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By *ancingfeet OP   Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Interested in how either cuckold or couples with a Hotwife deal with selection of partners for the wife.

Does the husband get a veto of any kind on certain individuals? Even in a cuckold type relationship surely there are certain people that just wouldn't work and could start to ruin the fun?

Feedback on how this works for others would be appreciated.

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I (mrs) pick who I want hubby has no say

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By *ancingfeet OP   Couple
over a year ago

Redditch


"I (mrs) pick who I want hubby has no say "

Thanks. We generally do the same but there is the very occasional time when it doesn't work for Mr DancingFeet. This can put a damper on meets and we wonder how others feel/deal with this type of issue.

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

Your profile should set out most, if not all of what you as a couple want.

After that there is just fine details and the photos to look at. Personally I will do the choosing as I am the one who is doing the nasty with the guy.

C can give his opinion but I get final choice.

Sx

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By *urious and openmindedCouple
over a year ago

under the sea

Jen likes me to choose the candidates

Obviously she has final say but so far I'm 2/2 so must have a good idea on what floats her boat

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

We pick together, both have to be comfortable with the pick. Have power to veto at Any point, but then we not cuck. Stag n vixen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a free agent, had many long term fuk buddy's, but he gets the veto..... Even if I really really like a guy, and he vetoes... That is the end of it.

Usually because the guys arrogant, or if hubby believes he's not treating me right. Occasionally if he gets jealous. There's two types of jealousy, a good one and a bad one.

All my regular meets are non fab though, met in the natural world x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just curious where is the natural world?

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By *otwife and Him 69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

Absolutely depends on your relationship and what you’ve set out from the off

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By *ancingfeet OP   Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Thanks everyone - we lean more towards hotwife than cuckold (if you describe cuckold as more towards the humiliation side.

It’s really interesting to hear how other people control ‘vetos’. When this has happened to us it is generally when mr perceives Mrs isn’t being or going to be treated right too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need a hotwife????

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By *rs T and HubbyCouple
over a year ago

somewhere north of the border..

We both have the right to Vito any meet...if one says no then it doesn't happen...

We are a couple first and that takes priority...safety and respect is the way forward for us...and fun follows...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very intriguing on this forum.

We love humiliation and husband picks all of my meets. He's a really good choice of character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (mrs) pick who I want hubby has no say "

This is exactly my attitude, I want her to be in charge of any sexual activity she wants - with or without my knowledge which is a step too far for many on here (understandably)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr. Sunday makes the 1st contact, usually via a wink. Then I carry it on, he's a very good judge and knows exactly what I like, he's never got it wrong. Having said that if I don't feel any attraction then I always say.

Mrs. Saturday

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By *obbysmythMan
over a year ago

louth

Would love to know how you’s meet a guy apart from on here. I would love to watch my girlfriend with a guy but wondering how would you approach a guy? Just looking for some tips?

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee


"Thanks everyone - we lean more towards hotwife than cuckold (if you describe cuckold as more towards the humiliation side.

It’s really interesting to hear how other people control ‘vetos’. When this has happened to us it is generally when mr perceives Mrs isn’t being or going to be treated right too."

This is the Mrs. We both have the power to veto anyone we don't feel right about, whether it's something in the profile or the way that a guy talks in his messages. If he talks only to me and doesn't acknowledge G, it's a no.

The hotwife/stag and vixen dynamic is definitely for us, humiliation doesn't appeal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either of us have a veto over anyone we meet, no matter how much one of us would want to meet someone if one says no, its a no.

Then again we are not a cuck couple so each to there own.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

We are what we call a hotwife coule.

Sometimes I watch other times I join in.

I do all the Fab stuff and arrange the meets.

However we always meet at clubs, I know what Frisky likes and get it right most of the time.

Occasionally a Fab guy ticks all the boxes on here but it doesn't translate to the meet.

We both have power of veto but as Frisky is a pretty good judge of character, I don't ever remember stepping in but would do without hesitation if I felt something wasn't right...

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Easy she chooses but always runs them past me so I know who she meets is safe and we don't know them/work with them type things.

But we only like the Hot wife bit not cuck.

I meet who I want too total respect both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t care who picks - as long as they pick me!! Lol

More West Midlands hotwives needed here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubbie does the searching but hotwife has the final say in whom we meet , we always meet for a social flirty drink just to make sure they are who they say they are ( and look like their photo !! ) Has worked for us so far only exception to our rules are house parties and clubs cause if hotwife likes what she sees then she plays .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We pick together, both have to be comfortable with the pick. Have power to veto at Any point, but then we not cuck. Stag n vixen"

That's how we feel.

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By *esterLilacCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

We are the reverse and have a ‘hot husband’ relationship. I, as the cuckquean, choose the women. If I’m not attracted to the women he’s playing with then the whole dynamic doesn’t work for us.

