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"I have no problem sharing face photos with others, however couples/Females expect that in the initial contact message. While I have nothing to hide, I am somewhat cautious about just sending my photos in to the unknown. Where do others stand on this? " Not necessarily first message, but fairly soon. Also if not sending face pic with first message, I like to be able to see some pics on the profile. Poppy | |||
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"I have no problem sharing face photos with others, however couples/Females expect that in the initial contact message. While I have nothing to hide, I am somewhat cautious about just sending my photos in to the unknown. Where do others stand on this?" We see no point investing time 'chatting' if there's no attraction. On that basis we ignore 90%+ of messages sent without pics attached or in their profile. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept." If you are a site supporter, you can opt the photo to be removed once the message has been read. It usually stays around for a few minutes | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept." If you sent it after a few messages, it'll still be out there with an unknown. You never truly know who's on the other end until you meet them. At some point, you have to take the leap of faith. Might as well be at the beginning. | |||
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"I have no problem sharing face photos with others, however couples/Females expect that in the initial contact message. While I have nothing to hide, I am somewhat cautious about just sending my photos in to the unknown. Where do others stand on this?" I show my face on my profile so yes I expect one in a first message. It will be deleted if not so the guys have just wasted their time sending a message without | |||
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"I suppose that if I want to save time,I need to take the risk of just putting myself out there." Read previous post. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept." It's the same risk I take when sending one back. | |||
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"But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. It's the same risk I take when sending one back. " Exactly | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. It's the same risk I take when sending one back. " I would disagree, for example you received the initial photo, let's say you are somehow connected to the same circle of friends, you would simply ignore and move on (hopefully) but the others secret is out. I'm not saying that there is anything to hide. I just like to keep things like work and my private life separated. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. It's the same risk I take when sending one back. I would disagree, for example you received the initial photo, let's say you are somehow connected to the same circle of friends, you would simply ignore and move on (hopefully) but the others secret is out. I'm not saying that there is anything to hide. I just like to keep things like work and my private life separated." Read previous post instead of my profile. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. It's the same risk I take when sending one back. I would disagree, for example you received the initial photo, let's say you are somehow connected to the same circle of friends, you would simply ignore and move on (hopefully) but the others secret is out. I'm not saying that there is anything to hide. I just like to keep things like work and my private life separated. Read previous post instead of my profile." I have read your post but it negates the fact that the photo was sent and seen, it can also be copied. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. It's the same risk I take when sending one back. I would disagree, for example you received the initial photo, let's say you are somehow connected to the same circle of friends, you would simply ignore and move on (hopefully) but the others secret is out. I'm not saying that there is anything to hide. I just like to keep things like work and my private life separated." So you’re looking at a mexican stand off if no one wants to be the first to send the pic | |||
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" it can also be copied." As can anything on the internet. Only display or send anything anywhere on the internet that you can afford to 'lose'. Someone can pinch your LinkedIn profile picture and use it as a face pic on here. Fab is not the only place to be careful | |||
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"Sorry to be brutal, but if you're that bothered by sending a mere face pic. Don't be on fab'. People won't meet the faceless, simples, and it appears you're shooting down everyone's reasons for you sending one. " Not at all, it's in the initial email that's all. It only takes a fees minutes to see if there is a conflict of interest. I have no problem sharing once I know there is a match | |||
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"Sorry to be brutal, but if you're that bothered by sending a mere face pic. Don't be on fab'. People won't meet the faceless, simples, and it appears you're shooting down everyone's reasons for you sending one. Not at all, it's in the initial email that's all. It only takes a fees minutes to see if there is a conflict of interest. I have no problem sharing once I know there is a match" I don’t know here’s a match until I’ve seen a face pic... | |||
