FabSwingers.com forum: Using verifications as a guide

By *oiretblanc OP Couple
over a year ago

London

I will only arrange to meet people who have recent verifications ( by meeting in person)

It does seem odd to me when you see that someone, or a couple,have been on this site for over a year, have lots of friends, but no verifications. Which probably means they haven't met anyone yet.

Am I being a little harsh in excluding people for this reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't believe what is written on verifications .My best meet was with someone who had none on show .

Worst meet was a man who had a few verifications and was nothing what they said he was .Verifications is someone else's opinion and we all have different opinions .

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

After an incident at the weekend I now don't believe a word written in verifications

Go with your gut instinct about someone rather than what a stranger has written about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will only arrange to meet people who have recent verifications ( by meeting in person)

It does seem odd to me when you see that someone, or a couple,have been on this site for over a year, have lots of friends, but no verifications. Which probably means they haven't met anyone yet.

Am I being a little harsh in excluding people for this reason?

They are a guide but we don’t rely on them. In fact there is very little that you can rely on here!!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Not harsh at all. I can look 'odd' someone has gone a long time without a new veri.

If I was intrested & this was a factor I'd ask.

Could be lots of reasons, a couple may have taken time out, due to children.

Or maybe someone's had a regular FWB & therefore no repeat veris, but are now looking to meet again.

If it seemed a genuine reason then go for it, just use your judgement x

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"After an incident at the weekend I now don't believe a word written in verifications

Go with your gut instinct about someone rather than what a stranger has written about them

I'd agree to a point, but sometimes they prove useful in finding a verified trail and get a feel for who and what they are about. But don't lose the scepticism in you, and still trust your gut judgment

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I believe veris can give some hint as to what the person is like, particularly if their tone is fairly consistent. Ultimately, the impression you get after some messaging with that person will be the deciding factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another thing is if only playing with one person on fab you won't bother with verifications all the time.i don't so genuine people can be playing but not have verifications .plus I don't like showing mine as they are personal too me . Others may feel the same.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

All a verification proves is that someone met someone else.

It doesn't guarantee they will turn up to meet you or that you will get on.

I do look at verifications but I always take them with a pinch of salt. People may not have recent verifications because the other person/people have left fab or they may choose not to display them.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I think if there is a general theme to the verifications, it does tend to give some indication to the person/s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

"Don't believe what is written on verifications .My best meet was with someone who had none on show .

Worst meet was a man who had a few verifications and was nothing what they said he was .Verifications is someone else's opinion and we all have different opinions ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I tend to not show mine unless asked. I think every verification written is at best, a little flattering. And in some cases a downright fabrication.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

"Not harsh at all. I can look 'odd' someone has gone a long time without a new veri.

If I was intrested & this was a factor I'd ask.

Could be lots of reasons, a couple may have taken time out, due to children.

Or maybe someone's had a regular FWB & therefore no repeat veris, but are now looking to meet again.

If it seemed a genuine reason then go for it, just use your judgement x "

We arenjust like this have a few FWB so we can be picky with any guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe veris can give some hint as to what the person is like, particularly if their tone is fairly consistent. Ultimately, the impression you get after some messaging with that person will be the deciding factor

Totally agree with this, it's a good starter for working out if I want to even chat to the guy let alone further down the line to a meet. The more play veris the more I'm interested. Newbies are a turn off for me!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I take verifications with a pinch of salt.

It doesn't bother me if they have no verification or loads of verifications as I make sure I'm confident about them myself before I meet them.

I have seen verifications when I have happened to meet the person and I totally have a different point of view to others, and I have seen people with no verifications Who go straight to the top of my list.

It's up to you how you do things but that's my way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use them as a guide for genuinely meeting up , if someone has been on this site for over a year and not meet verified then I don't even chat these days to them , had more than my fair share of dreamers over the years

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We read them ,but don't rely solely on them

They show someone is real,but are very subjective.

I think you can get more of a feel for someone by chatting a while.

If you have any doubts ,trust your instinct,its there for a reason.

Miss

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By *oubyLoverWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Or they’ve met people and chosen not to verify

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications tell us a lot. We like single guys who are experienced with playing with couples. Verifications from a number of couples will confirm that this is the type of play he likes. We would be highly unlikely to meet a guy who has only been verified by single women. Verifications will also state what type of meets the single guy tends to have, eg club meet, whether he does socials etc. It all adds the information we need to build a picture. If a guy has a lot of meets, we might well think ‘well others seems to like him, so we might too’. I do tend to find I have a similar taste in men to a lot of people. One thing I will say is that we have never ever been involved with a fake, we have never had a no show, and every private meetvwe have had had been a success. So we must be done by something right with the importance we put on verifications.

Mrs

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By *oiretblanc OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Verifications tell us a lot. We like single guys who are experienced with playing with couples. Verifications from a number of couples will confirm that this is the type of play he likes. We would be highly unlikely to meet a guy who has only been verified by single women. Verifications will also state what type of meets the single guy tends to have, eg club meet, whether he does socials etc. It all adds the information we need to build a picture. If a guy has a lot of meets, we might well think ‘well others seems to like him, so we might too’. I do tend to find I have a similar taste in men to a lot of people. One thing I will say is that we have never ever been involved with a fake, we have never had a no show, and every private meetvwe have had had been a success. So we must be done by something right with the importance we put on verifications.

