FabSwingers.com forum: Professions that require more discretion than other professions?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are the professions that require more discretion than other professions on a Swingers' site?

Inspired by this thread https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/707149

Who would, potentially, undermine their own work position if they waived their right to (presumed) online anonymity and were recognized by clients, customers, parents, or members of the public in real life? (UK and RoI only!)

Just a light-hearted thought experiment. I'll start:

Magistrates,

Police officers,

School teachers,

Politicians,

University lecturers,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nurses

doctors

councillors

ministers of religion

forces personel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porn stars

Traffic wardens

Crossing ladies

Environmentalists

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Conversely, which professions would, perhaps, not compromise their own work position?

Again, just light-hearted and a though experiment:

Train drivers,

admin staff,

accountants,

letting agents,

geologists,

employed plumbers, builders, joiners, etc. (as opposed to tradesmen who represent their own company),

retail staff (shop floor or administrative side),

gardeners,

catering staff,

courrier drivers,

lorry drivers,

Who else?

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"Conversely, which professions would, perhaps, not compromise their own work position?

Again, just light-hearted and a though experiment:

Train drivers,

admin staff,

accountants,

letting agents,

geologists,

employed plumbers, builders, joiners, etc. (as opposed to tradesmen who represent their own company),

retail staff (shop floor or administrative side),

gardeners,

catering staff,

courrier drivers,

lorry drivers,

Who else?

People who work in Ann Summers shops.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

If you have a contract which states that you can be sacked for "bringing the company into disrepute", then you could theoretically be sacked for swinging, although its unlikely, unless you posted pics of yourself in some form of clothing, vehicle or location which identified the company.

Anything involving working with children, or any job where you have access to cash or classified info would be at risk, due to the chances of you being bl@ckmailed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Working with vulnerable adults.. I don't think my employers would embrace me being on fab

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By *illnatMan
over a year ago

wherever i need to be

My contract basically doesn’t want anyone of us online but recognises things such as social media (I suppose a swingers site counts as social) as day to Day life. So it has the bringing the company into disrepute part in it. However have seen people sacked in my place for what would be generally a minor infraction.... but because it got online then people associated them with the company..... oot the door.

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By *ustafasinghMan
over a year ago

leicester

"If you have a contract which states that you can be sacked for "bringing the company into disrepute", then you could theoretically be sacked for swinging, although its unlikely, unless you posted pics of yourself in some form of clothing, vehicle or location which identified the company.

Anything involving working with children, or any job where you have access to cash or classified info would be at risk, due to the chances of you being bl@ckmailed.

Well I'll be fucked working a jewellers aha

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Bit weird as I've met several on the above lists

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Footballers

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

"Bit weird as I've met several on the above lists"

It's not so much about being on Fab as being outed publicly as being on a swingers site.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Members of the royal family would be a difficult one to explain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hairdressers

Teaching assistants

Caretakers

Actors

All in my experience very sexy and warrant special exclusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Premiership footballers.......

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By *ipvanwinkieMan
over a year ago

out of town!

My work in MI5 requires a lot of discretion. I’m only telling you lot because I know you’ll understand. I think.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Dancers from strictly come dancing.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

"My work in MI5 requires a lot of discretion. I’m only telling you lot because I know you’ll understand. I think. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Professional husband/wife, marriage certificates a bit of a contract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My work in MI5 requires a lot of discretion. I’m only telling you lot because I know you’ll understand. I think. "

I used to work at MFI too and requiedvtotal discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bookmakers

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By *avidandjaneukCouple
over a year ago

Canterbury

We met a couple of police officers at a party a few years back, they didn't seem too bothered that people knew what they did. They'd gone there separately and one recognised the other.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

Wasn't there a firefighter and a couple of police helicopter pilots that got in a bit of bother not long ago...

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Wasn't there a firefighter and a couple of police helicopter pilots that got in a bit of bother not long ago..."

Not for being swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My work in MI5 requires a lot of discretion. I’m only telling you lot because I know you’ll understand. I think.

I used to work at MFI too and requiedvtotal discretion."
I worked for MDF

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

"Wasn't there a firefighter and a couple of police helicopter pilots that got in a bit of bother not long ago...

Not for being swingers.

Both swingers..

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/metro.co.uk/2017/06/28/picture-emerges-of-fireman-having-sex-in-fire-engine-on-swingers-site-6739711/amp/

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/cop-who-used-police-helicopter-10872873.amp

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Wasn't there a firefighter and a couple of police helicopter pilots that got in a bit of bother not long ago...

Not for being swingers.

Both swingers..

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/metro.co.uk/2017/06/28/picture-emerges-of-fireman-having-sex-in-fire-engine-on-swingers-site-6739711/amp/

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/cop-who-used-police-helicopter-10872873.amp

Yes, they were swingers but that wasn't why they were sacked.

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

If you don't want to put your job on the line could take up trainspotting or knitting

me being a ex season caravan cleaner I'm safe lol. As one of the person I meet he was a bank assistant not but never ask questions just agree

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

I'm always amazed at the amount of soldiers (and officers) that message with their rank, unit, and occasionally name easily identifiable.

