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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!!

Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home

she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.

Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!

It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON

"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!!

Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home

she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.

It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this

I dont now either sending you virtual hugs xx

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

That is well out of order. I would be reporting it to the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Hun what a horrible thing to happen to you! I wish I could give you advise but I don't know what to say. It's crap now and you feel embarrassed and humiliated but given time your friends / family will come round. As for her I hope Karma comes back and bites her on the arse!

Sending a hug

Mrs

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now"

Yeah start here. It won't fix your upset and invasion of privacy but she can't be allowed to get away with it.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Can I still go to the police if she lives in Europe? I had no idea it was an offence. I’m quite lucky, my brother has supported me and threatened her with the police himself but it’s still humiliating none the less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch. I would start by hiding my profile....

Hope it gets better for you though

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

It can't be 'fixed'.. it's done. In your shoes I think I'd just hold my head high and say to my family that I hadn't done anything illegal and ask for their support against a bitter, twisted woman who did a shitty thing.

I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"Ouch. I would start by hiding my profile....

Hope it gets better for you though

I did think about that, but they’ve seen it now so I don’t think hiding it would make much of a difference :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ouch. I would start by hiding my profile....

Hope it gets better for you though

I did think about that, but they’ve seen it now so I don’t think hiding it would make much of a difference :/ "

Fair enough.

I guess what's happened, happened. At least it can't really get much worse from here if everyone knows now ....

I hope it gets sorted, or at least forgotten, soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can't be 'fixed'.. it's done. In your shoes I think I'd just hold my head high and say to my family that I hadn't done anything illegal and ask for their support against a bitter, twisted woman who did a shitty thing.

I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn."

This for sure. It's her that should be ashamed, not you

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By *cedHoneyWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

This is definitely a criminal offence and a serious one. You should seriously consider going to the police. European arrest warrants can be issued and she can get sent here.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

This is just awful! Sending huge hugs and kisses. Just remember you have done nothing wrong xxx

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

This is revenge porn in essence, as already suggested you can seek legal advice.

Obviously the damage so far can't be undone.

Best tip we can give you and anyone else is ditch facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now"

This

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By *cot611Man
over a year ago

carterton

OP dont know you at all but feel your pain. what a horrible little bitch, karma will take care of her. rise above it and show them all youre better than that.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

If anyone gives you shit about it then just invite the one with no sin to cast the first stone...

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By *RnMrsFreakCouple
over a year ago

Hull,England

"Can I still go to the police if she lives in Europe? I had no idea it was an offence. I’m quite lucky, my brother has supported me and threatened her with the police himself but it’s still humiliating none the less"

Revenge porn laws are similar in Europe and the US and the judicial systems usually co-operate with each other because they know it would be too big a loophole if they didn't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Horrible for you. Is it too late to plausibly deny?

I think in the immediate aftermath you need to take some time to accept that it's happened and to realise that you haven't done anything wrong. Prepare how you will deal with family when they question you, will you calmly tell them that your sex life is none of their business and you're the same person you were before this woman exposed it or will you answer them in detail? Personally I would choose to hold my head up and refuse to discuss it beyond assuring them I was safe.

It's a horrible thing to have happened and you'll be the subject of discussion until someone else does something to take the focus off you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

P.S. an angry ex threatened one of our kids that they would tell us all about what they got up to. We assured them that there was nothing the ex could tell us that would shock us or make us love them less. You will probably find your family will think the same way.

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Horrible jealous rat. Sending hugs xx

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By *addybear_purplehazyCouple
over a year ago

Worthing

"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!!

Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home

she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.

It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this

I really think you should go to the police. This is a similar thing as revenge porn and is a crime. You're the victim of a crime and you deserve justice and compensation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a pathetic horrible woman she is! Clearly hugely insecure to be still festering about her fellas infidelity 2 years later - perhaps he's been up to his old tricks again.

Sorry you're dealing with this - hold your head up high and don't rise to her goading you. Glad your brother is being cool about it. Hugs x

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

"If anyone gives you shit about it then just invite the one with no sin to cast the first stone... "

Exactly .... people in glass Houses shouldnt throw stones ...real friends and family wont give a hoot ... it was two years ago. ..old news..... I know your probably embarrassed but hold your head up high...

She has been very childish .

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By *witcherooMan
over a year ago

Muirhead

Jeezo

that’s horrible.

