FabSwingers.com forum: Playing with one half of a couple

By *illowz OP Woman
over a year ago

Exeter

I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

Speak to the female half before making any arrangements as It's most likely a guy with a couples profile

Hope that helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a tricky one. Some people make it easy to read on their profile that they also do single meets. Plus direct you to their single profiles. This is something we do.

But there will always be the sly people who try to go behind their partners back.

I think it's about staying alert for the bullshit if possible?

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By *illowz OP Woman
over a year ago

Exeter

Thanks. I'll check profiles better and keep my eyes open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you be ok with meeting a married man if his wife didn't know? If so just meet them.

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By *illowz OP Woman
over a year ago

Exeter

"Would you be ok with meeting a married man if his wife didn't know? If so just meet them.

No not really. I usually turn them down

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

It could be true. It could be a single bloke. As others have said, get comms with the female.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "

We get this too. Wife is away, unwell, at work, dead, non existent etc. We always decline on the grounds that we'll only play with a couple as a couple. In reality it's because of our doubts as to whether or not the profile is genuine. As has already been said a lot of single males pose as a couple hoping to increase their chances of a meet. Even verifications can be dodgy.

See if he'll let you chat with the female half. If it's a barrage of excuses or he goes quiet then you'll know it's most likely a fake profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "

I have to say in our case this would Be 100% true, I give full permission for MrP to play separately as it’s part of our dynamic. However I do believe there are a lot of fake profiles where it was never a couple to start with, just be careful OP

MrsK xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay safe. There are plenty of guy masquerading as couples. Insist on speaking with the lady first.

We never play alone, if it was requested then i'd want to speak to you, or have some kind of reasurrance. Afterall safety works both ways, i'm trusting you with one of the most precious people in my life, not given up so easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get messages from so called couples saying.. I want to surprise my hubby by allowing him to fuck another woman without me being there ..would you up for it..We always say yeah, we would consider it..can we phone you (the female) to confirm it's not just the male of the couple or it's not really just a single guy account trying it on..needless to say we never get another message back or a phone number to call..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a single bloke posing as a couple. You get loads on the different sites trying the same trick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our case I’m interested to see SB with another woman (although we are only FBs and not in a relationship he has his own profile and so can meet seperately if he wishes)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

MrsK xx"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

MrsK xx"

Same with me and my husband. I'm very happy for him to go play solo if the chance comes along.

If in doubt, ask to speak to the female half to confirm x

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

Careful as a number of single guys play this card thinking they clever. Can usually tell by the way they message. But make sure it genuine before saying yes.

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By *rMrs Horny300Man
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

MrsK xx"

Same here !

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By *tew2009Man
over a year ago

wakefield

It's a bloke trying to get lucky!!

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I been told that countless times ! My reply in no ! Because a couple is a couple , not half ! If the wife will be there fine ! I am not so keen to meet couples , the reason being is a lot are just friends with benefits . And I rather meet a married couple with a solid relationship , trust and openness! Usually is more fun ! Be careful ask to speak with the wife , if he has permission. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get messaged asking for this quite a lot, another one this morning. There are so many single men on here (who come with their own challenges of course as 90% of them aren't actually single) that it is just not worth the potential hassle of playing with one half of a partnership.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single girl and have had this mostly males single or cheating. Always arrange a social meet with them both and ask x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you be ok with meeting a married man if his wife didn't know? If so just meet them.

No not really. I usually turn them down"

Treat “couples” profiles the same unless you can have phone contact with mrs...or maybe see them both on cam. Not all “couples” are what they seem! I’m sure you know what I mean.

Or meet single guys....lots of them about (but not always single?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my hubby play apart.

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By *iffy1968Man
over a year ago

STAFFORD

If we get a couple message us saying the male half is allowed to meet us and play alone we ask if the 2 females can chat on the phone to confirm this , 99% of the time we dont hear from again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just depends on how you all feel about it and how you get along etc so many things and trust and preferences

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By *orduneCouple
over a year ago

darvel

Don’t think it is uncommon my wife has given me permission to play with another lady , but I send messages and don’t get reply’s even when I say that they can speak to my darling wife

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I'm allowed and its not really been a problem for us, anyone is more than welcome to speak to Mrs.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

It’s rare we meet sexually alone, but we both have full permission to if we are away on holidays or somewhere where we aren’t together. Most of our fun involves us being together though. We have both FaceTimed / video messaged on kik with other fab users before meets as well to give permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm allowed to play by myself with Mrs marmites permission... if anyone wanted to ask her first then that wouldn't be a problem as we are both 100% genuine and have nothing to hide from each other.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"It's a tricky one. Some people make it easy to read on their profile that they also do single meets. Plus direct you to their single profiles. This is something we do.

But there will always be the sly people who try to go behind their partners back.

