. Don't take this the wrong way but those shorts, that couch and those curtains..... Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it any consolation it's difficult being a woman on here trying to meet single women as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if i was looking for a service provider i would join Adultwork i joined hoping to meet new people and make friends."

and if you actually bothered to take any of the advice you've been given , that might actually happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you after sympathy sex or are you trying to tell us your different from the other 6744463463467753467884447788 men on here that say the same things as you have said in this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't bring this discussion into my inbox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry hope you have a good new year

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No i am not after that all i joined here for more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones! "

How does a successful guy ruin it for anyone....?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi i have and rewrote my profile text and am going to take a few more pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No i am not after that all i joined here for more than that "

You are a proper upbeat bundle of joy arnt you lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"if i was looking for a service provider i would join Adultwork i joined hoping to meet new people and make friends."

see... that to me screams all the advice you were given went straight in one ear and out the other...

okay... think of it like this...

look at the profiles of the people who have taken time out to try and help you...

look at yours....

"would you answer your own profile... hand on heart? really????"

there are clubs across the north east... get to them!

there are various social events across the north east... put your name down for them and get to them!!!!

sometimes you have to help yourself "help yourself"!

are you doing that at the moment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HI i am a decent genuine guy and have messaged lots of ladies and couples with long detailed messages but never seem to get a reply and i am getting to the point that its a waste of time me even trying any more the thing is if they meet me would see what a nice gut i am so any advice would be welcome or is it time to call it a day "

When you say detailed messages, most of the long ones I get (about once a year) are like the script for a porn scene. At the best of times I hate to be told what to wear, what to do, etc. I like spontaneity until I get to know soneone, if I know what is going to happen before you arrive I can do it quite well without you! Nice legs by the way, I have several face pics, what are you hiding from? Maybe the wife/girlfriend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Single gys can do very well on here. There are a lot of pieces of advice om here. It can take a while to build up "Momentum" too.

Things are stacked against your favour but with that comes opportunities.

Things against you

You are male

1)They are 10 a penny

2)A lot of males have no idea

3)A lot of males have no idea about women

4)A lot of profile are not very good

So what does this mean for you

1)If everyone is same old same old, be a bit different. with cool pics, a good write up.

2) Get an idea, we know women dont like pushy men but a lot are just so pushy. Learn how to have decent chat. Intelligent convo does wonders especially with a playful personality and banter (hate that word)

3) Network and socialise, go to parties, let people meet you. A 2d picture with a block of writing is not "you". You will go from a random random single guy to "we know him he is fun, come and join" type of guy.

4) Keep in contact with women you meet and stay friends. Go to clubs with them and parties.

Hope that helps a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi no mine are nothing like that as i am not a lewd guy

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Hi Single gys can do very well on here. There are a lot of pieces of advice om here. It can take a while to build up "Momentum" too.

Things are stacked against your favour but with that comes opportunities.

Things against you

You are male

1)They are 10 a penny

2)A lot of males have no idea

3)A lot of males have no idea about women

4)A lot of profile are not very good

So what does this mean for you

1)If everyone is same old same old, be a bit different. with cool pics, a good write up.

2) Get an idea, we know women dont like pushy men but a lot are just so pushy. Learn how to have decent chat. Intelligent convo does wonders especially with a playful personality and banter (hate that word)

3) Network and socialise, go to parties, let people meet you. A 2d picture with a block of writing is not "you". You will go from a random random single guy to "we know him he is fun, come and join" type of guy.

4) Keep in contact with women you meet and stay friends. Go to clubs with them and parties.

Hope that helps a little

"
. Lots of good advice there take it I know my profile and pictures are fairly basic but I have joined a club and I aim to attend some of the London social in 2018.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Go to clubs and socials. Make friends with people.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Oh, and be less whingy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never a truer word spoken mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems a bit odd to me that, despite asking for advice, you not only completely ignore it, but only seem to respond to posts from men, completely ignore most of the ones from women...apart from being plain rude, its a bit self defeating. strange approach if it's women you are trying to attract.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi Anna i really value all the help that the ladies have given me and have messaged them in private to say thanks i have rewrote my profile text and am going to add some better pictures x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to add that part of being a success on here is not demanding meets or replies to your messages. Nor spamming women demanding they block you. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did not demand a meet i simply sent you a nice polite message and said if i am not your sort please block x

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Does a genuine guy stand a chance

Yes they do.