Mrs"

Thanks- that is a really helpful response and pretty much goes a long with my thoughts.

Verifications also let you know if you have met and played with the same people...which is always intriguing !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We read them ,but don't rely solely on them

They show someone is real,but are very subjective.

I think you can get more of a feel for someone by chatting a while.

If you have any doubts ,trust your instinct,its there for a reason.

Miss"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do the verification thing. I have one that remains hidden, no one that meets me can send one anyway because of my age filters and I don't read other peoples. I like to make my own mind up about who I meet.

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By *oiretblanc OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Obviously we all make our own minds up when deciding who we meet - I just like to have a little empirical evidence to hand when making my decisions.

We all like to think we have infallible gut instincts, but these can be easily manipulated, and gut feelings are notoriously unreliable when sexual desire is involved!

The lady above doesn't exactly make things easy...no photos, a hidden profile and apparently living on The Planet Zog. Helpful

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say if a person had recent veris either social or play meets then I would be more inclined to meet them

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Different horses for different courses. I much prefer to meet someone that hasn't got 100s of verifications fucking the entire site. 100's verifications tells me more about what type of person you are than someone who has only a few veri's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't believe what is written on verifications .My best meet was with someone who had none on show .

Worst meet was a man who had a few verifications and was nothing what they said he was .Verifications is someone else's opinion and we all have different opinions ."

that can happen but at least a meet verification even a social one means they are real people not just keyboard warriors love xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will only arrange to meet people who have recent verifications ( by meeting in person)

It does seem odd to me when you see that someone, or a couple,have been on this site for over a year, have lots of friends, but no verifications. Which probably means they haven't met anyone yet.

Am I being a little harsh in excluding people for this reason?

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let me give you an example of how ridiculous using someone else's idea of what a good date is is Michael Jackson thinks Moira Stewart is the sexiest woman on the planet

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"I would say if a person had recent veris either social or play meets then I would be more inclined to meet them

They are a guide but we don’t rely on them. In fact there is very little that you can rely on here!! "

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I will only arrange to meet people who have recent verifications ( by meeting in person)

It does seem odd to me when you see that someone, or a couple,have been on this site for over a year, have lots of friends, but no verifications. Which probably means they haven't met anyone yet.

Am I being a little harsh in excluding people for this reason?

No, this all seems reasonable.

Not sure why everyone has started posting about whether they believe veris are accurate or not, which isn’t what you asked.

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By *jr123Man
over a year ago

oldham

"I will only arrange to meet people who have recent verifications ( by meeting in person)

It does seem odd to me when you see that someone, or a couple,have been on this site for over a year, have lots of friends, but no verifications. Which probably means they haven't met anyone yet.

Am I being a little harsh in excluding people for this reason?

They are a guide but we don’t rely on them. In fact there is very little that you can rely on here!! "

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"I will only arrange to meet people who have recent verifications ( by meeting in person)

It does seem odd to me when you see that someone, or a couple,have been on this site for over a year, have lots of friends, but no verifications. Which probably means they haven't met anyone yet.

Am I being a little harsh in excluding people for this reason?

You assume that every meet needs a verification. Believe it or not, some people don't always bother with veris.

You also assume every meet is via Fab. People can and do meet via other channels.

I can appreciate the value of veris to a degree, but there's a real obsession with them round these parts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the guys who've messed me about had multiple verifications so it's not always a guide lol

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We have over 100 veri's but doesn't mean we have had sex with them all, most are social party meets with no play but shows we are genuine and looking to meet and are a reliable fun couple by what people have said about us.

We have been let down by people with veri's and those with none but we will no longer meet non verified people due to not knowing if they are real, at least those with a veri you know are genuine as long as the veri isn't from a hidden profile

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I believe veris can give some hint as to what the person is like, particularly if their tone is fairly consistent.

Yes, consistency suggests a certain amount of reliability.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

You do things your way. Others do it differently. Is your way harsh?

No. Is it the right thing to do? If it's working for you, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will only arrange to meet people who have recent verifications ( by meeting in person)

It does seem odd to me when you see that someone, or a couple,have been on this site for over a year, have lots of friends, but no verifications. Which probably means they haven't met anyone yet.

Am I being a little harsh in excluding people for this reason?

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if you exclude me then yes extremely harsh

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"I think if there is a general theme to the verifications, it does tend to give some indication to the person/s"

This

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

Mrs"

By far the best response in my view

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Mrs Classy is a real chick I like because she speaks the truth always.

Verifications tell you all you need to know about anybody, I would not rely on only recent verifications . What the verifications do is help you build a picture about the person in question.

All the knuckle head ladies and time wasting ladies have no verifications, even if you see them on the forum regularly, if you check their profile you will not find any verifications or they will hide all their verifications.

As a guy that tells me all I need to know, how can a lady on this field where ladies receive loads of messages everyday not have guys say something positive about fucking her with regards to verifications.

That simply tells me to stay away from her.

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