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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya"

Typo here .this goes on..I meant to say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block...?

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I

don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya"

Block him

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Why don't you just tell him your not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya"
I really cant believe why you need to ask others what to do , its simple , if you don't like his contacts then use the block facility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had the same thing and told him im not interested in meeting him as met someone .then he got a bit nasty calling me a tease and why am I on fab and putting pics on .so next message I'm going to block him .As what I do on fab is my business nobody else's .some people on here need to step back and think .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your not interested and he is becoming a pain then explain this to him or block him. You don’t have to be rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block, we've had the same from a couple of people who continually comment on our photo's, from new uploads, to every avatar change. It's flattering but annoying as fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why don't you just tell him your not interested."

I told him I was only doing social meets. That was a few weeks ago

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Why don't you just tell him your not interested.

I told him I was only doing social meets. That was a few weeks ago"

I meant tell him your not interested in him. Us men are sometimes a bit dim and don't always pickup on the hint's unless told bluntly

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Block,i would have done ages ago

Hate pushy people and you have no interest in hin clearly.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have now blocked but I'm not a fan of it if it's someone who is just friendly. I always feel it can seem like a knockback for a guy and dent someone's confidence. However I genuinely don't feel like a lot of small chat at the minute so probably best decision.

Thanks folks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him the truth you don't want to chat if he carries on block him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus Christ your 50. Seriously have a bit of savvy about you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply only when you're ready or want to. Don't feel pressured into a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya"
if you're not going to meet him but he's a nice guy just inform him in a nice way you're not interested and give him a chance to stop messaging of his own accord if he carries on then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

TanyaI really cant believe why you need to ask others what to do , its simple , if you don't like his contacts then use the block facility "

I can’t believe 95% of the stuff I read on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

TanyaI really cant believe why you need to ask others what to do , its simple , if you don't like his contacts then use the block facility

I can’t believe 95% of the stuff I read on here "

I often wonder how some people make it through the day, let alone life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just BE HONEST

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell him to join facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

TanyaI really cant believe why you need to ask others what to do , its simple , if you don't like his contacts then use the block facility

I can’t believe 95% of the stuff I read on here

I often wonder how some people make it through the day, let alone life! "
drugs and alcohol mostly

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"Why don't you just tell him your not interested.

I told him I was only doing social meets. That was a few weeks ago"

Not exactly a no tho. Make it very clear if he's not for you. If he still messages then block. No drama needed.

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

I’ve been known to block mid conversation if I get bored and they start to annoy me, you’re definitely not being rude, I probably am tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore and if persistent block.

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Block, simples. Move on and spend your time with peeps you do want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds needy insecure and a bit ocd. Block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

TanyaI really cant believe why you need to ask others what to do , its simple , if you don't like his contacts then use the block facility

I can’t believe 95% of the stuff I read on here

I often wonder how some people make it through the day, let alone life! "

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I get this a lot, I just tell them I do appreciate the message, but I'm not looking for chat and I would want to waste their time as I'm not looking to meet them.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Damn reading this thread I would be blocked by most people

For me I always take a bit longer to ask to play with others I tend to talk a bit

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"If your not interested and he is becoming a pain then explain this to him or block him. You don’t have to be rude "

I wouldn’t even give him that time I’d just block

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"I’ve been known to block mid conversation if I get bored and they start to annoy me, you’re definitely not being rude, I probably am tho "

Mid conversation? Oo that’s harsh!! I’d at least tell them to bugger off before blocking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya"

This is exactly why I leave myself logged on.

So much easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Jesus Christ your 50. Seriously have a bit of savvy about you x"

Er..I posted this topic on a "swingers support and advice" forum so what is the problem really??? Don't forget that sometimes something that seems unimportant to one person is to another. So let's not criticize please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus Christ your 50. Seriously have a bit of savvy about you x

Er..I posted this topic on a "swingers support and advice" forum so what is the problem really??? Don't forget that sometimes something that seems unimportant to one person is to another. So let's not criticize please "
the problem is people are holier than thou and also judge others based on what they say here ,even block you for it

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Some people categorically say stay in touch or I will delete you as a friend or block you or whatever. Some people hate too much interaction. Getting the balance right can be difficuilt.

I would say you needed to be more direct in that you wern't interested in meeting and didn't want to continue with chit that. And then if he continued then block him.