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By *ancastermanMan
over a year ago

carnforth


"I did not demand a meet i simply sent you a nice polite message and said if i am not your sort please block x"

That in itself comes over as demanding, in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not at all the way i look at it if we are not suited its for the best

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By *ife to play withCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Yes.

We on occasions will meet up with a single guy.

We get lots of messages and usually answer most of them. But what really bugs us is that guys won't take a polite no thanks. This doesn't put us in a good frame of mind when other guys contact us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not at all the way i look at it if we are not suited its for the best "

To be fair it was quite a few messages and spamming nonsense. Thank you for the inbox. Apology accepted and appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus your profile pic is awful

Change it

Start dressed with maybe black and white filter. Signal class and sophistication.

Not a college boys sat in his duds eating custard cremes on the couch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i quite like a custard cream but as you say its crap and and going to change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to be 1 of the lucky ones then ... only advice I can give is be respectful and manners ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d like to add that part of being a success on here is not demanding meets or replies to your messages. Nor spamming women demanding they block you. Just saying. "

Ah so I wasn't the only one! Approximately 15 messages in 24 hours

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I’d like to add that part of being a success on here is not demanding meets or replies to your messages. Nor spamming women demanding they block you. Just saying.

Ah so I wasn't the only one! Approximately 15 messages in 24 hours"

Snap. Scattergun approach I think!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not at all i only message the lady who appeal to me and always take me time and put my heart into any message i send

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Not at all i only message the lady who appeal to me and always take me time and put my heart into any message i send "

Send one message, if they don't reply to that they're not interested and half a dozen more messages won't change that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HI i am a decent genuine guy and have messaged lots of ladies and couples with long detailed messages but never seem to get a reply and i am getting to the point that its a waste of time me even trying any more the thing is if they meet me would see what a nice gut i am so any advice would be welcome or is it time to call it a day "

If they don't fancy you, then no. Sorry but for so many people it's all about attraction. I wouldn't sleep with someone I didn't fancy. It's not about being shallow either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now, if those messages don't give you confidence in the fact there are some really genuine and nice people on Fab I don't know what will..x

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

Hampshire

Genuine guys do stand a chance on here.

I get knock backs all the time for various reasons. It could be age, height, can't accommodate, location etc...

And there's times where I just think this is all pointless, what am I doing here?

But then I just remind myself.

For every person/couple that does not want to meet me, there's always someone else who will.

Just gotta persevere and her yourself out there.

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

Here here mate someone that said what needs to be said.

There are way to many people on here that forget the one word.

FUN yes its not all about brownie points.

I have been here for 4 years and had one meeting and one drinks meeting in all that time.

People get message and think sod this and block delete.

So us nice guys never get a chance.

Because we got deleted before it even started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones! "
is that because the assholes are genuine assholes or really assholes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones! is that because the assholes are genuine assholes or really assholes "

All assholes are genuine assholes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones! is that because the assholes are genuine assholes or really assholes

All assholes are genuine assholes "
omg glad we cleared that up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones! is that because the assholes are genuine assholes or really assholes

All assholes are genuine assholes omg glad we cleared that up "

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

So many men here whinging lol and I noticed that most of the whingers have cannot accommodate, we all know how us females read that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do we know that assholes have more phun...has anyone here met one...or verified one...if so, were they worthy of the label that is the asshole..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do we know that assholes have more phun...has anyone here met one...or verified one...if so, were they worthy of the label that is the asshole..? "

I've met a few assholes in my time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot know what they want and are looking for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men here whinging lol and I noticed that most of the whingers have cannot accommodate, we all know how us females read that "

Yep married or can't afford hotel .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can accom x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men here whinging lol and I noticed that most of the whingers have cannot accommodate, we all know how us females read that

