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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys I'm pretty new to this swinging lark and I'm trying to get a meet on here messaged so many people asking around and I've still not been able to meet a couple or a female is there any tips i or anything anyone can recommend when I speak to people I don't think I'm an ego maniac or anything So what do you guys recommend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if we can comment on your profile unless you ask specifically...but you do seem to be obsessed with your dick..... most ladies are not! If you think about it, anyone who receives a message...if they have any interest at all will look at your profile.

Just suggesting you do the same...and ask yourself what kind of impression it gives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good shout TBH probably to many dick pics will sort that out keep them to minimum

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

The cock profile pic would have me reaching instantly for the delete button

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Almost all cock pics and the 2 that aren't may as well be. My advice up ya game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if we can comment on your profile unless you ask specifically...but you do seem to be obsessed with your dick..... most ladies are not! If you think about it, anyone who receives a message...if they have any interest at all will look at your profile.

Just suggesting you do the same...and ask yourself what kind of impression it gives."

You have dick pics as well think you should take your own advice lol.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Right, so you're 21, this post is longer than your profile, and you've been on here for 3 weeks.

Where do I start.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right, so you're 21, this post is longer than your profile, and you've been on here for 3 weeks.

Where do I start..... "

Think you have covered most of it.

Maybe we should just post these as a permanent response to the same question timr after time..and add...

Many people here have kids older than you...

Sure you can work that one out without a diagram

This isn't instashag

The ratio of guys to girls here us about 200000 to 1

go out to clubs and meet girls in the real world

Did I mention it's not instashag

were there any others we have missed off the list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right, so you're 21, this post is longer than your profile, and you've been on here for 3 weeks.

Where do I start.....

Think you have covered most of it.

Maybe we should just post these as a permanent response to the same question timr after time..and add...

Many people here have kids older than you...

Sure you can work that one out without a diagram

This isn't instashag

The ratio of guys to girls here us about 200000 to 1

go out to clubs and meet girls in the real world

Did I mention it's not instashag

were there any others we have missed off the list? "

" people here have kids older than you"

Are you trying to imply that Im old?

Cheeky fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right, so you're 21, this post is longer than your profile, and you've been on here for 3 weeks.

Where do I start.....

Think you have covered most of it.

Maybe we should just post these as a permanent response to the same question timr after time..and add...

Many people here have kids older than you...

Sure you can work that one out without a diagram

This isn't instashag

The ratio of guys to girls here us about 200000 to 1

go out to clubs and meet girls in the real world

Did I mention it's not instashag

were there any others we have missed off the list?

" people here have kids older than you"

Are you trying to imply that Im old?

Cheeky fucker"

I've got shirts that are older

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I would suggest you modify your expectations of what you can get from fab.

As a single male you are in a large majority group on fab, estimates are anywhere from 5-1000 men for every single lady depending on age, location etc.

You have only been here less than a month. This really isn't a long time for a single man to get a meet as many have been on fab for over a year and still haven't met anyone yet.

Single ladies receive so many messages we often choose to only reply to the few that stand out from all the rest.

Some reasons why we might not reply include :-

You didn't have a face picture either on your profile or in the message.

You don't match what we are looking for such as age, location, height or one of the many other preferences people have.

We've seen your face picture and think we might actually know you out in the real world.

Your message is boring or a carbon copy of the last half a dozen messages we've just read. I've just deleted 5 messages that were all variations of "hello, how are you?"

We just don't fancy you.

These are just a few reasons, there are many, many more.

Instead of just sending messages in a scattergun manner I would suggest you read profiles properly and only message people who's requirements you meet.

Write something that shows you have read our profile.

Send a face picture if you don't have one in public display.

Take a bit more time on each message you send and make it a better message. You will send fewer messages but may get more replies.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 pics in and I'm turned off - a deodorant can 'ruler' and (presumably) you hanging out the back of someone. I didn't even get to the profile text...

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By *ugar_Lover69Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hi Yorkie I tried to pm you but I’m out of your age range your reply was spot on I couldn’t have put it better myself, I was hoping to pick your bra and ask your advice about some clubs you have been to x

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I agreem yorkirs post should be made into a permanent faq entry.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I agreem yorkirs post should be made into a permanent faq entry."

Yeah, but who reads 'em anyway?

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"OP I would suggest you modify your expectations of what you can get from fab.

As a single male you are in a large majority group on fab, estimates are anywhere from 5-1000 men for every single lady depending on age, location etc.

