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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, been on this site a number of times over the years and never had any luck. I think it’s high time I asked for advice because it’s been two and a half years without so much as a kiss from a lovely lady and I’m fairly sure my virginity has grown back.

Could I please get some advice about message etiquette and profile improvements. Oh, and be nice and gentle please.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You need to flesh your profile out a bit. It basically says "I haven't had sex for a while. Message me"

If you were a woman would that prompt you to message?

Miss out the bit about abstinence. Write a little about yourself, what you like in terms of sex and what you can offer in return.

Good luck!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

A few more public pictures would help as there isn't much to go on at the moment. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 a penny profile. Do a forum search as there's at least one of these threads daily. Set your stall out and try be a little unique. If you've been here a few times and had no joy maybe FAB ain't for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you need to show a face pic in my opinion... and i realise I'm saying that with no face pics but you say you have always had no luck here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the advice and tips. I've tried playing around with my profile text but I honestly never know what to say in them. I always end up sounding so generic and lame in my opinion, and it seems some of you agree...

I will put a face pic I guess, would just rather not have another moment when I find out I work with someone on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the advice and tips. I've tried playing around with my profile text but I honestly never know what to say in them. I always end up sounding so generic and lame in my opinion, and it seems some of you agree...

I will put a face pic I guess, would just rather not have another moment when I find out I work with someone on this site."

Why do people say this about knowing others on the site. They are not likely to "out" you as they are here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 and half years lol

try pof tinder sure u can do much better out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That you can't accommodate is going to put a lot of people off. While there are certainly valid reasons - without an explanation, people are likely to assume you are cheating.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Looks much better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the advice and tips. I've tried playing around with my profile text but I honestly never know what to say in them. I always end up sounding so generic and lame in my opinion, and it seems some of you agree...

I will put a face pic I guess, would just rather not have another moment when I find out I work with someone on this site.

Why do people say this about knowing others on the site. They are not likely to "out" you as they are here too "

They did out* (typo first time) me though, which is why I voiced my concern but I do appreciate what you’re saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That you can't accommodate is going to put a lot of people off. While there are certainly valid reasons - without an explanation, people are likely to assume you are cheating."

Understood, and I potentially could but I live with a friend from work and his partner and toddler so it’s a bit difficult. Is that worth putting on my profile? Thanks for the tip though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looks much better "
Thank you got the kind words, and to all of the advice so far. Any more suggestions for improvement are welcomed.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Keep experimenting with your profile and also take a look at a lot of different men's profiles, to get a feel for what other successful men here do with their profiles. A range of good clear photos helps people decide how attractive they find you.

Positive profiles tend to keep people reading, whereas negative or not so pertinent details about why you'd be a great partner, likely lose some interest , as people have a lot of requests from people wanting to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, been on this site a number of times over the years and never had any luck. I think it’s high time I asked for advice because it’s been two and a half years without so much as a kiss from a lovely lady and I’m fairly sure my virginity has grown back.

Could I please get some advice about message etiquette and profile improvements. Oh, and be nice and gentle please. "

Hubba hubba... I would

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi all, been on this site a number of times over the years and never had any luck. I think it’s high time I asked for advice because it’s been two and a half years without so much as a kiss from a lovely lady and I’m fairly sure my virginity has grown back.

Could I please get some advice about message etiquette and profile improvements. Oh, and be nice and gentle please.

Hubba hubba... I would"

Heh thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keep experimenting with your profile and also take a look at a lot of different men's profiles, to get a feel for what other successful men here do with their profiles. A range of good clear photos helps people decide how attractive they find you.

Positive profiles tend to keep people reading, whereas negative or not so pertinent details about why you'd be a great partner, likely lose some interest , as people have a lot of requests from people wanting to know them. "

Thank you so much for the advice! I’ll try and get some more and better photos up soon. I’ll also work on getting in some decent details, I’ll look at other profiles for pointers as you suggest.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No need to mention "urine and poo".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, been on this site a number of times over the years and never had any luck. I think it’s high time I asked for advice because it’s been two and a half years without so much as a kiss from a lovely lady and I’m fairly sure my virginity has grown back.

Could I please get some advice about message etiquette and profile improvements. Oh, and be nice and gentle please. "

All couples and women look for different things. What might look good for one couple might put another off. What's missing might put someone off, others won't be bothered. And then there are hundreds of men.

This is what we look for when looking for a guy - a picture or two slightly more than just a cock but we need to see his cock as well, 3 to 4 credible veris, a site supporter, athletic to average, distance about 20 miles away and they can accommodate. And we google reverse search the pictures.

Having said that, we might waiver the odd thing but only on distance and site supporter.

The only advice we can give is look at other blokes profiles, check out the ones with plenty of veris and see what they're doing on their profile. Try mirror imaging theirs and see what happens, but keep trying every few months.