I wouldn’t be to ashamed as you’ve done nothing wrong. Tell them this is like a dating site and you fell for a liar and a cheat. You’re single - youve done nothing wrong !!

Re the police then yeah pretty sure you can still get something done about her.

Hope you’re ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeezo

that’s horrible.

I wouldn’t be to ashamed as you’ve done nothing wrong. Tell them this is like a dating site and you fell for a liar and a cheat. You’re single - youve done nothing wrong !!

Re the police then yeah pretty sure you can still get something done about her.

Hope you’re ok

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

It’s fucking shit. I was outed in a slightly different way in the village I live in.

To go to the police or not is up to you but in terms of how you feel about the “humiliation” I can assure you it wears off in time.

I hid my profile, barely went out the house for a few days! But actually after a little while I thought “fuck it”.

These days it barely enters my consciousness what people may or may not know.

You will be fine when this feeling passes.

V x

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Thankyou guys, I’ve been looking triis morning at the UK revenge porn laws and getting legal advice soon. I’m really lucky that my brother has been great about it and told her “Me and my sister have a relationship that won’t be broken by something as childish as this”. I’m very lucky! I intend to do something about this though, as like I said, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had no contact since. I wasn’t the only woman he spoke to, but I’m the only one she’s done this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first thoughts are these: will this die down? If you don't do anything what is the worse that can happen? You've already said your family know, and remember that theres a lot of porn and stuff out there, whilst i understand your feelings, should you report it, your humiliation and people who know about it will only increase.

Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"My first thoughts are these: will this die down? If you don't do anything what is the worse that can happen? You've already said your family know, and remember that theres a lot of porn and stuff out there, whilst i understand your feelings, should you report it, your humiliation and people who know about it will only increase.

Just my opinion."

Well consider this, she searched for me on Facebook using only a face pic and my first name. She then connected mutual friends between myself and her boyfriend ( he is military and comes from the same town as me, she is German and lives in Hannover, somehwere I spent a lot of time myself 2 years ago ). She then figured out family members because they had the same surname as me and sent them the screenshots then messaged me to tell me what she had done.

I don’t know exactly how many people she has sent them to, I don’t know who else will come forward after having seen the screenshots. They’re meant to be moving to England to live in my town. If she went out of her way to do all of this from Germany, what will she do when they move here?

What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it.

Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since.

Just my opinion

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn."

You could always give Karma a nudge, wonder who in their world knew he was on here shagging about as a "Single guy" while she was pregnant?

You don't need his profile, how & why after all did she find you on here.

Nothing like a little reality check to wake up the morally superior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweetie x feel vexed for you.

Glad your brother is supportive.

What a bitch. Just hold your head up high and don't engage in any dialogue with her.

Big ((((hugs))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my opinion.

What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it.

Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since.

Just my opinion"

She absolutely should be held accountable. You did nothing to deserve any of this.

Don't be ashamed, this will die down. You've done nothing wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Hide or rename your profile.

2. Report it to the police.

3. You fiancé supports you so stand together. It was an unintentional affair 2 years ago. It’s her partner and now her who were in the wrong.

4. Toughen up and take a so what, mind your own business, I’m an adult, it’s my sex life, are you jealous? Attitude.

5. Hugs xx I know that feeling in the pit of your stomach from experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Hide or rename your profile.

2. Report it to the police.

3. You fiancé supports you so stand together. It was an unintentional affair 2 years ago. It’s her partner and now her who were in the wrong.

4. Toughen up and take a so what, mind your own business, I’m an adult, it’s my sex life, are you jealous? Attitude.

5. Hugs xx I know that feeling in the pit of your stomach from experience. "

Can't really add anything to this. As always Rachael, you've put it beautifully simple.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

I've not used Facebook for years and have deleted my account on it but if I remember correctly if you want to send someone a message don't they have to accept a freind invite first?

Don't think people can just send any form of message to all unsundry without the intended recipient accepting an invite first.

Have your family members done this?

Hey here's an invite from such and such's ex girlfriend

Let's chat - hmmm

Has anyone apart from your brother actually seen anything on FB?

It might not be as bad as you think

Just a thought

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"I've not used Facebook for years and have deleted my account on it but if I remember correctly if you want to send someone a message don't they have to accept a freind invite first?

Don't think people can just send any form of message to all unsundry without the intended recipient accepting an invite first.