You have only been here less than a month. This really isn't a long time for a single man to get a meet as many have been on fab for over a year and still haven't met anyone yet.

Single ladies receive so many messages we often choose to only reply to the few that stand out from all the rest.

Some reasons why we might not reply include :-

You didn't have a face picture either on your profile or in the message.

You don't match what we are looking for such as age, location, height or one of the many other preferences people have.

We've seen your face picture and think we might actually know you out in the real world.

Your message is boring or a carbon copy of the last half a dozen messages we've just read. I've just deleted 5 messages that were all variations of "hello, how are you?"

We just don't fancy you.

These are just a few reasons, there are many, many more.

Instead of just sending messages in a scattergun manner I would suggest you read profiles properly and only message people who's requirements you meet.

Write something that shows you have read our profile.

Send a face picture if you don't have one in public display.

Take a bit more time on each message you send and make it a better message. You will send fewer messages but may get more replies.

Good luck OP

"

All sound advice.

Plus.....

In your initial post, you make reference to "this swinging lark".

Hardly the attitude to display to others.

You've only been on here 3 weeks. You' a mere beginner! It's not Women laying down for you in their droves; it takes time and effort to achieve success, involving Patience, Perseverance and more Patience!!

At the moment all you can think of, pics wise, is your dick. Ditch all but one of those pics into Private & get a facial & torso pics on instead.

You need to get onto Socials, the Forums & events / clubs in your area all to get noticed.

Good luck

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I agreem yorkirs post should be made into a permanent faq entry.

Yeah, but who reads 'em anyway? "

Have to confess. I never have.

Oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again you asked for advice but have not listed to it... Seems like just another attention seeking post! None of your pics were tastful!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Again you asked for advice but have not listed to it... Seems like just another attention seeking post! None of your pics were tastful! "

Give him chance, hes probs sleeping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys I'm pretty new to this swinging lark and I'm trying to get a meet on here messaged so many people asking around and I've still not been able to meet a couple or a female is there any tips i or anything anyone can recommend when I speak to people I don't think I'm an ego maniac or anything So what do you guys recommend "

Copy my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again you asked for advice but have not listed to it... Seems like just another attention seeking post! None of your pics were tastful! "

Three hours and he hasn't acted on advice!?

Give a person a chance..might want to do it tomorrow, or the next day..it's up to him. Why the rush? And why knock his pics...your single one ain't great either

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Hi Yorkie I tried to pm you but I’m out of your age range your reply was spot on I couldn’t have put it better myself, I was hoping to pick your bra and ask your advice about some clubs you have been to x"

No problem, I'll pm you instead so it gets around filters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"3 pics in and I'm turned off - a deodorant can 'ruler' and (presumably) you hanging out the back of someone. I didn't even get to the profile text... "

Cheers yorkie I'll apply this advice more in the future will admit have been guilty of a bland subject title

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Again you asked for advice but have not listed to it... Seems like just another attention seeking post! None of your pics were tastful! "

Bloody hell mate calm down some of us are up early and in uni and then in work straight after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as has been said above, some of your pics are very off putting...no need for a slew of cocks, least of all on your profile pic...

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

hi naughtystudent69, and welcome to fab...enjoy..

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"Hi Yorkie I tried to pm you but I’m out of your age range your reply was spot on I couldn’t have put it better myself, I was hoping to pick your bra and ask your advice about some clubs you have been to x"

"pick your bra". Freudian slip?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hi naughtystudent69, and welcome to fab...enjoy.. "

Cheers guys thank you very much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right, so you're 21, this post is longer than your profile, and you've been on here for 3 weeks.

Where do I start..... "

How about with legitimate advice, seeing as he's had the balls to ask.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

Your pics are an instant ignore for me. Not sure why some guys think we want to see cocks at every possible angle but I can assure you the majority of women on here don’t!!! A couple is fine. You need to have a nosy at other profiles, some of the guys on the forums have cracking pics that are teasing without showing their bits. Sorry didn’t read your text as I got bored after the pics

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Dick pics, bareback pics, and deodorant can pic... Three sins! And Generic profile blurb....

If you read around on the forums, you'll see why you won't get any response. Rewrite your profile with better pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just echoing what everyone else has said, pretty much all cock pics, instant turn off for me, with a couple of them are bareback make it even worse.

You’ve been here 4 weeks, that’s the time you should spend getting your profile on point, basically it’s your USP and should attract not deter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and, predictably, completely ignored any of the advice you asked for...

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Mmmm a pic of a guys hand covered in cum... you certainly know what the girls want!

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