FabSwingers.com forum: Huge pond of men.. Stand out advice required .. thanks

By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Joined recently and concerned longer I go without more photo's or meet verifications less likely I'll succeed on here.. I've offered a case of wine ( or what ever you demon lol ) for stylish photo's.. I can accommodate or travel.. I'm requesting your advice.. could have a party at mine should a couple or woman assist

NSA Fun,please advise

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

time, patience, basic common sense...

everything else you have to work out for yourself otherwise it isn't then you!

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Good advice

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"time, patience, basic common sense...

everything else you have to work out for yourself otherwise it isn't then you!"

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

This site certainly has it's ups and downs...

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Go to a club. Get yourself known in one. Get veris from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site certainly has it's ups and downs... "

Although it’s generally getting the “ in’s and out’s” we crave

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Problem with the club scene is that I employ a lot of men some of which brag and tell me of night's out .. sacking would be difficult once they know my pleasure lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we women are delicate, fragile creatures, with egos that shatter at rejection

.... it'd be nice to know a little about the type of person you'd like to meet

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

NSA.. fun up for a laugh and enjoy non complicated sex.. go to parties or distant clubs.. no "I'M word lol.. enjoy the good life.. top hotel's and feel free . ..

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

Your profile reads well.

You could attend a local social if there is one in your neck of the woods. It will help you to meet people in an innocent surrounding.

When messaging, message the individual or the couple... Demonstrate that you have read their profile, mention your common interests and say why you want to meet them, in such a way that it does not read as a generic message.

Enjoy the forums... reply privately to forum posts when the people are local to you and to whom you want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big pond? Try to hide your arm bands. Not a good look.

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Ok will do .. I'm in need of photo's for my profile x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Ok will do .. I'm in need of photo's for my profile x"

I think we should discuss the way Fab works over coffee

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Big pond? Try to hide your arm bands. Not a good look.

He might be able to swim though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"time, patience, basic common sense...

everything else you have to work out for yourself otherwise it isn't then you!"

your right to a point but there is a down side to where patience can kill a dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As we women are delicate, fragile creatures, with egos that shatter at rejection

.... it'd be nice to know a little about the type of person you'd like to meet"

This

always helpful in ruling yourself in or out when reading a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be your self if you try to twist and change things to suit others you only detract from what makes you an individual.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Problem with the club scene is that I employ a lot of men some of which brag and tell me of night's out .. sacking would be difficult once they know my pleasure lol xx"

It doesn't need to be the closest club.. many people travel to clubs further away so they don't meet people they know.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A well written profile explaining what you like, what you don't like, when you can meet and any other valuable information.

Photo verified.

Various photos, not just cock photos. so Body photos.

Face photos in private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Big pond? Try to hide your arm bands. Not a good look.

He might be able to swim though

He wouldn’t have posted if he could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As we women are delicate, fragile creatures, with egos that shatter at rejection

.... it'd be nice to know a little about the type of person you'd like to meet"
amazing pair of boobies

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Thanks for all your help xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all your help xx"

You’re very welcome.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

It’s easy OP

In this huge pond of men don’t get your rod out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s easy OP

In this huge pond of men don’t get your rod out."

Hahaha love that post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok will do .. I'm in need of photo's for my profile x"

Just use fake photos like half of the women and mn on here

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Look up previous threads and listen to and act on advice given by men and women on this one.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello again OP. My advice is the same as was written two weeks ago on your last profile advice thread:

'Pics have been mentioned by the person above already, It's your choice of course, but there are plenty of pics you can post without your face or cock in them. Torso and bum shots would probably go down well, after all you have a nice chest shot so surely the rest will match? Or maybe a nice suited and booted shot with your face obscurred?'.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Hello again OP. My advice is the same as was written two weeks ago on your last profile advice thread:

Another one! Why ask for advice then ignore it? Lots of people giving up their time, to try to be helpful, then nothing done is so frustrating.

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm on a mission now to get more photo's this weekend.. thanks all for your advice I'll amend my profile accordingly.. thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Joined recently and concerned longer I go without more photo's or meet verifications less likely I'll succeed on here.. I've offered a case of wine ( or what ever you demon lol ) for stylish photo's.. I can accommodate or travel.. I'm requesting your advice.. could have a party at mine should a couple or woman assist

NSA Fun,please advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?"

this

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like your profile but you could do with some new pics. Are you friends pics not suitable?

