FabSwingers.com forum: How do people view winks.

By *jr123 OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

Hi everyone.

What are peoples views on winks?

I'm unsure sometimes whether to bother someone with a message or just to send a wink.

The last thing I want to do is add myself to a long list of messages that some don't like. But is a wink seen as a lazy way of contact.

Neil

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

I Ignore them

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By *layfulcoupleCouple
over a year ago

a kinky mood

We like receiving them and reply to the profiles we like and we also send them just to show interest. It's then up to them if they like our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i ignore them now...every time ive ever looked theyre 99% miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't ever look at them.

If people can't be bothered to put the effort in to speak then why should I be bothered to even look at them.

Winkers are idiol lol x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

OP, as a guy, I'd suggest winking is nearly a waste of your time.

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

We always look at winks and decide if we want any further contact, no harm in that.

It has to be said though that most of the winks we get are from single men who have either not read our profile or chosen to ignore what they read, so we ignore them

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

Like pokes on FB... pointless.

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By *jr123 OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

"We like receiving them and reply to the profiles we like and we also send them just to show interest. It's then up to them if they like our profile "

This is what I was thinking. It's just a polite way of saying "hello I'd like to chat" without hassling the other parson with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they get our attention and encourage us to look at people we may not have actively searched for or who wouldn't have come to our attention. We've had some great meets come from winks...

having said that, we get a fuck ton of winks from straight single men...we just delete them...

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Ignore them completely.... too many messages to ‘manage’ winks

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I ignore them, if Fab gave me the choice to turn them off I would use it.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I think they are a bit of fun, great way to break the ice . If you get a wink back it’s worth exploring things further.

Got to be better than a generic cut and paste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t tend to look much at winks much anymore as we found over 90% of winks we’re from profiles with very little information and no pics. Plus a well written message with a face pic attached is much better and shows someone had taken the time to contact us.

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By *mooth shaftMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I think they are a bit of fun, great way to break the ice . If you get a wink back it’s worth exploring things further.

Got to be better than a generic cut and paste."

Absolutely

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Would advice only ever send a wink back not as first contact. You have more chance of getting a response from a message. That's my opinion.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I ignore winks.

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By *bandjam91Couple
over a year ago

London

"they get our attention and encourage us to look at people we may not have actively searched for or who wouldn't have come to our attention. We've had some great meets come from winks...

having said that, we get a fuck ton of winks from straight single men...we just delete them...

Pretty much this from us.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

A good, no pressure way to spot potential people to meet and possibly strike up a conversation.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

We like a wink.if we get one we will look at the profile and if we like what we see we will wink back and let them go from there and the same In reverse. No harm no foul. Maybe different for us as we have single guys blocked so dont have millions to deal with.

Dont agree with the "its lazy" views as its the same as sending a message and not getting a reply.just saves wasting time in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I guy I receive messages and winks with such rarity that I naturaly take note of anything coming in to me

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow

"A good, no pressure way to spot potential people to meet and possibly strike up a conversation."

Absolutely I find winks are a good way to show interest especially if you’re like me and are initially shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

countless threads on this topic op , look them up and compare notes lol

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By *jr123 OP Man
over a year ago

oldham

Thank everyone for their input. It's appreciated

Neil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather have a wink ignored than go to the effort of messaging someone being polite and complimenting them just to ignored

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We dont mind them and see them as a cheeky icebreaker,as long as they have read our prof obvs .

Miss

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION. Stoke

"Hi everyone.

What are peoples views on winks?

I'm unsure sometimes whether to bother someone with a message or just to send a wink.

The last thing I want to do is add myself to a long list of messages that some don't like. But is a wink seen as a lazy way of contact.

Neil"

I currently have 208 unlooked at - but then my profile reads 'I don't look at winks' lol.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION. Stoke

But to look at another way - if someone walked passed me in the street and winked at me I probably cross over lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a wink. Giving ans recieving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always take a peek,if of attraction wink back or send message

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Generally don't bother with them. We check separately at times so one of us sees them and then the notification is gone for the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

with there eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winky dinky di doh doh la la la.

Winks are like a quick wave in the sea of messages. What can easily say “hey,we like you” instead of writing a tome of epic proportions, which may go unnoticed due to the constant bombardment of mails which inevitably may get bulk deleted.

Would be nice if you could reject a wink then your done.

Simples

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By *hropshire irishMan
over a year ago

Shropshire

I ignore though occasionally wink back.

I've had quite a few over the years. Initially, I responded with a message but as most of them never went further than that and the rest turned out to be wasters I don't bother now. So I either ignore or, if I really like them, wink back.

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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago

The North / Party Hard Everywhere

I see them as wink while you wank so Ignore them

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I generally ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see them as wink while you wank so Ignore them "

Wow

very cynical I am quite shocked!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I view them through 3D glasses. Don't know why.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I don’t mind I get a few, if I like what I see will message or friend request. Prefer that than the generic ‘Hi’ or ‘How r u’ to many other basic messages that I get.

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By *adyLucknGamblersCouple
over a year ago

Harwich / Colchester

"We like receiving them and reply to the profiles we like and we also send them just to show interest. It's then up to them if they like our profile "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't know. I never get any

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By *urse234Woman
over a year ago

somewhere in Essex

I ignore them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see them as a sign the person is interested so I'll read their profile and if I like them I'll message. Some people are against them, sign of laziness etc. I disagree but maybe because winks have actually led to more for me. I believe they have their place on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped using them ages ago because it was getting me nowhere. Just my experience.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If anyone winks at us, we will check out their profile and message them if they appeal.

A message is always better though.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete winks and never respond to them. I prefer a proper messege.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Jury's out on this one. They can have their uses if used correctly. But do get abused. Can increase admin time for those that are inundated and offer hope to others.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

I bulk delete them

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We ignore and bulk delete but it does say this in our profile so no one should be surprised by this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will wink someone if I am unsure if I meet their criteria 100%. Usually I would prefer to message.

Of winks I receive, I very often message back. Usually that message is just deleted, so why they winked I have no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very often receive a wink and when I message the sender saying thanks for the wink the message is read and deleted,not sure if I being to polite

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

We encourage winks. We have blocked messages from single men. But if they wink us and we like them, we will message them. So they are very useful. Saves us getting loads of crappy messages we don't want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relatively pointless, though it's nice to know you've attracted someone's attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't even look at the winks. If they can't be arsed to write a message they aren't for us

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By *ertfordman55Man
over a year ago

Hertford

I will look at a wink.

Will also reply with a message as I do not get many.

But I do find most are from single blokes looking for women.

Can't fathom out then why they wink.

But its a nice ice breaker, can also see why women don't reply.

Its because they probably get hundreds along with messages.

Happy Swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks to me say 'i looked,saw something i liked,too shy to message' kind of feel to them

So do i respond with a wink or message ? Generally seem to have them deleted and blocked so now just ignore their wink

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't look at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Don’t get any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing at all wrong with winks as we tend to only get a couple per day and they are good ice breakers. But I can imagine if like the single ladies and "exceptional" couples, we was to get 50+ a day I can understand why they would be ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look and tend to mass delete

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I tend to use a wink as a nod of appreciation, in as much as I liked the look and sound of their profile, but there's no chance we'll ever meet, but boy, I would if I could!

Very, very, VERY rarely, do I receive one though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I Ignore them"

Same

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Just take them as a nod that they like our profile , if they had read our profile and were what we are looking for they'd message if they were serious .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fussed, they can be fun when used for the purpose they're available.

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