FabSwingers.com forum: Best time to tell?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So Ive been seeing a lady the last few weeks, she's not on fab and was wanting to tell her about it, I know she will be fine with it saying as we both agreed on an open relationship, I'd just love to invite her to the world of fab but not sure on how to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice from trying to do this with non fab guys is don't bother

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But she might be like, sounds awesome! Can i join in? Haha that would be so hot! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always ended up with shit after that, judgement and or them tying to use u for a ffm one off !

Erm no thanks bye lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put wild things or black swan on the tv, see if she gets a little hot and bothered by the lesbian scenes

Discus it with her, ask her about her sexual experiences first maybe

Find out if she's got any fantasies then help her with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always ended up with shit after that, judgement and or them tying to use u for a ffm one off !

Erm no thanks bye lol"

In all honesty i told one girl about this site, this lifestyle. She called me a perv an i never saw her again!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Put wild things or black swan on the tv, see if she gets a little hot and bothered by the lesbian scenes

Discus it with her, ask her about her sexual experiences first maybe

Find out if she's got any fantasies then help her with them

Good advice! Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've always ended up with shit after that, judgement and or them tying to use u for a ffm one off !

Erm no thanks bye lol

In all honesty i told one girl about this site, this lifestyle. She called me a perv an i neverr saw her again! "

This is what exactly I would be afraid off! Lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So Ive been seeing a lady the last few weeks, she's not on fab and was wanting to tell her about it, I know she will be fine with it saying as we both agreed on an open relationship, I'd just love to invite her to the world of fab but not sure on how to do it"

If you know she would be fine with it what's stopping you?

If you've agreed to an open relationship it won't come as a surprise I wouldn't have thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why worry? Would ya wanna be in any kind of relationship with someone you couldn't be honest with? Ask her!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Why worry? Would ya wanna be in any kind of relationship with someone you couldn't be honest with? Ask her!"
exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you like her ...time to leave fab .

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Mr told me on our third meeting, almosr 3yrs ago now.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Well OP, it's not like you've met anyone whilst you've been here. You could tell about Fab as a place you've been looking at and show here around.

Cal

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

I always tell people before I go on a first date with someone that I'm not planning on being monogamous. I tell people that includes casual sex as well as more intimate relationships.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"If you like her ...time to leave fab ."

Why? He says they've agreed to an open relationship.

If you're a swinger why would you leave here just because you're dating someone?

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Just be honest and open straight away xx best policy xx

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

In my personal experience telling anyone vanilla about this site doesn’t work out well, unless they wanna use you for a FFM only

In fact (and also in my experience) as a single fem wanting a swingers relationship even on here is frowned upon by a lot of guys as they don’t want to be with a woman that’s a “slag”

That’s the double edged sword we ladies dance upon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my personal experience telling anyone vanilla about this site doesn’t work out well, unless they wanna use you for a FFM only

In fact (and also in my experience) as a single fem wanting a swingers relationship even on here is frowned upon by a lot of guys as they don’t want to be with a woman that’s a “slag”

That’s the double edged sword we ladies dance upon "

Double standards still rule!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In my personal experience telling anyone vanilla about this site doesn’t work out well, unless they wanna use you for a FFM only

In fact (and also in my experience) as a single fem wanting a swingers relationship even on here is frowned upon by a lot of guys as they don’t want to be with a woman that’s a “slag”

That’s the double edged sword we ladies dance upon

Double standards still rule!! "

Yes, I think they do, both ways. Quite a few women wouldn't want a swingers relationship with a guy from here.

I would always be honest about what I wanted from a relationship from day one. It's never easy three months down the line to tell a person something that you've known all along and by that time you're bothered more invested in the relationship. If something is going to be a deal breaker get said straight away.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"If you like her ...time to leave fab ."

This

or talk to her and see what she says

Miss

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Just be honest.

I met someone, he told me about Fab at the end of our first date.

