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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

right, you know theres one thing that annoys me bout this site... if someone asks u to meet them n u say sorry no ur not my type or what have ya.. most people cop a strop bout it..... shorly if u message them bk and say sorry ur not what im after.. ...thats better than saying sumthing ruder.... only saying as ive been in the situ, and i only meet people when i can. people get offended so easily. n also cuz of my sexuality, i have been told ..i "give the site a bad rep and bad name".. im sorry but i no wat im on here for, and if its not you then not my fault.....

Ne views??? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just don't handle rejection welll at all. A tip that I've seen on here is to block people as soon as you send the polite thanks but no thanks reply. It stops them from coming back at you with abuse or trying to persuade you to meet them. It also saves them messaging you again in the future when you've already said no. Might be worth considering and don't let the idiots on here get to you. Plenty of lovely people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why your sexuality means you shouldn't be here as you have every right to be

Love the sarcasm on your profile, I do that sort of thing on my status when someone annoys me and that's me being polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking people after the no thanks is a great idea.

I also hate it when you have a 'one night stand' kind of meet and the other person can not stop sending you messages winks and friend request's like you have just became married all of a sudden lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i see what wat u mean bout blockin but at moment i have a lot of people blocked cuz they keeep on and on... i think they think if they keep on ill get fed up n be like ffs fine, but i wont....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easily solved!

Have on your profile you won't answer messages from people outwith your criteria. Don't engage in correspondence with people you're not interested in...it is that simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

but then ill get told im ignornat n rude for not sayin hi.... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they dont like it, tough on them, if someone cant be bothered to read your profile, and accept your own personal choices, then block them. we are all here to have a bit of fun, and make a few friends along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but then ill get told im ignornat n rude for not sayin hi.... x"

then just send them one telling them they are ignorant and rude for mailing you when you have clearly stated on your profile your not after them

Block them

move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In addition to the good advice above (don't worry about blocking people as a lot of us have a block list that much longer than our friends list!!) You can also use the message filters option to cut down unwanted messages. It won't stop them completely but it might help reduce the volumes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I receive only a handful of unsolicited messages a day, and for those I truly have no intention of meeting, I would reply in kind and tell them I shall block them to prevent further contacts and wasting each other's time and efforts.

Sometimes I do not offer a response at all, and they would get the hint I am not interested and stop furhter messages.

I have stated in my profile that I do not always respond to unsolicited messages, and senders of such messages, along with unsolicited winks or friends invites, could result in being blocked.

Therefore, I do not believe I am doing anything wrong/disrespectful/inappropriate/whatever.

If they do not read my profile, or choose to ignore what I have included in it, then they only have themselves to blame when they receive the short, sharp, shock treatment.

Simples!

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

Too many guys are here for a quick leg over while wife is not watching and as they are gods gift to women ( in their minds ) cannot understand why someone may say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"right, you know theres one thing that annoys me bout this site... if someone asks u to meet them n u say sorry no ur not my type or what have ya.. most people cop a strop bout it..... shorly if u message them bk and say sorry ur not what im after.. ...thats better than saying sumthing ruder.... only saying as ive been in the situ, and i only meet people when i can. people get offended so easily. n also cuz of my sexuality, i have been told ..i "give the site a bad rep and bad name".. im sorry but i no wat im on here for, and if its not you then not my fault.....

Ne views??? xx"

Your sexuality doesn't come into it here, if you fancy someone you do if not its no point meeting them x

have fun on here x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"but then ill get told im ignornat n rude for not sayin hi.... x"

Who by...if you have blocked them they cant contact you

To be honest this has never happened to us, we dont meet straight guys for mmf ,so quite often turn down guys explaining that, we usually get a nice,thanks for replying.

Maybe geordies are just nicer!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


"but then ill get told im ignornat n rude for not sayin hi.... x"

Think about it this way - if someone I'd the type of person who gets upset if you don't say hello, then they are hardly going to handle being rejected for a shag too well - so by ignoring them from the outset you are saving those poor delicate little flowers from a lot of pain and heartache in the long run.

Cruel to be kind an all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually prefer to be told a polite no thanks, it means I can get on with other things and chat to others as my time is very limited.

Plus, let's face it, we were all brought up with manners - just seems that they disappear on these sites.

lol, a personal thanks to all of the ladies who say thanks but no thanks

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