Bite the bullet, try a club, get the veris moving.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Looks much better Thank you got the kind words, and to all of the advice so far. Any more suggestions for improvement are welcomed. "

I like your profile and pics. Very nice.

Maybe use the word ‘watersports’ rather than urine and poo.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"That you can't accommodate is going to put a lot of people off. While there are certainly valid reasons - without an explanation, people are likely to assume you are cheating.

Understood, and I potentially could but I live with a friend from work and his partner and toddler so it’s a bit difficult. Is that worth putting on my profile? Thanks for the tip though!"

You do not need to explanation why you cannot accommodate, people should respect that you cannot accommodate! I don’t know why people get so hung up on accommodating. I would never allow a stranger into my home. Rant over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It says that you are a non smoker but in ur 3rd pic it looks like you have a roll up in you mouth which is contradictory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds very vanilla what you are looking for. It may be easier to find a regular playmate from a dating site.

Mrs

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"10 a penny profile. Do a forum search as there's at least one of these threads daily. Set your stall out and try be a little unique. If you've been here a few times and had no joy maybe FAB ain't for you. "

Good advice - and this is a great profile IMO

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By *sborne2Couple
over a year ago

northants

Always feel that these posts are more of a ‘back door ‘ approach to getting a meet ... sorry might just be me ....

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

Didn't see your original profile, but this one appears OK.

Do remember, you won't appeal to everyone, so just be yourself...and get chatting on the forums and go to a social.

Happy New Year...almost!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all of the advice. I don’t want to date, though, so a dating site isn’t appropriate and would be misleading for the women. It may seem vanilla but that’s just because I haven’t been exposed to many different sexual experiences so not entirely sure what my preferences are. Besides, nothing wrong with just looking for ‘vanilla’ sex on here?

I’ve removed all references to bodily fluids now! I think it’s a fairly niche preference? So unlikely to be an issue anyway.

Thanks again all, I honk I’ll stick with what I’ve got for now and tweak it a little if I have ideas. I’m humbled by the responses and support. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Didn't see your original profile, but this one appears OK.

Do remember, you won't appeal to everyone, so just be yourself...and get chatting on the forums and go to a social.

Happy New Year...almost!"

Thank you kindly! I hope you have a great entry to the new year!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always feel that these posts are more of a ‘back door ‘ approach to getting a meet ... sorry might just be me .... "

I can appreciate where you’re coming from but I legitimately wanted pointers as I’m useless at writing profiles. I think the likelihood of someone specifically from my region and preferred age range etc. seeing this post is pretty low given how many peeps are on here.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Change you cock pick to private and just have some normal pictures on there.

Change your username to something a little more inventive.

Here's to the next two years!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all of the advice. I don’t want to date, though, so a dating site isn’t appropriate and would be misleading for the women. It may seem vanilla but that’s just because I haven’t been exposed to many different sexual experiences so not entirely sure what my preferences are. Besides, nothing wrong with just looking for ‘vanilla’ sex on here?

I’ve removed all references to bodily fluids now! I think it’s a fairly niche preference? So unlikely to be an issue anyway.

Thanks again all, I honk I’ll stick with what I’ve got for now and tweak it a little if I have ideas. I’m humbled by the responses and support. Thank you. "

Oh well, I used dating sites when I was single and looking for nsa sex. Found that worked very well, and nobody was led on. It was a long time ago, things might have changed.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You need to lose that cock pic esp it hanging out of lilac boxers! We know you men adore your cocks but most women on here don’t want to see them! We know what they look like and most look similar except for the size!

Think this - if you saw a beautiful lady in a bar would you walk up, introduce yourself with your cock out? I doubt you would...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, been on this site a number of times over the years and never had any luck. I think it’s high time I asked for advice because it’s been two and a half years without so much as a kiss from a lovely lady and I’m fairly sure my virginity has grown back.

Could I please get some advice about message etiquette and profile improvements. Oh, and be nice and gentle please. "
2.5 years and you're still here damn thats some constitution you've got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to lose that cock pic esp it hanging out of lilac boxers! We know you men adore your cocks but most women on here don’t want to see them! We know what they look like and most look similar except for the size!

Think this - if you saw a beautiful lady in a bar would you walk up, introduce yourself with your cock out? I doubt you would...! "

I wish more men understood this! A small point is while your main pic isn't bad, the messy background is a little disconcerting. Maybe take some image against a door or blank wall?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to lose that cock pic esp it hanging out of lilac boxers! We know you men adore your cocks but most women on here don’t want to see them! We know what they look like and most look similar except for the size!

Think this - if you saw a beautiful lady in a bar would you walk up, introduce yourself with your cock out? I doubt you would...! "

Funny how his pictures work for us but not others. That's why it's a mine field for guys.

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