Yep married or can't afford hotel . "
I cant accom am single but can afford a hotel ,your theory smashed to smithers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men here whinging lol and I noticed that most of the whingers have cannot accommodate, we all know how us females read that

Yep married or can't afford hotel . I cant accom am single but can afford a hotel ,your theory smashed to smithers "

You live with mam and dad then .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men here whinging lol and I noticed that most of the whingers have cannot accommodate, we all know how us females read that

Yep married or can't afford hotel . I cant accom am single but can afford a hotel ,your theory smashed to smithers

You live with mam and dad then . "
nope well sometimes daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men here whinging lol and I noticed that most of the whingers have cannot accommodate, we all know how us females read that

Yep married or can't afford hotel . I cant accom am single but can afford a hotel ,your theory smashed to smithers

You live with mam and dad then . nope well sometimes daddy "

Ah cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men here whinging lol and I noticed that most of the whingers have cannot accommodate, we all know how us females read that

Yep married or can't afford hotel . I cant accom am single but can afford a hotel ,your theory smashed to smithers

You live with mam and dad then . nope well sometimes daddy

Ah cute "
yea right but I am

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"How do we know that assholes have more phun...has anyone here met one...or verified one...if so, were they worthy of the label that is the asshole..?

I've met a few assholes in my time "

Oh so have I! And some just don't give up, even though they have been found to be an arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a rebel yell she cried more more more .......more more more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a rebel yell she cried more more more .......more more more "

In the midnight hour, more more more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just chat shit with people rather than expecting anything, the genuine ones will let you know if they fancy a drink or more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a rebel yell she cried more more more .......more more more

In the midnight hour, more more more!"
in the midnight hour a new year awaits x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just chat shit with people rather than expecting anything, the genuine ones will let you know if they fancy a drink or more."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a rebel yell she cried more more more .......more more more

In the midnight hour, more more more!in the midnight hour a new year awaits x "

Happy new year to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a rebel yell she cried more more more .......more more more

In the midnight hour, more more more!in the midnight hour a new year awaits x

Happy new year to you x"
and you x

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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago

Newport

Had a look, your profile needs to be like your C.V. If your C.V. was written like that would you honestly be complaining that you never got the job.

Ours is quite blunt because we get lots of idiots messaging but also have met lots of very nice people.

There is no paragraphs, just non stop blurb. It's really hard to read, know one is expecting and English essay (dam I failed English) but some grammar is needed.

If your messages are written with non stop blurb then for sure it will get deleted with no reply.

Profile picture needs a little effort as mentioned in the above advice from the others posting.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

No chance on here mate. The women only go for lairs and cheaters. (it's a bad boy thing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No chance on here mate. The women only go for lairs and cheaters. (it's a bad boy thing)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No chance on here mate. The women only go for lairs and cheaters. (it's a bad boy thing)"

pardon my french, but that's bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tall honest handsome hairy chest men maybe

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

The patterns on your shorts, sofa and curtains all clash and maybe try some Punctuation.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I hate it when men describe themselves as "nice guys" or "genuine"

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle


"No chance on here mate. The women only go for lairs and cheaters. (it's a bad boy thing)"

How wrong of us to presume you had no verifications, presumably with 31 verifications you are putting yourself in this category LOL.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What actually is a genuine guy ?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Never trust someone who says they are genuine,if they were they wouldn't need to say it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never trust someone who says they are genuine,if they were they wouldn't need to say it! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't understand what you mean by genuine? As opposed to blokes who aren't genuine who get all the girls...??

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Never trust someone who says they are genuine,if they were they wouldn't need to say it! "

I say I am genuine - and my 97 veris kinda day that also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What actually is a genuine guy ? "

Probably a one that says who he is on his profile; his age, accommodation status etc... Someone that doesn't lie, would attend a meet and not be a time waster. Also a guy that doesn't hide behind a couples account.

That type of genuine guy.

Not many on here tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never trust someone who says they are genuine,if they were they wouldn't need to say it! "

I'm not genuine. Wanna fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What actually is a genuine guy ?