Lilac x

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By *heshireguy69Man
over a year ago

saddleworth


"Jen likes me to choose the candidates

Obviously she has final say but so far I'm 2/2 so must have a good idea on what floats her boat"

Wow !! Your Mrs has an amazing figure !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband s them out based on what he knows I like, and I further slice through the list. Then we have a social. Then a playmeet if the chemistry is there.

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London


"My husband s them out based on what he knows I like, and I further slice through the list. Then we have a social. Then a playmeet if the chemistry is there."

This is how we things also. If we’re both not ok then no meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My husband s them out based on what he knows I like, and I further slice through the list. Then we have a social. Then a playmeet if the chemistry is there.

This is how we things also. If we’re both not ok then no meets. "

It's off topic but nice bum there Mrs

Vixen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wife likes me to arrange a social meet first . Adds to the humiliation if you like . Think i know her type well. She expects me to "vet" the guys before I show her them. Not let her down yet ??

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By *heffcouple77Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

I the cuck do all the leg work if think the wife might but interested in the guy I ask her to.look at the messages and profile but ultimately it's the wife who has the final say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play equal role in selecting the 3rd party

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

I generally choose the men!!

But on a different note there is a new profile TheHotWifeClub on Fab

And they are doing a club event for Hotwifes etc....

Get all Hotwifes in 1 room

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally look together then I (Mr) make contact and swap messages... the vibe from the guy has to be a good one obviously and I have once or twice met the guys for a coffee or chat before inviting them to our home..

We normally do a first meet where we let the guy watch us and if she is attracted to them and they are non pushy etc, we invite them back for some fun where he gets to fuck her!!

Last guy we met I met for a drink and he asked if I wanted to see his cock (as he didn’t have pics on profile).. we were outdoors so he got it out and began wanking in front of me,obviously aroused by showing it to me.... he came quite quickly in fairness... when we met with the wife, he gave her a nude massage to break the ice before he came all over her naked body! I’ve never seen a guy cum so much!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I generally choose the men!!

But on a different note there is a new profile TheHotWifeClub on Fab

And they are doing a club event for Hotwifes etc....

Get all Hotwifes in 1 room

Tis a fab idea and we can't wait...

Xx "

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Mrs has to be attracted to them and feel some chemistry, if she clicks with a guy my only input is snooping through there profiles, veris, veris verifications and even forum posts, if something puts me off about them i will tell her and she trusts my instincts

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !

It’s up to Mrs Legin if she meets with a guy or guys, my role is to make sure she’s safe.

Then she just has fun, like this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotwife and cuckold in the same conversation does blur this question and subsequent replies somewhat.

We're more hotwife and it is predominantly the male who finds, vets and invites men over. We both like a variety of types and interests so rarely host a dud!

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"I (mrs) pick who I want hubby has no say "

This... hubby can suggest if he sees someone on here when I am at work that he knows my interest me but ultimately I say who I play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look together and find someone who we both like the look of and also has the right personality or what we can gather from a few messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hubbie does the searching but hotwife has the final say in whom we meet , we always meet for a social flirty drink just to make sure they are who they say they are ( and look like their photo !! ) Has worked for us so far only exception to our rules are house parties and clubs cause if hotwife likes what she sees then she plays . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We look together and find someone who we both like the look of and also has the right personality or what we can gather from a few messages"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to talk to guys on here and generally understand what kind of man my wife likes. Then I explain each one to her and she studies their pics and then decides yes or no. Sometimes the guys I think are ideal she turns down. Always her choice though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to sound nasty but yeah I'll meet who I want (it us me playing with guys not him

Altho if I get on with someone or sone guys and they want regular fun then we'll come off this. Like we did last year when I started seeing someone for 10 months. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant stand cuckoos fucking waking me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me of James Bond spectre

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield


"Interested in how either cuckold or couples with a Hotwife deal with selection of partners for the wife."

Depends how you want to work it... find what works for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (mrs) pick who I want hubby has no say

This... hubby can suggest if he sees someone on here when I am at work that he knows my interest me but ultimately I say who I play with "

I totally agree

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

For us my wife picks who she wants. We 99% of the time have a social first, we have a safe word that can be dropped into general conversation if I don't like something to stop it.

All though we are a cuck couple if there is something not right I can stop it going to play unless it is a regular of ours lol

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

I only did it once with a guy who had been drinking generally it's her choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interested in how either cuckold or couples with a Hotwife deal with selection of partners for the wife.

Does the husband get a veto of any kind on certain individuals? Even in a cuckold type relationship surely there are certain people that just wouldn't work and could start to ruin the fun?

I tend to choose who I chat/meet with but he does have a say overall. I wouldnt want to meet someone he didn't want me to because that would take away his enjoyment but I guess if you were into cuckold more than hotwifing then it would be a different set up. It's what you feel comfortable with as a couple at the end of the day.

Feedback on how this works for others would be appreciated."

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