FabSwingers.com forum: Doing something wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering what other peoples experiences are like on here. I don't know if I'm doing something wrong? I'm a genuine guy, read profiles, comment about it, very polite and none pushy always provide face pics and replies to every message even if just a polite no thank you.

Is there a stigma I'm not getting about profiles older than 2/3 months as I see a lot of profiles with "Back again" or "Not new but new profile" Also seems to be a stigma against guys being bi? Feels like by admitting I'm bi/open to being with guys as part of a couple that it's just hurting my chances? Or am I just taking it a bit too much to heart?

Any advice is appreciated.

By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

Profile text is not bad (just our opinion) although a little short, not much about what you're after so could add more about that.

The pictures however are not the best, only 2 and they're essentially cock pics, they do show the full body but they don't show much variety.

On top of that your profile pic is a silhouette, I know you send out face pics but it does not make the best first impression to have no profile pic.

You set an age range which is good, most guys just choose 18-99 which doesn't look great, just seems like they want to have sex with anyone. I am curious about your interests though, it seems you ticked almost every interest box yet your profile text and pics are very vanilla or at worst dull in comparison. Maybe talk about this interests, are they all things you have tried? Or things yet to try?

To address your point about bi guys, we have noticed there are some couples and ladies that will not meet bi guys. It's their preference but you shouldn't change who you are for that, just try and display the best of yourself as best as you can and try and get yourself out there.

Have you been on the chat rooms? Post a bit more on forums, maybe attend some organised socials or clubs. All this can help and speak volumes and louder than saying "I'm a genuine guy" in your profile text.

One final note (and this is just our opinion, others may disagree) you are very hairy down there, some people may prefer a shaved or trimmed guy, since both your pics focus on that area it is something that stands out a lot.

Whatever you decide to do though we wish you the best of luck in your search.

By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

"Thanks for the advice you two, will have to sit and have a rewrite and update my pics a bit."

No worries, also it's nice to see a fellow fabber who is not afraid to wear his geekness proudly on his sleeve