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"Like most guys I fantasise of being in on or near a bed with two women. However, I love the quote from Charlie Sheen who knows a thing or two - “while it’s most guys fantasy, in reality there’s just not enough guy to go around”. One day perhaps. " And this helps me how?? | |||
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"have you ever visited a club? you could possibly have a night at a club and meet folk without taking the plunge then build up a bit of trust ect before you play?" No, never done a club yet. I have no one to go to a club with and would not have the confidence to go by myself. | |||
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"have you ever visited a club? you could possibly have a night at a club and meet folk without taking the plunge then build up a bit of trust ect before you play? No, never done a club yet. I have no one to go to a club with and would not have the confidence to go by myself. " maybe try to find similarly minded folk local to you on here that would visit with you? we have done this with single females before, once you are through the door its slightly easier | |||
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"My advice is. Get to know a decent guy on here first, there are plenty to choose from, then go from there. " Decent advice. | |||
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"I was involved in a mff and l knew the guy. We had a good time. I think it helps and calms the nervous when you know one of them better. They should have a good personality(the one you know better). It was my first time to be in a threesome and to go down on a woman. They respected boundaries,l would do it again any day with them. Hope it helps xx" just wish I had a male friend that I could do it with.. unfortunately all my male friends are strictly friendzoned lol. | |||
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"I was involved in a mff and l knew the guy. We had a good time. I think it helps and calms the nervous when you know one of them better. They should have a good personality(the one you know better). It was my first time to be in a threesome and to go down on a woman. They respected boundaries,l would do it again any day with them. Hope it helps xx just wish I had a male friend that I could do it with.. unfortunately all my male friends are strictly lol. " Haven’t you got a decent bloke that you chat with and have fun with here and there who feels or you feel is a good guy? | |||
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"I was involved in a mff and l knew the guy. We had a good time. I think it helps and calms the nervous when you know one of them better. They should have a good personality(the one you know better). It was my first time to be in a threesome and to go down on a woman. They respected boundaries,l would do it again any day with them. Hope it helps xx just wish I had a male friend that I could do it with.. unfortunately all my male friends are strictly lol. Haven’t you got a decent bloke that you chat with and have fun with here and there who feels or you feel is a good guy?" I used to but he went and got a GF... lol. | |||
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"have you ever visited a club? you could possibly have a night at a club and meet folk without taking the plunge then build up a bit of trust ect before you play? No, never done a club yet. I have no one to go to a club with and would not have the confidence to go by myself. " As has been said - a club is an easy place to fulfil the fantasy - and other ones beside ! It does take a lot to go in alone so perhaps if none of the guys you have met are willing to accompany you / help arrange a MFM then perhaps a meet with a couple (where she is straight also) is a start , assuming they may eventually take you to a club. Alternatively look out for 'socials' they are much less pressured events where you should be able to get to know people locally. If all else fails - I am happy to take you up to chameleons .... Alan | |||
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"have you ever visited a club? you could possibly have a night at a club and meet folk without taking the plunge then build up a bit of trust ect before you play? No, never done a club yet. I have no one to go to a club with and would not have the confidence to go by myself. " The funny thing about clubs is that they are much easier to be n alone than a vanilla pub or club. It is hard to get the confidence to go in first, but well worth the effort. Have a look at the club section, we would recomend Angels in Melksham as a first club - it is a bit of a drive, but worth the trip as it is a genuine swingers club all the time. Give the owners a call if you are going and they will show you round and introduce you to others. Give it a go, you can always leave and put it down to experience if you don’t like it. | |||
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"Wish we were near each other,then we would team up and have Fun " More than welcome to come and visit one weekend | |||
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"have you ever visited a club? you could possibly have a night at a club and meet folk without taking the plunge then build up a bit of trust ect before you play? No, never done a club yet. I have no one to go to a club with and would not have the confidence to go by myself. As has been said - a club is an easy place to fulfil the fantasy - and other ones beside ! It does take a lot to go in alone so perhaps if none of the guys you have met are willing to accompany you / help arrange a MFM then perhaps a meet with a couple (where she is straight also) is a start , assuming they may eventually take you to a club. Alternatively look out for 'socials' they are much less pressured events where you should be able to get to know people locally. If all else fails - I am happy to take you up to chameleons .... Alan " Thank you, good advice. Xx | |||
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"Wish we were near each other,then we would team up and have Fun More than welcome to come and visit one weekend " The good thing about having a wingwoman is that you can keep an eye on the guys to make sure they keep their condoms on etc... | |||
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"Hi a swingers club would be an obvious safe choice unless you have any guys you have met on here you feel comfortable with! I'm not far if fancy getting to know a genuine nice guy! Lolx" Hehe am I allowed to take you up on that offer?? | |||
