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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong "

Have you been to many swinging clubs?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Word to the wise... never, EVER use the word 'desperate' on a forum post - it doesn't paint you in a good light.

Just sayin'

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By *TFSeventyMan
over a year ago

Weybridge

Need to get yourself to clubs, parties and socials. It's very difficult to get a meet directly through messaging on fab. Most of my veris and meets have been through doing exactly this. There's less than a handful that I've met through fab messages. Good luck OP

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Change your pics on profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong "

Good pics and an interesting profile will help, but it's still no garentee.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try smiling hun

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Admitting your desperate is not going to help you on here!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong "

You're probably not doing anything wrong. . Single men are in the majority on fab so it takes a while and there's no advice any of us can give that will guarantee a meet.

As has been said clubs and socials will increase your chances as will being a friendly presence on the forum. I like your profile, it says who you are and your clear face pictures are fine.

I wonder what your expectations were when you joined and if you're prepared to adjust them.

Good luck.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Its easier if you use fab to keep in touch with people you've met at clubs and socials rather than a tool to meet strangers for sex.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You've not asked for profile advice OP, so I can't give any - but you've had some very clear pointers in the above posts - so my advice would be to take them on board and act on them. It's no guarantee of anything of course, but it should enhance your experience of Fab.

The only other thing to suggest, that hasn't been suggested already, is getting more involved in the forums, which is a great way to get to know others and get known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong "

try a social event

try a club

or hire a hooker and be done with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its easier if you use fab to keep in touch with people you've met at clubs and socials rather than a tool to meet strangers for sex. "

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admitting your desperate is not going to help you on here!!!"

Oh I don’t know. I put a status up saying I was desperate for a good seeing to and my inbox went into meltdown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Admitting your desperate is not going to help you on here!!!

Oh I don’t know. I put a status up saying I was desperate for a good seeing to and my inbox went into meltdown. "

Yes but we all know how the dynamics work on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The odds are against you being a single male, and your chances are even slimmer as you are only looking to meet woman and not couples. Single women and female only couples are the smallest demographic here such that there is probably about 1women (who is not part of an MF couple) for every 100 single men. It is an illusion that this site is an easy place to pick up women, purely because so many other men think the same, hense there are too many men to go round.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may we’ll be the wrong site if you are after meeting women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe cos you look like frank gallagher (aka william h macy)

from shameless usa.

Good luck op

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Maybe cos you look like frank gallagher (aka william h macy)

from shameless usa.

Good luck op"

Holy shitballs he really does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admitting to being desperate will do your cause zero good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m feeling a bit desperate this morning

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Go to one of your local clubs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You not been doing anything wrong I've been here nearly two years and in same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps if I wrote ‘desperate’ across my ass and then got a pic of me grabbing my ankles....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its easier if you use fab to keep in touch with people you've met at clubs and socials rather than a tool to meet strangers for sex. "
A tool to meet strangers for Sex haha fancy a SHAG. Com may be better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong

Have you been to many swinging clubs?"

No not been to any yet guess I'll have to give it a go

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Admitting your desperate is not going to help you on here!!!"

Stop lying and trying to keep him all to yourself. There is plenty of the OP to go around. We all know that desperation is a powerful aphrodisiac. I mean, depending on how desperate he is, he might even drop his standards as low as to let you lovely ladies have a shot. Or he might be willing to help out those women who haven't meet in a while with a nice little pity shag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Admitting your desperate is not going to help you on here!!!

Oh I don’t know. I put a status up saying I was desperate for a good seeing to and my inbox went into meltdown. "

Lol that's what I was hoping for never happened though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know that saying, 'desperate times call for desperate measures'? It doesn't apply on this site.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

What are the content of your messages like? Do you always write similar things?

Make sure you pick up on something in the person's/couple's profile, add an opinion and aks an open question to them - sometimes simple things like that can illicit a response and get a conversation going.

Treat every interaction you have as a unique one - and choose which pictures you attach or send with the message, very carefully - again depending on the profile etc.

You dont always have to go to clubs, I havent been to one since I joined here, but have managed to get meets. So dont give up!

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Two months is no time at all on here.

If you’re desperate, it smacks of trying way too hard, tbh.

Treat Fab as a nice place to get to know people and contribute to the forums etc. Get known as a decent individual with plenty to offer (not just the obvious).

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Its easier if you use fab to keep in touch with people you've met at clubs and socials rather than a tool to meet strangers for sex. "

^This is still extant.^

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Because saying you're desperate is so attractive to the ladies

I can just see them flicking through mens profiles and thinking omg this guys desperate, I know I'll fuck him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re only on here for a quick fuck, you will be staying ‘desperate’ for a long while.

As a guy,you are extremely out numbered.

You need to put some effort into your profile... it sounds like a dating profile right now.

Put some effort in your photos... NOT dick pics. Good, sexy, teasing photos.

Go to socials, most women want effort putting in, it’s not a simple ‘oh I’m horny, let me look at fab... oh look, this guy likes going for long walks, I’ll have him’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re only on here for a quick fuck, you will be staying ‘desperate’ for a long while.

As a guy,you are extremely out numbered.

You need to put some effort into your profile... it sounds like a dating profile right now.

Put some effort in your photos... NOT dick pics. Good, sexy, teasing photos.

Go to socials, most women want effort putting in, it’s not a simple ‘oh I’m horny, let me look at fab... oh look, this guy likes going for long walks, I’ll have him’

"

Top advice

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Is it swinging, or just sex you want, OP? Because if it's the latter, this might not be the best place for you..

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong "

Green arrow tells me you have a problem with the way you present yourself.

Other thread you started does not make you look very good if we are honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m feeling a bit desperate this morning "

That's funny some am I

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it swinging, or just sex you want, OP? Because if it's the latter, this might not be the best place for you.. "

I'm here to to try something new so anything couples mf ff gang bang you get the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it swinging, or just sex you want, OP? Because if it's the latter, this might not be the best place for you..

I'm here to to try something new so anything couples mf ff gang bang you get the idea "

Clubs and organised socials are the probably the best places for finding that. But you might need to get yourself known first.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you shouldn’t feel desperate for this stuff. It is a lot of fun if you can make the lifestyle work, but should not be something that is essential to have in life.

Mrs

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"But you shouldn’t feel desperate for this stuff. It is a lot of fun if you can make the lifestyle work, but should not be something that is essential to have in life.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because saying you're desperate is so attractive to the ladies

I can just see them flicking through mens profiles and thinking omg this guys desperate, I know I'll fuck him"

Where does it say that in my profile? It was ment really to no reply to my inbox messages but worded wrong

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Been on here for about 2 months now not had a single meet what am I doing wrong "

I havent had a meet off here for 3 or 4 years.. As a single bloke.. I say dont waist your time on here.. If say ho and meet people you will have far more luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hi viz ???

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

2 months for a guy of 50+ is not a long time.

When joining Fabs as a 50+ female, I found attending local group socials was the perfect solution to meet others.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Go out in town on a night and get chatting to people there, you'll probably have far more luck, I know I do! It would be nice to meet someone from here that I really like the look/sound of, but the odds are stacked that high against us blokes that fab will only ever be a sideshow compared to meeting in the real world

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