Maybe it's the type of messages you send?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More pics (which you're working on by the looks of things), preferably no dick pics. And try and be funny in your pm's, don't take all of this too seriously. A guy is far more likely to get a reply from me if he has decent pics and good chat than if he looks gorgeous but has zero personality or shite patter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have said you are working on new pics for the last few times you have posted "advice help etc" Green arrow

some of my photos are selfies and in this day in age most people can take a selfie or ask a friend to take a pic.

and like most people here, a good profile and good photos helps someone from clicking on another profile to messaging them

YOU OP are always asking for help and advice but isn't it time you manned up and did what the advice says or just dont ask no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?

this"

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By *ssex_VixenWoman
over a year ago

Maldon

Well written profile, but as others have said very few (well one) photos. No reason why you can’t do photos, plenty of guys on here manage it. Asking for meets to gain photos is a turn off for me.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

NSA Fun,please advise

Don't try and please everyone all the time,as that's a sure fire way to please nobody any of the time. Know you intended audience and stick to it. Get out to clubs,socials etc

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"This site certainly has it's ups and downs...

Although it’s generally getting the “ in’s and out’s” we crave

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

"NSA.. fun up for a laugh and enjoy non complicated sex.. go to parties or distant clubs.. no "I'M word lol.. enjoy the good life.. top hotel's and feel free . .."

But ur offering yr home for a party but not into them.. don’t make sense

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm offering hotel, mine or otherwise.. Will require photo's for my profile as all have adviced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem with the club scene is that I employ a lot of men some of which brag and tell me of night's out .. sacking would be difficult once they know my pleasure lol xx"

So don’t tell them if you feel that’s a problem....but why should it be?

Everyone from the cleaner to the managing director knows of my lifestyle. I brought it up at interview several years ago. I’m a single guy following a legal lifestyle....I assume you are too?

Get yourself out to clubs, socials etc....get yourself known!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Its best you are discreet if you are an employer .....I admire you for that OP ..Some people have no morals ....

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?"

It just says the type of people he is looking for.

There is nothing wrong with liking nice things it doesn’t mean he is bragging at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I avoid profiles reading NSA. After posting previously in forum about it it has different meanings to different people. I see it as fuck n chuck so don't entertain it. If you look at single male profiles there's so many reading NSA so your entering a largely populated area already.

Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.

Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Personally I avoid profiles reading NSA. After posting previously in forum about it it has different meanings to different people. I see it as fuck n chuck so don't entertain it. If you look at single male profiles there's so many reading NSA so your entering a largely populated area already.

Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.

Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X "

It depends on your interpretation of NSA.

We want NSA but certainly aren't fuck and chuck types.

To us it means we want great repeat meets with people who are swinging friends. That friendship remains within swinging for fun times for all of us together, it just doesn't come out into 'everyday life'.

I can understand your concern about the phrase being used in some contexts to give the feeling you talk about though.

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Thanks for all your help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.

Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X

It depends on your interpretation of NSA.

We want NSA but certainly aren't fuck and chuck types.

I can understand your concern about the phrase being used in some contexts to give the feeling you talk about though."

Yeah. As I say I posted a forum about it a while ago and there were many different ideas bouncing around. Some people had my view some had yours. I review profiles and veris to get an understanding generally but NSA in headline text or first line of profile. I do not bother at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?

It just says the type of people he is looking for.

There is nothing wrong with liking nice things it doesn’t mean he is bragging at all

The type of people he's looking for yes women that will jump on his dick and rinse the poor sod ...

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I'm on a mission now to get more photo's this weekend.. thanks all for your advice I'll amend my profile accordingly.. thanks again

Did you get the photos done OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you need someone else to take the pics ? It's easy to do them yourself !

Go to a club , it's the easiest way to meet people and get veris if you chat and show the world of fab you're real !

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP you've had a couple of profile advice threads now and yet don't appear to have taken and acted on any of the advice given - your profile currently states pics will be available after 20th November yet it's now 22nd and there's no sign of any new ones.

As others have said, not sure why you need a (bribed) third party to take them either - in this day and age of camera phones and timers it's easy to take them and upload them

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"This site certainly has it's ups and downs... "

Hahaha only if you actually get to meet someone

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Why do you need someone else to take the pics ? It's easy to do them yourself !

