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Training to be a sub

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey all. I’m very new to the Dom/sub life. I really like the idea of being someone’s sub to be used etc. I’m looking for a guy straight or bi or gay to become my master an help train me if your interested message me please xx

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP you may find it easier to find a master on a fetish/Bdsm lifestyle site.

As a newbie to bdsm I would suggest going to a local munch (fetish/Bdsm social). You can get to know others in the scene and learn more about the lifestyle. The one near me is just a social gathering at a local pub.

Don't just jump straight in without doing some research first. There are people out there who claim to be a master/dom who really don't know what they are doing and are controlling and abusive. I've seen others on the forums recommend some books about bdsm but I can't remember what they are called. Hopefully some e else will comment and advise.

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes


"OP you may find it easier to find a master on a fetish/Bdsm lifestyle site.

As a newbie to bdsm I would suggest going to a local munch (fetish/Bdsm social). You can get to know others in the scene and learn more about the lifestyle. The one near me is just a social gathering at a local pub.

Don't just jump straight in without doing some research first. There are people out there who claim to be a master/dom who really don't know what they are doing and are controlling and abusive. I've seen others on the forums recommend some books about bdsm but I can't remember what they are called. Hopefully some e else will comment and advise."

Excellent advice, op don’t settle for the first ‘Dom’ that comes along, a fake will rush, a real won’t, also remember it’s actually the sub who has control, not the Dom, the Dom can only do what the sub allows within their limits and anyone who tries to push beyond hard limits is generally a red flag to be avoided

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Talk to subs, not Dom’s, the spectrum is wide in this type of play, find where you fit, subs will advise, the ConDoms, well they will demand.

The more natural types will talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with what’s been said ... you need lots of conversation and be sure you trust the Dom. Have several socials before any meet and if all they talk about is their wants and needs then walk away. What you want and your limits are very important.

But if you find the right person for you then it’s an amazing dynamic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice I’ll start looking for more subs to talk to an maybe try an social event. X

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

If you are training to be a sub, you need to be able to hold your breath for a long time...

Sorry, someone had to say it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all. I’m very new to the Dom/sub life. I really like the idea of being someone’s sub to be used etc. I’m looking for a guy straight or bi or gay to become my master an help train me if your interested message me please xx"
as a sub you know you have to go deep don't you ?

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