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By *akeb7722 OP   Man
over a year ago

weston-super-mare

Hello everyone i done some meets on fab and swinging and i generally like to and most couples agree with safe sex only and u must use a condom.

So if you play with same couple of people all the time and u know there clean u still make them use a condom? Or u go bareback as u trust them?

So my question is who is worried about the risks of falling pregnant? And the risks around creampies and Preganancy ect

Wondering about it all ????????

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By *ita7Man
over a year ago

Kettering

I have in past had two regular cpls who after 3/4 meets asked if I would go BB. One of them was early thirties so still fertile so the hubby who had had the snip put her on the coil. We had a relationship for about three years before it all stopped. All of us had more excitement when we went bb.

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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

That was a good arrangement ??

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"One of them was early thirties so still fertile so the hubby who had had the snip put her on the coil"

Hubby 'put her on the coil'?!

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Nope. No sex without a condom. Not a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always skeptical about the number of profiles who say safe sex only, quite often you dig into their pictures a bit and there are bb or what appear to be bb images. Granted these could be with former partners or other legitimate reasons, but still, I suspect a fair few (men especially) state safe only, and may even fully intend to be safe only, but would probably still dive in bb if they had to.

It's like seeing profiles that say non-smoker then have pictures with ashtrays or cigarettes in the background. Some people say on their profiles what they believe will give them the best chance of a meet

Not everyone of course, just some from my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of them was early thirties so still fertile so the hubby who had had the snip put her on the coil

Hubby 'put her on the coil'?! "

yes! slightly odd way to word that! did she not have any say in it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of them was early thirties so still fertile so the hubby who had had the snip put her on the coil

Hubby 'put her on the coil'?!

yes! slightly odd way to word that! did she not have any say in it?"

I was thinking the same thing lol

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By *ssex Playfull CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Grays

This is a true story, we met a couple for the first time at their house. Anyway the girls went to get changed and I was chatting to the bloke. I said we only play safe, he looked a bit confused and said they don’t normally bother.

Any way I gave him a condom and we all got on with the evening.

The day after they went really weird on us, not chatting. So we thought we had done something wrong. And just decided to leave them to it.

A week later I get a personal message telling me they just found out his Mrs is 3 months pregnant!!! What the fucks that all about?

Then he was proper pestering me to have another meet before she got to big! Too weird for me even in the world of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always skeptical about the number of profiles who say safe sex only, quite often you dig into their pictures a bit and there are bb or what appear to be bb images. Granted these could be with former partners or other legitimate reasons, but still, I suspect a fair few (men especially) state safe only, and may even fully intend to be safe only, but would probably still dive in bb if they had to.

It's like seeing profiles that say non-smoker then have pictures with ashtrays or cigarettes in the background. Some people say on their profiles what they believe will give them the best chance of a meet

Not everyone of course, just some from my experience."

Or the ones posted by the people they have met with said 'safe sex' couple in. Makes me howl.... Not saying they all do it, but there's a lot of it going on "we play safe, pictures of bareback sex are just for show" ok babe, I'm sure I've seen them shoes belonging to someone v similar (identical) to you with a big black cock up ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do people still get tested when they have 'safe sex' with condoms?

To answer the OP I'd still use a condom. And get tested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be worried about the risks of my health first and then pregnacy.

Also what if they have another guy who they "know" is clean that they trust then you gonna have to trust him too it gets very messy unless your sure of the people your with and trust them,in the end of the day all conseting adults will do what they please X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it doesn't matter how long or well we've known them, how clean they are or how much we trust them, we always use a condom with even our closest friends. And we get tested too and encourage them to as well. That will always be the case until we give this hobby up

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By *akeb7722 OP   Man
over a year ago

weston-super-mare

I always get tested every 3 weeks when i swing as i dont take changes and i always use condoms too ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can ever really know someone is clean based on condom use and testing, unless they have abstained in between testing over a period that would cover the length of time it takes for some STIs to show up. Condoms don't prevent everything. You might know them well enough to feel the risk was significantly reduced but still no guaranteed. As such no, we would never play bareback with others.

On a side note I find it interesting that while people discuss condom use in relation to STDs it's very rare anyone talks about pregnancy risk or asks if I'm using another form of contraception in case the condom splits.

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By *akeb7722 OP   Man
over a year ago

weston-super-mare

Thats what the post was about is risks of pregnancy

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Trust no one.