Probably a one that says who he is on his profile; his age, accommodation status etc... Someone that doesn't lie, would attend a meet and not be a time waster. Also a guy that doesn't hide behind a couples account.

That type of genuine guy.

Not many on here tbh."
Well every guy will be a genuine guy till find out he ain't

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Here here mate someone that said what needs to be said.

There are way to many people on here that forget the one word.

FUN yes its not all about brownie points.

I have been here for 4 years and had one meeting and one drinks meeting in all that time.

People get message and think sod this and block delete.

So us nice guys never get a chance.

Because we got deleted before it even started "

Your profile has no effort in it. All I can tell is that you’re tall, you have an ear & a dick. Other than that, I don’t know anything about you - so no, you’re not likely to get much of a response for exactly the same reasons as the OP!!

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"What actually is a genuine guy ? "

I suppose that is the 64,000 dollar question.

Here goes.

Single guy who says exactly what he is and wants = genuine single guy.

Married guy who says exactly what he is and wants = genuine married and cheating guy.

Married guy who sets up a couples profile in the forlorn hope that he (or someone else on his behalf) might convince his Mrs to join in = second class dickhead, but a genuine one.

Single guy who sets up a couples profile so he can lurk around the chat rooms using every excuse in the world as to why his Mrs isn't there just to get some cam fun = fist class dickhead, but a genuine one.

Now can I have my 64,000 dollars please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes however you have to be patient & never hassle or pester anybody to meet . Ou have to prove you are genuine because everybody says they are lol. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes however you have to be patient & never hassle or pester anybody to meet . Ou have to prove you are genuine because everybody says they are lol. Best of luck "

*you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's face it some people say pic only but have none on their profile. Go to parties and socials and you will be on to a winner..probably won't get many online meets..too many fakes on here..just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What actually is a genuine guy ?

I suppose that is the 64,000 dollar question.

Here goes.

Single guy who says exactly what he is and wants = genuine single guy.

Married guy who says exactly what he is and wants = genuine married and cheating guy.

Married guy who sets up a couples profile in the forlorn hope that he (or someone else on his behalf) might convince his Mrs to join in = second class dickhead, but a genuine one.

Single guy who sets up a couples profile so he can lurk around the chat rooms using every excuse in the world as to why his Mrs isn't there just to get some cam fun = fist class dickhead, but a genuine one.

Now can I have my 64,000 dollars please. "

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Never trust someone who says they are genuine,if they were they wouldn't need to say it!

I say I am genuine - and my 97 veris kinda day that also "

97 fake veris eh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have redone my profile text and next getting some better pics please can you give me a honest opinion as i have valued all your help and advice so far cheers

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"I have redone my profile text and next getting some better pics please can you give me a honest opinion as i have valued all your help and advice so far cheers "

What's your age?????

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow


"HI i am a decent genuine guy and have messaged lots of ladies and couples with long detailed messages but never seem to get a reply and i am getting to the point that its a waste of time me even trying any more the thing is if they meet me would see what a nice gut i am so any advice would be welcome or is it time to call it a day "

Know the feeling mate.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Genuine guys don't lie about their age.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have redone my profile text and next getting some better pics please can you give me a honest opinion as i have valued all your help and advice so far cheers "

Try breaking it up into paragraphs and amend your age.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK will do thanks for the advice

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Genuine guys don't. But the arseholes seem to have much more success which subsequently ruin it for the genuine ones! "

Nobody ruins it for anyone else, you make your own luck on here.

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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago

Newport

That looks much better, so much easier to read.

Play with taking a few pics and try playing with editing them, like black and white, vintage etc and use that as your profile pic.

Search for social meets in your area and also clubs as that's going to be your key. Don't be the person who just gorps into there pint, wander, eye contact with a smile and simple hi how are you at the bar.

But yes profile looks much better.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Absolutely. An honest, decent man will be more successful in the longer term, compared to if he had taken a different path.