I think it's about staying alert for the bullshit if possible?"

..there are genuine people out there not everyone is at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we get a couple message us saying the male half is allowed to meet us and play alone we ask if the 2 females can chat on the phone to confirm this , 99% of the time we dont hear from again "

This exactly.

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York

I am a 'married' single and play on Fab without my wife's knowledge. Many will say I am a cheat or worse but our marriage has been virtually sexless since the birth of our children (now in their late 30s). My wife simply lost all interest but also found penetrative sex very uncomfortable. We explored all the possible medical causes for her discomfort, lack of interest and pleasure but in her case the desire for sex never returned. Of course this caused me much angst but I took great care in my efforts to arouse her and to awaken her lost sexuality. Sadly although we were (are) a great partnership, proud of what we have achieved at work and of our children and grandchildren and with many common interests I began to feel rejected as a man and the marriage became a very strained affair. We did go to Relate where the counsellor was impressed by my efforts to woo my wife but she (my wife) eventually said that it would be of 'no consequence to her if she never had sex again'. After that I continued to try but it felt as if it was something I was doing to her and my head said stop; don't subject her to an act without enjoyment for her but which she occasionally allowed out of no more than loyalty. The marriage has subsequently been sexless but I didn't want to end our partnership and all that meant in terms of family.

Then more than 10 years ago swinging found me (not the other way round). On a skiing holiday on my own I was 'befriended' by a couple staying in the hotel and after being invited to eat with them a couple of evenings I was invited to play with the wife whilst hubby watched. It was amazing and the lady was very complimentary of my 'warm up skills' long refined in my attempts to arouse my wife.

After the holiday I did not go in pursuit of the lifestyle for some time. Eventually I told my wife about the skiing encounter and her reaction surprised me. I was told that if I had to I should seek my pleasures elsewhere BUT I was not to embarrass her, family or friends, I was not to put my health at risk and I was not to fall in love and finally she didn't want to know anything about it. It was shortly after this I visited Quest in Leeds and joined Fab. As a married, older man I don't attract a lot of interest but at least I have the excitement of the chase and have had the occasional success (thank you - you know who you are). I appreciate there are a lot of cheats on here but the lifestyle only truly works where there is openness and honesty, please don't condem all married men. It's not always as simple a cheating! Alan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

MrsK xx"

Same here. G & I both play separately and as a couple. He regularly chats to a number of different ladies, he has played with some of them & would like to play with the others - but he also likes the chat & the banter. We have a rule that we only chat on Fab so that we are both included in conversations, or at least can keep a track of what’s happening - not from a trust perspective, but because we enjoy each other flirting, playing etc and we enjoy telling each other about it.

If you have any doubts OP, then back away. I’d be comfortable to chat on Kik with a lady that G was chatting to if she wanted to, so if you’re not happy & think it’s a single guy, go with your gut!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's good for the goose...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tip - if you can't speak to her she's not real

Need to make sure it's not just a guy trying his luck

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By *hestercpl4funCouple
over a year ago

chester

We get asked a lot by Males of a couple " would you play with one half of us" we always reply "of course we would, send you wife round "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been asked several times to play with the male half, but to be honest it's not worth the hassle. There are plenty of single men on here who want to meet instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this quite often. My opinion is that most of these "couples" are actually married men who would love to have a wife that would join, but she has no idea she is half of a couple on here.

I'd say that's far worse than cheating and potentially falls foul of the revenge porn legislation, but that's just my opinion.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"We get messages from so called couples saying.. I want to surprise my hubby by allowing him to fuck another woman without me being there ..would you up for it..We always say yeah, we would consider it..can we phone you (the female) to confirm it's not just the male of the couple or it's not really just a single guy account trying it on..needless to say we never get another message back or a phone number to call.."

I get this all time. It's usually always just a single guy trying to get rounds filters and get your attention. Id rather they were honest.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We meet seperately and have our own profiles,i would happily chat to a lady to confirm it ,if she wanted to meet Jack alone.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this all time. It's usually always just a single guy trying to get rounds filters and get your attention. Id rather they were honest."

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

If the guy wants to meet on his own he should have a single guys profile and message from there and allow the lady the ability to decide what her response is

Of course mention the couples profile in that as well so people can look if they’re interested and check veris etc but looking for single meets off a couples profile is always a risky game

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I am a 'married' single and play on Fab without my wife's knowledge. Many will say I am a cheat or worse but our marriage has been virtually sexless since the birth of our children (now in their late 30s). My wife simply lost all interest but also found penetrative sex very uncomfortable. We explored all the possible medical causes for her discomfort, lack of interest and pleasure but in her case the desire for sex never returned. Of course this caused me much angst but I took great care in my efforts to arouse her and to awaken her lost sexuality. Sadly although we were (are) a great partnership, proud of what we have achieved at work and of our children and grandchildren and with many common interests I began to feel rejected as a man and the marriage became a very strained affair. We did go to Relate where the counsellor was impressed by my efforts to woo my wife but she (my wife) eventually said that it would be of 'no consequence to her if she never had sex again'. After that I continued to try but it felt as if it was something I was doing to her and my head said stop; don't subject her to an act without enjoyment for her but which she occasionally allowed out of no more than loyalty. The marriage has subsequently been sexless but I didn't want to end our partnership and all that meant in terms of family.