Go to a club , it's the easiest way to meet people and get veris if you chat and show the world of fab you're real ! "

I disagree; it’s actually easier to use the chat rooms in here, and be verified by cam, than using a club

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Go to a club. Get yourself known in one. Get veris from there "

Great advice. It was the advice I was given and then took.

Went to the VA and put a post on here and then a meet request. Got talking to some people before going to the club and then voila - verifications and proof you are a real boy!

Plus - some people won't talk to you online bit if they meet you in real life then they will.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

We look at it this way.

Imagine that you are doing a job on your car. Sometimes, although rarely, you will be able to do it with just a screwdriver. Most times however you will need a whole box of tools..

It's just the same in the swinging world. Treat FAB as just another tool in your box. Your profile content and pics are the difference between high quality tools or cheap Chinese shit.

Other tools can be the chat rooms, socials, clubs Etc.

For a single guy swinging is a very complicated job and you need all the high quality tools you can get.

I know that the wording opens me up to a whole stand up routine of jokes but hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I'm requesting your advice..

NSA Fun,please advise..."

Just delete this part,

"Not looking to have sex with 100's, wishing to be more selective as not desperate, yet I'm cursed or maybe blessed with a huge sex drive and an erotic mind.."

Clichéd and stereotyped. The rest is okay, I would meet you had you been local.

No further photos are needed in my opinion, I belong to the forum minority who couldn't care less about photos. Only the person I actually meet in real life counts.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"OP you've had a couple of profile advice threads now and yet don't appear to have taken and acted on any of the advice given - your profile currently states pics will be available after 20th November yet it's now 22nd and there's no sign of any new ones.

As others have said, not sure why you need a (bribed) third party to take them either - in this day and age of camera phones and timers it's easy to take them and upload them

A fraction of these threads result in the poster actually doing something. Waste of time, it's a shame for the people who genuinly want help and will act on advice.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.

Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X

It depends on your interpretation of NSA.

We want NSA but certainly aren't fuck and chuck types.

I can understand your concern about the phrase being used in some contexts to give the feeling you talk about though.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Why do you need someone else to take the pics ? It's easy to do them yourself !

Go to a club , it's the easiest way to meet people and get veris if you chat and show the world of fab you're real !

I disagree; it’s actually easier to use the chat rooms in here, and be verified by cam, than using a club

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exactly I've verified quite a few by fab cams to help them out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP has taken zero notice of the advice he has been given, it seems

It appears ( from his previous posts) that he seems to think chucking money at the problem will solve it

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP has taken zero notice of the advice he has been given, it seems

It appears ( from his previous posts) that he seems to think chucking money at the problem will solve it"
evidently not working then

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"OP has taken zero notice of the advice he has been given, it seems

It appears ( from his previous posts) that he seems to think chucking money at the problem will solve it"

Nail, head, hit there Sappy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being sexist and racist on the forums will make you stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always advise trying a club/social to get your name out there.

Forums are a great way to start as well, just immerse yourself in the swinger life style and it will gradually happen.

The reality is you don't get very far until you build a bit of a rapport, and to build a rapport you need to chat about more than swinging and sex.

Joke, laugh and get yourself out there.

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By *nglishCharm OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Thanks for the huge response.. more photo's taken.. and thanks to all ??

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Go to a club. Get yourself known in one. Get veris from there

Great advice. It was the advice I was given and then took.

Went to the VA and put a post on here and then a meet request. Got talking to some people before going to the club and then voila - verifications and proof you are a real boy!

Plus - some people won't talk to you online bit if they meet you in real life then they will."

*cough cough * I have to agree....we would never have met otherwise...

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Go to a club. Get yourself known in one. Get veris from there

Great advice. It was the advice I was given and then took.

Went to the VA and put a post on here and then a meet request. Got talking to some people before going to the club and then voila - verifications and proof you are a real boy!

Plus - some people won't talk to you online bit if they meet you in real life then they will.

*cough cough * I have to agree....we would never have met otherwise... "

Exactly my point and I am still smiling - looking forward to meeting up with you again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA Fun,please advise

Be yourself, don’t be a sycophant lower your standards or lose your self respect just for a shag

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