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The Tribulations of Party invites

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By *WLondonMix OP   Man
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

Well I am reflecting on this particular conundrum and just can't think of a way through it.

I have a party organiser who hosts parties in Leeds regularly and London on occasion, and when looking for more couples or females to attend we look for couples interested in Adult Parties and that what he offers fits there criteria and vica versa. Also another friend that holds organised events that have been great hits previously. On profiles it exclaims party invites very welcome in nice big capital letters, and I do not doubt that they are. Read whole profile, think wow, they would be an epic addition to any party.When it comes to doing a nice message suddenly BAM 'you have been blocked so you can't message'. This is not a slur against those that block single guys, as even if they have looking for single guys up and have us hapless singles blocked( I generally take this as 'WE are looking for single guys in contrast to everysingle guy contact us lol)

Basically what it boils down to is does any one have any idea's that can bypass this, as I am sure couples out there who wish to attend parties may be missing out on genuine verified organisers. Maybe have an option on here to become specifically a party organiser, instead of MF MM M or F, once vetted by people who have attended in past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I organise socials and I use advanced search put in your criteria and bingo. I email at least first 10 pages and for those that have accepted or have been to previous I put them in my hotlist. Also advertise it on meets and events etc and put it up in your status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i advertise my partys on my status and in the forums and invite everyone on my friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are always on the look out for party invites BUT will always think twice if invited by a single male..... The reason being is that there are a few single men on here that say they are a couple then you turn up and suddenly the female couldnt make it.

Same with the parties suddenly only single men have turned up and no fems

I know not everyone is like this but there are a few xxx

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By *WLondonMix OP   Man
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

I understand the apprehension behind accepting invites from single guys, which is why I was wondering if there is any idea's as to if making profiles that state Party organiser as the sex. As when choosing parties from couples females or single males verifications often are, I wouldn't say persuasive but tend to improve peoples impressions of the host or party.

As said for a couple it may work status updates,meet listings and so forth, however when I tend to recommend or invite couples and females to parties it isn't a mass mail system I do check profiles to make sure they are suitable and that the party I am attending is good for them also.

Was contemplating this as answer, if I make a MM profile (as single guys get blocked but rarely mm) that is specifically for inviting couples and females to events and parties, which would be stated on profile. Also will get verified by the two organisers that ill be promoting( I say promoting which sounds shallow, but I just want what ever parties I attend to be as good as possible), also from few of couples or ladies that have attended the said parties. would a profile that I have described be welcome by couples or taken seriously?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If someone wishes to receive party invites but have blocked a third of potential invites from being sent then thats their problem. I guess if the parties/events were on the meets page they could pick them up there but still. Thir problem, no-one elses.

And I know the guy to whom the OP refers. Stop inviting people! I want my turn first!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Oh and to be honest I don't think he's lacking people to attend his parties. Does he know you're contacting people on his behalf?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I understand the apprehension behind accepting invites from single guys, which is why I was wondering if there is any idea's as to if making profiles that state Party organiser as the sex. As when choosing parties from couples females or single males verifications often are, I wouldn't say persuasive but tend to improve peoples impressions of the host or party.

As said for a couple it may work status updates,meet listings and so forth, however when I tend to recommend or invite couples and females to parties it isn't a mass mail system I do check profiles to make sure they are suitable and that the party I am attending is good for them also.

Was contemplating this as answer, if I make a MM profile (as single guys get blocked but rarely mm) that is specifically for inviting couples and females to events and parties, which would be stated on profile. Also will get verified by the two organisers that ill be promoting( I say promoting which sounds shallow, but I just want what ever parties I attend to be as good as possible), also from few of couples or ladies that have attended the said parties. would a profile that I have described be welcome by couples or taken seriously? "

We would take more notice of the above than just an email from an 'ordinary single guy' profile.

Especially if it was verified by a few who have already attended in the past.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see.. this is where i am going to sound really harsh...

wouldn't the best way to organise any event be to just put it in the forums... or to have an event listed on the site?

if you are just in effect "cold calling" people with invitations to events then I would be skeptical

for people you don't know wouldn't it be easier for them to come to you... rather than the other way round, it can look really desperate

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By *WLondonMix OP   Man
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

To julia yea he does, and no one lacking in leeds however london is a harder scene for the parties. Also am not only doing it for his parties but another verified friend who is pretty established as it is however the more the merrier (quality considered of course) lol

Fabio it isn't harsh and you always tell things straight when you post on forum. However I am not cold calling as explained about picking and choosing suitable people.