Have your family members done this?

Hey here's an invite from such and such's ex girlfriend

Let's chat - hmmm

Has anyone apart from your brother actually seen anything on FB?

It might not be as bad as you think

Just a thought "

No, you don’t have to be friends with someone to send them a message, yes it’s not just my brother but he has been the most understanding. It’s definitely as bad as I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Revenge porn is something the authorities are taking very seriously these days ....some ppl ffs

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

If this has affected you greatly then contact the police,you may regret not doing so in the future!

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"I've not used Facebook for years and have deleted my account on it but if I remember correctly if you want to send someone a message don't they have to accept a freind invite first?

Don't think people can just send any form of message to all unsundry without the intended recipient accepting an invite first.

Have your family members done this?

Hey here's an invite from such and such's ex girlfriend

Let's chat - hmmm

Has anyone apart from your brother actually seen anything on FB?

It might not be as bad as you think

Just a thought

No, you don’t have to be friends with someone to send them a message, yes it’s not just my brother but he has been the most understanding. It’s definitely as bad as I think

Ohh right - in that case I'm glad I'm not on it...

I prefer to choose who I want communication from..

That's a serious flaw in Facebooks platform

I'd sue Zuckerberg too ??

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Don’t think I’d go so far to sue the owner of Facebook lol

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

So sorry to hear about your situation that’s a disgusting act the person did and sending you cyber hugs and yes it is cyber crime and harassment Making it a criminal offence, unfortunately it won’t help your situation but reporting her will hopefully stop her from carrying out these actions again and hopefully if not charges scare her into never doing this again to a innocent person going about their lives not doing anything wrong bless you x try and be strong and good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is more to this than meets the eye, certainly from the gfs point. I know women can be vindictive but it sounds extreme after two years. Does she think he is still seeing you? Is he seeing someone else and she thinks it is you? Seems a lot of work to track someone down like that after a couple of years. Perhaps in the initial aftermath.

Having said all that I agree with the others that you should take it to the police, especially if you are worried it will continue. If it has been festering away inside her,all this time and she moves to your town, what next? Your family already know, you shouldn't be ashamed of what you do, although we all like our privacy. I would go ahead and own it, front it out. Another reason I'm glad I never hung on the coat tails of everyone else, followed the herd and joined something that is an open book to anybody who can take advantage of someone else.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Just my opinion.

What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it.

Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since.

Just my opinion"

I agree that she should be held accountable but it is worth considering the suggestion that your exposure will increase if there's a court case.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn.

You could always give Karma a nudge, wonder who in their world knew he was on here shagging about as a "Single guy" while she was pregnant?

You don't need his profile, how & why after all did she find you on here.

Nothing like a little reality check to wake up the morally superior.

I wouldn't recommend this. You immediately lose any high ground you had.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"Don’t think I’d go so far to sue the owner of Facebook lol"

Well at least you had a giggle at the idea lol

Onwards and upwards, hope you get it sorted whatever you decide to do going forwards....

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By *oofyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'm sorry to hear what's happened to you but like you said how was you to know and the fact that nasty women waited from 2 years to do this is beyond me what a horrible soul she is. Yu keep shining hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very sad storey ..........

I have been stalked twice, both via this site, and one as recent as Jan this year - its draining and not called for and all because I was brave enough to say "no thanks" when we met face to face and like the OP , I rarely (now never) give out my mobile number and I did in the last case and was bombarded

in the end and after 6 years here, I left the site for 6 months, the couple have now moved to USA

These idiots that do stupid things like these should not be allowed and we need tougher controls - I think

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my opinion.

What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it.

Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since.

Just my opinion"

She's a calculating bitch by all accounts.

The only other thing I can think to add to all the above is to front it up. Tell people you know that this woman is being vindictive, bullying you & the form it's taking, people may not be as shocked as you think.

It's like if you 'out' yourself she has no power left, no control.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been reading this closely and want to say we're very sorry you had to go through something so vindictive . ..We hope both of them get their just rewards ..

Keep your head high and smile you seem like you have a good head on that body of you yours and a good egg as a brother xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like if you 'out' yourself she has no power left, no control.

Good luck x"

I think this is absolutely right. I didn't tell anyone I was doing glamour work, but when it came out, people weren't as shocked as I thought they'd be. Fronting it up, laughing about it, helped as well. Your family and friends love you, they'll get over it. She'll be the one looking a twat.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Just my opinion.

