FabSwingers.com forum: Dating Strangers.

By *razymaybe OP Couple
over a year ago

Truro

My wife is just off on a first date with a guy from tinder. They have been chatting for a while. We have a no sex on the first date rule. So my question, how many dates is enough to figure out how safe this person is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a date with a view to fucking at a later date?... and does he know she’s not single?

I’d say it depends how comfortable she is in his company and how he acts... I wouldn’t stick to a certain number of dates, and always be contactable and know where she is until you both trust him

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By *razymaybe OP Couple
over a year ago

Truro

First date with a view to fucking at a later date. Yeah knows she's is married and the rules. We have safety measures in place. Plus a I'm safe phrase or not safe phrase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds pretty good then... when is she meeting him?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My wife is just off on a first date with a guy from tinder. They have been chatting for a while. We have a no sex on the first date rule. So my question, how many dates is enough to figure out how safe this person is? "

No way of telling until he becomes unsafe. Of course he probably won't but the point about unsafe people is that the only way of knowing is when they do something unsafe.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"how many dates is enough to figure out how safe this person is? "

If one is ok on Fab why any different on a dating site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m signing up on tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say you met in mcdonalds ,in a pub , on a train , in a sweet shop,it dosent matter where you met does it ......

how did you know your first date was safe ....

dont quite get what your asking that you cant work out yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"say you met in mcdonalds ,in a pub , on a train , in a sweet shop,it dosent matter where you met does it ......

how did you know your first date was safe ....

dont quite get what your asking that you cant work out yourself"

We've started a culture of complete mistrust until proven otherwise...unfortunately this has many ramifications. Starting from a negative stance will always result in an uphill struggle for anything from NSA to a relationship. And it always feels different from star ting with trust. But that's the society we now have created.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how many dates is enough to figure out how safe this person is?

If one is ok on Fab why any different on a dating site?

I find less trust amongst dabbers than those on Pof. My theory is the forums, where one one or two bad experies are shared and then get translated in unreal regularities.

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By *razymaybe OP Couple
over a year ago

Truro

Thank you everyone for your advice. I am lucky as a man, sadly due to our current society, as a husband who wants my wife to have fun, it is polluted with worry. On here it feels safer for her to meet guys that have been verified, that have played with people we know. We have rules and safeguards, we are also aware that a minority on fab have had bad experiences. This is tricky, I want my wife to explore her sexuality, but we have a family, we need to be safe. Her date went well tonight, loved seeing her excited after. We are knew to flying solo, tho we still want to meet with couples! We will continue, thanks to your advice we have some tips and will continue to improve our safety without compromising on sexuality.

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