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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guy verifications wouldn't put us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would not put my partner and I responding, what might is the fact you can not accommodate, as you at the age where kids will have left home

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off? "

Are you possibly winking or messaging couples who are only looking for bi fems or bi fem couples?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Couples meeting couples is more difficult as there are 4 people that need to be interested in meeting.

How many times have you looked at a profile and one of you had fancied 1 of the couple but your partner wasn't so keen?

This, or who knows how many other possible reasons.

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

cc hotel


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off? "

more likely your need for a vwe guy...most guys in couples are average just on the basis of stats.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

more likely your need for a vwe guy...most guys in couples are average just on the basis of stats."

About to comment same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"would not put my partner and I responding, what might is the fact you can not accommodate, as you at the age where kids will have left home"

We are at the age where our older teenage kids are still at home. Having a kid at 35 means you can be 50 and have kids at home.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

more likely your need for a vwe guy...most guys in couples are average just on the basis of stats."

Maybe we’re not being specific enough but we don’t expect a guy in a couple to be vwe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be totally off the radar with this thought but here goes. You are both straight. If you are only contacting other straight couples then this thought wouldn't stand. If you are contacting couples with a bi fem then I would say they wouldn't play with you due to fem being straight. I am bi and I wouldn't play with a couple who is straight as the whole bi thing is part of it all for me. I couldn't be in a situation with a fem and not touch! I get the feeling that would be the same for other couples with bi fem xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d message you guys in a instant lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I may be totally off the radar with this thought but here goes. You are both straight. If you are only contacting other straight couples then this thought wouldn't stand. If you are contacting couples with a bi fem then I would say they wouldn't play with you due to fem being straight. I am bi and I wouldn't play with a couple who is straight as the whole bi thing is part of it all for me. I couldn't be in a situation with a fem and not touch! I get the feeling that would be the same for other couples with bi fem xxx"

Yes we’ve noticed that and try to avoid people who want girl/girl.

Some people will say that they will play straight (although have a bi fem profile) and we have played with a few couples who didn’t insist on girl/ girl .

Sounds like we should go to a club as it might be easier to make introductions and chat through likes/dislikes.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I may be totally off the radar with this thought but here goes. You are both straight. If you are only contacting other straight couples then this thought wouldn't stand. If you are contacting couples with a bi fem then I would say they wouldn't play with you due to fem being straight. I am bi and I wouldn't play with a couple who is straight as the whole bi thing is part of it all for me. I couldn't be in a situation with a fem and not touch! I get the feeling that would be the same for other couples with bi fem xxx

Yes we’ve noticed that and try to avoid people who want girl/girl.

Some people will say that they will play straight (although have a bi fem profile) and we have played with a few couples who didn’t insist on girl/ girl .

Sounds like we should go to a club as it might be easier to make introductions and chat through likes/dislikes. "

Clubs is where its at for us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may be totally off the radar with this thought but here goes. You are both straight. If you are only contacting other straight couples then this thought wouldn't stand. If you are contacting couples with a bi fem then I would say they wouldn't play with you due to fem being straight. I am bi and I wouldn't play with a couple who is straight as the whole bi thing is part of it all for me. I couldn't be in a situation with a fem and not touch! I get the feeling that would be the same for other couples with bi fem xxx

Yes we’ve noticed that and try to avoid people who want girl/girl.

Some people will say that they will play straight (although have a bi fem profile) and we have played with a few couples who didn’t insist on girl/ girl .

Sounds like we should go to a club as it might be easier to make introductions and chat through likes/dislikes. "

Defo get your arses to CJs then It's a great way to chat and meet others. We prefer it to chatting through here. You get a feel of people and what works for them xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I may be totally off the radar with this thought but here goes. You are both straight. If you are only contacting other straight couples then this thought wouldn't stand. If you are contacting couples with a bi fem then I would say they wouldn't play with you due to fem being straight. I am bi and I wouldn't play with a couple who is straight as the whole bi thing is part of it all for me. I couldn't be in a situation with a fem and not touch! I get the feeling that would be the same for other couples with bi fem xxx

Yes we’ve noticed that and try to avoid people who want girl/girl.