Your honesty is a refreshing change, good luck x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We get asked a lot by Males of a couple " would you play with one half of us" we always reply "of course we would, send you wife round ""
oh that's a good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "

Some guys lie. They claim to be a couple or that they can accommodate. We will play separate with a separate guy/female from a couple but we ALL must meet for a social first.

Also, we will meet single guys but they must accommodate. They ask for a hotel meet instead. That's a no so we press if they can actually accommodate. Turns out as a no, they have kids stopping etc.. Happened again the other week.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve found a simple old fashioned phone call normally sorts things out very quickly.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "

A gorgeous girl like you, I'm sure the single guys are queuing round the block. So concentrate on those and don't bother with dodgy messages from one half of a couple. That is like advertising a pair of spectacles but only getting a monocle ... wtf?

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Speak to the female half before making any arrangements as It's most likely a guy with a couples profile

Hope that helps x "
Oh shit I’ve been rumbled again

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By *aimeSmithTV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

I get this loads. Very dubious of whether there's a female or not x

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

See if he'll let you chat with the female half. If it's a barrage of excuses or he goes quiet then you'll know it's most likely a fake profile."
In all fairness it happened to me when I first joined here,I was that excited to actually get a reply and a meet I ever thought the possibility it could be a bloke not a couple.He even turned up and said he’d had to come straight from work and his mrs would be along in a bit.I was sat there making small talk I bet everyone in the club were falling about laughing. He said he was going to meet her taxi and never came back.But you’d be surprised how many fall for it and I often wonder wether he just preyed on desperate newbies.

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By *avidandjaneukCouple
over a year ago

Canterbury

We're a married couple and Jane plays on her own. Nobody ever seems to have anything negative to say when it's that way around.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "

Now if it was us it would be would you like to play with me and then if you wanted to play with Dick.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

MrsK xx

Same with me and my husband. I'm very happy for him to go play solo if the chance comes along.

If in doubt, ask to speak to the female half to confirm x"

Or meet them both in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the male half and yes Linda has given me permission and also I have met with two ladies who have partners and they are happy for me to play with there partners. Both times they were filmed so there partners could watch it later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the guy wants to meet on his own he should have a single guys profile and message from there and allow the lady the ability to decide what her response is

Of course mention the couples profile in that as well so people can look if they’re interested and check veris etc but looking for single meets off a couples profile is always a risky game "

Why?

Part of our dynamic is that we are included in the build up, the messaging, the anticipation of a meet for the other partner. I love the thrill of knowing G is going to a meet, the excitement of wondering how it’s all going & waiting to hear all the details afterwards. Same for him if I play alone.

It also means that there is complete transparency between us because we have had a single female try to create a bit of drama between us & play is off against each other after chatting with G on Kik, but then speaking with me on Fab. After that, we stopped using Kik, because if someone wants to play with either of us, they need to respect the fact that we are a couple.

I don’t see how separate profiles makes any difference. If someone doesn’t want to play with one half of a couple, masquerading as a single doesn’t change the fact you’re part of a couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way I suppose to confirm that everything is ok before you dip your toes with this scenario ?

Would be to social with both parties to confirm that it's for real ?

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By *elsosreyxCouple
over a year ago

Southminster

Totally agree with most of the above, we have lots of guys message us saying it ok for them to play and their wife knows. Or the wife messages asking if we would like her hubby to visit as shes busy/unwell/working/travelling/off sex at the moment/ or unable to get a babysitter ( yes all real).

We wont play with the male.half til weve met both.

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By *iWifeHappyLifeCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

It would be totally genuine in our case too, we would have no problem verifying via a Kik video chat or phonecall for the other half to meet separately. There are genuine people out there but as others have said it's best to look into it and stay safe.

Mrs

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?

Some guys lie. They claim to be a couple or that they can accommodate. We will play separate with a separate guy/female from a couple but we ALL must meet for a social first.

Exactly the same in my experience too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.

Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "

We have no problems doing solo meets it’s not on our profile as it’s not something we actively seek often. We both are happy for the other to meet solo and we would also be happy to confirm this with a phone call or a social meet with both of us before hand. Any genuine couples that are happy with the other meeting solo would be more than happy to confirm they know and are happy with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah definitely check with the other person. We don’t play singly as a rule but others happily have that set up x

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