OK - He turned out to be a complete shit, but I'm grateful he told me about this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my personal experience telling anyone vanilla about this site doesn’t work out well, unless they wanna use you for a FFM only

In fact (and also in my experience) as a single fem wanting a swingers relationship even on here is frowned upon by a lot of guys as they don’t want to be with a woman that’s a “slag”

That’s the double edged sword we ladies dance upon

Double standards still rule!! "

I would rather tell them and them walk away than be with anyone that would think like that!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"In my personal experience telling anyone vanilla about this site doesn’t work out well, unless they wanna use you for a FFM only

In fact (and also in my experience) as a single fem wanting a swingers relationship even on here is frowned upon by a lot of guys as they don’t want to be with a woman that’s a “slag”

That’s the double edged sword we ladies dance upon

Double standards still rule!!

I would rather tell them and them walk away than be with anyone that would think like that!"

Well yes that’s generally what I’ve been doing up to now but I was merely answering that being honest about what I want handy ended well for me

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think it depends what you want long term. If I meet people off the site I do tell them pretty much straight away so that they know exactly what I'm like. If it is not for them that is perfectly ok, although most people have been somewhat intrigued and wanted to try a club.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

But there is no relationship that could work me with anybody new, that didn't involve a sharing aspect to it, where as some people are looking to settle down with someone, so their choices may be very different to mine, as their needs are likely to be also different to mine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am gonna hint to her I reckon, show some pics etc, don't wanna lose the good sex we are having! Slowly tease the idea on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without being disrespectful to the single fems contributions on here. I do think it's different for guys admitting they are swingers than us girls admitting to it.

My hubby (before we met)used to tell vanillas on the first date, so he was getting the subject out in the open. He figured if they were ok or even better interested, then that woman would be a good match for him. In fact he reckons he's converted a few women from pof to fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be honest with her, sooner rather than later. Ask her about her sexual fantasies whilst you are having intimate moments, tell her to be totally open and honest and see what she answers with. That should give you an idea of how she may respond.

We hope you get the result you're hoping for, as it would be difficult to give up this lifestyle if it's something you thoroughly enjoy.

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By *iguy for funMan
over a year ago

CIRENCESTER

first woman I suggested she join here, her response was "what do you take me for??". She joined about 4 weeks later and 5 years later she is on here with here current BF and has been - so go figure!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Update: so I've showed her fab and she is all for it!

Says she would like to try soft swing first and maybe try a club! Couldn't have went better!

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By *mooth shaftMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Nice one mate.

Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always ended up with shit after that, judgement and or them tying to use u for a ffm one off !

Erm no thanks bye lol

In all honesty i told one girl about this site, this lifestyle. She called me a perv an i never saw her again! "

seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice one mate.

Enjoy!

Thanks man, gonna have some fun now for sure!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Update: so I've showed her fab and she is all for it!

Says she would like to try soft swing first and maybe try a club! Couldn't have went better!

Aaah I'm actually dead chuffed for you.

Hope you both have fun x

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Cool thread

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"My advice from trying to do this with non fab guys is don't bother

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totally agreed ! Always I tried failed ! People critise your choices and don't understand ! But is your relationship you should know better .

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"If you like her ...time to leave fab ."
why ? If I find my guy I don't want us to leave ! Is when the fun begins !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Update: so I've showed her fab and she is all for it!

Says she would like to try soft swing first and maybe try a club! Couldn't have went better!

Aaah I'm actually dead chuffed for you.

Hope you both have fun

Thanks so much! Gonna be a naughty Christmas! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Update: so I've showed her fab and she is all for it!

Says she would like to try soft swing first and maybe try a club! Couldn't have went better!

Aaah I'm actually dead chuffed for you.

Hope you both have fun

Thanks so much! Gonna be a naughty Christmas! X"

Woohoo! Well done!!

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By *hadowcookieCouple
over a year ago

Portlaoise

"If you like her ...time to leave fab ."

Good point...

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"If you like her ...time to leave fab .

Good point... "

It's a terrible point. The OP says that they'd agreed to an open relationship.

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