What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it.

Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since.

Just my opinion

She's a calculating bitch by all accounts.

It's like if you 'out' yourself she has no power left, no control.

Good luck x"

That's a good point. I remember and interviewer asked that girl from the hunger games about her fanny pictures on the interweb and she replied with words to the effect of "i don't see how it's possible you would have seen them? I certainly haven't given my permission for them to be distributed so how is it possible you would have them?" - that shut him up.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Thankyou everyone

like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Hmm that's peak. Something similar happened to me but I'll keep that story to myself lol but hey, keep your head up. It's happened already. And yes people are gonna talk shit but youre a grown ass woman. Like I said keep your head up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone on here’s gives out their actual phone number then please stop.

It can link straight up to Facebook, Instagram etc

All you have to do is enter the number in the search bar and there you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must report this to the police straight away. As mentioned it’s a very serious criminal offence what she has committed. Don’t have any contact with her and don’t let your brother contact her as she could say she’s been threatened. Let the police deal with it they have specialist units for just this type of crime x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn.

This for sure. It's her that should be ashamed, not you "

definitely hold your head high and don't let peoples judgements effect you and report her to the police regardless of if she is in Europe or not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thankyou everyone

She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankyou everyone

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn."

i'd agree with this attitude. you can't change whats here, only deal with it. And this could make things better with family or friends. we can only hope. hold your head high and ride the storm.

Contact the police for the other end of your problem, let them sort that bit out. Its harassment.

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Thankyou everyone

My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Thankyou everyone

My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol"

Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Disgusting behaviour, sending you hugs, contact the police. Revenge crime.

good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you.

But, it'll blow over and your family will find a new subject for discussion.

Report her to the police though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

urghhhhhhhhh. What a horrible thing to happen. Seems like you trod on land mine 2 years ago and it had a delayed fuse.

Either go to police and get it right out in the open and be loud and proud or say absolutely nothing whatsoever if you can resist it. All you will do is pour Petrol on the fire and make this extremely upset person get even more vindictive.

If she was thinking rationally she would know that you did the right thing and told her b/f to sling his hook.

Such a nasty thing to happen and prove that this swinging thing can go oh so wrong in unexpected ways.

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth

Call the police , im sure thats illegal under revenge porn laws

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By *irtycpl7980Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Personally if this came out for us I would own it. Turn her attempt to humiliate you into empowering you at the end of the day she has tried to bring you down and the best possible way to beat that is to show them that they can’t.

You definitely need to take legal action however, how soon is soon when she is movin* bac’ to the UK? I don’t think the UK revenge porn laws will reach to Germany and therefore at best it makes her reconsider where she moves. Personally I would wait for her to get over here then take action.

Think of it this way, if you were on Tinder or other dating sites would people look down on it? Ultimately from what we understand of tinder etc is that it is used to meet for sex just as we do here (we are just more honest about it!).

Hope this helps

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

They're your family - they'll still love you and be in your corner, as your brother's reaction shows.

At the moment, it will hurt like hell, built I knew somebody who found themselves in The Sun through swinging.

It took a while, but they put on their work smile and a few years down the road, life has moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interestingly.... What has the boyfriend said about all this ?

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By *ingdong11Man
over a year ago

emsworth

"If anyone on here’s gives out their actual phone number then please stop.

It can link straight up to Facebook, Instagram etc

All you have to do is enter the number in the search bar and there you are."

You can change your settings to prevent this though , I have never met anyone from here without exchanging numbers first .

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

"Thankyou everyone

My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol

Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts

That too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone on here’s gives out their actual phone number then please stop.

It can link straight up to Facebook, Instagram etc

All you have to do is enter the number in the search bar and there you are."

I don't have Facebook, instagram or anything else. I feel no issues with swapping numbers once people are comfortable to do so.

You could say the same about real names and sharing photos between the sites. Where do you draw the line?

And if you have nothing to hide, then sharing numbers / details want bring up anything out of the ordinary anyway?

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"Interestingly.... What has the boyfriend said about all this ?"