Fab just isn't an easy place for single men generally and the grass isn't potentially any greener for the other people, just because you may assume that it is.

You can only do your best to optimise your results and determine your own levels of investment that you are willing to bear. With choices over where you meet others in real life, fab, clubs etc, then it becomes a personal decision that we each must take upon our own strategy. Just as businesses launch many more products than they will succeed with, there are review points where products are upgraded, repositioned, marketed differently and withdrawn. It's wise to follow similarly.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"What actually is a genuine guy ?

Probably a one that says who he is on his profile; his age, accommodation status etc... Someone that doesn't lie, would attend a meet and not be a time waster. Also a guy that doesn't hide behind a couples account.

That type of genuine guy.

Not many on here tbh."

Nope, not a one I'm betting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a virtue, don't give up.

Good luck OP

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By *ye of the beholder117Man
over a year ago

Westcliff

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By *ye of the beholder117Man
over a year ago

Westcliff


"It may sound harsh, but there is nothing about your profile that would make me want to reply to your message. It consists of a pair of legs and 2 sentences. Women often look at a profile before they read a message & if no effort has gone into it, the message gets deleted.

I’m not sure of the exact figures, but there are dozens of men to every one woman on Fab & single females & even some couples get 100+ messages a day. Lengthy messages aren’t going to get read, it’s easier to glance at a profile to see if it grabs your attention. If it doesn’t, you move on.

Your profile is your stage to make yourself interesting, to stand out from the other thousands of men on here. If you put no effort into that then it comes across as lazy. If you can’t make an effort on your profile, you’re either expecting sex to fall into your lap because you’re here or maybe you would put as little effort into sex as you did building your profile.

Your profile is instantly forgettable.

Now I’m sure that you’re not lazy & not just expecting women to come running or would be the kind of guy to put no effort in during sex ... but that’s how you’re coming across & that’s why no one is replying to you.

You need a few more photos - be creative, a shower or bath shot, cheeky butt shot, half open shirt, nice pair of boxers, torso, make one black & white maybe ... do a search for threads on profile advice (there are literally hundreds of threads on here that do that) and look at the profiles of some of the guys commenting, as they are usually the guys with the good profiles! Get some tips from them!

Your write up needs to be more than 2 sentences. In the short time it’s taken to write this, I’ve actually forgotten what it said, so it’s not memorable, other than the fact it’s brief. Who are you, what made you join Fab, what do you like, what are you looking for, what does a girl get out of meeting you, what sort of person are you ... again, take some inspiration from other single male profiles.

Lastly, get some veris. It’s not about whether you’ve got a 10” dick or can bang like a barn door in a gale; it’s about knowing you’re genuine & not a time waster or even an axe wielding psychopath!! Get to some socials or clubs in your area and get some face to face verifications.

Like I said, I don’t mean to be harsh - and please feel free to disregard it, but due to the volume of you, men do have an uphill battle. Definitely search for other threads though, there’s some great advice out there. Mainly though, be yourself - don’t try & be someone you’re not, just make sure we can see who you are (other than 2 legs & 2 sentences!!)

Good luck! "

MORTICA 76 Best answer out there

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"You have my sympathy as I'm in the same boat pal. Us genuine guys don't get a chance of a look in. Anyway whilst we play our violins the search must continue and eventually we will find a genuine profile that is worthy of our time and effort. But think on it's not about getting your leg over but the kick of satisfaction of the kink that goes with swinging!"

So it's only non genuine guys that mostly get meets? . Maybe i'm not as genuine as i thought then.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Patience is a virtue, don't give up.

Good luck OP"

5 months without any sex takes a hell of lot more than patience and virtue lol. Good luck though. Try search option and look for what you actually want

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Like I said, I don’t mean to be harsh - and please feel free to disregard it, but due to the volume of you, men do have an uphill battle. Definitely search for other threads though, there’s some great advice out there. Mainly though, be yourself - don’t try & be someone you’re not, just make sure we can see who you are (other than 2 legs & 2 sentences!!)

Good luck!

MORTICA 76 Best answer out there"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a genuine twat

I kid I kid

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