Some people will say that they will play straight (although have a bi fem profile) and we have played with a few couples who didn’t insist on girl/ girl .

Sounds like we should go to a club as it might be easier to make introductions and chat through likes/dislikes.

Defo get your arses to CJs then It's a great way to chat and meet others. We prefer it to chatting through here. You get a feel of people and what works for them xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

should not be a problem, sure it will pick up soon, hope you get to meet lots of nice couples in the New Year.

xx

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I'm 49 and still have two kids at home. You don't know their circumstances so please don't judge. I know people who have kids who will never live independently.

Single guys get the same assumptions made when in reality they are single Dads or looking after parents.

As for the OP verifications rarely put me off. Your profile is fine. Hide your veris if you think they are causing an issue. Better being proactive with the messages rather than waiting to be messaged.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

You should go to CJs tomorrow night. It's a relaxed night as everyone recovers from Christmas and gets ready for New Year.

I'm going. Come and say hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure on this but are single guys aliens with two heads or something ? As a single guy who is respectful to all on the swinging scene on here and in the real world i find comments about single guys as if we are pond filth quite quite disrespectful to be honest , Ok some single guys can be a pain in the arse but some including myself are very respectful of couples and single women , So please dont tar us all with the same brush

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I doubt very much that you have veris from single men would put couples off, many couples do choose to meet single men as well as other couples.

It is more likely to be your profile that puts people off. I can't be specific about what it could be as I'm not allowed to give profile advice without you specifically asking for it. All I will say is have a think about what it is that attracts you to another couple's profile. Is yours set up in a similar way to theirs? Can you change things around a little to improve it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure on this but are single guys aliens with two heads or something ? As a single guy who is respectful to all on the swinging scene on here and in the real world i find comments about single guys as if we are pond filth quite quite disrespectful to be honest , Ok some single guys can be a pain in the arse but some including myself are very respectful of couples and single women , So please dont tar us all with the same brush "

Did someone make a disrespectful comment???

We were just asking if the fact that we meet single men and are verified by them puts some couples off. The fact we meet single guys surely shows we must have some respect for them.

The post mentions couples too so are we also disrespecting couples?

Certainly not our intention to disrespect couples or singles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry if i came across wrong there it wasnt my intention , Should have been some people come across as though single guys are aliens with two heads or the devil , There seems to be a dislike and stigma about single giys on here and in the real world on the swinging scene , Didnt mean to come across as though i was having a dig at yourselves though as i wasnt x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry if i came across wrong there it wasnt my intention , Should have been some people come across as though single guys are aliens with two heads or the devil , There seems to be a dislike and stigma about single giys on here and in the real world on the swinging scene , Didnt mean to come across as though i was having a dig at yourselves though as i wasnt x"

There’s a lot of really nice guys and some not so nice ... just the same as couples. It’s just a lot more competitive for guys so don’t get too down. There are a lot of open minded good people who don’t judge

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"would not put my partner and I responding, what might is the fact you can not accommodate, as you at the age where kids will have left home

We are at the age where our older teenage kids are still at home. Having a kid at 35 means you can be 50 and have kids at home. "

You shouldn’t need to explain why you can’t accommodate and no one should ask, they should respect that you don’t accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they don't like people that wet the bed.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

This is a classical example of what I am saying, what do single guys have to do with your success or failure as a couple?

The couple game is controlled by the ladies, if your Mrs is not beautiful facially, you will get a lot of couple meets but if your Mrs is very beautiful you will not get a single meet in my opinion.

This is how most of the ladies think they will never let their partner or husband fuck any woman more beautiful than them, it's got nothing to do with single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe they don't like people that wet the bed."