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"I have no problem sharing face photos with others, however couples/Females expect that in the initial contact message. While I have nothing to hide, I am somewhat cautious about just sending my photos in to the unknown. Where do others stand on this? Not necessarily first message, but fairly soon. Also if not sending face pic with first message, I like to be able to see some pics on the profile. Poppy" Yea, I’m m happy to swap pics. Had a few dodgy “blind meets” (silly me) Had a “blind meet” recently with a guy who said he was 40 years old on the profile. Sounded good. When he appeared and I seen him I was like this guy is like 55 years old. I don’t mind meeting older guys, which I have done, like older guys, but don’t knock years off yourself. Would rather he’d have put in his real age. | |||
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"Sorry to be brutal, but if you're that bothered by sending a mere face pic. Don't be on fab'. People won't meet the faceless, simples, and it appears you're shooting down everyone's reasons for you sending one. Not at all, it's in the initial email that's all. It only takes a fees minutes to see if there is a conflict of interest. I have no problem sharing once I know there is a match" Therein lies the problem, there's no match until we've seen what he/she/they look like. | |||
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" it can also be copied. As can anything on the internet. Only display or send anything anywhere on the internet that you can afford to 'lose'. Someone can pinch your LinkedIn profile picture and use it as a face pic on here. Fab is not the only place to be careful " Very good point. OP just send a pic that you can plausibly deny if someone uses it elsewhere. Anyone can steal a face pic from Facebook etc and set up a profile on here pretending to be you. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept." Very true always apprehensive Sometimes you want get to know people a bit more in case you know them But most ladies demand a face pic | |||
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" it can also be copied. As can anything on the internet. Only display or send anything anywhere on the internet that you can afford to 'lose'. Someone can pinch your LinkedIn profile picture and use it as a face pic on here. Fab is not the only place to be careful Very good point. OP just send a pic that you can plausibly deny if someone uses it elsewhere. Anyone can steal a face pic from Facebook etc and set up a profile on here pretending to be you. " The problem with that is if people use reverse image they can find out who you are in real life. If it’s from LinkedIn your professional life could be compromised. Obviously depends who it gets sent to and not eveyone is a twat. I have nothing to hide but have been stalked twice so very cautious. I only ever use photos I use nowhere else. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept." I wouldn't expect one in the first message. But if I respond then maybe one after that. I don't send mine out early on so can't expect anyone else too x | |||
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"For the single guys it unfortunately massively reduces the chance of a reply. It is a swingers site yes, but does not mean I want to broadcast to the world who I am without knowing a little about them first." Don’t then, you don’t have to but expect lots of deleted messages | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. I wouldn't expect one in the first message. But if I respond then maybe one after that. I don't send mine out early on so can't expect anyone else too x" Thanks, it's good to know that hope is not lost | |||
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" it can also be copied. As can anything on the internet. Only display or send anything anywhere on the internet that you can afford to 'lose'. Someone can pinch your LinkedIn profile picture and use it as a face pic on here. Fab is not the only place to be careful Very good point. OP just send a pic that you can plausibly deny if someone uses it elsewhere. Anyone can steal a face pic from Facebook etc and set up a profile on here pretending to be you. The problem with that is if people use reverse image they can find out who you are in real life. If it’s from LinkedIn your professional life could be compromised. Obviously depends who it gets sent to and not eveyone is a twat. I have nothing to hide but have been stalked twice so very cautious. I only ever use photos I use nowhere else. " I forgot about this, thanks. Good info to be aware of. | |||
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"I have no problem sharing face photos with others, however couples/Females expect that in the initial contact message. While I have nothing to hide, I am somewhat cautious about just sending my photos in to the unknown. Where do others stand on this?" I do it as a matter of course she has to fancy you and you her what's the point otherwise | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. If you are a site supporter, you can opt the photo to be removed once the message has been read. It usually stays around for a few minutes " This. I do this every time | |||
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" it can also be copied. As can anything on the internet. Only display or send anything anywhere on the internet that you can afford to 'lose'. Someone can pinch your LinkedIn profile picture and use it as a face pic on here. Fab is not the only place to be careful Very good point. OP just send a pic that you can plausibly deny if someone uses it elsewhere. Anyone can steal a face pic from Facebook etc and set up a profile on here pretending to be you. The problem with that is if people use reverse image they can find out who you are in real life. If it’s from LinkedIn your professional life could be compromised. Obviously depends who it gets sent to and not eveyone is a twat. I have nothing to hide but have been stalked twice so very cautious. I only ever use photos I use nowhere else. " Exactly, which is why you have to use an image that is not anywhere else on the internet. My point about LinkedIn is that anyone can pinch your picture from almost anywhere if it is on the internet. Not just from Fab. | |||