Since I live near a load of military units, I've come up with a scoring system of points based on rank... a Colonel visiting the area is the best so far...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sewage workers I mean its shitty but would you tell anyone you did it

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Bit weird as I've met several on the above lists

It's not so much about being on Fab as being outed publicly as being on a swingers site. "

There aren't many people stating their professions on their profiles whatever they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit weird as I've met several on the above lists

It's not so much about being on Fab as being outed publicly as being on a swingers site.

There aren't many people stating their professions on their profiles whatever they do. "
I'm a psychologist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a celebrity ..... Get me out of here

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"I'm a celebrity ..... Get me out of here

Airline pilot. A captive audience imagine an announcement on board. “ all swingers please unfasten your seat belts and come to my cock pit”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a celebrity ..... Get me out of here

Airline pilot. A captive audience imagine an announcement on board. “ all swingers please unfasten your seat belts and come to my cock pit”"

Love it....I’m a flight attendant and I’ve recognised a few pilots on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a celebrity ..... Get me out of here

Airline pilot. A captive audience imagine an announcement on board. “ all swingers please unfasten your seat belts and come to my cock pit”"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Builders ?? Wait hang on a minuet naw we don't give a fuck

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"I'm a celebrity ..... Get me out of here

Airline pilot. A captive audience imagine an announcement on board. “ all swingers please unfasten your seat belts and come to my cock pit”

Love it....I’m a flight attendant and I’ve recognised a few pilots on here

I need to look out for your next flight xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a celebrity ..... Get me out of here

Airline pilot. A captive audience imagine an announcement on board. “ all swingers please unfasten your seat belts and come to my cock pit”

Love it....I’m a flight attendant and I’ve recognised a few pilots on here

I need to look out for your next flight xx

I’ve been off sick for 3 months with an injury but was given the green light yesterday to return. I’m so excited to go back to living out of a suitcase. "

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"I'm a celebrity ..... Get me out of here

Airline pilot. A captive audience imagine an announcement on board. “ all swingers please unfasten your seat belts and come to my cock pit”

Love it....I’m a flight attendant and I’ve recognised a few pilots on here

I need to look out for your next flight xx

I’ve been off sick for 3 months with an injury but was given the green light yesterday to return. I’m so excited to go back to living out of a suitcase.

Well have fun and have a fab crimbo xxx

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By *exyredheadtattooCouple
over a year ago

Beaumont

RV park managers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A marine biologist .......i mean they go down deeeeep

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Brexit voters...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teresa may but she may not

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Chartered Textile Technologists....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Members of ISIS...

'So you're a swinger AND a suicide bomber?! I'm sorry but I'm blocking you...'

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Lawyer and doctor here.

It's an interesting issue as whether being a swinger per se would see you lose your job. I tend to think not as long as you are discreet about it and don't involve your employer in any way. If you were outed involuntarily say, I think an automatic sacking just for being a swinger would be deemed unfair.

The only exceptions I can think of would be jobs where being hetero normative is part of the job, like a vicar say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bit weird as I've met several on the above lists

It's not so much about being on Fab as being outed publicly as being on a swingers site. "

Thanks Highland Gent, you took the words right out of my mouth there!

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

"What are the professions that require more discretion than other professions on a Swingers' site?

Inspired by this thread https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/707149

Just a light-hearted thought experiment. I'll start:

Magistrates,

Police officers,

School teachers,

Politicians,

University lecturers,

The whole world is a small Place with the Internet now.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I work in London and the amount of people on illegal drugs, a bit of shagging the odd person at the werk be would be ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm always amazed at the amount of soldiers (and officers) that message with their rank, unit, and occasionally name easily identifiable."

Good thing you are not a military spy from a foreign country!

I live near two barracks / MoD areas, but no one's ever disclosed that to me. Must be a Midlands' thing doing so...

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By *aucySecretCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

It's an interesting subject but as long as you are not putting your profession into disrepute then I can't see a huge issue. However as swinging isn't perhaps understood by most a level of discretion is required.

As long as it's legal and consensual and fun then why not? As a guess I would think most of us speed (even for a short time) which is far worse as you could take someone's life.

From our perspective it is more on how other individuals in the Vanilla world will judge us so we are careful with our privacy. We also feel we lead this lifestyle as a way of escapism so why should anyone else know (that's why we swing)!

I would imagine that every profession is on here and probably some in high up places!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could be bothered with a job that was so that far up it's own arse it would effect my private life and leave me with a need to keep it under wraps..duality is not in my nature, nor hiding things.

Sod the money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a female prison officer at a party once, best screw I've had in ages.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

I would have loved to have used the local sports centre when they had private naturist sessions. Biggest problem was that my then works depot was literally across the car park from the sports centre which itself was within the grounds of a comprehensive school. So it doesn`t take a lot for some savvy pupil from the school to find out why the sports centre was closed to the public then spot me going into or coming out of the sports centre and split on the school groundsman going into "one of those pervy nudey sessions" and it getting blown out of all proportion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my previous employed work, I will be fired for being here.

Even now that I'm self employed it's still a risk, because of the type of blinds I deal with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my previous employed work, I will be fired for being here.