Ouch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally for me the put off would be your both straight fem here is go so would want to play with the woman of the couple. So nothing you have done wrong just a fact so maybe u need to look for straight couples who are interested in same things as u x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally for me the put off would be your both straight fem here is go so would want to play with the woman of the couple. So nothing you have done wrong just a fact so maybe u need to look for straight couples who are interested in same things as u x"

Yes this makes sense. Pity the search function on Fab let’s you filter for bisexual or bi-curious people but not for straight people , as far as we can see.

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off? "

It would put me (Mrs Kink off) as rightly or wrongly I would think oh hubby got floppy cock so she needs another cock or greedy girl lol and im a bit greedy myself so would be worried i may be left hungry, I never think its because its easier to arrange, perhsps I need to look outside the box.

Mrs Kink xx

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Maybe they don't like people that wet the bed."

What

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By *siaessex2Couple
over a year ago

essex


"would not put my partner and I responding, what might is the fact you can not accommodate, as you at the age where kids will have left home"
why are they are at a age when kids have left . one of use is older then them & we still have children at home.

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By *siaessex2Couple
over a year ago

essex


"would not put my partner and I responding, what might is the fact you can not accommodate, as you at the age where kids will have left home

We are at the age where our older teenage kids are still at home. Having a kid at 35 means you can be 50 and have kids at home.

You shouldn’t need to explain why you can’t accommodate and no one should ask, they should respect that you don’t accommodate."
well said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

It would put me (Mrs Kink off) as rightly or wrongly I would think oh hubby got floppy cock so she needs another cock or greedy girl lol and im a bit greedy myself so would be worried i may be left hungry, I never think its because its easier to arrange, perhsps I need to look outside the box.

Mrs Kink xx"

It’s amazing how different people view the same scenario in different ways. It’s not about the husband being unable to perform. Far from it. It’s more about different experiences and that excitement of MFM or MFMF if we can get it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally for me the put off would be your both straight fem here is go so would want to play with the woman of the couple. So nothing you have done wrong just a fact so maybe u need to look for straight couples who are interested in same things as u x

Yes this makes sense. Pity the search function on Fab let’s you filter for bisexual or bi-curious people but not for straight people , as far as we can see. "

Do you go looking for couples with straight women? Or do you wait for people to mail you? I found that couples tend to wait for people to mail them- it might just be that they aren't looking.

Also many couples have bi women- many are bi for their men to watch. You won't provide entertainment for them. Think of it as a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe they don't like people that wet the bed.

What "

Think they were referring to a veri that said bed was soaking after the session. We have since hidden that veri to stop people making the ‘you wet the bed’ comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they don't like people that wet the bed.

What

Think they were referring to a veri that said bed was soaking after the session. We have since hidden that veri to stop people making the ‘you wet the bed’ comments "

Some people are turned off by squirting.

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

I know thats why I said rightly or wrongly its just how i perceive it, definately need to start looking outside the box lol we only meet couples and have never done the MFM dynamic

It would put me (Mrs Kink off) as rightly or wrongly I would think oh hubby got floppy cock so she needs another cock or greedy girl lol and im a bit greedy myself so would be worried i may be left hungry, I never think its because its easier to arrange, perhsps I need to look outside the box.

Mrs Kink xx

It’s amazing how different people view the same scenario in different ways. It’s not about the husband being unable to perform. Far from it. It’s more about different experiences and that excitement of MFM or MFMF if we can get it. X"

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

I know thats why I said rightly or wrongly its just how i perceive it, definately need to start looking outside the box lol we only meet couples and have never done the MFM dynamic

It would put me (Mrs Kink off) as rightly or wrongly I would think oh hubby got floppy cock so she needs another cock or greedy girl lol and im a bit greedy myself so would be worried i may be left hungry, I never think its because its easier to arrange, perhsps I need to look outside the box.

Mrs Kink xx

It’s amazing how different people view the same scenario in different ways. It’s not about the husband being unable to perform. Far from it. It’s more about different experiences and that excitement of MFM or MFMF if we can get it. X"

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

The VWE part (regardless that it's aimed soley at single guys) would put us as a coupe off.

