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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

First, spice things up between the two of you before suggesting swinging. You don't mention if she means swinging when she says about spicing things up, and it's best to go gently and explore - more fun as well

One thing we have found fun and revelatory from time to time is to write out a fantasy for the other to read.

The best time we did this was at the start of a weekend away in a crowded cafe. We bought two small notepads and sat there opposite each other, surrounded by people, and wrote out a fantasy each. Then swapped and read them.

Another time we shared the writing of an erotic story together on a g*****gle doc, so we could do it anywhere any time. We would just add bits in turn to see where it went.

These things can open up barriers with perhaps less awkwardness than just coming out with "well what do you like" etc.

Just a thought. Good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???"

Does she mean swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???"
just say I know a great dance club and take her to abfabs on a couples night that'll give her an eye opener and you can dance to

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

‘Break her in gently’! She’s not a prize mare!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The usual advice in these situations is to show her your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Introduce her to your wife if you didn't finish with her 14 weeks ago, that should spice things up

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire


"Introduce her to your wife if you didn't finish with her 14 weeks ago, that should spice things up "

Ooh, that could work

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

I got a porn DVD filmed in La Chambre, starring real swingers, not porn stars. When we were watching it I asked my gf if she'd like to try that, and she said she would, so we went to La Chambre the next Saturday night.

We didn't swap that night, but loved the scene and that started us swinging.

I asked my ex-wife if she would like to try swinging and she said "NO!" firmly. Some women are upon for it, some are not. Good luck!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You say you are a very seasoned swinger yet 6 weeks ago you were plucking up the courage to go to a club for the first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say you are a very seasoned swinger yet 6 weeks ago you were plucking up the courage to go to a club for the first time. "
yes but he was In Borneo the week previous

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???"

Nah you can't get a little bit pregnant, jump in at the deep end. You already have a wife who is a prude, unless she's now been disemboweled, so the last thing you want is a girlfriend who thinks kinky sex is when you leave the lights on. Why not organise a gangbang without telling her? Women love surprises and if the guys and naked when she gets in the door then the awkwardness of the situation will compell her to go through with it against her better judgement.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Introduce her to your wife if you didn't finish with her 14 weeks ago, that should spice things up "

Was about to say the same lol. Good old green arrow. Jack

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle


"‘Break her in gently’! She’s not a prize mare!

"

Maybe use the whispering method?

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle


"‘Break her in gently’! She’s not a prize mare!

Maybe use the whispering method? "

Oh, loving the shoes btw.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you still have that copy ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x"

Perhaps we should tell you about the little green arrow next to your name on the Forum! Go on, click on it!

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x

Perhaps we should tell you about the little green arrow next to your name on the Forum! Go on, click on it! "
Fabulous ! Similar user name ? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Introduce her to your wife if you didn't finish with her 14 weeks ago, that should spice things up

Ooh, that could work "

That damn green arrow eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x"

Pah hahaha the green arrow never lies, perhaps you should try doing the same.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x

Perhaps we should tell you about the little green arrow next to your name on the Forum! Go on, click on it! Fabulous ! Similar user name ? Lol"

Similar location and dick picture too

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x

Perhaps we should tell you about the little green arrow next to your name on the Forum! Go on, click on it! Fabulous ! Similar user name ? Lol

Similar location and dick picture too "
Really funny !!! Married talk that's rubbish !!! False accusations !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???"
just say look you're gorgeous I really fancy you and love fucking and don't want to lose you but I want to fuck other women and guys to is that ok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well looks like iv left my fucking fab account on and someone's been on it worse thing isn't having bullshit wrote it's not knowing who knows about it :| iv never been married and would never treat a woman like that I'd always be upfront and honest as I was brought up if anyone wants proof ask for my Facebook I'm sure that would have proof off a marriage cnt believe someone knows my little fab secret lol

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x

Pah hahaha the green arrow never lies, perhaps you should try doing the same."