As for the post on forum or meets page:

Mainly for couples I pose this question- how many if wanting a party to attend search single male's who advertise private parties. As I know when I personally search I tick off single male meets and have spoken to couples who say same.

Also as single guy there will never be a que contacting regarding parties, it isn't what I expect at all. What this is about is the fact that there are single guys that have good contacts for great parties, or host amazing parties and getting the word out to potential couples can be needlessly difficult. Where as a profile as I suggested may work better for me and the couples, however don't want to go to the effort without feedback first. Or suggestions for better ideas.

Also thank you for all feedback already given

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if you are doing the picking and choosing and they have no idea or have not expressed an interest... then in effect you are "cold calling"! you may not like the term, but in essence that is what you are doing....

if they have a meet request up.. cool.. if they don't then it is just a profile..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know quite a few guys who have set up groups for parties and they seem to work better than single guys profiles and they hold regular parties at least once a month. Just an idea.

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By *WLondonMix OP   Man
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

I trust you have read whole of the thread.. as it is not as much about simply single guy ignoring complaint! But single guy blocking. To which I said I understand. Read first post regarding party invites being unable to send due to single guy blockage.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"To julia yea he does, and no one lacking in leeds however london is a harder scene for the parties. Also am not only doing it for his parties but another verified friend who is pretty established as it is however the more the merrier (quality considered of course) lol"

No worries, I know he's busy! Just wish I had someone helping me sort mine - its hard work organising one alone.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Friends of ours went to a party run by a single guy that promised 'couples plus a few single men'. There were apparently 3 women and about 20 men and said they should have left there and then, but decided to stay. After a while the woman was in the kitchen getting a drink when the host came in and said angrily "what are you doing down here? you should be in the bedroom, some guys say they haven't had you yet". They got dressed and left immediately, but to a torrent of abuse. Beware!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

We're a couple that have had party invites from singles guys,its never been a problem to us,some we have gone to and some we hav'nt

A lot of the time though its been through word of mouth but messages have never been a problem to us either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think it should matter if your party organiser or not,

the block is for single males, and you are a single male,

lol you not think if their was a party organiser option then they would be any amounts of party organisers on here just to get past the blocks in place.

just put up a meet request for the party and let people contact you, look at their profile, if they are site supporters and use looked at me then they may see you and notice the party invite. or if its in their area and they like parties they might get in touch if you explain properly on profile or your meet request you setup.

a party can be anything from a small number of people to a big gang, having someone down as a party organiser isnt really another status as apposed to their actual sex.

just accept your blocked from these people for a reason, its their preference that they dont want you contacting them no matter how appealing you think your offer is going to be to them. most people who want to speak to them who are blocked probally think their offers are just as appealing

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

We get them almost every week.....

We are lucky if we get to go clubbing once every other month at the moment!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I got a torrent of party invites when i first joined and practically nothing since. As a newbie i was cautious and told the party planners to get back to me once i had found my feet... And they haven't which suggests that they wanted newbie single women who are perhaps more likely to in with the flow even if they're not completely comfortable with it. I'm not saying this is true of all party planners, just the ones who contacted me back then. The only invites i've received recently have been from single guys who need an escort to go to a couples only party - and since they have clearly not bothered to read my profile and preferences they get an immediate refusal.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If your parties are so good, word of mouth (and using the relevant advertising on here) should be enough to get people coming to you without having to "get around" the single male filter.

If people have the filter, you should respect it. They will have to accept that they will miss out on some "good" contact by doing so.

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By *hechairman18Man
over a year ago

Salford Quays , Manchester

I host parties at my home, near Manchester.

I don't usually 'tout' for my parties.

Some are for couples, who contact me direct.

Some are on behalf of a friend, who has more contacts than me,but does not have a venue.

However, what does puzzle me,is, on some couples profiles, they say that they are up for Gangbangs.

Then, at the end of their profile, in CAPITAL letters, they state NO SINGLE MEN.

Am I missing something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friends of ours went to a party run by a single guy that promised 'couples plus a few single men'. There were apparently 3 women and about 20 men and said they should have left there and then, but decided to stay. After a while the woman was in the kitchen getting a drink when the host came in and said angrily "what are you doing down here? you should be in the bedroom, some guys say they haven't had you yet". They got dressed and left immediately, but to a torrent of abuse. Beware!"

I'd have hit him with the nearest heavy object to hand if he'd spoken to me like that !

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