Weirdly enough I’ve heard nothing from the boyfriend. I still have had no contact with him for 2 years and have been changed my phone number in that time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If something is humiliating to you, perhaps don't do it. This is a risk you take

Should it be? No...but it is. It bit you on the arse this time

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

It’s not the swinging that is humiliating, it’s my brother being sent sexual pictures of myself by someone who had no right to have them. I learnt my lesson at the time, changed my profile name and my number then haven’t given it out very much since. I’m now extremely picky and have cut out playing with single men altogether

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now"

Exactly this hun they deal with lots of these issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not the swinging that is humiliating, it’s my brother being sent sexual pictures of myself by someone who had no right to have them. I learnt my lesson at the time, changed my profile name and my number then haven’t given it out very much since. I’m now extremely picky and have cut out playing with single men altogether "

That is really really shitty

The thing that some people don't grasp is that the person at fault is not the unsuspecting swingee, but the partner who is cheating and playing away. We always try to triple verify that the guys are actually single - and have found a lot of liars. So sorry you met one of them and have been vilified,humiliated and scapegoated by the woman HE wounded. Sending hugs x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"If something is humiliating to you, perhaps don't do it. This is a risk you take

Should it be? No...but it is. It bit you on the arse this time "
seriously?! Him and his crappy gf are at fault not the OP, what has been done us a criminal offence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now

Exactly this hun they deal with lots of these issues. "

I had too do this as was threatened .Done tolerate it as it's abuse and police take it seriously

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

As a few people have said now..

Report it to the police.

She's clearly kept the screen caps for just such a reason.

That shows intent.

By finding you on social media she counts as a stalker.

The law is there to protect and help you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankyou everyone

My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol

Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts

Agree but a bit insensitive towards those of us that may suffer

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Thankyou everyone

My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol

Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts

Agree but a bit insensitive towards those of us that may suffer"

It's a generic problem when people take a label that means something and then overuse it to the point it no longer does.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"If something is humiliating to you, perhaps don't do it. This is a risk you take

Should it be? No...but it is. It bit you on the arse this time seriously?! Him and his crappy gf are at fault not the OP, what has been done us a criminal offence!

Exactly! Having sexual preferences within the law are not a valid reason to get treated like that over /stalked - even if the lady is in Europe she’s under the jurisdiction of our police via a European arrest warrant - it might make her think twice if she gets a knock on the door by the local police

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

15 years ago my ex wife and her sister found out her dad and his wife were into swinging, and neither of them gave a stuff about it. He was their dad, she was his wife.. that was it. They loved them the same and it wasn't their business anyway. Family.

Your sex life is your business and whomever you choose to share it with, you shouldn't feel humiliated with what you do and don't do behind closed doors.

A friend of mine came out to me as gay, when he told me I think he was expecting me to be shocked but he seemed surprised when I answered 'right - and?' He was still my friend I saw him no differently and who he chooses to sleep (and or love in this case) with is not my business.

Friends.

I would definitely persue legal action. It was bang out of order.

Karma

Just my 2Ps worth and hope you are alright. Xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thankyou everyone

My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol

Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts

Agree but a bit insensitive towards those of us that may suffer

It's a generic problem when people take a label that means something and then overuse it to the point it no longer does. "

I qualified my statement with "might" and explained that I suggested this as a "possible" reason due to experiences that I've had. That in my opinion isn't overuse.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Interestingly.... What has the boyfriend said about all this ?

Weirdly enough I’ve heard nothing from the boyfriend. I still have had no contact with him for 2 years and have been changed my phone number in that time"

He is probably unaware.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

"If anyone on here’s gives out their actual phone number then please stop.

It can link straight up to Facebook, Instagram etc

All you have to do is enter the number in the search bar and there you are."

Facebook doesn't have my phone number, my real name, my real D.O.B. My photos there are all hidden from anyone who isn't a friend. This particular issue isn't Facebook or Instagram it's people putting too much personal information online, on any site.

As for the OP I think all you can do is hold your head high in the knowledge that you did the right thing at the time and your sexual life is no one else's business and your family will surely accept that after the initial shock.

If I were in your shoes I wouldn't want to go through with the extra stress of going to the police, but that's not what I'd let that woman know. I'd tell her she's committed a crime and you're going to report it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A women scorned as they say ,but pure evil on her part,all i can say is hope your family stick with you

lots of hugs x

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By *avenTinaCouple
over a year ago

Southport

"P.S. an angry ex threatened one of our kids that they would tell us all about what they got up to. We assured them that there was nothing the ex could tell us that would shock us or make us love them less. You will probably find your family will think the same way."