I wonder if being caught out with the green arrow is like being caught by your wife lmao

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Ah yes, such an inconvenience when someone posts things using your fab account.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury


"Well looks like iv left my fucking fab account on and someone's been on it worse thing isn't having bullshit wrote it's not knowing who knows about it :| iv never been married and would never treat a woman like that I'd always be upfront and honest as I was brought up if anyone wants proof ask for my Facebook I'm sure that would have proof off a marriage cnt believe someone knows my little fab secret lol"

Really....? I can smell something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well looks like iv left my fucking fab account on and someone's been on it worse thing isn't having bullshit wrote it's not knowing who knows about it :| iv never been married and would never treat a woman like that I'd always be upfront and honest as I was brought up if anyone wants proof ask for my Facebook I'm sure that would have proof off a marriage cnt believe someone knows my little fab secret lol

Really....? I can smell something "
it wasn't me honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well looks like iv left my fucking fab account on and someone's been on it worse thing isn't having bullshit wrote it's not knowing who knows about it :| iv never been married and would never treat a woman like that I'd always be upfront and honest as I was brought up if anyone wants proof ask for my Facebook I'm sure that would have proof off a marriage cnt believe someone knows my little fab secret lol"

You could narrow it down by finding which of your friends has the same level of grammar as yourself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well looks like iv left my fucking fab account on and someone's been on it worse thing isn't having bullshit wrote it's not knowing who knows about it :| iv never been married and would never treat a woman like that I'd always be upfront and honest as I was brought up if anyone wants proof ask for my Facebook I'm sure that would have proof off a marriage cnt believe someone knows my little fab secret lol

You could narrow it down by finding which of your friends has the same level of grammar as yourself..."
could be anyone on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blood he'll as iv said I'm on Facebook sure that will shed some light anyway think what.you like have fun only asked for advice not for all the keyboard warriors to take the mick

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well looks like iv left my fucking fab account on and someone's been on it worse thing isn't having bullshit wrote it's not knowing who knows about it :| iv never been married and would never treat a woman like that I'd always be upfront and honest as I was brought up if anyone wants proof ask for my Facebook I'm sure that would have proof off a marriage cnt believe someone knows my little fab secret lol"

It might be an idea to change your password and don't leave whatever device you log in to fab on laying around.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury


"Blood he'll as iv said I'm on Facebook sure that will shed some light anyway think what.you like have fun only asked for advice not for all the keyboard warriors to take the mick"

No one is "taking the mick" you have just been caught out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is hilarious

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha well as I said I'm not married and this is pathetic a) If I was married which I'm not and never have been I'd off been looking for advice not criticism (isn't that why we're all hiding on this site and not out in public???) 2) I couldn't care what Tom dick and Harry have to say so unless you have advice for my current question then you know we're the block button is 3) no wonder this site is dieing a slow death it's because the swingers who hide from judgment seem to be the quickest to dish it... have fun anyway guys it's all fun and games

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

So you're saying you aren't married because you FINISHED HER?

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

But the another post you wanted to introduce your wife to the swinging world ,now is the new girlfriend ! Someone has the same imagination as you ! Maybe you have double personality ! Honestly !!!!

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By *unlovers70Couple
over a year ago

Overseas

Fab! That gave me a laugh, I didn't even know about the Green arrow so thanks guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep saying that I will leave Fab

But I cant

Just look at the priceless, joy I would miss

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Sybil...

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???"

Why not say that it’s something you have gone in the past , that you are on here etc

Everyone has a past

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"This is hilarious"

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???"

She's your NEW gf and she's asking you to spice things up (already)..I think that's her way of saying the sex is boring already. I would work on that before thinking about introducing her to swinging.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

The most hilarious thing about this is the guy doubling down on his deceit. . He's been busted as a fantasist with probably neither a wife or a girlfriend. At that point any sensible person would delete his account and set up a new one.

Not this chap, he comes up with some half arsed story about someone posting on his account who just happens to write in exactly the same way as him. Add to this his ramblings about Facebook and it becomes performance art.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Omg I just ‘green arrowed’

Pmsl

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"The most hilarious thing about this is the guy doubling down on his deceit. . He's been busted as a fantasist with probably neither a wife or a girlfriend. At that point any sensible person would delete his account and set up a new one.

