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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . " If you play with condoms with someone who has played bare before, your chances of catching anything are tiny In any event, how far do you take this policing. Couples will play bare with each other, one or both have them could have played bare with others.... | |||
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"Assume everyone has played bareback... take it from there. " because it is probably true. | |||
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"If your playing safe it doesn't really matter about others history.. " I agree with this statement. I look at safer sex like drawing a circle line around the two of you (married couple having unprotected sex). As long as the "barrier" around you is NOT broken, then it doesn't matter if they are clean or not, you will always be. Sure nothing is totally fool-proof but all activities (including crossing the road) has a degree of risk. If you get too overly anxious about it, you'll need to question why you are swinging at all. Just make sure that line around you is secure and enjoy... | |||
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"Assume everyone has played bareback... take it from there. because it is probably true. " Is true I doubt there’s a single person on fab who’s never had bareback sex - even if it was with a partner at the time So therefore any potential meet on here has a bareback history so your options are meet them and play safe or stop meeting altogether But pretending you’re meeting someone without a bareback history is precisely that, pretending | |||
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"So you could check someone out on here and they could always play safer. What about all the other people they are barebacking with that you know nothing about? Just concentrate on your own sexual health. " Bizzare logic So just because you take sone risk, you should take any risk | |||
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"As others have said, concentrate on your own sexual health, use condoms and get tested regularly. Weigh up the risks, and only take the level of risk that feels right for you. Just cause the green man is flashing on the Pelican crossing, doesnt stop you from lookinf left and right as you cross the road We dont have a problem with anyone playing BB, and feel that as adults we are able to make up our own minds about the potention risks. Our decision has been that we would never consider this for ourselves, and we never KNOWINGLY meet people who do play BB. The main issue is that people hide the fact they do play BB, maybe due to the stigma and abuse they can receive from some people? So, play as safe as you can, and enjoy " Given that you can't infect yourself with an STD accidentally, looking after your own sexual health and being nosy about the risk profile of potential partners are interchangeable. | |||
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"you can play the "six degrees of seperation" game as much as you want, and i am sure that if you delve far enough into everyones past histories that you'll find an excuse as to not meet that person if you are looking for one.... ...but at the end of the day the only person who can look after your own health is you! only you can protect you!!!!! i would like to think we are all adult enough to do that.... if they don't like the way you want to play... and vice versa, i am sure there are others who will and the site is big enough " | |||
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"If your playing safe it doesn't really matter about others history.. If you are sexually active the likelyhood is some of your partner's may have been hiv positive but as your playing safe it will make little difference." Really ? How likely do you think it is that most people have slept with someone that has hiv? Considering the estimate for 2016 including undiagnosed in the Uk is less than 90,000 . | |||
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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . " Not over the top at all. We do this. It's safe sex due diligence as far as we're concerned. | |||
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"OP - I read the verifications from the people I’m meeting and then those left for them. If there’s something I don’t like then it’s a no for me. Health and safety simply too important to muck about with. " | |||
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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . " You’re right...!!! From what you’re saying i give it a 99.999% he’s HIV+ and 100% full of Hepatitis, Gonorhea and Chlamydia mix. Stay away from bareback monsters like him !!! | |||
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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . You’re right...!!! From what you’re saying i give it a 99.999% he’s HIV+ and 100% full of Hepatitis, Gonorhea and Chlamydia mix. Stay away from bareback monsters like him !!!" It’s nice to have the choice though isn’t it. I don’t criticise anyone who prefers bare, but it’s not for us. Allowing people choice is what’s missing from a lot of fab lying profiles. So if you like bareback, why go stating you play safe | |||
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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . You’re right...!!! From what you’re saying i give it a 99.999% he’s HIV+ and 100% full of Hepatitis, Gonorhea and Chlamydia mix. Stay away from bareback monsters like him !!! It’s nice to have the choice though isn’t it. I don’t criticise anyone who prefers bare, but it’s not for us. Allowing people choice is what’s missing from a lot of fab lying profiles. So if you like bareback, why go stating you play safe " What if you’re ok with both? | |||
