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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had a bad meet a few months back, anyone havd any suggestions on how i can get my confidence back up?

I feel really anxious when the chat moves to setting up a meet and i hate to be a time waster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet me for a cuppa and a chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a bad meet a few months back, anyone havd any suggestions on how i can get my confidence back up?

I feel really anxious when the chat moves to setting up a meet and i hate to be a time waster!

X"
meet in a social place or meet people in a club so there is a choice. Make sure your clear with what your after and dont rush!! Trust your gut too.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meant choice as in you socialise with no pressure and can chose who you go further with...?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Have a few socials in public places and make it clear that it is only a social and nothing more is on offer.

If you choose to meet after having a social then arrange to meet at a club. I love club meets because it feels like a safe space and there is little risk for me.

There is always club staff on hand and they do keep an eye on single ladies to make sure they are ok.

You are in control, only do what you are comfortable with and if anyone is pushy or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way then report them to the club staff and they will deal with it.

Don't let one bad meet stop you. Just take things at your pace and you will get back into things eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree don't let a bad meet put you off!

I know it can and I've been there.

Just meet in a coffee shop and just say it's a social meet and nothing more so he's not got any expectations xx

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Find a female club buddy and just go with no plans and have a fun evening in a sexy setting. You might choose to do something there, if the right person is there and you feel hapy with it all. If not you've still had a fun night out and confidence built a little xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your suggestions! I suffer from stupidly low confidence at the best of times so the bad meet reslly shook me..

Im trying to gear myself up to go and have a social or two but no ones interested hah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just meet socially first with someone. Take things slow, try to feel rarther than think. X

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By *onforming_deviantWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"I had a bad meet a few months back, anyone havd any suggestions on how i can get my confidence back up?

I feel really anxious when the chat moves to setting up a meet and i hate to be a time waster!

X"

Ditto hun. I've been honest with a few people I have been talking too and had some socials to start to build my confidence back up.

It takes time..

Drop me a message if u need to chat xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet of the worst kind ( can’t say without getting a ban). I went to Chams a few times until I was ready to play again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand about the confidence thing myself .

If I’m honest ladies you sound great company and look amazing . Just be yourself go for public meets and I’m sure you will have a lot of admirers xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we think your stunning there loss. .just take your time don't rush and chose wisely you Will know when it's right..X

Big hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say you need to accept that not all meets will go your way and just learn from them so you don't make the same mistakes next time .... bad meets will always happen fact of life you can pick 10 apples not all will taste the same and one will always be rotten.

stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of good advice above babes.

You look stunning and should have nothing to worry about. Have public daytime meets but you are going to have to get back on the horse at some point...

Be safe, happy fabbing oh and did I say your stunning

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