FabSwingers.com forum: nervousness

By *oungcouple midlands OP Couple
over a year ago

Hi guys would like your opinion on this, i find it very difficult to get to the meeting stage with couples because i find myself getting nervous and self conscious before meeting we missed out on a few meets because of this. I feel bad about it because my girlfriend is an experienced swinger and she Really enjoys swinging and loves sex with new people and i feel like im holding her back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With what you have said in this post and the fact you've been on here for over a year and not verified, we feel that perhaps swinging isn't really for you, and you are maybe just trying swinging to please your partner?

Have you tried going to organised Fab socials and clubs where you are able to chat with people without the pressure to play?

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By *oungcouple midlands OP Couple
over a year ago

"With what you have said in this post and the fact you've been on here for over a year and not verified, we feel that perhaps swinging isn't really for you, and you are maybe just trying swinging to please your partner?

Have you tried going to organised Fab socials and clubs where you are able to chat with people without the pressure to play?"
we havent been to any social events or even on the site much due to work and stress, she's been working abroad and has been swinging by herself a few months ago and showed me pics of her and i really enjoyed seeing her happy and doing what she liked but i guess maybe im a bit too nervous for this kind of thing right now although i like the idea and i like seeing her happy and i don't

Wanna hold her back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to have a very honest conversation with your partner.

Good luck.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Seems you have several choices.

Go for a monogamous relationship, either with your current girlfriend if she is willing, or finding someone who wants the same.

Accept you aren't a swinger, but you are a cuckold, who likes your partner swinging, either with or without you present

Stop putting pressure on yourself, and try a social meeting or a club, where neither of you will have sex, but just look around and chat to other swingers.

All equally valid, but what makes you happy.

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By *oungcouple midlands OP Couple
over a year ago

"You need to have a very honest conversation with your partner.

Good luck."

I will thank you

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By *oungcouple midlands OP Couple
over a year ago

"Seems you have several choices.

Go for a monogamous relationship, either with your current girlfriend if she is willing, or finding someone who wants the same.

Accept you aren't a swinger, but you are a cuckold, who likes your partner swinging, either with or without you present

Stop putting pressure on yourself, and try a social meeting or a club, where neither of you will have sex, but just look around and chat to other swingers.

All equally valid, but what makes you happy. "

I can see why you would think im a cuckold but i don't think i am i know i enjoy seeing my girlfriend in sexual situations boy or girl but i think id like to be a swinger in time i guess a social meet is the next step for us

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I don't think you are a cuckold,

but suggested it as a possible model for your relationship.

It's just a label, which helps other people understand your position. Not a value judgment, not about degradation or D/s, unless you choose to add that.

Hope you get over the nerves and join the fun.

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By *oungcouple midlands OP Couple
over a year ago

"I don't think you are a cuckold,

but suggested it as a possible model for your relationship.

It's just a label, which helps other people understand your position. Not a value judgment, not about degradation or D/s, unless you choose to add that.

Hope you get over the nerves and join the fun.

Oh i understand,i know you wernt judging, i hope i do too! Id love to have fun with her rather than watch her

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Seems that you both have self confidence issues going by your other post. Strange one I must admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys would like your opinion on this, i find it very difficult to get to the meeting stage with couples because i find myself getting nervous and self conscious before meeting we missed out on a few meets because of this. I feel bad about it because my girlfriend is an experienced swinger and she Really enjoys swinging and loves sex with new people and i feel like im holding her back "

Have you thought about dipping your toes in the club scene? Great place to meet like minded people, and use it how you like.

We go to Chams when we can, you're in the Midlands so you can't be too far from it. Good luck!

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