Even now that I'm self employed it's still a risk, because of the type of clients I deal with.

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By *abcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Truro

"... that you can be sacked for "bringing the company into disrepute", ...

These days, wouldn't an organisation be frightened of being dragged through every ridicule and humiliation if they tried to claim peoples' fairly-well partitioned-off entirely reasonable personal lives become their remit to evaluate? The gay community managed to come from being "marginal" to "a minority" when it stood proudly and declined to be negatively portrayed.

If you don't name an organisation or imply any relation or opinion on your personal life, don't they leave well alone?

As seems to be the case in practice now.

I've heard of a very embarrassed young man being sent to have a quiet staff-welfare interview with a mature experienced lady who is a near-celebrity swinger. Sounds like the Company's way of helping its your staff develop their skills and experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asda checkout girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a lumberjack and I’m ok

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Counsellor / psychotherapist. R was one and dreaded meeting one of her patients in a swinger club, fortunately it never happened!

Someone said "armed forces" disagree, there was lots of random shaggibg when I was in the RAF!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gardner's I mean look what happened to lady Chatterley's

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi

As long as it's legal and consensual and fun then why not? As a guess I would think most of us speed (even for a short time) which is far worse as you could take someone's life.

I would imagine that every profession is on here and probably some in high up places!!

Very well put, I can't but agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ran a business which was in the public eye and if I was noticed on fab or as a swinger then I would have lost some government body contracts and if it had happened I would have had to let go at least 45 of my workers, so ultimately they kept their jobs due to me being discreet.

Sold the business now so feck it, I don't mind being seen so here is my face pic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ran a business which was in the public eye and if I was noticed on fab or as a swinger then I would have lost some government body contracts and if it had happened I would have had to let go at least 45 of my workers, so ultimately they kept their jobs due to me being discreet.

Sold the business now so feck it, I don't mind being seen so here is my face pic...

"
great post if that doesn't get you a few admirers nothing will

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"I’m a lumberjack and I’m ok"
I work all night and I work all day.............. so no time for meets

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I work for the NHS. Surprisingly a lot of coworker sex happens at our (and I suspect other) hospitals and a lot of people know about flings that are happening around them. That doesn't get anyone in trouble but being on a swinger site with your face on display is likely to get you on managers' "fire him/her" list meaning you'd be a target. So I would suggest keeping face pics private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One stop check out girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s a teacher, I’m a sister so our viewable profile has no face pics.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'd say anyone who works with 'the public'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’d be surprised how many people stop talking to me after they find out I shoot and work as a gamekeeper/on a farm. Makes me think I should hide my job and my life lol. It’s what I do and who I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’d be surprised how many people stop talking to me after they find out I shoot and work as a gamekeeper/on a farm. Makes me think I should hide my job and my life lol. It’s what I do and who I am "

You’re starting to sound like a dog with a bone on this one mate, no offence meant. However it’s dragging on. I used to shoot things for my job until I became a teacher, but I hardly tell anybody.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you realise people dont like it, why are you so desperately trying to post a picture on here of you in your shooting clothes with a gun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you realise people dont like it, why are you so desperately trying to post a picture on here of you in your shooting clothes with a gun?"

Haha

That made I laugh ( see what I did there?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you realise people dont like it, why are you so desperately trying to post a picture on here of you in your shooting clothes with a gun?

Haha

That made I laugh ( see what I did there?)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *litteasingManMan
over a year ago

Thereabouts

No profession celebrates or condemns anyone's sex life or preferences - people do. So, is this experiment you are conducting paid for or not? I will be interested in your results analyses and interpretations...

And, the word is "curious" not "curios" check your profile about Cupid...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If you realise people dont like it, why are you so desperately trying to post a picture on here of you in your shooting clothes with a gun?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any profession that has a regulatory body and a code of conduct and ethics which they must adhere too.

Not to mention also that they could have a direct conflict of interest in there duties demanding on the circumstances

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By *urse234Woman
over a year ago

somewhere in Essex

"Any profession that has a regulatory body and a code of conduct and ethics which they must adhere too.

Not to mention also that they could have a direct conflict of interest in there duties demanding on the circumstances "

Totally agree with you, and making sure professional boundaries are not crossed x

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"nurses

doctors

councillors

ministers of religion

forces personel "
councillor isn't a profession - most of them are complete fucking amateurs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is Fabster not too far from me who is a Civil Servant. She said in a thread some years ago that as she handled money she was required to tell her HR dept that she was a swinger. She said that they took a note of it, yawned and filed it away. A non event.

When I ran a business, well before we became swingers, I had at least one person working for me who was in the lifestyle. It was totally irrelevant to his work and any attempt to draw attention to it by a manager and prejudice his career would have the manager in trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you realise people dont like it, why are you so desperately trying to post a picture on here of you in your shooting clothes with a gun?"

It's his choice to post what pictures he wants to. Surely he shouldn't have to run his profile to suit others?

As for those who stop talking to you because of your profession, that speaks volumes about them as a person. We are assuming (rightly or wrongly) that the majority don't fully understand what being a gamekeeper/farmer actually entails.

We were going to say the word 'townies' but think we might get lynched

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