I agree with the above your family will still love you although it could be a little embarrassing but it will soon be forgotten, rise above it and ditch stalker book

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By *avenTinaCouple
over a year ago

Southport

"It’s fucking shit. I was outed in a slightly different way in the village I live in.

To go to the police or not is up to you but in terms of how you feel about the “humiliation” I can assure you it wears off in time.

I hid my profile, barely went out the house for a few days! But actually after a little while I thought “fuck it”.

These days it barely enters my consciousness what people may or may not know.

You will be fine when this feeling passes.

V x "

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

And this, folks, is why we delete and block any guy that shows the slightest sign of not being truly single.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

This is a form of cyber bullying which is a criminal offence and one which you could if you wanted to go further with. This is terrible and through no fault of your own you have come off worse. God love ya xx

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Stop faffing around waiting for legal advice. Get in touch with the police / cyber crime dept, get it reported, and get a crime number. When it gets passed onto the German side, they won't fuck around. Believe me.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"Stop faffing around waiting for legal advice. Get in touch with the police / cyber crime dept, get it reported, and get a crime number. When it gets passed onto the German side, they won't fuck around. Believe me. "

I’m not faffing, I have a day off tomorrow, I’ll be compiling all the evidence together and making a call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had this not to this extent thank goodness, just goes to show men lie and women never get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above your family will still love you although it could be a little embarrassing but it will soon be forgotten, rise above it and ditch stalker book

This is so true. I had an ex get jealous of my next relationship and she contacted my eldest daughter on faceache to dish the dirt.

My daughter ripped her a new arsehole verbally telling her exactly what she thought of her behaviour.

She then rang me to let me know, which was great as my ex was still pretending she was a friend and whiter than white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a proper Jeremy Kyle situation with my ex, who forgot to tell new gf about me, so there was a year's gap that he couldn't really explain. She got suspicious, hacked his phone, harassed me for a year, contacted my neighbours, work colleagues etc. Pleaded with my ex to have a word with her, but he couldn't because he'd have to admit and confess about me. In the end stopped letting her bully me, stopped being the victim, took back my life, sent the ex bf solicitors letters telling him to do something and deal with the aftermath, or I would, or police would. He had to confess to her, and although they were separated at the time, he's gone back, but he's now very much restricted, BUT, I've never heard a peep out of her again. Face up to bullies. I've ad two guys wanting to expose my personal life for their benefit twice now, if you show it doesn't bother you, then they have no power over you, hence why I have my face on here. No one can touch me.

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!!

Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home

she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.

It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this

you can know contact the police, new laws against t his kind of evilness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you can ... I know he was an arse but clearly she has bigger issues ... just do it

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!!

Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home

she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.

It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this

you can know contact the police, new laws against t his kind of evilness

xx"

Current laws...

PROTECTION FROM HARASSMENT ACT 1997

Under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 it is a criminal offence for a person to pursue a course of conduct which amounts to the harassment of another, which the perpetrator knows or ought to know amounts to harassment. This could include sending a person multiple abusive emails with the intention of causing alarm or distress. A person found guilty of this offence could receive up to six months imprisonment, a financial penalty or both.

Section 4 of the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 provides the potential for greater punishment to those found guilty of causing another person to fear, on at least two occasions, that violence will be used against them. A person found guilty of this offence could receive up to 5 years in prison, as well as a fine.

The 1997 Act also gives Courts the power to grant restraining orders against those found guilty of an offence in order to protect the victim.

MALICIOUS COMMUNICATIONS ACT 1988

Section 1 of the Malicious Communications Act 1988 states that it is an offence for any person to send a communication that is "indecent or grossly offensive" for the purpose of causing "distress or anxiety to the recipient". The Act also extends to threats and information which is false and known or believed to be false by the sender of the communication. A person found guilty of this offence is liable to receive a prison sentence of up to 6 months, a fine (currently of up to £5,000) or even both.

COMMUNICATIONS ACT 2003

Section 127 of the Communications Act 2003 makes it a criminal offence to send via any electronic communication network a message or other matter that is deemed "grossly offences or of an indecent, obscene or menacing character". If found guilty of an offence under section 127 of the Communications Act 2003, a person can receive up to six months in prison, a fine or both.