I see the point of others saying block to save him getting nasty with you. It's a tough one.

Mute point as you have already blocked.

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

Oh boy I'm familiar with this, have had it from both guys and girls.

OP, from my experience, I'm not sure there's any way you could have dealt with this that wouldn't have resulted in some sort of backlash or bad feeling.

With pushy people like that, its highly unlikely that they will take any rejection in a mature way. With some people, no matter how kindly you decline, and no matter what the reason, a stock reply they will consistently give is "you're shallow!"

Even though they themselves are only interested in you for your looks etc.

I agree with the poster who said they're needy and insecure. I would also add that they tend to have an extreme sense of entitlement too.

There's no way this kind of thing won't end in ugly bad feelings from the other person, but I've had to learn the hardest way in the end it really is their problem. Which is harsh I know... But not as harsh as what those emotional vampires would do to you if given an inch.

Anyone agree or disagree? Would like feedback cos I'm just trying to do the best I know his to at the time. Peace.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The member will now probably rejoin under another name and continue to do so each time you block him. I’ve had that and it’s horrible.

It’s going too far when a man does this to a woman! Horrible!

Hope you are ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus Christ your 50. Seriously have a bit of savvy about you x

Er..I posted this topic on a "swingers support and advice" forum so what is the problem really??? Don't forget that sometimes something that seems unimportant to one person is to another. So let's not criticize please "

I was giving you advice. It was use some common sense x

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

Oh... That was long.

To answer the question, I don't know. I've done it all - been kind and honest = rarely goes well. I feel this is the bravest and best way but takes emotional effort.

Just ignored = They go away eventually but I always feel a bit guilty like its a cop out. I've done this one most often tbh.

Blocked = Same. Rarely done this. Might end up with a thread with them saying "I was chatting with someone, it was going great, then suddenly I was blocked. What gives?" Well I guess you know why now after reading this why that probably happens?

"But they should have just said they weren't interested!"

While I understand, come on now, if you're honest you would probably have kicked off when you realised this person wasn't going to spend their life feeding you and your emotional food source was now being cut off. Dude/girl you gotta be responsible for your own happiness.

OK that's enough for now, this is a bit of a sore topic... What do you mean "yeah it shows?!!" :0

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I can see both sides but from a males point of view I know women get so many messages that some rarely see the ones I send even the regular women I talk to so sometimes the only way to get them to see one of your messages is to get them as soon as you see they're online by checking your friends or hotlist. Yes people are using this in a creepy way but not all, there can be genuine reasons for it. I can't say the same for everyone but I do know that's why I sometimes do it, however if you've had no previous correspondence with the female then yes that is super creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get him blocked, if it's unwanted attention it's unwanted attention.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

I get them too, simple block the sad fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya"

When will men learn that neediness and desperation isn’t attractive?

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

Tanya"
I put that on my profile and I do block . Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave it completely clear that you'll never meet. Then press the block button.

Problem solved.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I get them too, simple block the sad fool. "
lol you mad me spit my coffee !!!! X

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

TanyaI really cant believe why you need to ask others what to do , its simple , if you don't like his contacts then use the block facility "

I wouldn't be surprised to log on one day to: "I smell smoke, there's a crackling sound and my toes are getting warm. I think my house is on fire, should I call the fire brigade, I don't want to waste their time".

Still amazes me the things adults ask advice on.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If your not interested and he is becoming a pain then explain this to him or block him. You don’t have to be rude "

You don't have to explain shit!

After first message if your so inclined thank for message, say not interested and wish him well.

If another message receive ignore/block...end of drama and angst. Trust me, it really is that simple!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Jesus Christ your 50. Seriously have a bit of savvy about you x"

Not just me then!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Advice please

Don't want to be rude but every time I log on within 1 min I receive a message from the same guy who asks me what I'm doing, where I'm going - two hours later it's an update on what he's doing etc. Thus goes in right through the day; I genuinely hate being rude as he's a nice guy but I don't want to ever meet him.

Should I use the block button or just ignore all his greetings?

TanyaI really cant believe why you need to ask others what to do , its simple , if you don't like his contacts then use the block facility

I can’t believe 95% of the stuff I read on here

I often wonder how some people make it through the day, let alone life! "

You too huh!

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