We'd be thinking you just want XY cock and not his delightful personality for the evening whilst your make just watches you being fucked by said cock whilst XX sits in the corner filling her nails.

Decent people like to be seen as people not just genitals.

A certain amount or ratio of single guy veri's might also make people think your fem is a greedy girl and once again their fem would be in the corner filing their nails on the meet.

Meeting in a club away from profiles, people can suss yous out for themselves.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off? "

Can’t see anything that would put us of other than distance! & that is clearly negotiable, at times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

Can’t see anything that would put us of other than distance! & that is clearly negotiable, at times "

If you’re ever in Scotland as they say ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,d meet a couple with lots of single guy veries, I know that isn't what you're asking though. XXX

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off?

Can’t see anything that would put us of other than distance! & that is clearly negotiable, at times

If you’re ever in Scotland as they say .... "

& there were we at Hampden Park only 2 months ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys add to your popularity we are the best ,you guys look pretty sexy cant see our influence putting anyone off

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

It doesn't put us off as we prefer meeting single men to couples

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"It doesn't put us off as we prefer meeting single men to couples "

Us too

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"would not put my partner and I responding, what might is the fact you can not accommodate, as you at the age where kids will have left homewhy are they are at a age when kids have left . one of use is older then them & we still have children at home."

That’s what I thought !

People don’t start nowadays until they are 40+ to start a family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off? "
Why would it? A ridiculous assumption and another poor attempt to make single men look bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off? Why would it? A ridiculous assumption and another poor attempt to make single men look bad"

We’re not attempting to make single men look bad. We meet single men! Why would we?

On our time on the site we have noticed couples who hide their single men verifications. We only know they have met single guys because we have seen them as a verification on the guys profile.

We were only asking if some couples are prejudiced towards other couples who meet single guys. Perhaps the male of the couple doesn’t think he can match the expectations of a couple who have met a lot of single guys.

We ourselves are prejudiced. We meet single guys but if we see a single guy who has met a TV then we are not interested. That’s not us having a go at TVs it’s just our preference not to be in that scene.

To be frank there is also a bit of concern if you are the average male of couple and you’re about to meet another couple where the wife has just had three guys with 10 inch cocks. So we think perhaps there could be a negative effect in showing those veris. Not negative in meeting the single guys but negative in making a guy in a couple think he might not be able to match up to previous meets.

So we think it’s a valid question to find out what people think, to make our profile more appealing and to learn. It’s not a ‘poor’ attempt to bring down single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to meet couples but it’s tough. We meet single guys too as it’s another dynamic and much easier to arrange.

However we’ve noticed couples with only women or couple verification seem to not respond to winks/messages. We might just not be attractive or interesting enough but we were wondering if having single guys veris put some couples off? Why would it? A ridiculous assumption and another poor attempt to make single men look bad

We’re not attempting to make single men look bad. We meet single men! Why would we?

On our time on the site we have noticed couples who hide their single men verifications. We only know they have met single guys because we have seen them as a verification on the guys profile.

We were only asking if some couples are prejudiced towards other couples who meet single guys. Perhaps the male of the couple doesn’t think he can match the expectations of a couple who have met a lot of single guys.

We ourselves are prejudiced. We meet single guys but if we see a single guy who has met a TV then we are not interested. That’s not us having a go at TVs it’s just our preference not to be in that scene.

To be frank there is also a bit of concern if you are the average male of couple and you’re about to meet another couple where the wife has just had three guys with 10 inch cocks. So we think perhaps there could be a negative effect in showing those veris. Not negative in meeting the single guys but negative in making a guy in a couple think he might not be able to match up to previous meets.

So we think it’s a valid question to find out what people think, to make our profile more appealing and to learn. It’s not a ‘poor’ attempt to bring down single men. "

Don't worry, it's clear to anyone with sense that you're not slagging off single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys are the pits

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