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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . You’re right...!!! From what you’re saying i give it a 99.999% he’s HIV+ and 100% full of Hepatitis, Gonorhea and Chlamydia mix. Stay away from bareback monsters like him !!! It’s nice to have the choice though isn’t it. I don’t criticise anyone who prefers bare, but it’s not for us. Allowing people choice is what’s missing from a lot of fab lying profiles. So if you like bareback, why go stating you play safe What if you’re ok with both?" I think you can write well enough to figure that out for yourselves. What’s wrong with just being honest? Apart from the usual obvious thing that folk do on here, which is to lie to get sex. | |||
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"I think you can never definitively know if someone has gone bareback on here or not. Not all people veri. Some profiles preclude to safe sex only and may not always adhere to that sentiment. My thought process is to see all meets as potential barebackers and focus on my own sexual health. The only true safe sex Is no sex. It's about making yourself as little at risk as possible. You can never truly know if the ones you meet are always playing safe " Do you think you will ever have bareback sex again in your life before you eventually die like all of us? | |||
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"I think you can never definitively know if someone has gone bareback on here or not. Not all people veri. Some profiles preclude to safe sex only and may not always adhere to that sentiment. My thought process is to see all meets as potential barebackers and focus on my own sexual health. The only true safe sex Is no sex. It's about making yourself as little at risk as possible. You can never truly know if the ones you meet are always playing safe Do you think you will ever have bareback sex again in your life before you eventually die like all of us?" You sound like you're annoyed that people won't do bareback in casual sex and on a mission to convince us all. If you're happy to bareback, fine. But don't get wound up that others choose otherwise. That's the problem with Fab. Too many fabbers intent on lecturing that we should all be doing the exact same as them. | |||
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"I think you can never definitively know if someone has gone bareback on here or not. Not all people veri. Some profiles preclude to safe sex only and may not always adhere to that sentiment. My thought process is to see all meets as potential barebackers and focus on my own sexual health. The only true safe sex Is no sex. It's about making yourself as little at risk as possible. You can never truly know if the ones you meet are always playing safe Do you think you will ever have bareback sex again in your life before you eventually die like all of us? You sound like you're annoyed that people won't do bareback in casual sex and on a mission to convince us all. If you're happy to bareback, fine. But don't get wound up that others choose otherwise. That's the problem with Fab. Too many fabbers intent on lecturing that we should all be doing the exact same as them." How did you jump to this conclusion i do not understand. I was only curious to see under what circumstances the lady would consider engaging in a natural sex encounter. And I am curious because she sounds like an educated individual. Maybe i am a bit bold but thats how i am in life... | |||
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"NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WAY" Do you masturbate with a condom on to be safe...? You never know...maybe you shook hands with someone who had bareback sex with his wife the night before.... | |||
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"NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WAY Do you masturbate with a condom on to be safe...? You never know...maybe you shook hands with someone who had bareback sex with his wife the night before...." ??? | |||
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"NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WAY Do you masturbate with a condom on to be safe...? You never know...maybe you shook hands with someone who had bareback sex with his wife the night before.... ???" It’s a different way of winning friends and influencing people. It’s just been done in a covert manner that mere mortals don’t understand | |||
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"So you could check someone out on here and they could always play safer. What about all the other people they are barebacking with that you know nothing about? Just concentrate on your own sexual health. " agree | |||
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"So you could check someone out on here and they could always play safer. What about all the other people they are barebacking with that you know nothing about? Just concentrate on your own sexual health. " This | |||
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"I think you can never definitively know if someone has gone bareback on here or not. Not all people veri. Some profiles preclude to safe sex only and may not always adhere to that sentiment. My thought process is to see all meets as potential barebackers and focus on my own sexual health. The only true safe sex Is no sex. It's about making yourself as little at risk as possible. You can never truly know if the ones you meet are always playing safe " This | |||
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"NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WAY Do you masturbate with a condom on to be safe...? You never know...maybe you shook hands with someone who had bareback sex with his wife the night before.... ??? It’s a different way of winning friends and influencing people. It’s just been done in a covert manner that mere mortals don’t understand " Whics is odd because the “???” lady clearly comprehends more than the average iq person given the exceptionaly wise choice of nail styling...!!! | |||