If YOU don't want kids and YOU don't want STDs, than YOU take responsibility for your own protection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats what the post was about is risks of pregnancy "

To me the greater concern in your first post was where you said you know someone is clean which is why I addressed that first.

The fact it rarely seems to be discussed suggests the answer to your question about who is worried about pregnancy risks is not many of the guys, or if they are they're making dubious assumptions about who should be taking precautions.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"One of them was early thirties so still fertile so the hubby who had had the snip put her on the coil

Hubby 'put her on the coil'?!

yes! slightly odd way to word that! did she not have any say in it?

I was thinking the same thing lol"

Maybe hubby physically put her "on the coil" rather than her GP doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of them was early thirties so still fertile so the hubby who had had the snip put her on the coil

Hubby 'put her on the coil'?!

yes! slightly odd way to word that! did she not have any say in it?

I was thinking the same thing lol

Maybe hubby physically put her "on the coil" rather than her GP doing it. "

That’s even worse

For us, safe sex always & we prefer to play with people who don’t bareback with others because there’s still the question of oral. We only play bareback with each other.

As for pregnancy, I’ve had a coil for over 10 years as I’ve no intention of having kids with anyone ever. My main concern when swinging though is playing safely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting pregnant is something I don't have to worry about. When some people find out that I can't get pregnant they assume they won't need to wear a condom.

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By *urryfannyfuntimeWoman
over a year ago

East Devon

I sometimes get messages saying "you don't need to worry I've had the snip".

I feel some education is needed!

I have to admit, there are certain people on here that if I notice someone who messages me on their veri list, I won't even consider meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone i done some meets on fab and swinging and i generally like to and most couples agree with safe sex only and u must use a condom.

So if you play with same couple of people all the time and u know there clean u still make them use a condom? Or u go bareback as u trust them?

So my question is who is worried about the risks of falling pregnant? And the risks around creampies and Preganancy ect

Wondering about it all ????????"
I have wounded a few people in my time as a swinger ha

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Thats what the post was about is risks of pregnancy "

Well you need to protect you and that includes this aspect. Why would you trust the words of people in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been playing for many years, most of which has been with 3 main partners. I wondered if everyone is aware of the risks of 'oral' sex and what can be caught?....Gonorrhea, Syphilis and Genital herpes are the most common and easy to catch when oral sex is unprotected, however we all seem preoccupied with penetrative sex and the infections that results in through bare backing!.......I await the bullets!

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Do people still get tested when they have 'safe sex' with condoms?

To answer the OP I'd still use a condom. And get tested."

The answer is yes you said - ‘safe’ sex is a myth - it doesn’t exist, condoms or not

The evidence is clear the risk is reduced with condoms but that is all, reduced not eliminated

We all on here, for our personal reasons, choose to take a risk for the benefit of our sex lives - where anyone draws their line as to how much risk to take is a personal decision, but whether psychologically people choose to accept they’re taking a risk or not is another matter

The only safe sex is no sex

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By *riendly older leggy wifeCouple
over a year ago

london

Agree with the above and true

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

OP, just because you've played with someone several times, and 'know' them, doesn't make it any safer.

It would be nice to do it, but the reality is, they might say the same thing to another playmate. Does he also do the same with others?? Unfortunately the logic doesn't hold.

Play safe, and get tested regularly.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"One of them was early thirties so still fertile so the hubby who had had the snip put her on the coil

Hubby 'put her on the coil'?!

yes! slightly odd way to word that! did she not have any say in it?

I was thinking the same thing lol"

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always protected for oral and sex.

No point in risking it.

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By *exy-SirenWoman
over a year ago

Fareham

I love your answer it's so much more accurate than most people post. A lot of people just assume a clean std test is accurate when in fact you are not necessarily in the clear. The minute you kiss or suck or fuck anyone new you need a new barrage of tests and to abstain from any sexual contact till you get those back....rinse and repeat . It's all a big risk.

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By *ouise HartleyTV/TS
over a year ago

the street of failed artists Liverpool

Never ever without a condom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone i done some meets on fab and swinging and i generally like to and most couples agree with safe sex only and u must use a condom.

So if you play with same couple of people all the time and u know there clean u still make them use a condom? Or u go bareback as u trust them?

So my question is who is worried about the risks of falling pregnant? And the risks around creampies and Preganancy ect

Wondering about it all ????????"
you are its down to you

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