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"Wish we were near each other,then we would team up and have Fun More than welcome to come and visit one weekend The good thing about having a wingwoman is that you can keep an eye on the guys to make sure they keep their condoms on etc..." We need to arrange this!! Hehe | |||
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"Wish we were near each other,then we would team up and have Fun More than welcome to come and visit one weekend The good thing about having a wingwoman is that you can keep an eye on the guys to make sure they keep their condoms on etc... We need to arrange this!! Hehe " | |||
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"Choose people you have got to know and who you trust to show respect. Try to relax and enjoy. If you have instigated you can end up feeling like the hostess at your own party - trying to make sure everyone else has a good time and forgetting that you need to as well." And knowing what I am like I am sure this would actually happen lol. | |||
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"Have you had a ffm yet? We are looking forward to our first ffm, so I hope you don’t mind us listening in on the advice you are being given. L x" I have done a FFM before but the guy was useless and tried to be a director more than a willing participant.. just make sure the man actually gets involved rather than just wanting to watch all the time. | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. " You are exactly what I am looking for although I am slightly outside your age range , pm please xx | |||
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"have you ever visited a club? you could possibly have a night at a club and meet folk without taking the plunge then build up a bit of trust ect before you play? No, never done a club yet. I have no one to go to a club with and would not have the confidence to go by myself. " Clubs are only scary the first time you go. They are safe, clean and there is no pressure to do anything you don't want to. You can just sit and chat or watch the action if you like. All my threesomes and moresomes have been in a club, and there is never any shortage of willing and decent guys to choose from. | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm?" There's no difference - an MMF can be just straight guys if it's agreed. If there was a difference how would you write a straight MMMMF? | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? There's no difference - an MMF can be just straight guys if it's agreed. If there was a difference how would you write a straight MMMMF? " I know what he meant though. | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. " Have a look for well verified MM couple profiles. There are some guys who specialise in just such scenarios. Some can come across as a bit aggressive but do your homework, read their veris and establish your boundaries. Some are very experienced and will be able to help with confidence in the scenario | |||
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"I have one planned this morning but one guy has let us down xx Never had one and was looking forward to it x" Nightmare... need a hand lol | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. " Oh, my advice would be "don't bother". | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. Oh, my advice would be "don't bother"." Really. Why? | |||
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"My advice is. Get to know a decent guy on here first, there are plenty to choose from, then go from there. " The best advice | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. Oh, my advice would be "don't bother". Really. Why?" Too many lines that can be crossed, too many boundaries that need respecting. Mmf is the way forward imo. | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. Oh, my advice would be "don't bother". Really. Why? Too many lines that can be crossed, too many boundaries that need respecting. Mmf is the way forward imo. " You obviously haven't been in one of my MMFs (or MFMs in your terminology) - everyone has a great time and comes back for more. There aren't any boundaries if the guys are straight, and any decent bi guy respects the others' boundaries without problem. | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. Oh, my advice would be "don't bother". Really. Why? Too many lines that can be crossed, too many boundaries that need respecting. Mmf is the way forward imo. " While you may be right from your point of view, I have to disagree. From posting on other threads,I think we both know each others thoughts on certain issues. Mfm is more than possible as it's something I have experience of myself. Thats mfm, mfmf group and gb. I think the boundaries you talk of is common sense. They don't need discussion because it's not going to happen in that situation. I suppose if one of the guys were bi and one wasn't their there may need to be a discussion. But only may. In all of the scenarios I have participated in, I can honestly say it's never been a problem. I think the problem comes if two guys aren't really into 'swinging', more interested in 121. I think those that are experienced realise it's all about the female and getting what she wants from it. As a guy, a straight guy you have to accept there will be other cocks and hands around in any of the situations I have participated in. That doesn't mean they will be pushed in your face or your cock grabbed hold of by another man. It doesn't happen, not in my experience anyway. I can also say that in a gb situation, some of the guys may have been bi, I don't know, I didn't do the inviting, but with all being there for the female and all attention on her, then it doesn't really matter. Of course I can only speak for myself but in 20 years of experience, mfm can and does work. | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. Oh, my advice would be "don't bother". Really. Why? Too many lines that can be crossed, too many boundaries that need respecting. Mmf is the way forward imo. You obviously haven't been in one of my MMFs (or MFMs in your terminology) - everyone has a great time and comes back for more. There aren't any boundaries if the guys are straight, and any decent bi guy respects the others' boundaries without problem." no! | |||
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"I don't want to quote all that. But i can see where the differences are. You say in an mfm the focus is giving pleasure to the female. Where as in the mmf's I've been involved with the focus was on equal pleasure for all. " Are you implying that the guys that are fucking me or getting sucked don't find it equally pleasurable | |||