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"If you always use condoms, why would it put you off someone if they have engaged in bareback sex?? Surely the risk factor is exactly the same.. The strategy of assuming everyone is hiv positive,therefore practising safer sex is something I can understand and it makes sense ." No matter how many condoms you put on, you will end up diseased and suffer a life in agony didnt you know that? It’s also wise to ask before a handshake if they use protection and keep a glove handy.... | |||
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"Dont be silly...its super easy to be super safe. Just follow these simple rules and you’ll enjoy a lifetime of super safe sex. Live and let the others die... Rule 1. Always wrap the penis in 3 layers of cling film before you put the condom on if you’re planning to be extreme. Rule 2. Bathe in Chlorine. Dont be fool, its not only the genitals. The whole human body is a nuclear bomb of bacteria, stay safe. Rule 3. Call an ambulance before you get intimate. Be proactive in case you come in contact by accident with bodily fluids. Always arrange to meet near an A&E Rule 4. Close your eyes and dream about it. Keep a safe distance and use your imagination. No need for physical contact, the brain is the most powerful sex organ isn't it? Rule 5. Promote ultra safe cyber sex. Preferably your cyber partner should be in a different Continent and always use protection too. This wifi can be risky, you cant see whats in those horny electro-magnetic fields. Happy safe swinging everyone.. " | |||
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"If you always use condoms, why would it put you off someone if they have engaged in bareback sex?? Surely the risk factor is exactly the same.. The strategy of assuming everyone is hiv positive,therefore practising safer sex is something I can understand and it makes sense ." I had a situation where the condom slipped off. It was terrifying but all evidence suggested that the guy was NOT a high risk candidate so that provided a small message of comfort. If he had had pictures of him barebacking a dozen different women, I would have been even more scared than I already was. | |||
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"If you always use condoms, why would it put you off someone if they have engaged in bareback sex?? Surely the risk factor is exactly the same.. The strategy of assuming everyone is hiv positive,therefore practising safer sex is something I can understand and it makes sense .I posted a guide to be safe in sex, you dont wanna read it...what else can I do to be helpful..? I had a situation where the condom slipped off. It was terrifying but all evidence suggested that the guy was NOT a high risk candidate so that provided a small message of comfort. If he had had pictures of him barebacking a dozen different women, I would have been even more scared than I already was." | |||
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"If you always use condoms, why would it put you off someone if they have engaged in bareback sex?? Surely the risk factor is exactly the same.. The strategy of assuming everyone is hiv positive,therefore practising safer sex is something I can understand and it makes sense .I posted a guide to be safe in sex, you dont wanna read it...what else can I do to be helpful..? I had a situation where the condom slipped off. It was terrifying but all evidence suggested that the guy was NOT a high risk candidate so that provided a small message of comfort. If he had had pictures of him barebacking a dozen different women, I would have been even more scared than I already was." | |||
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"I think you can never definitively know if someone has gone bareback on here or not. Not all people veri. Some profiles preclude to safe sex only and may not always adhere to that sentiment. My thought process is to see all meets as potential barebackers and focus on my own sexual health. The only true safe sex Is no sex. It's about making yourself as little at risk as possible. You can never truly know if the ones you meet are always playing safe This" This | |||
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"So you could check someone out on here and they could always play safer. What about all the other people they are barebacking with that you know nothing about? Just concentrate on your own sexual health. agree " Agree with this and might I add what a nice big cock you have gorgeous pics | |||
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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . " Just ask him straight out....I would ask this in a phone conversation, as then you should be able to get a gut feeling if he is lying x | |||
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"This is a question for the couples or single ladies who play safe like us . Are we going over the top by checking out potential guys who they have slept with before and if your reading this do you read other people's verifications too ? For example there's a guy we're keen on and by all accounts he plays safe in all the pics he has . However we looked at a verification of his and it shows he met a couple who insist on bareback only so we assume he went bareback . It has put us off slightly despite the fact we'd play safe on full sex if we met him . " Apologies if I'm repeating others suggestions. You could ask the question to this gentlemen that your keen on? Yes he could lie through his teeth or he could tell the truth. If hes that sweet on you, you could request he gets checked out and again in a further 3 months. | |||
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