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"We don't expect face photos in the first message. To us we prefer to exchange a few messages first to suss out a little bit about their personalities. If we are then interested we will offer to exchange face photos. " We're the same, happy to start to get a feel for people and find out if we're looking for the same sort of thing before swapping face pics. OP we totally understand your point about sending a pic to someone you know, we've had more than one person send unsolicted face pics to us and have recognised them. We would never tell anyone else but know there are less discreet people than us on here. | |||
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"The above post surely puts to bed this idea that you're a paranoid wreck and totally unreasonable if you feel reluctant to send a face picture in the first message " Is anyone saying a man is paranoid or unreasonable if they won’t send face pics in first message? It sounds more like people are saying if they don’t, it drastically reduces that man’s chance of getting meets - which is unarguably true. | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept. If you are a site supporter, you can opt the photo to be removed once the message has been read. It usually stays around for a few minutes " A real waste of money in a pointless feature as anyone can screen save it. | |||
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"I have no problem sharing face photos with others, however couples/Females expect that in the initial contact message. While I have nothing to hide, I am somewhat cautious about just sending my photos in to the unknown. Where do others stand on this?" Why waste your time on a woman who may not even be interested in You? We all have our own types and attractions that we go for. A nice body is usually all it takes for some guys. The amount of "you're stunning" messages I receive is bewildering lol. I mean they have no idea what i look like. so those kinds of messages make me laugh . For me mutual attraction must be there or I will not meet. So bit of a too, Save your time and hers by attaching a face pic as soon as possible. | |||
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"The above post surely puts to bed this idea that you're a paranoid wreck and totally unreasonable if you feel reluctant to send a face picture in the first message Is anyone saying a man is paranoid or unreasonable if they won’t send face pics in first message? Many posts saying things like, "then why are you here if you're not prepared to send a face pic." Despite op continually saying the problem was sending on straight off the bat and having no idea who is now in possession of it It sounds more like people are saying if they don’t, it drastically reduces that man’s chance of getting meets - which is unarguably true." | |||
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"Due to my job I do not have a face pic and only show one when have chatted. And I can trust the woman or couple concerned. But why do some women say must include face pic before chatting but won’t send one to you after chatting. Works both ways ladies us men want to see your face too" Why would they send their photo if they are not interested in meeting/chatting? If you are simply not their type? | |||
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"I would rather a face than a cock. If I don't care for the face nothing will happen. Ms" Agreed! | |||
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"Yes I get all your points, however when you send your face photo in the initial message and get no reply you feel ok that may photo out there with an unknown. But I suppose that's the risk a single guy who is trying to get noticed has to accept." No, you don't have to. Don't believe them and don't send a face pic. People are still a bit confused about the whole online concept and in their heads believe things such as that you can judge anything about a person just from a photo. You can't! It's just one of those little lies we like to tell ourselves. I bet you 99% of the single guys who send a photo of their face get rejected regardless. | |||
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"Don't send your face photo to any lady or couple if you are not comfortable doing so, I have been swinging for long without any face photo niether have I sent any face photo to anybody and it has not stopped the ladies fucking me constantly. In fact not sending face photo has help me to out time wasters. If someone really wants to fuck you on the spot and regularly, they will meet you at a club or spa ." And this! Thanks James! Weeds out the time wasters, the dreamers, and the fantasists too. | |||
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"I have no problem sharing face photos with others, however couples/Females expect that in the initial contact message. While I have nothing to hide, I am somewhat cautious about just sending my photos in to the unknown. Where do others stand on this?" Remain cautious. There are some arseholes out there. Trust your instincts. | |||
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