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"I don't want to quote all that. But i can see where the differences are. You say in an mfm the focus is giving pleasure to the female. Where as in the mmf's I've been involved with the focus was on equal pleasure for all. " But by that thinking you are suggesting that two straight guys aren't getting any pleasure? Of course they are. And probably as equally, plus they are getting the pleasure of seeing a girl enjoying herself. I can see from your point of view, but it's just not something I would consider. Luckily the world is big enough for both of our views and experience. | |||
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"I don't want to quote all that. But i can see where the differences are. You say in an mfm the focus is giving pleasure to the female. Where as in the mmf's I've been involved with the focus was on equal pleasure for all. But by that thinking you are suggesting that two straight guys aren't getting any pleasure? Of course they are. And probably as equally, plus they are getting the pleasure of seeing a girl enjoying herself. I can see from your point of view, but it's just not something I would consider. Luckily the world is big enough for both of our views and experience." Maybe you enjoy a 3-some, 3 individuals. Where i enjoy 1 group of people enjoying each other's bodies. | |||
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"I don't want to quote all that. But i can see where the differences are. You say in an mfm the focus is giving pleasure to the female. Where as in the mmf's I've been involved with the focus was on equal pleasure for all. But by that thinking you are suggesting that two straight guys aren't getting any pleasure? Of course they are. And probably as equally, plus they are getting the pleasure of seeing a girl enjoying herself. I can see from your point of view, but it's just not something I would consider. Luckily the world is big enough for both of our views and experience. Maybe you enjoy a 3-some, 3 individuals. Where i enjoy 1 group of people enjoying each other's bodies. " Thanks, I do! | |||
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"Are we talking mmf or mfm? MFM. Oh, my advice would be "don't bother". Really. Why? Too many lines that can be crossed, too many boundaries that need respecting. Mmf is the way forward imo. You obviously haven't been in one of my MMFs (or MFMs in your terminology) - everyone has a great time and comes back for more. There aren't any boundaries if the guys are straight, and any decent bi guy respects the others' boundaries without problem." I think he is stirring. There is absolutely no issues in straight mmf's, and as you rightly say the 'boundaries' are kind of automatic anyway. We've done them and loved them. | |||
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"OP, a good club that has decent single guys will be a good option. You can get to know them there or chat with other single ladies about who they have found to play well. I think finding 2 guys through fab, and them both working well together, and turning up, might be a tall order. Unless you have played with both separately first and then arrange a mmf later." Thank you just need to find someone to come to a club with me now | |||
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"OP, a good club that has decent single guys will be a good option. You can get to know them there or chat with other single ladies about who they have found to play well. I think finding 2 guys through fab, and them both working well together, and turning up, might be a tall order. Unless you have played with both separately first and then arrange a mmf later. Thank you just need to find someone to come to a club with me now " We've been to clubs where single ladies have been there on their own for the first time. Every single one said they were nervous at first, but once inside didn't know why, as it was so easy and relaxed. You will be swamped with offers to take you, just select carefully. Going alone may well be easier than having the wrong chaperone. | |||
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"OP, a good club that has decent single guys will be a good option. You can get to know them there or chat with other single ladies about who they have found to play well. I think finding 2 guys through fab, and them both working well together, and turning up, might be a tall order. Unless you have played with both separately first and then arrange a mmf later. Thank you just need to find someone to come to a club with me now We've been to clubs where single ladies have been there on their own for the first time. Every single one said they were nervous at first, but once inside didn't know why, as it was so easy and relaxed. You will be swamped with offers to take you, just select carefully. Going alone may well be easier than having the wrong chaperone." Yeah I will choose wisely | |||
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"Find a guy you match with, arrange couple meets with him, get to know each other and if you feel you can trust him let him help search,, the guys need to get on with each other too. I did this and it worked a treat. As long as you make it clear its your rules if they respect that then you will be in for a nice treat. Hope you get what your looking for - and have fun " Bingo here is the answer. | |||
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"OP, a good club that has decent single guys will be a good option. You can get to know them there or chat with other single ladies about who they have found to play well. I think finding 2 guys through fab, and them both working well together, and turning up, might be a tall order. Unless you have played with both separately first and then arrange a mmf later. Thank you just need to find someone to come to a club with me now We've been to clubs where single ladies have been there on their own for the first time. Every single one said they were nervous at first, but once inside didn't know why, as it was so easy and relaxed. You will be swamped with offers to take you, just select carefully. Going alone may well be easier than having the wrong chaperone." I’ve also heard many stories of woe centred around taking the wrong chaperone to a club. Get to know someone a bit first. | |||
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