Not this chap, he comes up with some half arsed story about someone posting on his account who just happens to write in exactly the same way as him. Add to this his ramblings about Facebook and it becomes performance art. "

Yeah but no but yeah, what it was was this whole thing that i didn't know nothing about so SHUT UP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for x"
it's the green arrow op it shows all your posts about you your wife and every bit of shit you post

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By *aughtycouplesexCouple
over a year ago

swadlincote

Starting UNLOS countdown in

3,

2,

1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We may be keyboard warriors in your opinion op but you are a blatant mmm what's the word smells like a male cows dung ah yes bullshitter lol just man up and say yes married and now playing around with a new lady stop digging or you'll soon reach Australia

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for xit's the green arrow op it shows all your posts about you your wife and every bit of shit you post "

I can literally hear the OP’s jaw hitting the floor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for xit's the green arrow op it shows all your posts about you your wife and every bit of shit you post

I can literally hear the OP’s jaw hitting the floor "
I bet his wife doesn't know they're divorcing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we in the stories and fantasy section as it seems surreal this thread

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for xit's the green arrow op it shows all your posts about you your wife and every bit of shit you post

I can literally hear the OP’s jaw hitting the floor I bet his wife doesn't know they're divorcing lol"

I wonder if she knew she was married lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know were all these married shouts are coming from ??? Maybe a user with a similar name but as usual it's the single women with the best answers thanks again hope you all get what your looking for xit's the green arrow op it shows all your posts about you your wife and every bit of shit you post

I can literally hear the OP’s jaw hitting the floor I bet his wife doesn't know they're divorcing lol

I wonder if she knew she was married lmao"
bet she's married but not to him lol

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

This has cheered me right up after a tough day. It’s the gift that keeps on giving. :D

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’ve been waiting all day to see what more the OP will contribute to this thread ...

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I’ve been waiting all day to see what more the OP will contribute to this thread ... "
how dare him to keep one of the most beautiful ladies of fab waiting!!! This said I am not bi ! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... so has P not really left G to be with her mates husband?

The suspense is killing me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm waiting for Jeremy Kyle to turn up or Jerry springer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My new GF has asked me to spice things up in the bedroom I'm very adventurous and seasoned swinging just don't know how to spice things up subtly I want to gently break her in not jump in at the deep end any ideas ???"

Just talk about you like and ask her what she likes she might be having the same dilemma

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Oh this thread is sheer class haha. Outed big style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read the whole thread that's brilliant hahahahahah he's married and a gf ..... hahahahahah

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

The biggest epic fail on the forum

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I’ve been waiting all day to see what more the OP will contribute to this thread ... how dare him to keep one of the most beautiful ladies of fab waiting!!! This said I am not bi ! X"

Haha

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By *iss GalitzineWoman
over a year ago

Near Bath

Find whoever posted on your behalf OP. I believe they are your soul mate. You both have an identical aversion to using any punctuation whatsoever. Such an amazing coincidence!!

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"I'm waiting for Jeremy Kyle to turn up or Jerry springer lol"

Haha, I was thinking Jeremy Kyle as i2was reading through this hilarious thread. I think the OP is the kind of guy who would still deny any wrongdoing even after failing the lie detector test

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"Find whoever posted on your behalf OP. I believe they are your soul mate. You both have an identical aversion to using any punctuation whatsoever. Such an amazing coincidence!! "

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find whoever posted on your behalf OP. I believe they are your soul mate. You both have an identical aversion to using any punctuation whatsoever. Such an amazing coincidence!! "

It's okay though if you read his profile he's in Barcelona :/

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Starting UNLOS countdown in

3,

2,

1."

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I keep saying that I will leave Fab

But I cant

Just look at the priceless, joy I would miss"

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Reminds me of that song Shaggy released...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reminds me of that song Shaggy released..."
which one lol it wasn't me or the other not so famous one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never knew about the green arrow..... but thx for the very amusing thread!!!

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By *wankCouple
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm only posting to see what the green arrow does...

PS the gangbang suggestion was best, go with that buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep saying that I will leave Fab

But I cant

Just look at the priceless, joy I would miss"
ooooooo I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Introduce her to your wife if you didn't finish with her 14 weeks ago, that should spice things up "

hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has to be one of the funniest threads yet,

Great late night reading with popcorn, but nievity

What how this green arrow thingy.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

Click on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All quiet on the western front I see lol

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"All quiet on the western front I see lol"

Some serious money has been lost on the UNLOS betting markets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most entertaining thread of the year

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

So we had wife then girlfriend. I wonder what's next...

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

The OP seems to have gone very quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had wife then girlfriend. I wonder what's next..."
kissing cousin is my guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All quiet on the western front I see lol

Some serious money has been lost on the UNLOS betting markets"
yep lol but I bet the only women he knows pa(l)m and her 5 sisters lol

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