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By *omisNW OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Hi all,

I genuinely don’t know where to start, or indeed what action to take.

Out of the blue today I received a message from a guy saying he was going to ‘come over and smash my ass in’, as he knew I was ‘at home’.

Stupidity took over and I replied asking how the person could know this as we had never spoken before.

To cut out a lot of messages and save you the boredom it got more and more aggressive and then I realised the ‘find who is near’. I did this and it said a 2 minute walk. After several more horrible messages I checked again and it said ‘within touching distance ‘!!!! I have never seen this before.

The guy sounds deranged. I had a meet a few days ago locally but don’t think it’s connected at all.

I have saved all the messages instead of deleting them and reported but I have my children staying the next few nights and am really starting to worry.

I feel really uncomfortable reporting this to the police as I am sure you can appreciate and also nothing has happened yet. But....

I have taken the baseball bat out of the boot of my car tonight (genuinely) and I’m not a wimp but it’s my kids I’m really worried about.

Why does this site harvest such scum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report snd block

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

Posting on here may give them the attention they crave. Just saying.

Block. Though that won't stop them seeing your posts on the forums just FYI.

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By *isst123Couple
over a year ago

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Report and block. If you think this might be a genuine threat, contact the police.

What’s the “find who’s near” thing though? We’ve used the who’s near feature on this site, and it isn’t any more specific than telling you if someone is within a quarter of a mile. Never seen the “two minutes walk away” or “close enough to touch” thing.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Report and block. If you think this might be a genuine threat, contact the police.

What’s the “find who’s near” thing though? We’ve used the who’s near feature on this site, and it isn’t any more specific than telling you if someone is within a quarter of a mile. Never seen the “two minutes walk away” or “close enough to touch” thing. "

Me either and that has me concerned.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Report and block. If you think this might be a genuine threat, contact the police.

What’s the “find who’s near” thing though? We’ve used the who’s near feature on this site, and it isn’t any more specific than telling you if someone is within a quarter of a mile. Never seen the “two minutes walk away” or “close enough to touch” thing. "

Me neither

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By *omisNW OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Yes thanks. I think I’ve called the feature the wrong name. One of the main points is that I’ve never seen ‘2 minutes away’ before and certainly never ‘within touching distance’. So I’m guessing I’ve either been hacked, or as is my genuine concern that the person was outside or extremely close to my house at the time of posting these vile messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The police see this kind of stuff. It's their job. Keep the messages report to admin txt the idiot telking him you are handing the messages over to the police then block

The threat of police action alone should put him off may be go unlos.

Do not use the baseball bat...other than as a very last self defence thing...othetwise you may be the one with police problems

Good luck OP. If you have a friend here you can trust send them copies of the messages and use them as a contact for future meets to ensure your safety.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

Me neither.

I am positive the site says it does not give any details closer than within quarter of a mile to protect your location.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


" it said ‘within touching distance ‘!!!!"

Is this for real?

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By *isst123Couple
over a year ago

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"Yes thanks. I think I’ve called the feature the wrong name. One of the main points is that I’ve never seen ‘2 minutes away’ before and certainly never ‘within touching distance’. So I’m guessing I’ve either been hacked, or as is my genuine concern that the person was outside or extremely close to my house at the time of posting these vile messages. "

So was it just in his messages that he was saying “touching distance” etc, or was it a system message on his profile? If it was the former, it’s likely he was just trying to wind you up.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes thanks. I think I’ve called the feature the wrong name. One of the main points is that I’ve never seen ‘2 minutes away’ before and certainly never ‘within touching distance’. So I’m guessing I’ve either been hacked, or as is my genuine concern that the person was outside or extremely close to my house at the time of posting these vile messages. "

What exactly are you looking at? Those two phrases simply don’t exist here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The closest I've seen is within quarter of mile. And I was sat next to him. Dubious.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

I just did a forum search, there are a few threads on people that seem to have had "within touching distance", and "a few minutes walk". I have never seen it even when I am at a fab social.

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By *omisNW OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Thank you for the replies. I have taken a screen shot of the ‘within touching distance’ and ‘less than a 2 minute walk’ etc just to reassure myself I am not going any more crazy than I already am!

The messages progressed to a genuinely unpleasant and threatening level. I don’t really feel blocking on it’s own is a response at the correct level.

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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago

tamworth

OMG have an ex whois doing that to me...she knows more about what I do than GCHQ..How do u stop it..

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By *omisNW OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

I would save all the messages, I would let admin know and I wouldn't worry too much. I presume you have absolutely no idea why he may have any interest in you?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

He wanted to smash your ass in? That's a bit forward but if he starts with a finger and works up from then then it's ok i guess...

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I've seen forum threads before saying within touching distance is on Fabguys but not on Fab...don't know if this is correct though.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

I would suggest turning off your who is near, this will help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if he was in touching distance why didn't u touch him lol just curious the closest is quarter a mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently had my very own after what was an amazing meet who then turned into a right loon.

He really frightened me that someone I met who was charming turned into a clingy nutter claiming he loved me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just did a forum search, there are a few threads on people that seem to have had "within touching distance", and "a few minutes walk". I have never seen it even when I am at a fab social. "

Its a feature of fab guys not on here

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Recently had my very own after what was an amazing meet who then turned into a right loon.

He really frightened me that someone I met who was charming turned into a clingy nutter claiming he loved me! "

This happens quite a lot on here .. men are quick to label the girls as bunny boilers but actually it’s normal the guys that are worse !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently had my very own after what was an amazing meet who then turned into a right loon.

He really frightened me that someone I met who was charming turned into a clingy nutter claiming he loved me! "

had similar problem after couple eets, woman parked down road messaging asking whos car was on my drive, it was my sons!! Shes still ob here keeps changing her profile

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Yes .... there are some fruit loops on here .....always have a social meet first. .. amd dont give out your mobile number.

......

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

Hmm wow good looking out, I didn't know that worked so well. Maybe it's for site supporters but everytime I click on it, closest I've gotten was 'within a mile'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm wow good looking out, I didn't know that worked so well. Maybe it's for site supporters but everytime I click on it, closest I've gotten was 'within a mile'"

nah i get that too "within a mile" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Checking on mine i see within 1/4 mile. Never seen lower than that.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Police can't do anything until this psycho is standing at your door unfortunately. Do save the messages though.

Think he's messing with your head to be honest, besides being a total psycho. Can you switch off "who's near me"? Maybe that'll stop the location being so precise. And ask fab to not pinpoint the locations like this! I'm sure they can easily change that. Make the nearest one "within a quarter mile" or something. Hope you're ok and this gets resolved quickly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just did a forum search, there are a few threads on people that seem to have had "within touching distance", and "a few minutes walk". I have never seen it even when I am at a fab social.

Its a feature of fab guys not on here"

I think that's quite a scary feature. Way too specific.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Checking on mine i see within 1/4 mile. Never seen lower than that.

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Neither have I, even being in the same room it'll still say within 1/4 mile x

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

If it’s a Fab guys thing then I’m really pleased it’s not on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doubt if he can find where you live ,its not google maps , its whos near

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it’s a Fab guys thing then I’m really pleased it’s not on here too

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