OBSCENE PUBLICATIONS ACT 1959

The Obscene Publications Act 1959 makes it an offence to publish an obscene article. An obscene article is classed as one whose effect is to deprave and corrupt persons likely to read, see or hear the matter contained or embodied in the article. Publishing includes circulating, showing, playing or projecting the article or transmitting the data.

PUBLIC ORDER ACT 1986

Under section 5 of the Public Order Act 1986, it is an offence to use threatening, abusive or insulting words, behaviour, writing or any visual representations likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress within the hearing or sight of a person. With regards to cyberbullying, this offence could apply where the camera or video functionality now found on the vast majority of mobile phones is used as a way of causing such harassment, alarm or distress.

COMPUTER MISUSE ACT 1990

If in the course of cyberbullying a person hacks into the victim's online accounts or personal computer, they may be committing an offence under the Computer Misuse Act 1990.

CYBER BULLYING IN THE WORKPLACE

Bullying in the workplace is an increasing problem, especially with regards to cyber bullying. One in five employees have experienced some form of workplace bullying, which can result in time off work due to illness and stress. Reports suggest that bullying in the workplace costs UK employers an estimated £2bn a year in lost productivity and sick pay.

Under the Health and Safety at Work Act 1974, all employers have a duty of care to provide employees with a safe working environment. If an employee is a victim of cyberbullying at work through the use of the company's computer equipment and infrastructure, the employer may be in breach of their duty to protect employees under the Health and Safety at Work Act.

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By *iverscuMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

That's unbelievable, I really feel for you and hope you manage to get this sorted. That's seriously unacceptable behaviour

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now

Yeah start here. It won't fix your upset and invasion of privacy but she can't be allowed to get away with it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know there was such a thing as a angry gf.

I was in a very loving f/f relationship until my ex gf cheated on me with one of our female friends in my bed so I finished our relationship.

She handled it totally normal.she sent me threatening letters,scratched my car and broke my window screen,she came to my work place and threatened to show our naked pics to my work friends if I didn't go outside and talk to her.five months later she tried to attack my new bf.

Angry ex gf is totally normal

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By *arklordMan
over a year ago

rugeley

"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now"

im with this idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed contact the police. Although you may feel embarrassed and/or awkward about the whole thing, I know from experience that the Police are very professional about these type of matters and will just deal with the criminal aspect. They won't care less about anything you have done as you have not committed any crime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only one thinking,

fuck the police, smash her face in

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

You are the only person who can make you feel shameful. You did nothing wrong. Although you didn't want this part of your life to become public, it has. Do not hang your head in shame. Hold your head high as a proud, sexually empowered woman. Don't waste any time or energy on this petty little woman. Your friends and family love you for reasons other than who gets in your knickers and will stick by you.

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By *ordan169Man
over a year ago

Bradford

That's out of order guys like that just make swinging unfair on others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeremy kyle would sort this out :p.is out of order you got 3 choices depending on what sort of person you are 1.smash her face in 2.call police I think it is a crime now 3.ignore the fucktard and lough she's spent the last 2 years thinking about you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the fuck is wrong with some people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good god almighty! I'm absolutely gobsmacked. I took myself all social media over 3 years ago. Best decision I've ever made. I hope that your family will respect your privacy and respect you even more. Sending love & light xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send her a message saying she is welcome to the cheating small cocked loser and he was shit in bed anyway and if she starts saying anything when she moves here youll let the whole of fab know her details and she can live with the consequences .she is one we are many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!!

Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home

she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.

It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this

What an awful thing for her to do. And as was mentioned somewhere above, what she did is indeed a criminal offence. Get her reported asap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's serial killer level....crazy

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!!

Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home

she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.

It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this

Hold your head up high. Ignore them. What you do with your personal ife is your business.

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By *oysvsgirlsMan
over a year ago

farnborough

I would fall deep into a shame well and probably never claw my way out.

You've done nothing wrong in the slightest.

It's easy to stay be strong but in your shoes I wouldn't be.

People like this are scum and I would advise legal advice, however this will not undo the hurt you're currently feeling.

Remember you have an awesome community of like minded individuals and couples here to support you.

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By *lue9753Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Well your not committed any crime or hurt anyone so hold your head up high sex is a natural bodily function I'm sure in time people will talk about other people's problems n gossip sending you many hugs as im sure you would do to others it must be bad for you at the moment

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